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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
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Heather
Texas
USA
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 Posted - May 23 2008 : 11:21:35 AM
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Charlie used a pacifier when he was very little and we weaned him at 9 months. He doesn't suck his thumb or anything. I guess he had been wondering why he can't have one at nap time at daycare. The teacher actually asked me to bring one in. I was like "Sorry, I don't want him hooked on a pacifier." It took us a week of screaming when he was little to get him off of it.
I know some kids need them but I honestly don't see why they shouldn't be weaned if they are old enough to be sleeping in a regular bed. Does that sound mean?? We gave Charlie a bear for his paci and he has been fine. What are your opinions on pacifiers for kids older than 2???
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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Carolinagirl
True Blue Farmgirl
486 Posts
Kim
Rutherfordton
NC
USA
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Posted - May 23 2008 : 11:58:33 AM
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My first daughter had one until she was three- that's when she got her big girl bed (she was small). The only place she was allowed to suck her pacifer was in her bed, at bedtime. For her third birthday we told her she could have her brand new big girl birthday bed, but that she had to give up the nunu in exchange. She gladly handed it over and we never heard anything about it.
My second one refused to suck a nunu at all. I tried over and over to give her one, simply because I think it would have made her feel better. So, I didn't have to wean her off of it (or thumb, for that matter- she much preferred to scream).
I don't like to see older children out in public with a pacifer stuck in their mouths. I've seen really big kids sucking on nunus and it seems silly. What they do in their bed, however, is the choice of the parents. |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - May 23 2008 : 12:01:55 PM
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The problem is they let them walk around with them so Charlie is wondering about what he is missing out. I can understand the comfort thing but walking around with it before and after nap time seems a little silly to me. I really don't want to sound mean here.
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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kissmekate
True Blue Farmgirl
890 Posts
Kate
Delano
Minnesota
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Posted - May 23 2008 : 1:05:02 PM
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Seriously, they asked you to bring one in???????? I would have laughed in her face. Unreal.
Mine never had them, so I guess I have no opinion or advice on this other than this:
Tell them you don't want him to have one AND most importantly, you don't want it to ruin Charlie's mouth/teeth.
If Charlie asks again, tell him he has his bear and offer to let him bring that instead.
Don't miss out on a blessing, just because it isn't packaged the way you expected. ~MaryJo Copeland |
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
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Posted - May 23 2008 : 1:15:16 PM
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Yes, they seriously asked me...I just laughed and said no. I understand nurturing a child and making the comfortable but seriously....
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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NikkiSAllen
Farmgirl in Training
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Nikki
Aurora
IN
USA
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Posted - May 23 2008 : 9:49:24 PM
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Wow! I can't believe they asked you that, either!
Neither of my girls ever really used a pacifier. They just never seemed to have an interest in them. I guess that's fortunate for me because I never had to deal with weaning them off of it.
I'm with you on this - it's your decision, not the daycare's. Bring in a comfort item from home like a teddy bear or a blanket instead.
Nikki
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - May 23 2008 : 11:44:15 PM
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Neither of my homemade boys used pacifiers at all..they only wanted the real thing I guess. I remember being in the grocery store with oldest son when he was about 2 (I was pregnant with #2 at the time) and a little guy his age was in the cart in front of us in line sitting in the cart sucking a nuk pacifier and Corey looked up at me with his big brown eyes and asked "Mom, why does that boy have a plastic smile??" classic.
Jenny in Utah
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4forMe
True Blue Farmgirl
166 Posts
Dawn
Easton
MD
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Posted - May 26 2008 : 3:50:21 PM
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Well, I am of the abnormal here it seems, but my kids had them until they gave them up themselves. My son had one until age 4 and my daughter until....gasp....age 6. They gave them up when they decided and that was that. Children are only babies for a short time and if they needed them for comfort, I wasn't going to torture them by taking them away. Also we always had a new baby or were moving or something going on in our home that was stressful for little ones, so I just figured what the heck....and by the way, my son has all of his permanent teeth and they are perfectly straight, we are still waiting on the verdict for my daughter.
My two younger ones were breastfed until age 3, they never used paci's or sucked their thumbs. They weaned when they wanted.
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
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Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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Posted - May 26 2008 : 6:26:29 PM
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if you have already broken him of the habit I wouldn't go back. Pacifiers (and thumbs) push forward on the back of your front teeth. This can cause dental problems later in life. I think pacifiers are a great tool for kids but there is no reason to prolong it any more than necessary especially if he has already quit.
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mommatracy
True Blue Farmgirl
490 Posts
Tracy
My. Olive
NC
USA
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Posted - May 27 2008 : 10:12:47 AM
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Our first daughter totally rejected the pacifier. Would not have it. Second daughter could not live without one. She had to have one in her mouth and in her hands. If a bottle was in her mouth she had to have one in her hand. When we put her to bed in her crib we made sure that we had 2 or 3 of them or hell would break loose in the middle of the night if she couldn't find one. We kept several extra on hand in case of emergencies! Tried to take her bottle at 1yr and boy did she have a meltdown. I gave it back to her and at her first dental checkup the dentist instructed me to take it away from her because her top teeth would not come down right. In 2wks her teeth came down and she got her bottle back. Bad momma. I spoiled here and we hid it from my husband. I shouldn't even tell this but I will! When I picked her up from kindergarten I would have a cold bottle of cool aid in the car and she would hide down in the back seat and empty that thing before we got home. Super Bad Momma. She sucked that bottle until she was embarassed and then she quit. My mother in law told me that my husband sucked on a bottle until he was so old he was ashamed of it and quit. We laugh about it now. We all survived just fine.
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fionalovesshrek
True Blue Farmgirl
186 Posts
Paige
kinston
North Carolina
USA
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Posted - May 28 2008 : 7:56:28 PM
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Stand Tall, if he's off the paci then keep it that way. If he asks what's he missing out on say "the taste of rubber in your mouth. Does that sound yummy to you?" he'll likely say NO and that'll be the end of that. It is a personal choice and different for each child/parent combo. You've already made your decision and just need to stick with it. Day care be darned!
Mom of four boys: One paci lover, One thumb lover, One screamer and one "blanky" sucker...
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Pennypincher
Farmgirl at Heart
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Linda
NC
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Posted - Jun 02 2008 : 7:37:27 PM
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He is your child and your choice as to whether he has one or not, I'm a daycare provider, and they are only allowed to have them when they are sleeping, most of my kids give them up by 18months or so.
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