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| Cindy Lou |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 07:46:21 AM
I know this is a hard question but have you ever had a friend in hospice care? A former co-worker has just decided to enter hospice care. She has fought bout after bout of cancer with courage and grace for 10-15 years. The word is that somedays she would welcome visitors, to call first. I don't want to intrude on family time though. I have a beautiful card I am sending today, telling her what a positive effect she has had on so many of us. What, besides prayer, would you do?
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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| marlee |
Posted - May 07 2013 : 3:33:44 PM
I was with an alheimzers patient in her home I took care of her for three years, I stayed days and another lady stayed night. When she wanted ice cream I said is the Dairy Queen calling your name. She laughed. Her daughter thought that was hilarious. When she passed away, her daughter told me thank you for giving mother a happy life in such horrible situation. I was so sad for a while after she passed. I still put flowers on her grave. I miss her. They just want someone to careful and give them hugs. And I did.
Hugs Marlee
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| darlenelovesart |
Posted - May 07 2013 : 10:33:03 AM
Very true Cindy Lou.
darlene
I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment.
by Frances Farmer
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
I trust in you Jesus... |
| Cindy Lou |
Posted - May 07 2013 : 08:44:23 AM
Thanks for the encouragement and advice. All the good intentions don't mean much until we act on them!
Marly, I like the ideas of magazines and games. I had thought about games and also thought of taking a pretty flowering plant. Cut flowers just die, a living plant could make her smile. I'd rather share flowers now than at a funeral!
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
Mary Oliver |
| kysheeplady |
Posted - May 07 2013 : 04:22:36 AM
Marly,
worked for a VNA for over 20 years!
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
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| Bear5 |
Posted - May 06 2013 : 8:50:18 PM
Susan, I would ask if she needs magazines to read. Or, she may enjoy playing a board game. I will keep your friend in my prayers. Teri! I bet you were one great hospice worker. Hugs.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
| wildflower17 |
Posted - May 06 2013 : 05:21:58 AM
Susan,
So sad that this is happening. I think these sweet and caring ladies have given you a lot of wonderful advice. I remember in 2002 my dad was very ill for 6 weeks before he went home to be with the Lord. We sat with him 24/7 at the hosptial. It was so nice when someone came by to visit. Even if only for a brief moment, it gave us time to get our mind on something else, time to take a short walk to collect our thoughts or maybe step out to get a bite to eat or drink. If you are even remotely close to this family, all your efforts to help will be greatly appreciated.
Hugs,
Judy
"Country Girl at Heart"... |
| ceejay48 |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 7:01:08 PM
Susan,
My mother was a Hospice patient at the end of her life and long, long, long battle with a type of leukemia. Hospice IS THE BEST!!! They were LIFESAVERS for us . . they take care of the patient AND their family. And, I know I/we would have welcomed anyone close to my mom to come and visit (I'm sure we probably did too). I know it would have been a bright moment, an encouragement. So, I would say ABSOLUTELY YES!!! Call, go, follow your heart!
My prayers are with you in this situation!
CJ
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| laurentany |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 5:03:15 PM
Susan,
I agree with what all the ladies here are saying. If you can call the family and just check in and see what kind of day your friend is having, then they can certainly tell you "Yes today is a good day" or No, today is not a good day, but by all means keep trying. from my personal experience, there are good and bad days, but most people in Hospice welcome the idea of company and the chance to interact with friends and loved ones as much as possible as long as they are feeling up to it.
Hugs,
~Laurie
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| Red Tractor Girl |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 2:53:03 PM
Susan, I worked as an RN in Hospice care for 11 years. IT is OK to call the family and see if the patient is accepting visitors. If she is, I bet she would love to see you for a nice visit. Patients usually love visitors if they are up to it and they will let you know if you just ask. Cards and prayers are always nice but nothing replaces a real visit!
Winnie #3109 |
| darlenelovesart |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 2:23:59 PM
I agree with Teri, I had a friend that was dying with cancer and hospice came and they were there for every thing she needed night and day, and it wasn't easy because my friend was a large person but they were there for her.
It helped my friend to know that we were there to visit and be with her at that time too because it helped her be calmer and be more relaxed knowing we all loved her. I think it is good for everyone involved. For my friend her family wasn't close by so the rest of us were there for her but It would be good to ask if the family is there if it is ok for you to be there as well.
blessings
darlene
I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment.
by Frances Farmer
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
I trust in you Jesus... |
| levisgrammy |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 12:40:02 PM
I think Teri has given you an excellent idea. Speaking from experience of being with someone who is ill with cancer, I know a break is welcomed at times.
farm girl sister#43
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O, a trouble's a ton or a trouble's an ounce,
Or a trouble is what you make it!
And it isn't the fact that you're hurt that counts,
But only--how did you take it?
--Edmund C. Vance.
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| kysheeplady |
Posted - May 05 2013 : 07:58:14 AM
I worked in hospic care for many years, you will not find a more dedicated team of nurse's and caretakers. In my opinion they are the BEST of the best ...
I also had one of my very best friends in MA. in hospic care, she had ALS ... and although her mind was still sharpe she could not communicate. But, this did not stop friends from sitting with her.
If this person is a really good friend, I would call and ask the family if you could come sit with your friend. The family might welcome you, for a little break for them ... as well as just letting them know what she meant to you.
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
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