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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 11:36:57 AM
I work at an investment firm. Needless to say, the job is stressful. But, recently, my co-workers are berating me, talking disrespectfully to me, and treating me like a 2nd class citizen, because I'm the newest (and the youngest). I'm the admin support, so I do SO MUCH, and, I know they know that, but, I think they berate me to keep me from looking elsewhere for employment.
I have a stellar resume and skillset, and recently had two job interviews, which I should hear about next week.
Today, I was yelled at and talked to disrespectfully, because my printer is malfunctioning, and I should know how to fix it for it to print correctly-and I went to the restroom and cried. Its the most ridiculous things they get upset about because it's a high-stress job, and a high-stress time for us right now-(ie: me needing to leave early, and telling them a few days before, because I need to get STITCHES out of my FACE-I haven't taken one sick day or vacation day yet this year, and I've had 4 doctors appts. since Jan, or getting upset because yahoo isn't displaying correctly on someone's computer, or yelling because someones labels printed crooked), and I'm just to overly-sensitive that it really gets to me and hurts.
I need prayers that I'll get one of the jobs I've interviewed for, or at least have the strength to not get hurt by the yelling and the attitudes. I've never been one to raise my voice, and having been in an abusive relationship in the past, yelling really is an emotional trigger for me.
Thank you ladies.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
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| debtea2 |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 6:19:05 PM
congrats and good luck
blessing deborah
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| LouisvilleMom |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 4:25:34 PM
Yea!!!! Congratulations!!!!
SAHM mom to four great boys.
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| traildancer |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 11:12:45 AM
Congratulations on your new job!! And kudos for staying as long as you did at the bad one.
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| Alee |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 08:30:00 AM
Congrats Congrats Congrats!! Oh I am so glad you are going to be out of that poisonous atmosphere!! And only having to drive 10 minutes! That's not bad at all!! The savings in fuel alone are going to be great! *hugs*
Alee
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| LouisvilleMom |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 06:55:01 AM
Sweetie I have found in situations like that the people act that way to give themselves a sense of importance. It boosts their own (little) egos. You just do your best and try to get out of that toxic environment.
I am sending positive vibes your way!!!!!
Kathryn
SAHM mom to four great boys.
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| maggie14 |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 9:21:35 PM
That is wonderful Megan!! I am so happy for you!
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 5:25:53 PM
The power of prayer...Congratulations on your new and improved job
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 07:27:50 AM
that is so great. i remember the excited feeling of a new job. the hope in my mind that this is going to be good. i am so glad you are moving on to something better for you. happy days sherrye
the learn as we go silk purse farm
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| clothedinscarlet |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 05:42:23 AM
Congrats Megan! Sounds like a great deal and a big weight off your shoulders!
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - May 19 2010 : 05:11:35 AM
Well, as an update, I got the job in Paint Lick! So, instead of commuting an hour, I'll be commuting 10 minutes! More money, salary, casual dress code, flexible schedule, 100% paid benefits-it's just AWESOME! I put in my two weeks notice last week @ work. This friday is my last day. And I tell you what, this week is dragging by. I've gone through 4 temps for my position. They all say they can't work with my co-workers, that there's too much to do, and too micromanaged. LOL.
I just need to make it through till Friday.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
| barnagainkristin |
Posted - Apr 27 2010 : 6:20:08 PM
Megan,
So sorry about the rotten people you work with. I have been shocked by what people will do so many times and I will never get used to it. I guess when you're not that kind of person it is hard to understand where they are coming from or why they do what they do. Thank goodness you are not like them! Hope things work out for you with a new job that is much better and you work with nice people. Happy you have farmgirls to remind you how many good people there are in the world. I wish you well.
barnagainkristin
"Others Before Self" |
| Faransgirl |
Posted - Apr 27 2010 : 07:03:03 AM
I recently had a boss at a Non=Profit organization. She was the VP once when she didn't know I could hear her I heard her tell someone that it was ok to yell at people because it always got you what you wanted. After months of being afraid to pick up the phone if she was on the caller ID I took the situation to the BOD. They fired me of course. Since that 5 of their 8 employees have quit and one more is interviewing for a new job. I totally believed in the organization and it broke my heart to be fired but no one has the right to yell at or berate anyone else. I think the lesson you may be suppose to learn from this is that - no one has the right to treat you disrespectfully and by allowing it you are disrespecting yourself - so your lesson would be respect yourself.
Farmgirl Sister 572
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| maggie14 |
Posted - Apr 26 2010 : 7:57:42 PM
oh so sorry to hear that Megan. You will be in my prayers!
Hugs!
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Apr 26 2010 : 12:06:41 PM
Thank you guys-keep 'em coming! I called the place today, and they said that one of the interviewer's family members had passed over the weekend, so, they hadn't made a decision yet due to him being out-they said probably later this week-I'll be so anxious until then! I sent another follow up email (I sent one the day after the email) basically expressing my condolences, and asking if there were any questions I could answer, and referencing a few things we had talked about in the interview.
I'm praying like mad right now about it.
I'll go from an hour + commute (each way!) to a less than 20 minute commute, at a really great place, in a beautiful building, with some really laid-back people. Your prayers are appreciated!!!!
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
| maggie14 |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 6:38:43 PM
I'll be praying for you Megan! I hope you get the job you want.
Hugs,
Channah
Farmgirl sister #1219
Just a small town country girl trying to live her dreams. :) |
| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 6:17:31 PM
and sorry for the dp, but, thank you all SO much for your prayers. It really does mean a TON to have supportive friends!!!
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 6:16:26 PM
Tomorrow is the day that I'll hopefully hear about ONE of the interviews-I'm not trying to get my hopes up, but I've been on my knees about it. I've also been trying to seek out what the "lesson" is to learn here. When I started at this position, the two interviewers (the two that are the WHOLE problem) warned me about the CEO, and how volatile he was-he's never, EVER been anything but respectful and wonderful to me. It's so comical that they warned me about him, and yet THEY are the ones who are irrational and volatile.
Unfortunately, this company has a very high turn-around due to the yelling and abuse that goes on, and has also been in litigation over it. I just hope that I can move onward and upward in a timely fashion. I've tried "Killing them with kindness," and, while it bides the time, something always blows up.
We'll see.
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com |
| clothedinscarlet |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 06:17:58 AM
Father God, I pray that you will give Megan peace in the work place. That she will be respected by her co-workers and will work to the best of her ability and be satisfied with her efforts. I pray for favor that she would get the job that best suits her dreams and talents and skills and that she would LOVE what she does. In Jesus' name, AMEN!
For what it's worth, Megan, I had stitches in my face once and didn't have the time to schedule an appt. to get them out, so I sterilized some nail clippers with lots of alcohol and snipped them right out myself LOL! Worked perfectly and I didn't have to go make a doctors visit and pay a co-pay for it either :)
Farmgirl Sister #1110
Siobhan - AKA Liza-Jane (my farmgirl name), wife to my best friend, Trent, and mommy to Camden (11/28/05) and Bennett (7/11/07). and Truman (7/28/09) |
| farmmilkmama |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 05:12:51 AM
I really hope one of those other jobs opens up for you. Spending 8-5 with people who treat you like that is a terrible way to live life. I agree that you should tell your superior about the way you're being treated (unless your superior is part of the problem too) because sometimes these bully type people act they way they do because they can get away with it - people protect the bullies. I have you in my thoughts today and I hope this situation is resolved quickly!! Please keep us up to date and what happens!! I can't stand people who are mean just because they think they can be.
--* FarmMilkMama *--
Farmgirl Sister #1086
Be yourself.
Everyone else is already taken.
-Oscar Wilde
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| Sheep Mom 2 |
Posted - Apr 24 2010 : 10:01:54 PM
Nobody has the right to yell at you. If they have a problem, then they can speak to you respectively and you will fix the problem. I know you need the job, but perhaps the lesson is to stand up for yourself? I know you have issues, perhaps now is the time to face them?? I don't want to give you any wrong advice, but living in fear is not a way to live. I hope you will find a different job but if you don't and have to stay there, just remember "No one can hurt you without your permission" - Elinor Roosevelt said that and she is right. I agree with Cindy - tell someone if the behavior continues.
Blessings, Sheri
"Work is Love made visible" -Kahlil Gibran |
| prariehawk |
Posted - Apr 24 2010 : 9:41:39 PM
I once had an abusive co-worker who was so bad that I wouldn't go in the walk-in freezer (I worked in a hospital kitchen) on the nights she was closing for fear she'd lock me in there (and she's the type who would have). I finally went to personnel and complained because she kept telling other people she was going to "bop" me. I told personnel I'd see a lawyer if it didn't stop. Moral of the story: she left and got a job somewhere else. I'm still at the hospital, in a better job. No one deserves to be abused, but sometimes if you stick these things out, the situation resolves itself. and it probably wouldn't hurt to tell someone higher up. good luck.
cindy
"There is more to life than increasing its speed". Mahatma Gandhi
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| Cindy Lou |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 8:35:31 PM
I hope you get one of the other jobs but it is a dangerous time to give up on a job without other options.
If you don't, I'd say tell the boss. What sense does it make to protect the abuser, to suffer or to leave a job in difficult financial times? It may be that she has tormented others in the past and this might be the time to end it for yourself and any other vicitms she has chosen.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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| msdoolittle |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 8:24:08 PM
Megan, time to ditch the job and move to the farm ;0) Seriously, NO job on Earth is worth suffering abuse. It is an abusive relationship. Time to move forward :0)
Sending you some FarmGirl Strength as well as the Johnny Paycheck song, "Take this Job and Shove It"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
FarmGirl #1390
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| jsparks60 |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 6:28:30 PM
Megan, I'm praying for you and hoping that one of the interviews pans out for you. Please stay positive!
Farmgirl #1401
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Apr 23 2010 : 6:01:51 PM
Megan, I hope you get a different job! Stress can really wreak havoc on our bodies and minds. You just have to feel bad for those abusive people. What miserable lives they must lead. Sometimes it's just easier to be happy. You will be in my prayers tonight.
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Why not go out on a limb, that's where all the fruit is! "Mark Twain"
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