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| melody |
Posted - Sep 15 2009 : 08:24:12 AM
I just found out that my father has colon cancer. He begins chemotherapy on the 20 of this month-- once a week for 2-weeks then off 2-weeks for 7 months. I'm so afraid. My parents and I have had a very complicated relationship all of my life. I have been as close to him as I was able to be as my mother is very controlling and jealous and has forbidden him to see me or call me. I saw him last when my mother was in for surgery and for two weeks last spring we were able to reunite after eight years. I have not spoken to him since June. I don't want him to be more stressed by having me show up at their house or phoning and frankly I know that I will not be allowed in their home or allowed to speak to him if Florence answers the door or the telephone. I am devastated girls.
Sorry to dump on you with this but I needed to share with my farmgirls.
Please send prayers my way.
love,
Melody
Melody
Farmgirl #525
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I spoke with my sister yesterday and found out the chemo which will begin on the 20th will be 6 weeks on then 6 weeks off. Please ladies keep praying for strength and guidence. I can't do this alone.
Also, my mother is going in for surgery next week as they found a tumor on one of her ovaries which they will be removing along with a carotid endarterectomy procedure. She is 73.
thank you dears.
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| julia hayes |
Posted - Sep 28 2009 : 6:54:05 PM
I'm such a spazz...Meldoy?? Gee whiz...why don't my fingers type correctly..forgive me dear Melody!! ~j
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| julia hayes |
Posted - Sep 28 2009 : 6:50:06 PM
Meldoy..I'm right there...walking beside you the whole way!! Wow...how are you holding up? Keeping you very very close.. ~julia
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| Lainey |
Posted - Sep 21 2009 : 11:01:48 AM
Melody, you, your father, and your mother are still in my prayers. I hope that everything goes well with their procedures and that their recoveries are quick. Big hugs!
Farmgirl Sister #25
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| Cabinprincess |
Posted - Sep 19 2009 : 5:00:39 PM
I'm so sorry you are going through such poopy times. Families can cause such pain at times. You will stay in my prayers. I can hear Him now saying " oh listen, that's Melody praying for Melody!" A sister hug from me to you....
Smiles, Melody June
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| Bonnie Ellis |
Posted - Sep 19 2009 : 2:44:45 PM
Oh Melody: My father had colon cancer too. And now your mom.....wow, girl heavy load. You all are in my prayers. God Bless.
love Bonnie Ellis
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| ddmashayekhi |
Posted - Sep 19 2009 : 10:31:59 AM
Melody, I'm so sorry to hear your folks are going through all this. Tough for the rest of you too. You are all in my prayers.
Dawn in IL |
| Lainey |
Posted - Sep 17 2009 : 06:51:28 AM
Melody, you and your family are in my prayers. I'm so sorry to hear about your father and I hope he has a complete and quick recovery. Hugs!
Farmgirl Sister #25
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An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
| catscharm74 |
Posted - Sep 17 2009 : 05:50:56 AM
I am praying for you and your family in my prayers. (((HUGS)))
Heather
http://somewheredownintexas-heather.blogspot.com |
| Tapestry |
Posted - Sep 17 2009 : 02:39:00 AM
I'm so very sorry to hear this Melody and hope you're able to find a way to talk to your father or see him despite bad blood. Sometimes illness has a way of bridging hurt feelings and anger so that families can reconnect. I hope and pray this will be the case for you. Huggzz
Happy farmgirl sister #353
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| electricdunce |
Posted - Sep 16 2009 : 2:38:34 PM
Oh, Melody, my thoughts are with you. My mother had colon cancer and it was cured for about fifteen years and then it returned . Don't lose hope. Why are families so weird sometimes? I think certain generations had very strange upbringings, lots of closed doors, lots of missing information. I hope you are able to communicate with your dad, and that he has success with the medical treatments. Remember to be really good to yourself too, Karin
Farmgirl Sister #153
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| farmallgrl |
Posted - Sep 16 2009 : 12:41:30 PM
Melody,
Stand tall and try as much as possible to be with your father. I will be praying for you and your mom, so maybe she will come to her senses and I will pray for your father also for healing.
Angela
Farmgirl Sister #337
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| kathyquilts |
Posted - Sep 16 2009 : 08:41:15 AM
Melody,
I am praying for healing and reconciliation for you and your dad.
Be blessed!
kathy
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| Ga Girl |
Posted - Sep 16 2009 : 06:03:26 AM
Melody, I am so sorry! I will keep you and your family in prayers. Blessings,Karen
Create in me a pure heart,O God and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalms 51:10
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| katie-ell |
Posted - Sep 16 2009 : 04:21:00 AM
Melody -- You are in my thoughts. . . . Like Madelynne, I hope that during this time, your mother will allow visits between you and your father. And I'd encourage you to make the attempt, no matter how difficult she may be. You will not regret trying. My heart goes out to you.
katie-ell
www.youaretoocreative.blogspot.com |
| Merry |
Posted - Sep 15 2009 : 9:57:41 PM
Oh melody! I will be praying for all of you.
Hugs my friend,
Merry
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| wild daisy |
Posted - Sep 15 2009 : 5:30:50 PM
Melody,
For someone as nice as you are this is not welcoming news. I hope that due to your fathers condition your mother can be less controlling. I hope that you will be able to talk with your father and try and ease his worries as well as your own.
In my family we are going through something similar in the way of cancer but in our case my sister-in-law is in the last phase of her cancer and the one thing I can hope for you is that you are able to talk with you father as much as possible. I know that my husband has come to terms with not being there (she is in Utah we are in Montana) by talking with her almost every week for the last 4 months. She is now possibly in the last days of her life but the one regret we will not be having is not having some type of communications with her prior to the end. I'm not saying your fathers case is terminal but one never knows when our time has expired.
I too have a mother who is more then controlling. My parents have since divorced in part to this problem but if I was in your situation I would still call even if she picked up the phone. Aggravating it might be but is your father worth it? I very much hope so.
Love and prayers for you in your time of need,
Madelynne
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| dutchy |
Posted - Sep 15 2009 : 08:51:20 AM
OH Melody I am SO sorry to hear this. Will keep you all in my prayers.
Hugs from Marian/Dutchy, a farmgirl from the Netherlands :)
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| Patsy |
Posted - Sep 15 2009 : 08:36:08 AM
Melody,
I am so sorry to hear about your dad and hope you can clear up the problems. My mom had colon cancer but it was caught early and she had surgery to remove 21 inches of her colon and she didn't have to have treatments. Keep praying and we will pray for you.
Patsy
I think that if a mortal ever heard the voice of God, it would be in a garden at the cool of the day. (F. Moore)
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