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Parenting & Farm Kids:  Could really use some prayers for teenager. Update  |
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simpler1773
True Blue Farmgirl
234 Posts
Ricki
Ashland
Wisconsin
USA
234 Posts |
 Posted - May 23 2007 : 7:45:47 PM
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If those of you who pray wouldn't mind, I could use as much as possible for my 14 year old daughter.
She was brought home from school by the principal and counselor yesterday, she has been cutting herself in school and cut herself so deep that she needed stitches 
We've checked her into a behavior health facility (she wanted to go, didn't feel she could control herself), and today she met with a psychiatrist. They diagnosed her with severe depression and possibly some post traumatic stress induced paranoia from something that happened years ago 
I have just been sick all day and not knowing how to deal with this other than the fact that I know she's getting the help she needs now. I'm so confused because I feel like we have such a normal life and she has so many people who love her and support her, but something is just really wrong in her mind.
This is so hard, I'd just really appreciate prayers and love and good thoughts...thanks ladies. And keep an eye on those teens. My daughter and I are so close and yet she was able to hide this from me for 2 yrs. I so don't get it.
~Ricki~
You can't pour anything out of an empty vessel, take care of yourself! |
Edited by - simpler1773 on May 24 2007 8:08:00 PM |
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mikesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3659 Posts
Sherri
Elma
WA
USA
3659 Posts |
Posted - May 23 2007 : 10:34:52 PM
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| Ricki - My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. I really do know what you are going through. We had some similar issues with one of our children. The important thing is that she is getting the help she needs and the really encouraging thing I saw in your post is that she wanted to go, so she is not in denial. I know it probably doesn't help now, I know when I was going through our tough times it didn't mean much when people said it to me, but this too will pass. I too thought I was really close with my son, and I was very shocked to learn I didn't really know what was going on in his life. It sounds like your daughter is on the road to recovery now, so you can take comfort in that. Hang in there. |
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Aunt George
True Blue Farmgirl
1476 Posts
Georgann
Midlothian
VA
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Posted - May 23 2007 : 10:39:36 PM
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Oh, Rikki,
I'm so sorry, but like Sherri said, she is getting help. It is almost like she was hoping someone would find her and help her get the help. So many teens are depressed and act out in different ways: cutting, anorexia, drugs, running around. I know your heart must be breaking. Hang in there. You and your daughter are in my thoughts and prayers.
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
Posted - May 23 2007 : 11:09:12 PM
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Rikki -- I am so sorry. I'm glad that you've gotten professional help for her. I will be praying for her and for you. I know that you are heartsick about this. The fact that you daughter wanted to go for help is a big step in the right direction.
I have a 13 year old who is having some anger and depression problems too. She has been through a lot with mine and her dad's marriage problems and also school pressures. I am getting her counseling after she sees her new primary care doctor in June. It just makes me so sick when I see the things that teens are going through these days. I just want to take my daughter and go to the backwoods with no internet, phone, or TV. I truly believe that the internet has so much influence on teens -- especially My Space. And these young people are so good at hiding what's really going on with them.
I'm sending hugs to you and your daughter.
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Edited by - therusticcottage on May 23 2007 11:10:45 PM |
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britchickny
True Blue Farmgirl
1048 Posts
Angie
Port Orange
Florida
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Posted - May 24 2007 : 02:55:28 AM
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Ricki, she will be okay. Maybe not today or tomorrow but this will not last forever. She is getting the professional help she needs and lots of love from you. Don't beat yourself up. Just encourage her, love her and pray for and with her. I think our kids are pretty world smart these days. It's sad really. They know more about life than we ever did at that age. Angie
"Father, thank-you for blessing us with the gift of children.Sometimes we are overwhelmed Lord, but we know the you have a plan for all of our children. I pray for Ricki and her daughter as they go through this tough time and ask for healing. I ask this is Jesus name. Amen"
"Mercy, peace and love be yours in abundance" JUDE 1:2 |
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Sweet Harvest Homestead
True Blue Farmgirl
279 Posts
Lindy
Stanfield
NC
USA
279 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 03:34:28 AM
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Rikki,
I am praying and sending good thoughts your way. I felt similar to your daughter when I was 18. It was a very tough time but I came through it. With lots of love from you, she will too.
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Runbikegrrl
True Blue Farmgirl
250 Posts
MaryAnn
Waterbury Ctr
VT
USA
250 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 04:04:07 AM
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Rickie I will pray for both you and your daughter. If this helps ...I can tell you that my best friends daughter was cutting herself ( they did not have a great relationship at the time) she was 16 then now she is almost 20 and a outgoing girl who appears to be pretty happy. I have my parenting sorrows right now as well.My "perfect son" who was on route to graduate in a couple of weeks and go on to college practically free because he got sports and academic scholarships just got kick out of his private school for "violation of the drug and alcohol policy"...he is going to get a diploma but can not go to prom, or graduation ceremonies and was kicked off the lacrosse team ( he was the star of the team and lives and breaths for the sport) It's a hard time. What we go through with our kids is soooo painful...but we just have to believe in them and love them. It is hard right now but things happen for a reason ....maybe we will look back a few years from now and what is happening will all be clear. Anyway you and your girl will be in my thoughts today.
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westernhorse51
True Blue Farmgirl
1681 Posts
michele
farmingdale
n.j.
USA
1681 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 05:47:19 AM
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Ricki, you've got my prayers & I sent you an e-mail.
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
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mom2knk
True Blue Farmgirl
321 Posts
Blanche
So Cal
321 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 06:20:40 AM
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mima
True Blue Farmgirl
1573 Posts
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Posted - May 24 2007 : 06:31:08 AM
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| I'll be praying too! It's rough being a teenager and having one sometimes. I'm glad you are getting her help. True confessions here- I checked in to a pysch hospital in March for severe depression. It was the darkest time of my life. The funny thing is outwardly I'm sure people thought I had it great. I have a great family,I'm very outgoing, but inside I was dying. Depression can be so chemical and you can't just kick yourself out of it. But with anti depressants and a good therapist , I'm a hundred percent better. Your daughter will be too. Just keep giving her lots of love and prayers- WE'll all do the same here!!! May hugs! |
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horse
True Blue Farmgirl
371 Posts
laura
pontotoc
mississippi
USA
371 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 06:53:34 AM
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I am trully sorry that you and your family is going through this right now. I will be praying for you and yours. You are on the right track.
Take care and prayers, healing thoughts, and hugs coming your way.
God Bless
Laura
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UrbanChick
True Blue Farmgirl
331 Posts
Ayako
Atlanta
GA
USA
331 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 07:37:11 AM
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I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this. My friend's son is recovering from being a cutter. He was sent to a behavioral management compound about a year ago and stayed for about 4 months. He is doing ok so far and even with the added stress of his father dying in December in a car accident. Hopefully your daughter can get the help that she needs. It seems like such an epidemic with our young children. I don't know how cutting got to be so prevalent among our youth?
"Courage dosen't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying: I will try again tomorrow." |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
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Posted - May 24 2007 : 08:43:35 AM
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I will certainly pray for you. We have had several kids at our school suffer with this as of late. Unfortunatly in a lot of the shows, movies, music and stuff these kids listen to, this problem is made light of or made to seem cool. I will pray for you daughter as well.
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Utahfarmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1940 Posts
Portland
Oregon
USA
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Posted - May 24 2007 : 10:22:34 AM
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Ricki, 13 is the most dangerous year of life because everything is black and white, no shades of gray. When my daughter was 13, they called me into school and told me she was planning to kill herself with her BF at 4pm. Turns out she was passing notes with her BF about how depressed they were but not planning to kill themselves. They made us go to see a counselor anyway, and it was a blessing because we were in the middle of a divorce from her abusive dad and it gave us both the chance to talk it out and get help. So these things ca be a blessing in disguise.
I am surrounding your beautiful daughter with peacefulness and healing and much love, knowing that right here and right now, God is working in her.
Farmgirl hug,
Patricia
Farmgirls do it organically! |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 10:47:39 AM
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Ricki-
I am so sorry that you and your family have to go through this. I am keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I hope things work out for the best. Please keep us updated!
I have an amazingly supportive and normal family, but during that time in my life I struggled with depression and such. I like to think that I turned out okay :) Your daughter is lucky to have such loving and supportive mom who is concerned for her health and well being.
Alee |
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blueroses
True Blue Farmgirl
1323 Posts
Debbie
in the Pandhandle of
Idaho
USA
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Posted - May 24 2007 : 11:18:12 AM
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Ricki,
You,your daughter, and family are in my thoughts and prayers.
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
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therusticcottage
True Blue Farmgirl
4439 Posts
Kay
Vancouver
WA
USA
4439 Posts |
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newheart
True Blue Farmgirl
471 Posts
Margie
Owings Mills
Maryland
USA
471 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 1:08:08 PM
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Ricki...You and your daughter have been on my mind since I first read this..I will offer up my prayers for you both and ask God to hold you in his hands and to comfort you both.
May He bless you and cause his light to shine on you from now to forever more...
margie
Chocolate makes my Heart 'sing"... |
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simpler1773
True Blue Farmgirl
234 Posts
Ricki
Ashland
Wisconsin
USA
234 Posts |
Posted - May 24 2007 : 8:00:33 PM
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Thank you so much for the love and support and prayers, it means so much to me.
We visited my daughter today and she is doing really well. There is a long road to recovery but she seems to be in good spirits and is really letting everything out and they are doing alot of therapy with her.
We don't have a release date yet, but I am guessing either tomorrow or Saturday ~ it's usually a short term thing. But we already have some great family tools to deal with this and of course she'll have continuing therapy and they have put her on a couple of meds for now.
That's all I know at this point, but things are definately better than they were when we checked her in there. She was so loving and happy to see us today, and the staff can't say enough good things about her. She hates the hospital food though  Some things never change. Heh.
Thank you again so much for all of the support.
Farmgirls are the very best!
~Ricki~
You can't pour anything out of an empty vessel, take care of yourself! |
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nashbabe
True Blue Farmgirl
687 Posts
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Posted - May 24 2007 : 8:27:39 PM
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Prayers for you and your daughter.
Grew up on a farm...moved to da city... |
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britchickny
True Blue Farmgirl
1048 Posts
Angie
Port Orange
Florida
1048 Posts |
Posted - May 25 2007 : 02:48:21 AM
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Very encouraging news!
"Mercy, peace and love be yours in abundance" JUDE 1:2 |
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akcowgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
296 Posts
Valerie
Homer
Alaska
USA
296 Posts |
Posted - May 25 2007 : 09:14:37 AM
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This is great news. I will continue praying for the recovery of her physical and emotional well being. (((Hugs)))
Valerie
Yes, I live in my own little world. But that's ok they know me here.
Deja Moo: The feeling that you've heard this bull before.
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horse
True Blue Farmgirl
371 Posts
laura
pontotoc
mississippi
USA
371 Posts |
Posted - May 25 2007 : 11:42:39 AM
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So glad to hear things are getting better. Will continue to pray for you and your daughter.
Laura
www.2lmzfarms.blogspot.com |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
22941 Posts |
Posted - May 25 2007 : 1:05:16 PM
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I am so glad that she is in better spirits. I will keep you all in my thoughts.
Hugs!
Alee |
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mkmomus
True Blue Farmgirl
248 Posts
Merle
Greensboro
NC
248 Posts |
Posted - May 29 2007 : 4:36:57 PM
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Ricki,
God bless your daughter and your family. I know this is a hard time for you. The children today face so much. I wish we could keep them safe in our arms forever. I will be praying for you all.
Merle |
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simpler1773
True Blue Farmgirl
234 Posts
Ricki
Ashland
Wisconsin
USA
234 Posts |
Posted - May 31 2007 : 08:02:13 AM
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Just a small update and a thank you again to those who prayed/are praying for us.
She's been home since Saturday, we spent the long weekend at my Mom's farm surrounded by family and I think it was a really healing time. Good to be back home though :)
Her eyes are clear and bright. The meds seem to be helping with sleep issues, and so far no cutting or even bad anger issues. She goes back to see her therapist tomorrow.
Thanks ladies ~ you all are a wonderful support.
~Ricki~
You can't pour anything out of an empty vessel, take care of yourself! |
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Parenting & Farm Kids: Could really use some prayers for teenager. Update |
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