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NotQuiteJuneCleaver
True Blue Farmgirl
222 Posts
Susan
Shreveport
LA
USA
222 Posts |
 Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 06:51:49 AM
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I don't know where to start really. My heart is breaking. It is the most painful thing to watch someone suffer, beg for death and yet linger on. My mom is in almost constant pain from her cancer. She is in the hospital now (70 miles north of here) and I am out the door again shortly to see to her for the afternoon. I am thinking she will be coming home soon with hospice. She doesnt want anymore tests, or trials or probing. She wants to be finished with this. That is something only G-d can give her. She has wonderful compassionate caregivers but they are at the end of what they can do for her.
I miss being on here and knowing what is happening with all of you. Someday I will be back.
http://www.notquitejunecleaver.com
There is immeasurable value in what I do. I won't ever believe otherwise. |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:01:16 AM
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Oh Susan....I will sure be keeping your mom (and you too) in my prayers. I wish I could be there to help.
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
http://www.auntjennysworld.blogspot.com/ visit my little online shop at www.auntjenny.etsy.com |
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mima
True Blue Farmgirl
1573 Posts
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Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:31:50 AM
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Marybeth
True Blue Farmgirl
6418 Posts
Mary Beth
Stanwood
Wa 98292
USA
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CountryBorn
True Blue Farmgirl
1545 Posts
Mary Jane
New York
USA
1545 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:58:53 AM
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Susan, God Bless you and your Mom. I pray her suffering and yours will be over soon and that you both find peace.
Mary Jane
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
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Firemama
True Blue Farmgirl
1731 Posts
Amanda
Medical Lake
WA
USA
1731 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 09:13:49 AM
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Susan, I am thinking of you and your mom, I hope you both find peace soon.
Mommy to 2
Your FreckleFaced Farm Girl!!
Help when you can, Pray when you can't. |
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MBurns
True Blue Farmgirl
1796 Posts
Marlene
Swisher
IA
USA
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Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 09:38:56 AM
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| It is so hard to see a loved one suffer. I trained with hospice to do respite. They have a wonderful service and it helps both the patient and family so much to cope with the end of life. My heart goes out to you at this time. Do contact your local hospice. They can help everyone both mentally and physically. My prayers are with you. |
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Phils Ann
True Blue Farmgirl
1095 Posts
Ann
Parsonsburg
Maryland
USA
1095 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 10:19:49 AM
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Dear Susan, my heart hurts for you and for your mom. I hope she can come home soon and be with you and your sweet family. My prayers are with you.
Ann
Sairy Hill Thicket
There is a Redeemer. |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 12:29:55 PM
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Susan- I am so sorry that your mom has reached the point of suffering. I hope she can come back home with hospice care. You are such a sweet and loving person- She is very lucky to have such a wonderful daughter. *hugs*
Alee
The amazing one handed typist! One hand for typing, one hand to hold Nora!
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Maryjane Lee
True Blue Farmgirl
2195 Posts
Maryjane
CA
USA
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Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 12:47:25 PM
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Susan you and Mother are in my thoughts and prayers. What a painful experience for the both of you. Know you are loved here.
Hugs, Maryjane Lee
The Beehive Cottage~est. 1971
"Sisters on the Fly"
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Mumof3
True Blue Farmgirl
3890 Posts
Karin
Ellenwood
GA
USA
3890 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 1:25:08 PM
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Susan- I hope that your mom will be able to find the peace she is searching for soon. I think that it is one of the hardest things to have watch a loved one suffer like your mother. (((hugs))) to both of you. You will be in my prayers.
Karin
Wherever you go, there you are.
Come visit me at:
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
4033 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 7:37:44 PM
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Susan,
There are no words...((((((HUGS))))))
If there is hospice help, it really does help.
Carol Sue
Enjoying life. |
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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
9325 Posts
Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
9325 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 7:41:12 PM
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Susan,
So sorry to hear your Mom is suffering with this. Keeping you both in prayer.
"The earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof and all that dwell therein."
www.torismimi.blogspot.com |
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Kathie
True Blue Farmgirl
2436 Posts
Kathie
Thonotosassa
Florida
USA
2436 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 7:46:07 PM
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Love you little Sister..
Kiss your mother for me please..
Always here for you..
Kathie
In a World Where you Can Be Anything, Be Yourself.. |
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JudyBlueEyes
True Blue Farmgirl
657 Posts
Judith
Spokane
Washington
USA
657 Posts |
Posted - Sep 15 2007 : 9:42:49 PM
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Susan,
My love and prayers are with you and your mom.
I truly believe that we have the power to control our life and death. Example: my mother was a very independent woman all her life. I always called her "one of the first liberated women." She left her small town in Pennsylvania, went to business school in Philadelphia and then got a secretarial job in New York City. When the war broke out, she joined the WAVES. She stayed in after the war, until she married my dad in 1950, at which time she was required to leave the WAVES. In any event, after a 42 year marriage with my dad, she started to have little strokes that impacted her ability to maintain equilibrium, and stand/walk - that would put her in a wheelchair. I submit that within a week of her third "serious fall," when my father ordered a wheelchair from their insurance for her...she got the wheelchair on a Friday and died the next Monday. Now...my father had her on a monitor, so he could always hear her if she was in the bedroom and he was in the front room. The morning she died, he checked on her several times, and as she was sleeping peacefully, he took a shower, and when he got out of the shower and dressed, she wasn't breathing. I submit that she CHOSE to make her final exit when he was otherwise engaged, and couldn't hear the monitor - because - she did not want to be in a wheelchair and dependent on someone, even or maybe especially the man she loved. She was an independent woman.
My dad hung on for almost 11 years after my mom died. He made comments that he would like to be "with momma" and missed her so. At one point, all four of my siblings and I gave him permission to "go to momma" if that is what he wanted. We told him we loved him, and knew he was in pain, and that if he wanted to go to her, it would be all right.
If your dear mother is truly begging for release, I submit that if everyone she loves gives her permission to go, then she will be free to transition to her new life. Sometimes our dear ones hold on because someone is not ready to let go...for whatever reason.
Because my mother and father had (what I consider) peaceful passings, I only hope and pray that your dear mother can enjoy the same, and that you and your family are able to release her to a pain-free existence, and sustain yourselves with your precious memories of her.
We come from the earth, we go back to the earth, and in between, we garden! |
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NotQuiteJuneCleaver
True Blue Farmgirl
222 Posts
Susan
Shreveport
LA
USA
222 Posts |
Posted - Sep 16 2007 : 6:03:36 PM
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Thank you all. They are really giving her so much pain medication. I am surprised they will send her home but I suppose there is nothing else they can do. Things around here are about to change. I hope I am up to it.
http://www.notquitejunecleaver.com
There is immeasurable value in what I do. I won't ever believe otherwise. |
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Libbie
Farmgirl Connection Cultivator
3579 Posts
Anne E.
Elsinore
Utah
USA
3579 Posts |
Posted - Sep 16 2007 : 8:08:23 PM
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Susan - my mother has helped several family members, including her father, in the way that you are helping your mother - at her home, with hospice assistance. It is difficult AND you are up to it AND you will never regret doing it - I feel comfortable saying never, ever, from watching the strength of character and peace my own mother has from knowing that she did, truly, all she could for those she loved. You are a strong and wise daughter and mother yourself - and I'm sending you my biggest farmgirl hug and thinking of you and your mom. Love...
XOXO, Libbie
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
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Hideaway Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1553 Posts
Jo
Virginia
USA
1553 Posts |
Posted - Sep 18 2007 : 08:13:01 AM
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Susan, you are most definitely up to the task. It's rare when a daughters has the chance, although most of us would always be willing, to "pay back" our mother with the loving care she gave us in our first days on earth, so coming around full circle, you will be allowing her last days to be spent surrounded by the warmth and love of her family. Best wishes and hugs go out to you and your mother.
Jo
"Wish I had time to work with herbs all day!" |
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