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| Calico Countess |
Posted - Apr 13 2010 : 7:35:09 PM
Hello everyone,
I'm writing this out of sheer frustration and concern. My son is 6, nearly 7 and I've been getting messages in the form of assessments, etc from the school he attends about their "concerns" for him.
He is an active kid, he's always been so, even in the womb. In fact, I swear the bruises my liver had on it from his kicking only disappeared a month or two ago! :-) He tends to not want to sit still for long periods of time, is very hands on, is not afraid to speak his mind and tends to be clumsy. He is doing very well academically though, and is a likable kid, or so I've been told by everyone.
The school has informed me that he is very dysfunctional because he does things like trail his fingers along the wall while walking down the hall, wraps his legs around the legs of his chair, leans forward on his desk (apparently this is not a sign of boredom but of weak torso muscles, who knew?), mouths or chews on the end of his pencil, writes some of his letters (like Z) backwards, etc. I also received a call from a therapist today who wants me to take him to a doctor because she feels there is "something more" that he needs to be diagnosed. He is in a class of about 16 kids, 13 girls and 3 boys, of which he is one.
Everyone else who knows him says he's a normal 6/7 yr old boy and that he'll grow out of a lot of these things in a couple years. He has always had a very strong, intense personality (something like his mother's father) but he's also very loving, very keen on treating people fairly and is very tender hearted.
My question is this...I do NOT want to dope him up on drugs. I do not think he needs them. I would much rather look at natural, homeopathic methods to address any issues the Dr thinks he may have. I suppose I can't really get any specific suggestions from any of you until I know what they think is "wrong" with him, so I guess I'll have to keep everyone posted.
I've been trying to keep his food as pure as possible (as well as his sister's) by making sure there is very little exposure to food dyes, chemicals, etc. I'm not perfect at it, but I am trying to keep their food as wholesome as possible.
I'm also concerned about this idea that little boys should be made to sit perfectly still, be quiet, be fastidious in appearance (that was another "dysfunction", he does not clean his face of crumbs immediately after eating and if one shirt sleeve is pushed up and the other is down, he doesn't mind) and basically act like a lady-like girl. Am I out to lunch?
I guess I should wrap this up as I've gone on long enough. He's not perfect but I really don't think he's as big of dysfunctional mess as they are saying. Any words of wisdom will be appreciated! Thank you!!
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| Mommyswanson |
Posted - Oct 19 2010 : 4:00:21 PM
Hi Christie
I just found this post & read all of your updates about your son. My son who is now 12 was a very "wiggly" kid & would "schlunk" in his chair, chew on his pencils & be very excitable & loud at times in class at home he was very active but very happy & had the lovely quirk of having to have his collar tags removed from his shirts because he could "feel them!" As a preschooler his teacher was very concerned & we followed up with our pediatrician who after evaluating him determined that he did have some sensory issues that made him need to wiggle more and just be more aware & sensitive to his environment, we also found out that he had a higher than average IQ & was gifted. Luckily we were able to place him in an accelerated school. The wiggles are still there when he's excited or nervous. He still needs to be challenged at school but at 12 years old he is a straight B & A student, has friends & is well liked by his teachers. Most of the boys in his accelerated program act just like him!!! When he was younger we did enroll him in swimming & tae kwon do to help him have a place to hang out with other boys & expel some of that energy & tire him out & it really helped. As I type this he is taking a homework break & wrestling with his sister in the middle of the floor! I hope that this school year goes better. We were very lucky that our son has had very understanding teachers who know that this behavior is very normal for boys & particularly gifted ones. Good Luck!!
Laura
"That which does not kill us makes us strong!" "I cast all my cares upon you Lord." |
| rschaaf |
Posted - Oct 11 2010 : 8:01:56 PM
My oldest nephew (he's 9) sounds alot like your son. He has alot of energy, though for him it's nervous energy. He actually eats the eraser end off his pencils! He is very intellegent and loves to read, but absolutely hates school, the regiment of school. To deal with this, he goes into his imaginary world and it's hard to know if he's in reality or his little world. He has very few friends and kids tend to think he's weird. We've figured out that if he is stressed or upset about something, he tends to retreat. But, when he's by himself, and has alot of on-on-one time, he is 100% with you and a completely different kid. He was doing really well, until he had to go back to school and things started going downhill again. I'm not sure how he's been lately, but he was trying to get sick so he didn't have to go to school. Maybe your son is bored with school or the school routine? Can you homeschool or open enroll him to another district?
By the way, I'm 32 years old and still wrap my legs around a chair...I think they are feeding yiou a line of...well you know.
It will be hard to not find a doctor that won't want to medicate him in our "pill for every ill" society.
Good Luck!
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| msdoolittle |
Posted - Sep 23 2010 : 6:23:21 PM
Oh, I am glad you found something out. I have been thinking about your post. I've been doing a lot of reading over the summer about feminism movement of the 60's and the repercussions thereof...that is, trying to mold little boys into little girls. Boys, being the more aggressive and typically more active sex, often are labeled as 'troublesome' or 'ADHD' when this may not even be the case (as you well know).
I hope that you find out the source of his deficiency. It will be interesting to see how he feels when his levels come up! :0)
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| Calico Countess |
Posted - Sep 23 2010 : 06:47:04 AM
Actually, it was my family doctor who suggested going to the pediatrician first as he was did not believe my son has ADHD/ADD or anything that would require him going to the child psychologist. I wonder now if the child psychologist would have caught the iron thing (do they even test for that?) or if my son would have been prescribed a course of meds to take to treat his "behaviours". I am going to ask my family doctor though, why my son is low on iron as we do eat quite healthily and my son loves brocolli, oatmeal, raisins, etc. I'm hoping he doesn't have an ulcer or something that might be causing him to have a slow bleed somewhere.
"Too much of a good thing can be wonderful" ~ Mae West |
| MaryLD |
Posted - Sep 23 2010 : 05:30:23 AM
PS, Kudos to your pediatrician. My friend's son was being kicked out of Waldorf school at age 8 and their ped was not involved at all, never gave a diagnosis. Good for you, going to the ped first!
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| MaryLD |
Posted - Sep 23 2010 : 05:28:49 AM
I'm soooo glad you have some answers.
Please continue to keep us posted, or use us as a sounding board.
How great that these concerns were caught early!
I had severe anemia after an illness. I got better with fermented foods, iron rich foods, Floradix ( which might not taste good to a kid, I'm not sure) and buffalo. Buffalo has more protien and iron than beef. We need animal protien, good gut flora ( probiotics of some sort) and vitamins B and C to absorb iron. Adding a vitamin C rich food to your high iron food can help a lot. ( Black beans, add tomatoes; greens, add lemon, etc. Broccoli seems to have both nutrients already.)
Good luck!!!!
Mary LD
Haflingers- You can't have just one!
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| Calico Countess |
Posted - Sep 22 2010 : 9:46:52 PM
Hello everyone,
Sorry about the delay but I thought I'd wait until all the results were in before I posted again.
I'd like to say as well, that I have great respect for public school teachers. I have a few friends who are teachers and was going to be one myself...until my husband swept me off my feet (but that's another story!). It seems that today, teachers are expected to act as social workers, surrogate parents, etiquette teachers, etc etc *and* teach all the children in their classroom, tailoring each lesson to each individual person.
Anyhow, the pediatrician called me today to let me know that the bloodwork results were on on my son. As it happens, he is quite low on iron, which rather surprised us all. However, after doing some minor investigating online about low iron levels and symptoms, it does explain a few things that have been going on with him. She also feels he has a sensory processing disorder, as he seems to interpret cues around him differently and she feels it contributes to his "wiggliness". This combined with the results from his intelligence tests where he scored very high, start making the picture a little more clear.
The school is going to continue with his physical exercises and fine motor skills, which we work on at home too, but I'm just so thankful that the doctor found out about his low iron. He sees our family doctor on Friday for some "iron therapy" and I've drawn up a list of foods high in iron which I will be making sure will be well incorporated into our diets. Thankfully he's not a fussy eater and loves brocolli, raisins, etc.
Thank you all for your support and kind words through this. It's nice to have a place where one can share one's troubles and hear that you're not alone out there with the struggle at hand!
"Too much of a good thing can be wonderful" ~ Mae West |
| MaryLD |
Posted - Jun 02 2010 : 6:29:50 PM
Julie,
Thanks for writing and sharing your experiences with us. This was not my original post, but I did respond, and I have been following it.
My son is turning 18, and I have been around kids/ familes all these recent years as a parent and a midwife. I felt it was very important to send my son to a public school as we live in a public world. Also, because I was a single parent without child support, I often worked very long hours. I am NOT talking about anything I've read on this forum, but I can say that I have seen a lot of parents take their kids out of public school into programs which do NOT treat learning differences/ disablities, for a variety of reasons. One is denial that their child has a problem. I'm sitting on the side of the fence where my child, for whom I advocated and fought, for whom I did everything in my power to help, was damaged, hurt and left behind due to untreated learning disabilities. Had I homeschooled or put him in private school, there would not have been any programs to help him. When he finally got diagnosed at 13 yrs, 9 months, the first thing he said was " I guess I'm not stupid after all." It broke my heart that he felt that way about himself, and yet I knew he did feel that way because of how he acted. For every kid who is falsely labelled with learning issues, I have to wonder how many are not tested or diagnosed at all. Funds at school can be very short, and if the school is offering to test, I advise parents to go for it. If the kid is fine, the tests will show that, and the singling out should come to an end. I switched schools 3 times from grades 5-8, trying to get help for my son. He went to public high school, and then public continuation high school to make up lost credits. Then we moved to TX, where he got a 504 plan and has earned 100% of his credits for the first time ever, as a senior. I am so sad when I hear parents in denial of the possibilty that their children might benefit from testing and services. Schools can be right, and they can be wrong. The world is not a perfect place, but I am sad for all the kids out there who are feeling inadquate in the classroom setting, for whatever reason.
Public school teachers are under SO much pressue with budget cuts, classroom sizes, and parents working around the clock. Many of them put their own salaries into classroom supplies and needed items, while many unpaid hours are spent doing the work expected of a teacher.
Someone on this forum took a real crack at something I suggested, and it upset me that my well meant advice was turned around to insult another person. I was insulted by her comment, as well. Then again, I come from the heart and I speak my mind, which never sits well with everyone across the board. That's how it goes.
~ Mary LD
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| nubidane |
Posted - Jun 02 2010 : 6:19:35 PM
Julie
I know many fine fine people that came out of the public school system (me included!!, at least I think I turned out OK)
My neighbor is an MD & he & his wife both went to public school & could easily send their child to a prviate establishment, or homeschool(his wife has an ed degree). They sent their sweetie to our local public school. It is a decent system, not the best, but certainly not the worst. She (the wife) volunteers there several times a week, and they are very involved in her activities. Their daughter is bright, artistic, and will no doubt go far.
Their are some wonderful teachers in the public school system(I go to church with at least 10), and if I had a child, I would not hesitate to do the same.
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| willowtreecreek |
Posted - Jun 02 2010 : 1:23:10 PM
I'm just gonna jump in and say people need to be careful about blaming "Public Schools" as a whole for things like this. I am a public school teacher and I would NEVER send notes home like this. Please understand that even if the note comes from the teacher, the nurse or even the principal that it is from a PERSON not "PUBLIC SCHOOLS". I am sorry that so many of you have had problems with public schools but please do not make generalizations. I have had to deal with a lot of children that were YEARS behind other students because their parents thought it was a good idea to homeschool them and then didnt teach them anything. I realize though that the problem was those particular parents and not EVERYONE who homeschools. I know many people who do an AMAZING job homeschooling their kids.
It hurts my feeling when the job I work REALLY hard at and love is repeatedly talked about so poorly. I will not call out individual posts but some of you really should go back and read what you wrote and consider whose feelings you may be hurting.(Im not the only public school teacher on this forum). If you have a problem with an individual teacher or a school you should take it up with them and not make blanket statements about an entire profession.
Christie, FIRST let me clarify that i am not directing my comment at you and I am so sorry you are going through this with your child. I hope you find answers and a method that works for you. I am against "drugging" kids when there are so many better alternatives out there. Good luck!
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| Domestichippie |
Posted - Jun 02 2010 : 11:00:35 AM
Sounds like a normal little boy to me:) |
| Sourceress |
Posted - May 30 2010 : 6:14:01 PM
This is one of many, many reasons we homeschool our sons. Your little boy is not dysfunctional - the public education system is dysfunctional. The school is dysfunctional. Your little boy is perfectly normal, and just fine. Little boys were not meant to sit still at desks in classrooms, staring at a blackboard. Little boys were meant to run and climb and move and explore and try things. Aside from all the other reasons I have for homeschooling the boys, is this simple fact. Corwyn spent a month and a half in a Waldorf kindergarten, which I had high hopes for, but apparently his teacher was new, and hadn't really figured things out well yet, and anyway, to make a long story short, Corwyn was constantly in the office in trouble for basically being rowdy and rambunctious. He didn't fit into the quiet, sweet, cooperative Waldorf model of a child, and she just didn't know what to do with him. And this is my quiet, cooperative, easy-going child! I've never even tried sending his younger brother to school, because I am pretty sure I know what would happen - he'd spend the entire time cooling his heels in detention, get labeled a "bad kid", believe the label, and well, things would just spiral downward fairly rapidly. But he's *not* a bad kid. He's just a really active, hands-on kid. He doesn't sit still for more than 15 minutes at a time, and that only on a good day. So he needs to be allowed to learn in a way that respects who he is, instead of trying to make him into something he isn't.
Anyway, I forgot where I was going with this, except to say that little boys are not meant to sit and desks and be bored out of their minds. They're meant to be out in the sunshine, running and exploring and being active. When we try to force them to do something unnatural, of course they don't respond very well! From what you said, it sounds to me more like your son is bored than anything else. And shame on those teachers and administrators for trying to say there's something pathological about him when the problem is really with them and how well (or badly) they are doing their jobs.
Lis
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - May 29 2010 : 11:30:29 AM
I have a little boy wrapped in the cutest little girl you have ever seen. I swear my daughter is worse than 10 boys. I will trade anyone my one daughter for all the boys for a day. Good Lord, she is so full of the devil, I mean full of energy.
They give her extra work at school or let her help in the office, help with the smaller kids, and even once let her wipe all the registers in the hallway and sweep it. She just keeps going. She is happy, healthy, and bright.
I am grateful for a healthy child.
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| farmmilkmama |
Posted - May 29 2010 : 11:18:42 AM
LOL Kris - my mom always says "I can't watch when the boys do anything! I'm so nervous!" She had girls, and you're right, its totally different. Its a different kind of energy. Not necessarily more, just different. Glad you had fun watching them - it was a reminder for me about perspective!
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - May 29 2010 : 07:51:19 AM
I was at the park yesterday with my 7 year old granddaughter. She was playing with some other kids so I was sitting on a bench. There were 5 little boys, I don't know if they were brothers, but they were all pretty close in age probably 4-8. I laughed at them so much just sitting there watching them. They all wanted to be on the same thing and of course the one on didn't want to get off and the other would try everything to get him off. Even hitting, punching, pushing. And they'd look at me to see what I would do. So I was telling them to wait there turn and not hit. Their mother was talking on the phone through all this. They'd holler at her every few seconds. It was so funny.
I said all this to say that I had 2 girls. I now have 3 granddaughters. So I have not been around boys at all. But they are so totally different than girls. Those boys made my head spin. They were all over the place. Fast! And furious! But it was fun to watch them. When the mom finally got off the phone she came over and was talking to them. Like nothing bothered her at all. She was so used to all of them doing these things. She didn't holler at them or spank them. She was calm. And they were generally good boys. I had a good time watching them. But I don't think I could handle more than a few minutes with all that energy! Si I really feel for you moms with boys. You sure have your work cut out for you.
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| knead2garden |
Posted - May 22 2010 : 5:32:59 PM
The advice offered from all the other gals sounds wonderful and I can't think of anything to add, but my heart goes out to you all. I have three boys and it can be rough. Good luck with this tough situation.
~Ashley
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| Alee |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 11:28:35 AM
Well I am glad that they are not saying things are wrong with him now! What a change of pace! If he is bored and does qualify for more elevated classes, that might be just the thing he would enjoy. *hugs*
Alee
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| sherrye |
Posted - May 20 2010 : 08:58:29 AM
well here is my experience with 4 boys in public schools. state by state teacher by teacher school by sckool. always different. so i learned to get in the system. work with it. be accepted into the pta -volunteered for field trips etc. some cant do this they work. i could there for i did. i also was yard duty at lunch break. i knew all the kids and saw how mine behaved in social groups.
i then read books. i too want to recommend the book...is this your child? she is very smart and respected in her medical community. she has spoken before the senate and with the former president. she is a strong activist for children. i know she knows her stuff.
in many places the schools are physically toxic to the kids. you find behaviour problems that only occur there. the traces of the exposure in their system builds. the kids get sick. there is mold in lots of heating systems that are older. filters are not changed. its like the food we eat. NO ONE IS WATCHING THEM. they use pesticides on the fields where the kids play. they use toxic chemicals in schools where the ventilation system is not good....OR
they are in a new school with a soup of new man made chemicals in the air. OUTGASSING just like the laundry isle of the store. no one knows what nerve problems and cancers will arise from the new construction materials. there is NO TESTING NO GAURD AT THE DOOR..
i have a medical condition triggered by man made toxic chemicals. my children had a 40 percent chance as boys to inherit this. i believe 2 did.when my eldest boy was in my womb he bounced around like a ball. when he was born he was hyper. as he grew we found he was sooo smart. teachers disliked him. they wanted my 2 boys to sit down shut up and listen. well that was not to be in their best interest. so i negotiated with the teachers. mind you we as a family with porphyria were not diagnosed till my kids were grown. so back then i had to listen to my child first. one teacher an angel explained to us our boys these 2 are not visual. they learn without eye contact. without the focus others were asking for. they could wiggle appear distracted looking away and be absorbing everything. they are extremelt bright men now. artistic funny joyful SMART kind .i tried ridilin on the first son. at the time we were in a mobil very toxic. never knew any different. also the school opened the year we moved there. he was so sick hyper and difficult. we tried it. he became a pussy cat. scared me silly. i stopped the drug. i told him i would help him but he had to do without the pill. the school was livid. oh well my kid. so anyway many variables in a childs life. i am glad he is not add or adhd. i still would look at environment. manmade chemicals are everywhere.
sincerely i share with love in my heart for those with kids in public schools. no recess no pe no band no music no art there all day SIT STILL what is this world thinking. sherrye
the learn as we go silk purse farm
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - May 17 2010 : 1:34:23 PM
I can't believe they first insinuate something is wrong and now that he has seen someone, he must be bored. Why can't we let kids be kids. They do need discipline and to be taught manners but gee whiz we played a lot when I was a kid and even fiddled around in school. So what? I and all of my children actually grew up to be responsible adults. Go figure how that could happen and we were never labeled because we fidgeted or whatever at school.
Go with your mama instincts.
If he seems fine to you then I wouldn't worry about it. Whatever happened to the school and parents working together and not the school telling the parents what to do with their kids?
And I applaud your giving them sensible diets. Tons of pesticides on the food can't be good. And they wonder why we have all these illnesses around.
"All you need is faith, trust and......a little bit of pixie dust" ~Peter Pan |
| Calico Countess |
Posted - May 17 2010 : 12:10:40 PM
UPDATE:
We've now had the parent teacher interview and my son has been to our family GP. Our doctor does not think he has ADD or ADHD and did not refer us to the child psychiatrist but to a pediatrician, whom we will see on the 20th.
I received a call from the school last Friday and they now want to test my son's intelligence as they feel he might not be challenged enough with his regular course work.
We shall see what the pediatrician says but I'm hopeful that it will go well. Thank you to you all for your words of encouragement. They have really meant a lot to me, my husband and my family to know that we are not alone in this.
Stay tuned for the next update! :-)
"Too much of a good thing can be wonderful" ~ Mae West |
| MrsRooster |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 12:54:22 PM
You go Melaine!!!
We are letting schools tell us what are kids should be. We are their parents.
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| Melbick |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 07:50:17 AM
My thoughts and prayers go out to you in dealing with the school. More and more these days schools are "diagnosing" children, when the principle and the school counselor tried this with my son, the first thing I asked them for was their medical degrees (which by the way niether could produce. We found a wonderful homeopathic vitamin at a store here called Bright Child, it worked to the extent that he was able to pay attention for longer periods of time. However I must caution you to be very careful with handling the school, as if they don't feel you are doing enough to handle and gain control of your sons "condition" as they see it, then they will get the authorities involoved on the basis of neglect. Apparently to them a medicated child is a child who is a better learner (hahahha). My 11 yo daughter and my 9 yo son are both very artistic and have been since the time they could hold a pencil or crayon. They learn better by associating things through art, yet according to the public schools, that is a learning disability that we should have been fighting and refusing to use with them. My son is also a very sensative person, he always has been, he takes things personally because he strives to achieve, yet this is a sign of a mental disfunction (one school theropist actually told me she was affraid that he would turn into a "school shooter"). Last year when I was called in to the school for testing results and told my daughter, who is a 6th grader, was only learning on a 3rd grade level, I actually stood up in this little ARD meeting of theirs and looked them all in the eyes and said "if she has a learning problem and has been left behind, it is through no fault of mine, it is your faults because you have tried to change the way my child learns, forcing her to conform to the way that is easiest for your robot teachers to teach the children." I then walked into the office and checked them both out of school. It has taken us almost a year to break all the worry and concern about doing a math problem the "correct" way and to get both my children up to their appropriate grade levels, in fact they are both way above grade level right now on most aspects of their learning.
I realize that homeschooling is not the right way to go for many people, but being a full time student myself, and a mom I can tell you it is very rewarding. I pray for you to have the strenght to stand up to the school and remember knowledge is key, arm yourself with everything you can find about these sympotoms and what they supposedly are a sign of when you go to battle, this way they will know that you can not be pushed over and you will not allow your child to be transformed into one of thier little conformist students.
Melanie Bickham
Homegrown Girls
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| highlandviewpantry |
Posted - Apr 25 2010 : 05:28:30 AM
You are his Mom and your instincts are best. I've noticed at my children's school boys getting involved in more clique like social problems. It used to be more of a girl social problem. My point is there is a trend right now among our society that seems to take the man out of the boy. He sounds fine to me.
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| tziporra |
Posted - Apr 20 2010 : 1:31:28 PM
I am a homeschooling mom of 4 (3 boys, 1 girl). I homeschool because I am passionate about teaching, not because of difficulties with the school system.
However.
Is ANYONE here focused on RESULTS?
Completely leaving aside the question of whether or not your son's behaviors are "normal", I would ask how they are detrimentally affecting his schooling. That is what he is in school for, correct? I would ask this again and again, until someone gave you a coherent answer.
"Is my son's dragging his fingers along the wall affecting his schooling?"
"Is my son's wrapping his legs around his desk affecting his schooling?"
etc. In other words, do these behaviors have ANY detrimental outcomes. I would take this approach with any doctors you see as well.
If it is not his schooling that is being affected but rather the teacher's ability to deal with him, then perhaps she needs to be put on medication. You might be able to recommend a good Occupational Therapist for her to see as well.
On the other hand, if there are MEASUREABLE outcomes that can be demonstrated to you are detrimental, I would take these seriously. If it can be demonstrated that his torso muscles are weak, for whatever reason, of course you want to help him strengthen these (although I have yet to hear of a medication for strengthening muscles).
I think what everyone here is saying, and what your instincts are telling you, is that it is not neccessary to treat behaviors that are not a problem. Behaviors that other people don't like are inevitable, and I dare say every one of us has some. Problems that effect performance and achievment, such as dyslexia or other learning disorders should be addressed, and taking a holistic route to that is very appropriate.
As a general aside (not specific to the original poster), I can't resist harping on my favorite parenting topic - SLEEP. I think that proper sleep hygiene is just as important as diet and exersize, and that many children do not get appropriate amounts of sleep for their age. Anyone dealing with an ADD diagnosis may wish to read "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" which addresses poor sleep habits as a possible root cause of the disorder.
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Apr 19 2010 : 11:27:04 AM
I think he sounds like a normal boy to me. I am so worried about all these children they put on anti-depressants and other meds these days. It seems like we will soon be a society of zombies. You are right about the food, the less preservatives the better. Does he get a lot of excersize? That can really help.
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