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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Jul 12 2011 : 6:53:24 PM
Soem of you may know what I have been through with my oldest daughter. I now have her youngest daughter with me. It's a long story so won't bore y'all. But she really needs prayer so bad right now. She was with a guy who beat her horribly last night. God sent an angel who helped her and she is now at the hospital getting checked out and x-rayed and all that. She will be going to a battered women's shelter. She really needs help. She called and told me all this today and I told her I cannot help her because I am way out here in the country and she needs to be in town close to places that will help her. The lady that picked her up is a Christian and I told her she has got to know of places there for her to go. And she did. I have learned to step back and let her think. And she can. So anyway, she is in God's hands right now. I have let her go and left Him in charge. But she needs lots of prayer to get her through this. Thank you all so much already. I KNOW prayer works because it just did.
Kris
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 23 2011 : 5:09:42 PM
Thank you both. My other Dd called today. Apparently H has enrolled K in school. He rteacher called Abby to try to get a message to H about K. She said K won't sit still and is constantly getting up and down. Won't bring homework back. Won't bring her backpack to school. I'm just wondering what the poor kid looks like when she gets to school. I am going to go to the school next week and see what's going on. I don't think teachers can handle kids that have lots of energy. The first thing they want parents to do is get them on meds. Why? Anyway, I have tried to get in touch with H on FB but haven't gotten an answer yet.
Kris
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| Calicogirl |
Posted - Sep 23 2011 : 09:34:03 AM
I'm still praying Kris! God is working :)
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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| sherrye |
Posted - Sep 21 2011 : 8:07:36 PM
well sending hugs to you. i bet your enjoying the quiet right now.... well that is if the bucks are not screaming for a girl friend. LOL how are your boy goaties doing? happy days sherrye
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 21 2011 : 2:48:59 PM
Sherrye, right now I don't really know. She had left the shelter and moved in with a lady who has a dog rescue in an old school. She has been thinking about going to live with K's dad's family. We did talk to her a few days ago and she was still at the school. So I don't really know what she will do. That place in Atlanta had called Friday and left a message. I gave her the # but it's up to her. I can't tell her what to do. But thanks for asking. I will update when I know more.
Kris
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| sherrye |
Posted - Sep 21 2011 : 07:54:02 AM
wondering how things are going kris???? happy days sherrye
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| Acelady02 |
Posted - Sep 10 2011 : 3:48:07 PM
Kris, I believe you did the right thing, how can it be wrong....she doesn't even know it...besides she is YOUR child, no matter what has happened. It is hard sometimes I know, saw it with my Momma and brother, but she loved him through all the ups and downs and everything worked out. I'm glad you did it, I would have too...love for your children just doesn't stop because they aren't doing right....take a deep breath and know you did what was right for you...love and prayers
(((((Hugs All)))))Penny
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 10 2011 : 3:34:59 PM
These are prescribed meds she has taken for a long time and ran out. When she got to the shelter the other day, they had to look through every single bag she brought. And they also got ALL her vitamins and the one prescription she had for the anti depressant. I can't remember what it is but it's common. Anyway, they got it all and only give it to her when it's supposed to be taken. I had thought about that then remembered they had all her things in the office. So yes, it is allowed but the staff keeps it under lock and key.
So my other Dd and I were driving right through the little town where she is now so it was not out of my way this time. So I did get the prescription. I took it right in to the office and gave it to the person in charge. Heather didn't even see it. I know I probably should not have done it, but I know how she can be when she doesn't sleep. She can be evil and I do not want her to be causing trouble for the other women there. I hope y'all don't think I did the wrong thing. When I saw the comment to back away and don't do it,(and I do apprecite that and I did think about it for a LONG time, believe me) I thought that was what I should do. But I do not feel like I did the wrong thing. She has been looking for a job and everything is within walking distance from where she is right now. So hopefully she will get a job and be able to get her meds herself next time.
I just had to confess. I know you all are just the best and I am so thankful I can come here and get this all off my chest. And get great wonderful advice from so many wonderful friends. So I really thank you all and please don't think I don't listen to you. I do.
Kris
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| Acelady02 |
Posted - Sep 10 2011 : 06:53:19 AM
Kris, I agree with the other's the meds may not be allowed, call the shelter to make sure first. They do have rules about some meds, I'm sure. I wish you the best. Prayers for you for strength and peace.
(((((Hugs All)))))Penny
Farmgirl Sister #3343
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| crafter |
Posted - Sep 10 2011 : 06:26:01 AM
Kris,
I don't know what to say except my heart aches for you and your family. I'm keeping all of you in my prayers. Please lean on us whenever you need. We are here for you 24/7!!
Lori |
| rough start farmgirl |
Posted - Sep 10 2011 : 04:40:49 AM
Kris,
Are you sure that sort of medication is allowed where she is staying? Those pills can be so powerful and being dependent on anything may not help her right now . . . just something to think about.
Stay strong and enjoy time at your coupon event!!
Marianne |
| Calicogirl |
Posted - Sep 09 2011 : 8:10:11 PM
You have done plenty Kris. I don't think I would pick up the pills for her. Sometimes we can get in the way of what God wants to do, I know it's hard but she needs to look up and when she doesn't have you always helping her out, she will.(please don't take that wrong!) I am still praying for you and the whole family Kris.
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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| nubidane |
Posted - Sep 09 2011 : 6:33:47 PM
Kris
CUT HER OFF
You have done enough
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 09 2011 : 5:30:07 PM
Tina, I have been to Alanon and did not like it. Or at least that particular group. Maybe I could find another group around here somewhere or maybe even start one. I know alot of people with kids like mine. That's a thought. Thanks for the reminder.
H called me today. She needs her prescription filled for her sleeping meds and they don't help them with that there. It's only $8. but it's also about 30 miles to where she is to get them to her. But tomorrow me and my other Dd are going to Villa Ricca, Ga. to a couponing seminar and will be going right through the town where she is. Do y'all think I should do this? She really does have a problem sleeping at night and sometimes never does get to sleep. I think this is one of her big issues. She also said K's teacher has already told her that K is a handful in the class room. So they will probably be telling her she needs to put her back on her pills again. I WILL NOT be buying them.
Kris
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| oldbittyhen |
Posted - Sep 08 2011 : 1:57:26 PM
kristen, you might want to consider going to classes also that are set up for spouse/parent/family and friends of ones that have addiction problems...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 08 2011 : 11:22:39 AM
I called this morning to the office of the shelter to make sure they have my phone # in case anything happens. The lady I talked to said they are still there. They got Kansas registered for school and she started yesterday. She was so excited to be going. So I guess things are going well for them there. I am relieved to say the least. I just got to thinking yesterday that it kind of felt like I took them there and dropped them off like puppies at the dog pound. Like unwanted little puppies without a home. And I felt so bad. But I feel ok now knowing they are still there and doing ok so far. H will be going to AA and NA meetings twice a week and also talking to a counselor. And hopefully taking classes to get her GED which she needs to do. She'll start it then quit. So she will be getting so much more help there than I could ever do for her.
Sherrye, I am so glad your son is doing so good now. It sure makes ya age alot, doesn't it? I blame all my gray hairs on my kids.
Kris
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| sherrye |
Posted - Sep 07 2011 : 07:20:13 AM
i was hoping to read things were better. so sorry kris this is going on. our oldest son had some real drug problems. we found he never got better while we were holding him up. it seems to end up being enabling to him. when we drew the line and said NO MORE. he left and struggled a while then had to get help. remember papas brother? he was on the front page of our local paper. he had stolen my morphinee and vicodin. he had gotten out of rehab. he came here lasted about 2 weeks and no more. we had him leave. well a year later he is arrested on dui. and hitting another car. when he came out of jail he was mad at the world. it was not his fault. i say this because they need to make their own bed so to speak. pay their own bills so to speak. it is sad the girls sre suffering because of this. as far as men go. well do they ever really get it. NO so maybe you can take a deep breath and say a prayer and go love on your animals. this is her problem not yours. i am sad for you girl. you hang in there. how is zarah doing? is it raining still? have you made soap this year? i will send you my recipe if you like? remember the problem is not you or her. she is still your sweet girl. she is sick right now. we pray she will get better. my son is well and doing great. its a walk they have to do themselves. hang in there. Jehovah loves you. this is temporary and will pass. i am glad you get a break. sending love hugs and prayers your way. sherrye
the learn as we go silk purse farm
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| rough start farmgirl |
Posted - Sep 07 2011 : 04:33:34 AM
Oh, Tina, you are right . . . my prayers are always first and foremost for the innocent ones. Kristin, you are doing your best and no one can expect one bit more. Congratulations on being able to keep on giving even when you want a breather!
Marianne |
| oldbittyhen |
Posted - Sep 06 2011 : 5:59:16 PM
Kristen, all I can say is this..."It's your house, and your rules", so if she does not want to fly straight, then she is not welcome back. I am sorry your hubby is not standing up with you, sometimes I think men are useless when it comes to their daughters, but I do hope the granddaughter does not end up the one to get hurt the most in this...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 06 2011 : 1:58:14 PM
I just got back from taking them to a homeless shelter. After her sleeping all day yesterday and then going out late last night with an old boyfriend, I have had enough. And my husband was home and he did nothing. Kansas was with him most of the day and he was getting tired. And last night he said his neck was hurting, and could that be from stress? And then he told me she told him about 11:30 last night she was going out and would be back about 6 am. During a really bad storm and left Kansas upstairs all alone. Then a few minutes later the power goes out and of course Kansas wakes up scared to death. So I brought her downstairs and put her in bed with Papa and I slept on the couch. Well, sort of slept. I was so mad I had to take some sleeping pills. And I locked all the doors too. I was not going to let her back in.
So this morning I get up and saw that the back door, which has had a broken window in it for a few months now and I had cardboard over it, was unlocked. I went upstairs and there she was asleep. I yanked off the blankets and told her she needed to leave right now. She called me every name in the book and then some. And her dad right downstairs hearing everything and not doing a thing. I think that makes me madder than anything at all. He just does not want to rock the boat. When I told him she was upstairs sleeping, he said good. I nearly threw something at him. Then a little later he has to go back to work. How convenient for him.
So I am sure they will be able to help her way more than I ever could. Maybe help her get into a treatment center. And also Kansas' other grandparents came up to see her Sunday. They live way down in S. Ga. and have only seen her once when she was a baby. They said they could come down there but H would have to get help. I'm sure she would treat them a whole lot better than she does me.
So it is out of my hands now. I could not do it anymore. I feel like I am loosing my mind. I hate feeling this way. And we had the other 2 grands this weekend. H is now on facebook on her phone. She stays on that 24-7. Constantly on it. Worse than a teenager. And talking to all kinds of people she knew in highschool. It's really bad. So I did not have a good weekend at all. I hate to say it, but I am so glad they are all gone. It might be awhile before the other 2 grands come again. They need to learn how to mind. I love them but good grief!
Thank you all so much for your prayers. They will still need them. I will try to keep this updated as I learn more. Please know that all the prayers are so much needed and appreciated.
I just read this back and I sure sound horrible. I hope it doesn't come across like I hate them all because I really don't. I just need a breather right now. I really do love them all. Well, maybe except my husband who I will stay mad at for awhile. He never gets it. And wonders why I am always mad at him. I think I'll let him stew in this pot awhile.
Kris
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| Tapestry |
Posted - Sep 05 2011 : 7:39:56 PM
Dear Kristin,
I've been gone for some time and just trying to get caught up on things I've missed in the past yr. Reading your posts just made my heart cry for you. There is no love (besides God's) like a mother's love. We all seem to do this. No matter what happens to our kids we try to fix it for them. You're right my dear. You must put your daughter in God's hands. Until she decides that SHE wants to change her life nothing will change. An addict must want to stop being addicted. She needs to reach that place where she begins to want to be free of drugs, abusive relationships, and alcohol. It may never happen. She may destroy herself but you have done all you can do and then some. Protect your grandchildren if you can but take care of yourself and understand you've done your best. Now its up to her. Praying for you.
Hugs
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| Calicogirl |
Posted - Sep 01 2011 : 12:05:57 PM
Kris,
I am still praying for everyone! God can do anything!
I too love Streams in the Desert such great insight. You know I think that you are doing the right thing. We can often get in the way of what God wants to do in someone's life. I can understand especially when grandchildren are involved you want to do whatever you can to help. There are times when we need to step back (like you have) and just let God do whatever He wants. I love the words of wisdom from little Chloe :) Hang in there Kris, God has a plan and it's for His glory. Praying for peace in your heart :)
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory
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| CMac |
Posted - Sep 01 2011 : 10:54:01 AM
If she is breathing there is still hope i always say. And your devotional is so right. It is a relief isn't it. What I do when I feel the urgency to "do" something about/with my addict I stop, take a deep breath and visualize handing that precious baby he used to be over to Gods loving arms.
I really don't know what is best for another person addict or not! But God does and he does have a plan.
You are a wonderful person Kris. You amaze me with your ability to find your way through such tough issues. I'm glad to know you and would be pleased to call you my friend. Your honesty on this forum probably helps more people than you will ever know. My guess is there are more than a few who needed to hear the message you relayed as much as you needed it. I appreciated it.
Hugs Hugs Hugs!
Connie
"I have three chairs in my house: one for solitude, two for friendship, three for company."
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 01 2011 : 10:41:40 AM
So this morning, I am reading my devotions. I love Streams in the Desert by Mrs. Charles Cowman. It's SO good and it seems like everyday is something I need just for me. And today was no exception. The reading was in Is. 54:11. So I went there to read more. My Bible is the Women of Destiny and it has devotions for lots of the verses. So I got to verse 13. All your children shall be taught by the Lord, and great shall be the peace of your children. I thought that was just beautiful. BUT that verse had a devotion for it. I read it too. This woman had a 17 year old son who was failing algebra so she had made an appointment with a tutor for him. Well, the Lord said to her "If you want me to be his teacher, then you must get out of the way." Whoa. I felt like God was saying that to me. It went on to say how she was just trying to get him to see that if he failed now, what it would do to his future. Well, he did fail the test. But went on to graduate. He applied to a really good university but at the last minute was denied. Because of the failed algebra test a few years back. But he did go on to another school. It was more a lesson for her.
So right then and there, this morning on this 1st day of Sept. at my dining room table, I have stepped out of the way and given her to God. She is all His to do with what He will. I cannot do this. Just like I need to remember when Chole was just about 3 years old and I was all worried about Heather and crying about what I should do. Little Chloe just said "There's nothing you can do, Mimi." Why can't I remember this? Why do I have to beat myself up over her all the time? When all I have to do is remember that I cannot do a darn thing for her now. NOTHING! It is all up to her what she does.
I did pray and ask God to protect poor little Kansas. And He will. I know He will. No matter what. They are both God's children anyway.
So whatever happens happens without me stepping my foot in it again. Please help me to remember this. And I know Heather will need so much prayer. Thank you all so much for praying for her. I know it's helped because she's still breathing.
Kris
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| sherrye |
Posted - Sep 01 2011 : 07:31:24 AM
oh kris, i wish i was closer. i could give you a big warm hug. sending love your way. hang on the best you can. i so hope this place takes her. it sounds like a place that wuld work. long term i think it is a good choice. hoping this gets figured out soon for you. sherrye
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Aug 31 2011 : 2:55:32 PM
It really sounds like she needs to be on medication for whatever type of mental illness she has, cause what you've described is classic mental illness. She thinks only of herself because her brain is messed up. No normal person of her age acts the way she does. As long as her brain is messed up, it's going to be nearly impossible to reason with her. You may even have to be manipulative to get her the help she needs. I feel for you and wish there was something I could do to help. Mental illness and addiction go hand in hand but can be treated. Maybe you could contact NAMI and they could help. They help the mentally ill and their families as well. Before I was diagnosed with depression, I know I put my parents through hell. I didn't know what was wrong with me, and neither did they. She acts like a teenager because when people are mentally ill/addicted, they tend to regress. I can understand why you hate dealing with her. She probably hates herself as well. I am praying that you get some relief and she gets the help she needs. It's such a difficult situation, and everyone suffers.
Cindy
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