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Across the Fence:  My update on my hubby.....  |
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shelle
True Blue Farmgirl
404 Posts
Shelle
oklahoma
USA
404 Posts |
 Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 7:31:50 PM
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It has been a long time since I posted anything about my husband. For those who dont know, he was 42 when he had a massive sudden death heart attack in June of 2006. He is truly my hero for coming through all that he has gone through. He has had three heart attacks and three stents altogether and numerous hospital stays and he suffers daily with continous (intractible) chest pain. Eventually he will need a heart transplant.
In May he was taken to the ER by a co-worker and while I was in the hallway outside the ER, he went into V-Fib and they called a code blue. Luckily he converted on his own without them having to intervene but shortly after that they put in an implanted cardioconverter or as most people know it as an implanted defibrillator/pacemaker. I feel so much better knowing he has that safety net if his heart were to go back into V-Fib again.
It has been a long rocky road for him and through all of it he has continued to try to work whenever he could. It has become so bad recently though that we have decided he is going to try to go for disability. His doctor said he can get it easily with his condition. He has fought the hard battle but we have decided that it is just too difficult for him to keep commuting the 40 miles one way to work. Last week they started him on Duragesic patches for his pain control (he also takes other narcotic pain pills) and those barely do anything. Duragesic is a strong narcotic (Opiate) that is used for cancer patients. They also put him on oxygen and even though he has good blood oxygen saturations without it it is supposed to help his heart get some extra oxygen and hopefully help with the pain too.
I am really scared for him to quit his job and go on disablity because we just bought our house a few months ago and his pay will be about 60% of his current salary. I am terrified we will lose our home or our vehicles. I know that he will be so much better off without going to work.........I desperately want him to not have to go to work and suffer the way he has..........but the fear of the unknown is pretty hard on me. I dont want him to know how much I am worrying about our finances though. I started having some health issues of my own recently and my doctor said it is from all the stress that I am under.
I really need your prayers for my hubby and to give me strength to get through this too. I just wish that our life could go back to the way it was before June of 2006 but I know that is impossible. God has plans for us........we just have to figure out what it is.
Shelle
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DeeDee
True Blue Farmgirl
162 Posts
Denise
Wyoming
162 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 7:46:20 PM
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| Hugs and wishes for much better days for your husband and you. |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 7:55:20 PM
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Shelle I will pray for you! As you said - God has a plan. Sometimes we do not understand or agree with the plan but there is one. I will pray for the health of your husband, the strength of you and that your home, vehicles and possession will remain with you. Lots of love and hugs!
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Cheryl
True Blue Farmgirl
919 Posts
Cheryl
Magalia
CA
USA
919 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 8:38:28 PM
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I am so sorry you both are going through this. You are in my prayers. May God be your strength.
Cheryl |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 8:38:32 PM
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Shelle-
Thanks so much for the update. I am sending you both wishes for strength and health! *hugs* You are a wonderful lady!
Alee
The amazing one handed typist! One hand for typing, one hand to hold Nora! |
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MamaHumbird
True Blue Farmgirl
116 Posts
Holly
Cleveland
Missouri
USA
116 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 8:44:16 PM
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Shelle,
Hang in there, we are praying for you and your family. Things always have a way of working out when we know that God is in charge. Just love on your husband and be thankful that he is there for you to do that. I am sure he will need reassurance that he is still taking care of his family. And we all know how hard you are working as well to keep your family unit going. Keep us updated.
Holly |
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
1210 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 9:36:12 PM
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First of all, you & your husband are in my prayers.
As for the disability, it may vary from state to state, but in my state you do not pay income tax on disability. If you factor in that, the savings on gas (him not driving that far) and other savings, you may not come out as bad as it seems right now.
Dh was on disability twice (surgeries, nothing serious, thank goodness) and both times we pretty much broke even. He has a 40-min commute, too, and we were surprised that it came out this way.
Some people search for happiness; others create it.
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mikesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3659 Posts
Sherri
Elma
WA
USA
3659 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 10:01:39 PM
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| Shelle - I will include you and DH in my prayers. I agree with others in that you have to have faith and do what is best for DH - God will provide. It's a huge leap of faith I know, but I suspect when you realize you have done the right thing, peace will come to you. Most of the stress is in the unknown. Once a decision is made, it will be easier. |
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Maryjane Lee
True Blue Farmgirl
2195 Posts
Maryjane
CA
USA
2195 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 10:47:10 PM
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Shelle, you and your DH will be in my thoughts and prayers. Know that you are loved!
Hugs,
Maryjane Lee
The Beehive Cottage~
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
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Carol Sue
True Blue Farmgirl
4033 Posts
Carol Sue
Washingtonian
USA
4033 Posts |
Posted - Jul 23 2007 : 11:41:04 PM
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Praying, especially for you both to be able to rest in the place that God has you.
Carol Sue
Enjoying the moments. |
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Nance in France
True Blue Farmgirl
1438 Posts
Nancy
St. Laurent de la Salanque
France
1438 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2007 : 03:21:50 AM
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| I include my farmgal friends in my nightly prayers and will say a special one for you and your husband, Shelle. Everything will work out in time. Keep your chin up and keep the faith! Nance |
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shelle
True Blue Farmgirl
404 Posts
Shelle
oklahoma
USA
404 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2007 : 2:18:20 PM
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Farm Girls.
Thanks so much for the encouragement. You dont know how much it means to me to have your thoughts and prayers. My emotions have been on a rollercoaster lately and I really appreciate your kindness. I called the doctor and got his pain medication increased today to see if that will help him in the short term. God is in charge of the long term so we will see what he has in store for us.
Hugs
Shelle
http://janzenfamilyjournal.blogspot.com/ |
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gateway girl
True Blue Farmgirl
135 Posts
Shari
Missouri
USA
135 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2007 : 4:14:34 PM
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Shelle,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. Keep the faith and know that you are loved.
Shari
Life is a chain of moments of enjoyment, it's not just about survival. Live every second to it's fullest!
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
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nashbabe
True Blue Farmgirl
687 Posts
687 Posts |
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Julia
True Blue Farmgirl
1949 Posts
Julia
Shelton
WA
USA
1949 Posts |
Posted - Jul 24 2007 : 7:53:30 PM
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Dear Shelle, my what a journey! If there is anything I have learned in dealing with my hubby's cancer is God alone is trustworthy and the only sure thing. Lean hard on Him and He will see you through.
"If He brings you to it, He will bring you through it."
Prayers ascending.
"...the setting sun is like going into the very presence of God." Elizabeth Von Arnim |
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Phils Ann
True Blue Farmgirl
1095 Posts
Ann
Parsonsburg
Maryland
USA
1095 Posts |
Posted - Jul 25 2007 : 08:06:00 AM
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Shelle, everyone has said such encouraging things... and true things to you, I'll just add that you are in my prayers.
Ann
Sairy Hill Thicket
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Jul 25 2007 : 09:58:17 AM
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I was wiping tears from my eyes as I read your post . . . my husband is 42 so I tried to visualize what it would be like seeing this happen to him. To go from being the strong independent provider to someone to weak to work and in pain too. I am so sorry for you and your husband and the loss you have felt in losing the lives you led of independence. I agree God has a plan in this . . . maybe this is the wake up call to lean stronger on Him. I really don't know, but I do believe the "big things" in life, such as your scenerio, happen for a reason. You are in our hearts and our prayers!
With hugs & blessings,
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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Utahfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1940 Posts
Portland
Oregon
USA
1940 Posts |
Posted - Jul 25 2007 : 12:05:11 PM
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Sending much good healing energy to you and DH, Dear Shelle.
Farmgirl hug,
Patricia
check out my etsy site http://ThePlayfulFarmgirl.etsy.com
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Buttercup
True Blue Farmgirl
1433 Posts
Talitha
Vermont
USA
1433 Posts |
Posted - Jul 25 2007 : 9:57:52 PM
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Shelle,
I am so very sorry for what has happened and what you and your husband are going through! It saddens me so deeply when things like this happen. I will be sending all the love, hope, strength, understanding, wisdom, and courage I can to you and with them prayers and hope of a speedy recovery, new heart for your husband, and a bright new future for you both together! I will be thinking of you!
With Hugz, Prayers, and Thoughts for a Healthy Outcome,
Talitha
"If we could maintain the wonder of childhood and at the same time grasp the wisdom of age, what wonder,what wisdom,what life would be ours" |
Edited by - Buttercup on Jul 25 2007 9:58:55 PM |
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country lawyer
True Blue Farmgirl
1022 Posts
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Posted - Jul 26 2007 : 08:24:33 AM
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| Shelle, Sending prayers upward for you and your husband. |
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