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Family Matters:  Well, I stood up for myself and didn't melt...  |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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 Posted - Nov 15 2007 : 05:58:59 AM
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Oh, I decided to quit whining and deleted my post...hehehe... 
Winona 
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Edited by - goneriding on Nov 15 2007 08:36:16 AM |
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kissmekate
True Blue Farmgirl
890 Posts
Kate
Delano
Minnesota
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Posted - Nov 15 2007 : 9:23:44 PM
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Feel better anyways, hon? We don't mind whining, as long as we can return the favor now and then.
Don't miss out on a blessing, just because it isn't packaged the way you expected. ~MaryJo Copeland |
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goneriding
True Blue Farmgirl
1599 Posts
Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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Posted - Nov 16 2007 : 07:41:58 AM
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Yep, I do. Thank you for asking. I posted in my other post about last nite's 'visiting' and it went swimmingly well. I later remembered that years ago, due to an ex husband, someone told me to grow a spine and so I did then and all worked out well and just had to re-grow it!! Somehow I'd lost it...hehehe...
Winona ;-)
Don't sweat the small stuff...
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
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Posted - Nov 16 2007 : 09:50:07 AM
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no one should ever make any of you feel like a door mat or someone they can push around verbally...or even physically. No one should ever have that right to make you feel small, or unworthy. If they do, I honestly feel that you should definitely set the records straight and let the person/persons know in no uncertain terms that you will never allow them to talk to you again in such a fashion because you will not put up with it.Barring that..cut ties with them. Truth of the matter is..there are many many toxic people in this world, and life is too short to be exposed to the negativity that others spew out all the time.And remember ..hurt people hurt people..they are not likely to change their ways..the bully or verbal abuser does not just suddenly stop being that way. So sometimes the easiest thing is to get away from folks like that. Clear your life of the toxic things..you'll find out more about yourself and who you really are, and just how worthy you really are too, how special and strong you are, and will wind up slowly rebuilding that shattered self esteem, and believe me this..unkind words directed at one can shatter self esteem terribly..and if this type of thing goes on for years..trust me when I say this..it can take years to "get yourself back". Best to get away from a situation like that as quickly as possible, before too much damage is done to yourself,in a mental sense.Mental abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.
One must cultivate relationships that help to make one feel strong and worthy and happy, not beat down all the time.
There..I've said it..that's my 2 cents worth..for what it is worth.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~
visit me at:
http://gardengoose.blogspot.com/
and at www.stliving.net
you can also check out my etsy shops at:http://GardenGooseGifts.etsy.com |
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
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Posted - Nov 16 2007 : 2:07:30 PM
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Amen to what you had to say Tina. I agree 100%.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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kissmekate
True Blue Farmgirl
890 Posts
Kate
Delano
Minnesota
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Posted - Nov 17 2007 : 10:21:42 PM
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Tina, I have to agree too.
I had a very toxic "best friend" for a long time. She was such a hard person to be friends with. Finally, after years of whining/complaining/bullying/guilt tripping, I told her I was done with her and would NEVER talk to her again. That was two years ago, and I have never looked back. I don't even miss her. I still see her from time to time, at school functions and around town. If I encounter her live and in the flesh, I won't even look at her (I glare) or if she is walking my way I will walk in another direction to avoid having to even any share space with her.
Don't miss out on a blessing, just because it isn't packaged the way you expected. ~MaryJo Copeland |
Edited by - kissmekate on Nov 17 2007 10:23:51 PM |
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aimeeravae
True Blue Farmgirl
341 Posts
Aimee
Deer River
MN
USA
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Posted - Nov 21 2007 : 07:54:09 AM
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Pardon the crass terms, but they are accurate.
If men are allowed "brass balls", Ours need to be "steel ovaries"
We don't need to show the world how strong we are, we keep it on the inside.
Aimee
http://laplantewardklopf.blogspot.com/
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