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| EastTXFarmgirl |
Posted - Oct 29 2013 : 6:17:17 PM
I would normally not air my dirty laundry but at this point I am so devastated that I just need some support. I am sitting alone in my home for the first time in 17 years and have just gone numb. Here’s my story…My dad died 3 weeks ago. He and I were very, very close. I am a daddy’s girl. It was sudden and very unexpected. I spent 3 days in the hospital with him and then the next 3 days helping my mom get affairs in order. The 3rd day after my dad died I was so happy to get home and unwind. I sat down in my recliner, kicked my feet up, and let out a sigh. My husband was sitting in his chair next to me. He turned to me and said “I’m no longer happy with you or our marriage” I was in shock. We had been together for 17 years and had what I thought was the perfect marriage. We never argued, we did everything together. He was my best friend. I didn’t know what to do. After some talking we decided we would try to figure it out. I thought surely we would be able to work this out. Then Saturday while I was at work I received a text message from him say “I’ve moved out, you’re on your own”. A text message after 17 years, I get a text message. The sad part is 6 months ago he didn’t even know how to text I taught him. My heart is just broken. He gives no reason. He has never done anything like this before. Today I filed the petition for Divorce and just feel so numb. I am a very strong person and I know I will get through this but it sure does hurt. Please just say a little prayer for me. I'm not really scared to stay out on the farm by myself but it is way out. My closest neighbor is about a half a mile away. And if anything did happen nobody is close enough to know about it. Just pray that God will keep me safe and put his angels on extra guard.
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| darlenelovesart |
Posted - Nov 20 2013 : 8:06:15 PM
Victoria,
I will be praying for you through all this. Maybe he can sit back and think about what he is doing to his family and change his mind. I pray that it is so, if not God might want you somewhere else but I can't see that, but I don't know I am not God and don't have those answers.
Pray to God, he will help you get through this and make the nights better.
Take care
blessings
darlene
I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment.
by Frances Farmer
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
I trust in you Jesus... |
| ceejay48 |
Posted - Nov 16 2013 : 5:37:04 PM
Victoria,
Still praying for you . . . God's strength, comfort, healing and encouragement is there!
PRAYING!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665.
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| MBurns |
Posted - Nov 16 2013 : 5:30:17 PM
your cakes are so pretty.
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| EastTXFarmgirl |
Posted - Nov 16 2013 : 4:15:43 PM
It has been very hectic around here the past few days so I have not had a chance to get on line. Thank you so much for all of your prayers and thoughts. I am doing ok. I have always been an independent person so that part really hasn't been difficult. It was just so devastating how he did it. It was so unexpected. I am getting along though, having to pick up some extra shifts at work. The only major thing I have to take care of right now is I have to sell my cow. I had raised her since she was 3 weeks old and now she is 2 1/2. I just had her inseminated. This would be her first calf. But she is the one animal that is taking up too much time and energy. And there is no way I could keep up with her when the milking starts.
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| MBurns |
Posted - Nov 15 2013 : 3:29:19 PM
I pray god will be with you and give you strength. My ex left me on my son's birthday and it was over after 20 years with no warning. I went to a divorce support group for awhile at a church and that helped me. you are stronger than you think. Lean on friends.
Farmgirl friends are fun. |
| Denise Ann |
Posted - Nov 13 2013 : 8:42:08 PM
Victoria,
I went through a similar situation a few years ago. It was very scary to be alone after being with the same person for many years. I have one sister, we are twins and literally both going through exactly the same thing at the same time. If it were not for her and my friends I would not have made it. I have found I am braver than I thought, and I can take care of myself, which is empowering. It will get better, it takes time and prayer. I will be thinking of you.
Denise |
| churunga |
Posted - Nov 02 2013 : 1:51:06 PM
Victoria,
Every farm girl is here for you. Please do not forget that. We are strong because we are numerous and we rarely tire.
Marie, Sister #5142
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| Cozynana |
Posted - Nov 02 2013 : 07:39:29 AM
Victoria, I watched my girlfriend's husband march in and do the same thing to her. It was really hard on her. I think my friend would tell you sadly life goes on and the sooner you rejoin life the faster your heart can start healing. My friend made herself go to any event, program, invitation, etc she could. This passed the days and she was soooooo tired at the end of a day she could finally sleep. I am not saying it was not the hardest thing she ever did, but it allowed her to move on and heal. Today she is living in a new town with new friends and new memories. Best thing she ever did, so she says. I am so sorry and hope it helps to know others have been down that road survived and probably stronger. You know that saying.....That which does not kill us make us stronger. Prayers sent yout way. Take care. |
| HealingTouch |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 9:55:25 PM
Victoria,
How devastating. I am so sorry for the loss of your father and marriage. How awful and inconsiderate of your husband to do this to you at this time. You are right to move on. No use prolonging the inevitable. If you don't have a church, find one and let the women help you through this. If we were all nearby we would be there. Since we aren't we have to do it online. I pray for your Peace, Comfort and Healing in your heart and mind. You are good and remember you are the daughter of a King and he will never forsake you. Stay strong and we will all lift you up.
Be Blessed and Be a Blessing,
Darlene
Sister 1922
God first, everything else after!
When Satan's knocking at your door, just say "Jesus will you get that for me?"
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| EastTXFarmgirl |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 7:39:43 PM
Oh the nights are the hardest. During the day I'm so busy trying to do all the things I was already doing and now all the things that he did too. But coming into the house at night is really hard. It's so quiet and I don't have my best friend to tell all the day's events to. I used to look forward to night, kick back in the recliner and laugh about what ever stupid thing happened that day. Now I dread the setting sun. And of all things to have to do today. I've been making a wedding cake. If I had not committed to doing this over a month ago I would have backed out. Imagine trying to get your mind off of a divorce while baking a wedding cake. Thank all of you for letting me have a little vent time. Besides my husband I really only talk to my 2 sisters and I'm afraid I'm going to wear them out so I try not to call them too much. I really don't want to bother them at night but that is the hardest time for me. So getting on here and reading your messages has really helped.
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| nndairy |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 1:57:51 PM
My thoughts and prayers are with you in this difficult time. Many hugs too.
Heather
Farmgirl Sister #4701
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 1:40:27 PM
Oh honey, I'm so sorry...praying.
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
| Marcy |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 10:06:42 AM
I am so sorry that you are going through this. Know that you are thought of and being kept in my prayers. If you need anything, know I'm here.
Sending you big hugs
Marcy
Farmgirl #170
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| shanda |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 09:32:21 AM
Victoria, Prayers are sent!
I know how you feel, the night I was moving things out of the home my ex and I shared, my father had a major stroke and died. It was very hard to process the grief of losing my daddy (yes, i'm a daddy's girl) and the grief of losing my home and husband. I had to make the arrangements for mom, and help my son (4 at the time) deal with losing his home, dad and papa. I really didn't think I was going to live thru the months that followed. Just take it moment by moment, breath by breath, one foot in front of the other. Talk to God...a lot. And know there are sisters praying for you. I'm so sorry you have to walk thru this, but know that you CAN do it.
Blessings
Shanda
Farmgirl #4233 |
| ptroupe |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 08:21:29 AM
I am so sorry to hear that you do not think you can work it out. But, I will continue to pray that God's blessings, even in this crisis, will abound. He is our strength!!!!
Hugs,
Portia
Wishing for the country life! |
| churunga |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 08:17:26 AM
We will all gather our individual strength and send it to you. No one who is a farm girl is alone EVER.
Marie, Sister #5142
Try everything once and the fun things twice. |
| rphelps4 |
Posted - Oct 31 2013 : 07:13:03 AM
Victoria, I am so sorry for all you are going thur, I found myself alone with $ children to raise, God gives you the strength to find yourself and do things you never thought you could do and each little success gives you more of what you need to do the next task at hand. You are farmgirl strong, and you know we are all here praying for you, and you know we are all here to listen when you need us. God bless you Roxanna |
| nubidane |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 6:39:55 PM
Victoria, I do not know what to say to comfort you, but know that us gals here are praying for you.
Sadly, this could happen to any one of us, so we need to be strong sisters!
I hope you find peace in the small wonders of the day, like a special bird, a sunrise, or even a double coupon!
Prayers for you, yours, and some peace to come!
"We must reject the idea that every time a law’s broken, society is guilty rather than the lawbreaker. It is time to restore the American precept that each individual is accountable for his actions.” – R.R. |
| ceejay48 |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 5:24:32 PM
Oh my, Victoria! What a traumatizing situation . . . I'm so sorry!
I will be praying the Lord just wrap you in His arms and shower you with His love, comfort, healing, encouragement . . . and He will guide and lead you.
PRAYING!!!
PRAYING!!!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665.
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| EastTXFarmgirl |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 4:31:29 PM
Thank you for your prayers and well wishes. Today was hard because it rained all day and was very gloomy outside. Portia to answer some of your questions He is not willing to talk I did try and yes I still love him but I also know myself very well. I don't trust easily and if trust is broken I just don't have it in me to forgive and forget. I know that I would never trust him again and I am not willing to put myself or him through that. I will make it on my own I just didn't think I would ever have to be alone again and never wanted to be alone again. I'm not giving up and quitting he did that for me. Thank you all again and please keep me and all out there who suddenly find themselves alone in your prayers.
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| lovinRchickens |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 3:54:16 PM
I too am sending up prayers . This is such a stressful time. I am so sorry to hear all has turned upside down for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Farmgirl #5111
Blessings
~Kelly~ |
| ptroupe |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 2:44:37 PM
My prayers are with you...on the loss of your father and the loss of your husband. This seems most unusual. Perhaps he is ill or is going through a mid-life crisis of some sort. You two need to talk to see if there is a way to work on your marriage before jumping right into divorce. Are there children involved? Do you think there is someone else? There could be so many reasons for this. I just hate to see you give up and quit. Do you think he is worth trying to keep? Do you love him? Ask yourself these questions. May God give you peace and understanding.
Blessings,
Portia
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| Ninibini |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 09:36:40 AM
My heart just aches for you, too, Victoria. I have been trying to find the right words. All I want to do is come down and sit with you so you don't feel all alone. I'm so, so sorry for all you are going through right now. You are in my heart, thoughts and prayers. Love - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
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| Calicogirl |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 09:18:00 AM
Oh Victoria, my heart just aches for you. I am so sorry that you have lost your father and now this. I am praying for the Lord to give you a big hug, to heal your heart and bring you comfort and strength. I am sorry.
Farmgirl Sister #5392
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| sherone_13 |
Posted - Oct 30 2013 : 07:13:11 AM
Wow.....the text message thing was harsh. I am sending up a prayer that you will feel comforted and safe. Trust in Him, Victoria. All is Well when you trust in Him.
Sherone
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