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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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 Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 2:24:30 PM
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My new friend that I just met this week in the bookstore (has a daughter a bit older than Nora) didn't call me back yesterday (we had a tenative playdate) but today she called. She got some horrible news yesterday. Her sister was found shot to death and the authorities still aren't quite sure what happened. She is leaving for Alabama today but wants to get together when she gets back.
We just met so I don't want to be to pushy in offering comfort, but my heart aches for her. I want to do something for her, but I don't yet know her likes/dislikes. What would you do? I am thinking of putting together a basket of cookies when she calls me, but what else should I include? I have only met her the once and didn't know her sister.
I feel like violent crime rips at the fabric of our world and it affects us all. I could hear the pain and grief in her voice and it kills me that I can't go help her like _right now_.
Thanks for any suggestions!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
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Yogifarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
297 Posts
Jenn
Swiftwater
PA
USA
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 2:32:59 PM
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Hi Alee
All I can say is...wow...I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself and then I read your post and it straightened my head out real quick. I am going through a divorce and it is his weekend to have my two kids...my kids are my world so I was just moping around...anyway...
Any food is always a wonderful offering when someone is going through a rough time. Most people like italian so ziti or lasagna is good and can be heated quick when she is having a bad day and doesn't want to cook. I'm sure she is gonna have a lot of bad days before she is able to work through this horrible tragedy.
Makes me want to call my sister. She is a NY city police officer and I worry bout her all the time. Guess lesson learned is to hold close the friends and family in our lives...never let a day go by without saying ,"I love you", or "You are such an important part of my life"
Good luck with your new friend...she is lucky to have someone like you who already seems to care so much....friends are hard to come by as we get older...seems like you came into her life just when she needed you most...
Try and have a nice weekend with your family
Peace
Jenn
www.sundariyoga.com
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Annika
True Blue Farmgirl
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Annika
USA
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 2:53:53 PM
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If she is struggling when she gets back from Alabama, maybe you could babysit to give her some down time? Or is she wants to meet for a playdate, that may be a good time for her just to get out of the house and "vent" a little.
My prayers and thoughts are with her and her family.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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Ga Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
2355 Posts
Karen
Meansville
Ga.
USA
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 3:03:24 PM
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So sorry to hear about your new friend. I with Jenn I think you found her at a perfect time to help her. Maybe some hot tea to go with the cookies. Saying a prayer for your friend. Karen
Create in me a pure heart,O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10 http://farmgirlingastyle.blogspot.com/ |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 3:11:31 PM
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my husbands uncle was murdered 3days before Christmas 3 Christmases ago. They were really close. The biggest thing he needed was just someone to talk to. Try asking her. Tell her you really don't know what to do to help but you are willing to do some cooking, cleaning, watch the baby or just being a friend that is willing to listen. I'll say a prayer for you and her.
Farmgirl Sister #17
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Txfarmgal
True Blue Farmgirl
585 Posts
AK
USA
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 3:20:56 PM
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Originally posted by Alee
My new friend that I just met this week in the bookstore (has a daughter a bit older than Nora) didn't call me back yesterday (we had a tenative playdate) but today she called. She got some horrible news yesterday. Her sister was found shot to death and the authorities still aren't quite sure what happened. She is leaving for Alabama today but wants to get together when she gets back.
We just met so I don't want to be to pushy in offering comfort, but my heart aches for her. I want to do something for her, but I don't yet know her likes/dislikes. What would you do? I am thinking of putting together a basket of cookies when she calls me, but what else should I include? I have only met her the once and didn't know her sister.
I feel like violent crime rips at the fabric of our world and it affects us all. I could hear the pain and grief in her voice and it kills me that I can't go help her like _right now_.
Thanks for any suggestions!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
Alee, I am sorry. For the Lord hath comforted his people, and will have mercy upon his afflicated. Is. 49:13. I will be praying for your friend and you. Loss and so suddenly is so devastating. It's wonderful that God put you in her life at just the right moment. She has lost her sister and you can be her farmgirl sister- it will take time but she will need you to lean on. I would put food, maybe some candles, maybe a devotional book, journal and a neat pen that she can write her thoughts down in, a hankie- she will need that. I can't think of anything else right now. You are a good friend. hugs
AngiKay
For he is faithful that promised. Hebrews 10:23
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 4:35:12 PM
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Thanks for all the great ideas ladies! I am not sure how long she will be in Alabama for so maybe I will make some cookies this weekend and freeze them for when she gets back.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our new blog:
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StarMeadow
True Blue Farmgirl
940 Posts
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MI
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 4:44:24 PM
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How awful! For both of you. I've been through my share of loss and for me, when people didn't know what to say or do, the food idea was nice. My brother was found deceased in his home several years ago (my only sib) and it was such a shock. Several people from work did different things. Not to say that they weren't really welcome and needed at the time, but comfort just wasn't in my vocabulary for a long time. I vote for the casserole idea...came in very handy for my family when I was away dealing with my brother's things and again when I was home but had no energy to cook. Offering to take my kids for a bit to a play date was one I appreciated..although, that was one that didn't work so well because my oldest didn't want to leave my side. I think because you are just "new" friends, food is probably the best. She will let you know I'm sure what she needs. She even said that she wants to get together when she gets back. That's a sign that she'll need someone not so close to, to talk about details with. It was very hard to discuss my fears and anger/frustration with family members. Everyone was in such pain and everyone just assumed that I would be the "rock" for all of them. My hubby has never been one to be able to "listen" to that kind of stuff. (he leaves the room when a hospital/cop show is on) My father pretty much fell apart and of course, those things are not something you discuss with children. So, having someone who you can really let loose with will probably help tremendously. Be gentle with yourself too.... You can always bring it back here if you need too.
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Huckelberrywine
True Blue Farmgirl
1607 Posts
Michelle
Rosalia
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Posted - Jul 03 2008 : 7:31:18 PM
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I'm so very sorry. It is just too much. Treasure every moment. I don't think a basket of cookies is too pushy. I think it's perfect. If you really want to do more, maybe a sweet card or note that lets her know your thoughts. She's no different from us except she doesn't know you yet. What better than the kindness of a relative stranger to remind her of the good in the world after experiencing something so tragic? Bless your big heart, Alee!
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mikesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3659 Posts
Sherri
Elma
WA
USA
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Patsy
True Blue Farmgirl
592 Posts
Illinois
USA
592 Posts |
Posted - Jul 04 2008 : 05:36:58 AM
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Lord,
We pray for this family. God speed to the woman who was shot and we pray that she sits by Your side in heaven. We ask that You bring comfort and peace to the family and surround them with Your loving light.
In Jesus' name we pray,
Amen
May God bless those who love the soil,
Patsy
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