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| Farmgirlheart |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 12:22:49 PM
Okay, so I just was wondering, being from Los Angeles and still living here amongst all the transplants that have come here to be in entertainment. Are people really that flaky and superficial everywhere else??? It used to not be as bad, to me Los Angeles was just a place to grow up, but now everyday people move here with delusions of making it big in hollywood and they are all soooo self-centered and rude! Only thing is that even many of my firends (Laura Marie NOT included) are so self-absorbed and forget about me! I realized everybody has got thier own lives but sometimes I just feel forgotten. A lot of the time if I've made plans with someone and they can't/don't want to do it they won't even give me a courtesy call, I just sit and wonder where they are! Whatever happened to the Golden Rule??!! So, please tell me there are nice people out there who give a hoot about others...I'm not sure how much longer I can take LA!!!! |
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| Lainey |
Posted - Mar 20 2009 : 06:59:56 AM
Valerie, sorry you're having to go through this. Yes, rudeness is everywhere though. Come to Kentucky! We're not fancy but there are some kind and friendly folk here. You are in my prayers.
Farmgirl Sister #25
http://countrygirldreams.blogspot.com/
An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
| 5 acre Farmgirl |
Posted - Mar 19 2009 : 3:27:22 PM
Move, Move, Move, I live in the Northwest and we don't do that either, although it has taken time for those around to talk to me, just because they really didn't know me for a long, logn tome....but, people still smile at you when you amke eye contact with them....
Farmgirl Sister #368
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| Ingrid |
Posted - Mar 19 2009 : 11:52:47 AM
I think rudeness and superficial people are everywhere in every place. Every small town has the one family that is like that and in the city there are just more. It is lonely when you don't believe in that way of life but you are a better person in the end. Chat with your farmgirls when you need to an feel strength in knowing how many of us are out there.
Ingrid
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
| Farmgirlheart |
Posted - Mar 18 2009 : 10:45:13 PM
Thanks Kristin! And again to all who commiserated and empathized with me! Being out in nature, at the beach, with my plants and trees sure helps remind me of who I am, what I am, and keeps me grounded!
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| barnagainkristin |
Posted - Mar 18 2009 : 7:02:42 PM
So Happy you found farmgirl connection. Sometimes I feel the same way and I don't even live in California. I have learned that I have to be my best friend and when I feel down on people I remind myself that the best way to feel better is to do something nice for someone else. Hang in there and be happy that you are who you are and that you know what is important in life. I grew up in a house full of turmoil and learned at about 3 years old that nature was my best friend. I'm sure it's a bit easier for me to get to a place where I am away from the rat race and can find peace in nature but maybe the ocean would make you feel better if you could get there once in a while. When I am in the forest or desert it doesn't take long for my cares to drop away. Keep checking in with the farmgirls because these girls seem to know what it's all about and they'll remind you that there are lots of nice people out there. Take Care!
barnagainkristin
"Climb the mountains and get their good tidings. Nature's peace will flow into you as sunshine flows into trees. The winds will blow their own freshness into you, and the storms their energy, while cares will drop off like autumn leaves." John Muir |
| nubidane |
Posted - Mar 14 2009 : 07:37:28 AM
Valerie
You need to come to miss wilmas this fall. There you will see what REAL people are all about. The best of the best, with miss wilma leading the way. |
| Farmgirlheart |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 11:14:01 PM
Oh man you are all so great! This actually helped me to feel better! Thanks! Stephanie-I just went up to Seattle for the first time just after christmas and whoa! everyone was sooo weird and cold...now it makes sense!!! I did like Oregon quite a bit-especially Oregon City(the end of the oregon trail was awesome!), and I liked Eugene a lot too. Texas is sounding better and better, I have a good friend in Houston and I'll have to go visit him and do a bit of investigating in parts of Texas! Being here in LA is a love hate, I love it for the fact that I was born here, I know it and my family is mostly here, but I think the bad outweighs the good! |
| Calicogirl |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 9:23:50 PM
Valerie,
I'm sorry that you have been hurt. Unfortunately rudeness is everywhere. I agree with Amanda and keep smiling.
You are in my prayers and remember you are always welcome in SW Colorado :)
~Sharon
By His Grace, For His Glory |
| summerbreeze |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 9:08:25 PM
I was raised in LA and spent many years working in the television industry. The best advice I can give you is move. I'm not kidding. Back up the uhaul and get out. It was the best decision you will ever make. Yes, there are rude people everywhere. But not as rude as in LA.
Laura
You only live once,if you do it right once is enough. |
| Firemama |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 8:57:00 PM
Valerie, rude people are EVERYWHERE even in podunk, even in Spokane Wa.Heck I am sure even in Paradise USA. Hollywood is such a Hollywood, place, if that makes sense. I was raised in California, down in the Valley , we just moved here (to washington) about 2 years ago. We have seen the good and bad of both places. Hang in there and remember you can only control you!! : )
Be sure to smile at the next rude person you see and just see if your sweetness doesnt catch on to them. Hang in there!!
Mama to 2
FarmGirl# 20
People can only make you feel inferior with your permission, and you dont have my permission......
Dont let the chain of love end with you.....
http://myfarmdreams.blogspot.com/
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 8:19:19 PM
 A palm tree arsonist? Oh no, that would never do! I love all trees, even strange ones--it's just that palm trees are so hard to climb! |
| catscharm74 |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 6:46:31 PM
Me too Leslie...me too!! (Ok, I have the big boosoms...but they are natural!!!) ; )
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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| RuralSuburbia |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 6:43:59 PM
Heather, today I'd have loved to be botoxed, tan and blonde with big boobs, lol! I also would have loved to run over a few people on the road. It's been that kind of day!!
From Leslie, who is not your typical CA girl in any way, shape or form, lol.
*I've got stars in my eyes and exactly $1 in my pocket!* |
| sjs |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 6:02:16 PM
Cindy, we actually had a palm tree arsonist around here for a while! Maybe he was from the midwest too. Haha
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 5:34:12 PM
Leslie- you are in my 1% that I like..trust me!! : )
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 5:27:19 PM
"Hollywood's not America"--and apparently neither is LA. I don't know who sings it but people here in the Midwest aren't afraid to eat real food, flaunt their chicken legs, wear shirts with cutsey-poo scenes on them. Oh, and we have above ground pools--and very few outdoor kitchens (so far). And I can always count on my neighbors if I need a cup of sugar or to bake and share desserts. It's changing though-even in some small towns, people keep to themselves. But I see very few botox babes and people aren't shallow or superficial, some are just kinda anti-social. But most native Midwesterners are laid-back and would give you the shirt off their back. I could never live in LA--palm trees seem so foreign to me. I like the prairie and the woods and the fields--and the constantly changing weather--there's a reason why they call this the heartland.
So if you ever get the chance, come and visit the Midwest
Cindy
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| RuralSuburbia |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 4:24:00 PM
OUCH from a CA girl.
*I've got stars in my eyes and exactly $1 in my pocket!* |
| catscharm74 |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 4:11:16 PM
Ok, now that everyone else has 'fessed up...I HATED 99.99% of the CA I ran into.(and hate is a strong word) They were rude, self absorbed, totally all about them and I will run you over or knock into you and be totally rude kinda way. I was so sick of seeing the typical tan, botoxed and breast implants (not that those things are bad if you really want them or need them, just don't make it something I can't live up too) that was the standard out there and the fact the people along the water THINK they own the water kills me. And don't get me started about the driving... Ok...I am done...thank you... : )
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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| sjs |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 3:53:16 PM
I live close to San Francisco, and people are kind of self absorbed. In Oakland, people are really standoffish. In fact, it was so weird for me to hop on this forum and have people just come out and say hello! Seriously.
I've heard Seattle's got the "Seattle freeze" where everyone's distant and it's hard to make friends. WHY are people like this? I miss my friendly folk from North Dakota... I spent summers there too and everyone was so nice.
Seattle freeze: http://electrolicious.com/2009/01/seattl
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| dkelewae |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 1:47:31 PM
I too say move to the midwest :) Of course you'll have to like the change in seasons you don't get in CA.
Diana
Farmgirl Sister #272
St. Peters MO
Country Girl trapped in the city!
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| RuralSuburbia |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 1:25:22 PM
I've lived in CA my whole life, most of it in the Napa Valley~~and I can tell you, there are snobs everywhere! Even in the little po-dunk town I live in now. We travelled to OR and WA last year, and everyone was soooo nice, we seriously considered moving. I'm sorry you're feeling lonely. I am too.
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| britchickny |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 1:24:19 PM
We're not too bad over here in the North East! Always room for one more (but you have to like snowy winters! )
ANGIE
"Mercy, peace and love be yours in abundance" JUDE 1:2
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 12:47:19 PM
Valerie- yes, get out and come here!! We are Texas Friendly and as someone who has lived in 10 different states, including CA, I would say I love TEXAS best!!!
Heather
Yee-Haw, I am a cowgirl!!!
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| Farmgirlheart |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 12:46:19 PM
Good to know Lisa, believe me, I'm thinking about it!!! |
| nubidane |
Posted - Mar 13 2009 : 12:42:24 PM
I say move to the midwest, we wouldn't do that here! |
