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| willowtreecreek |
Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 5:01:45 PM
My husband and I will celebrate our 10th anniversary next month. We always considered having kids but for a long time it just didnt feel right for me and my husband was okay with that. About 2 1/2 years ago we decided it was a more likely possibility and I went off of hormonal birth control to allow my body to adjust to its natural state. I am overweight and while I havent lost any pounds I have increased muscle, decresed fat and lowered both my blood pressure and my cholesterol through exercise. About 8 months ago we started actively "trying" to get pregnant. It hasnt happened yet and I am starting to get more and more worried with it. My doctor told me it could be a year before we got pregnant. I'm okay with it if it doesnt happen but the emotional toll each month is getting to me. I spend all month wondering if this is the month - and then my period comes and I get really depressed. I'm not really sure which kind of response I am looking for. Just needed to get this out I guess. Thanks for listening.
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - May 30 2011 : 04:21:29 AM
Shelly, big hugs and prayers for you. <3
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| buggysmum |
Posted - May 15 2011 : 03:55:35 AM
After a year on the fertlity treatment roller coaster, 5 IUI's, 1 IVF, acupuncture, herbs, and 20 months actively trying to conceive, including temping, charting, 3 pregnancies and 3 miscarriages/d&c's, I am getting ready to throw in the towel with the medicated cycles and go the all-natural route. Just acupuncture, herbs, yoga, walking, and some nutritional tweaking (but not obsession), prayer, and most importantly, a much needed break and some relaxation. I am at the point where I think all the stress of the fertility treatments/nightly hormone injections was hurting my chances. I am now in my early 40's and thought time is "running out", there are many "after 40" babies in my family, including my own father, born when his mom was 44 (the 6th child).
I wanted my DD to have a sibling so badly, and that might still happen, but I am going to try to put this in God's hands. In addition to a sibling, she needs a mommy who is able to be fully present for her. Letting go of the illusion of "control" over this isn't easy.
Best,
Shelly
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| countrymommy85 |
Posted - May 11 2011 : 2:46:33 PM
It's rough trying and not happening. Have you heard of the book "Taking Charge of your Fertility"? I can't remember who it's from but I have been using that method as birth control and it also helped us get pregnant. I highly, highly recommend that book for anyone. After I got the hang of it I could tell when I was going to ovulate and a few times I didn't ovulate at all for a month cycle and now, because I was charting I know exactly when I conceived :) She explains how to use the method for conceiving and explains how it works and how it can help people who have previously thought they couldn't ever conceive. Although it can't prevent miscarriage, it will give you insight as to why maybe you haven't been able to conceive previously. The thing I like about the book is after a month or two of charting you will be able to tell if you're ovulating every month or not, and if you are, when. That way instead of trying to conceive every day you will be able to know what day would be most effective so trying to conceive doesn't become less romantic. I have a friend who went through that and it was rough on their marriage.
Hope this helps! I will be praying for you!!!
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| Dusky Beauty |
Posted - Apr 26 2011 : 3:55:06 PM
I've never actively "tried", but the one time I really wanted a baby and wasn't taking any sort of precautions, I miscarried twice. We think it's from the residual hormones of the depo provera after my first child messing with my needed hormone levels.
I personally don't think it's good for conception to be a job to be done. If hubby and I really wanted a baby we would drop the birth control and try out the "once a day, every day" challenge. I've heard that that exercise is really good for your intimacy, it's very popular with husbands and the more you have it, the more you enjoy it. Sounds a lot more simple and exciting to control making sure you keep up the exercise daily rather than monitoring your body for "ideal conditions".
Anyway, thats my .02
After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him. The moral: When you're full of bull, keep your mouth shut.” ~Will Rogers |
| buggysmum |
Posted - Nov 08 2010 : 6:00:55 PM
The irony seems to be that there are soooo many things that one can try to improve the chances, but all of them add additional stress or at least anticipation. For example, I was reading so many things about what one *should* and shouldn't eat that the very simple act of eating was becoming stressful....none of this helps, of course. I don't know what the answer is but I am open to any suggestions. Mary Jane, I thought what you wrote to Julie was beautiful and true.
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Nov 07 2010 : 3:28:29 PM
Julie, I think you are putting way too much pressure on yourself. Try and relax and not fret so much. I know that sounds so hard to do. But, you and your husband have a wonderful life together. Try and concentrate on that. The fact that you have each other and have been so happy, that is a good thing all in itself. Enjoy all the things you love to do together, the freedom you have to come and go as you please, your home, friends, family. In other words try and think happy positive thoughts and I think the stress will ease on you. This exact same thing happened to my niece. Finally she just said, if it happens it happens, if not then I will be happy anyway. She has polycystic ovaries and really didn't know if she could or would get pregnant. She too was and is overweight. She did get pregnant but developed gestational diabetes bad enough to have to use insulin everyday. She has a little girl 6 yrs. old now, but, they choose not to try again.
You are certainly not alone in this.Alot of women suffer with this. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it all so easy for all of you. I just hate to see women let this take over their whole life. It is so depressing and distressful, I can only imagine. But try and enjoy the life you have and all the good things in it and who knows? Maybe by taking the stress and worry off yourself every month you will get a surprise one of these times.God bless you honey.
Hugs MJ
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| buggysmum |
Posted - Nov 06 2010 : 6:50:15 PM
I am going through the same thing. It is heartbreaking. I started acupuncture and herbs a few months ago...hopefully, it will help. Wishing you the best of luck.
Shelly |
| karend26 |
Posted - Nov 01 2010 : 5:19:41 PM
Yeah, the waiting is tough. I'm on month 8 of trying now. I have been just trying to enjoy the process as much as possible. Would love to know how you're doing!
Karen
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| Beverley |
Posted - Aug 28 2010 : 7:07:04 PM
julie, has your husband been tested for his sperm count? Maybe it is low?
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| Lanna |
Posted - Aug 28 2010 : 2:03:30 PM
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Originally posted by willowtreecreek
We have been charting, taking temps, checking mucus etc., etc., We've been to the doctor and all the tests say we shouldn't be having any problems. That's the problem. We SHOULDN'T be having problems. 2 1/2 years is a long time. I know we weren't "trying" for about a year and 3/4 of that but we weren't "not trying" either.
That's what I was going to ask - whether you have yourself a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I guess luckily I haven't had this particular problem (quite the opposite - blessing and a curse), but I have heard of folks making dietary changes that helped. Like laying off ingesting so many preservatives, caffeine, aspartame, etc.
I do have a few acquaintances that started the adoption process, and either were thisclose to a referral, or had brought the babe home when they 'magically' conceived on their own. I have no idea how or why that worked, but it is a neat story.
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| star-schipp |
Posted - Aug 13 2010 : 05:45:43 AM
I have always had success with the "taking your temperature' method. Start taking your temp with a digital thermometer in the morning when you wake up and BEFORE you get up. Keep a chart. You will see an increase your temp and them a drastic drop in your temp - this is a sign that your are ovulating and should be able to conceive if you are "exposed" to sperm. (sorry, didn't no any other delicate was to put it!)
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| doglady |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 06:25:44 AM
Both you and the hubby should stop drinking all caffine - if you drink it - as caffine has been known to interfere with pregnancy. Tell hubby to wear boxers too. These two things really work. Good Luck!
Tina
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| MagnoliaWhisper |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 06:07:31 AM
Yeah my husband's co-worker was on a waiting list to adopt for 12 years! finally got the baby they were waiting for, and his wife got pregnant! So they have 2 kids now. lol :)
My dad and step mom also had a lot of problems, with fertility drugs they have 3 children, through adoption they have another 6!
My sister has PCOS, she has pretty much decided to just adopt and not worry about it. She said she really don't care how she gets kids as long as she gets some! :) And she's not worried about not being able to actually conceive children.
However, I am of both camps. I always wanted to be pregnant at least once just for the experience! And then adopt a bunch. So I can see both sides of the fence on infertility.
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| 36paws20hooves |
Posted - Jul 23 2010 : 02:39:00 AM
I am one of the "I'm tired of trying babies". My sister is 10 yrs older than I. My parents gave up and *BOOP* there I was. I have heard that from others as well.
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| yasmine |
Posted - Jul 14 2010 : 05:11:09 AM
hugs....try, along with prayer to our creater, God the father, doing a gluten free -sugar free diet....., do meat, vegetables , and fruit ..no dairy and sugar.... try it for a couple of months. it cant hurt! I regulates lots o stuff in your body! |
| natesgirl |
Posted - Jun 27 2010 : 08:05:09 AM
I was told at 13 I'd never have children. I was very upset. When I got pregnant at 17 I had to keep the baby. It was my miracle child. Then, after my husband and I was married 2 years I was pregnant agian! We were thrilled! Now I had 2 miracles and was happy beyond belief. Then, 8 years later we were discussing my sisters issues gettin pregnant and all of a sudden realized that I was many months late myself. After 2 pregnancy test we realized that miracle #3 was on it's way! I truly believe that gettin healthy and not 'tryin' as much as enjoyin is the key. It will happen when it's supposed to and there's not a whole lot a person can do to force it sometimes.
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| LenaSassafrass |
Posted - Jun 26 2010 : 10:53:16 PM
Julie I totally am feeling your pain. I have a 3 year old son and we began actively trying 2 years ago for our 2nd after being off of depo for 3 months. It is such a hard journey especially when the doctors haven't a clue as to why. Relaxing is so hard...I gave up charting because it made my depression even worse when I knew it had all been timed perfectly. I hope and pray that you WILL get pregnant..the wait will so be worth it! Email me if you ever need it.HUGS
Maizy-brownswiss/jersey
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| CynthiaT. |
Posted - Jun 22 2010 : 08:08:36 AM
Lillian, not all women are most fertile days 10-13. It all depends on their cycle. For instance, my most fertile are days 13-16. But I don't ovulate until day 17 and my cycles are 31 days long.
Julie, have you tried using ovulation predictor kits or a Clear Plan Easy Fertility Monitor? I love the monitor because it tells you when your best chances of conceiving are. They are a little pricy (around $200 - plus another $50 for the test strips-- which is for 3 months supply.) You can buy them at Walgreens. My doctor swears by it. She conceived her two children using it.
I too have done everything under the moon, with the exception of IVF (which we were about to do right before we found out about our son.)
Julie, are you doing the bbt temp? Did you know that by the time that your temp rises that it's basically too late to conceive because you have already ovulated? Don't "save up" the sperm because you want to have a fresh supply to fertilize the egg. Make sure that you are drinking plenty of water because it helps you cervical mucus, which in turn helps the sperm to get where it needs to go.
I know that it's a tiring thing to go through, but the worst thing that you can do is stress over it. And trust me, I know that's easier said than done.
But I'm here if I you have any questions. Has your hubby been checked?
Cynthia
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| TeaPriestess |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 8:53:03 PM
Julie~
Just thinking about you today and saying a prayer that you are feeling better and remembering that you are loved.
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| willowtreecreek |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 8:53:02 PM
We have been charting, taking temps, checking mucus etc., etc., We've been to the doctor and all the tests say we shouldnt be having any problems. Thats the problem. We SHOULDNT be having problems. 2 1/2 years is a long time. I know we werent "trying" for about a year and 3/4 of that but we werent "not trying" eaither.
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| Ms.Lilly |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 6:53:35 PM
Julie-You are most fertile (ovulating) 10-13 days after you start your period. I have been through this and I know it is much easier said than done, but just RELAX and enjoy all of the fun you are having trying.
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| willowtreecreek |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 4:56:30 PM
Thank you!
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| LouisvilleMom |
Posted - Jun 21 2010 : 2:21:16 PM
Julie I am so sorry. I cannot count the number of friends I have known who have struggled with infertility. I cannot imagine the pain and heartache you must be feeling. I will keep you in my thoughts sweetie.
SAHM mom to four great boys.
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| knead2garden |
Posted - Jun 20 2010 : 05:06:16 AM
Sending hugs to you....
~Ashley
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| Mama Jewel |
Posted - Jun 18 2010 : 9:01:05 PM
Julie, I went through infertility for six years & went through a lot of treatments & laproscopy & found out I had blocked tubes (from endometriosis) & wouldn't be able to conceive. It was emotionally very hard & there are still times that can be hard, but I have four precious children that we have adopted (God's timing: every 4 yrs) & I feel so blessed & thankful. It's certainly not how I pictured things, but God has plans and I when I look into each of my four dear children's eyes, I love them more than they'll ever know. I just want you to know that you're not alone and through this sisterhood, whenever you need to talk, we're here for you & I pray that however your family is put together, it will be a wonderful, bonding, beautiful time of celebration.
Love...always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Cor 13:7
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