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| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Feb 20 2006 : 10:42:35 AM
So there are days I feel like a hypocrit. I try to eat healthy, plan my new garden, raise my kids right and be a loving mother and wife. And then there is this habit I have had for years. I smoke and I hate it. It has been a best friend and worst enemy for years. I quit 4 times with each pregnancy and then started up again. I do not smoke in my house or around my kids. So why can't I just quit. How can I preach good health and yet rip myself apart with this?
So here I am asking for farmgirl help. If any of you have time, just drop me an email every so often and see if I can do it. All of your prayers and support and I think I can do it this time.
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| Phils Ann |
Posted - May 25 2006 : 05:54:33 AM
Hi Beth, How are you making out? I was also a smoker, remember the shame I always felt, and have much sympathy for all the folks trying to quit. My nature is definitely to addict to anything (daily ice cream?!!) and I've read lots of great advice. I'd read tips about how to quit, and followed them successfully--talking smoking not ice cream ;). First, the odds of cutting down to a level of nonsmoking rather than cold turkey are really small. So, when you've made a date to quit, do any cutting down before that date, and before going to bed the night before, destroy all cigarettes available and take them out to the trash can. I did use the nicotine gum, and quickly cut back on the pieces per day until I got to 1.... and stayed there for three weeks. I also prayed before quitting for help, and prayed fairly continuously during the whole quitting time period. Nobody loves me as much as the Lord...and I was sure He'd want to help, which He did. Finally, I knew I'd reached a safe place when the smell of smoke was toxic. Before that, I loved to get a whiff of smoke, and it made me really vulnerable... Now, to be in a home where someone is smoking literally makes me feel like my throat is closing; I can't breathe. It makes me thankful. You are in my prayers, and I know you can do this.
Tell us how you're doing, okay?
Ann
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| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Mar 21 2006 : 7:36:48 PM
Just a quick post to keep all of us in check. I am doing well. Ok so I am very sick with a bad cold and sore throat so it makes the choice to not smoke easier, but hey I'll take it! Plus having a money crunch so it's nice to save a little dough by not buying smokes. Hope everyone is well. Please check in and tell us how you are doing!
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Mar 17 2006 : 07:25:25 AM
Ladies, never think that I feel like I am being chastized. I am using this as a place to open up my heart and share what is inside. Maybe by saying it is hard and taking it day by day I will help someone else. You are all so incredibly supportive and I thank you. I am going to a pub tonight for a green beer and it's a NON SMOKING BAR!!!
hope you all have a wonderful day.
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| Libbie |
Posted - Mar 16 2006 : 4:19:41 PM
Thanks!
XOXO, Libbie
"Nothing is worth more than this day." - Goethe |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Mar 16 2006 : 3:20:59 PM
Anne -- you didn't make anyone feel bad. We know you were just being kind and caring!
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| Rosenwalt |
Posted - Mar 16 2006 : 2:18:16 PM
It's okay to boo-boo. Actually, it's not just okay, it's expected. Just like being on a diet. If you go off and have that one cupcake, you don't sit and think oh darn that's it. Just think ok, I had a boo-boo but I'm not giving up, I'm continuing on.
Rose Marie,
Central New York
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| Libbie |
Posted - Mar 16 2006 : 1:51:47 PM
Oh all!!! My intention was to check in and give inspiration and encouragement - not to have anyone embarassed or upset -- I have tried so very many times to quit a bad habit/addiction and I still struggle and relapse and every time, I just have to remember that it's not the falling down that gets you - it's the STAYING down. I just feel like I want so much for all of us to be able to do what we want to do and feel like we're supported in doing so.
Please know that I'm sending my very best healthy life "vibes" to ALL of us!!!
XOXO, Libbie
"Nothing is worth more than this day." - Goethe |
| Rosenwalt |
Posted - Mar 16 2006 : 12:34:22 PM
Well honey I smoked from age 16 through age 46. I wanted to quit sooooooo bad. When I got pregnant I quit, only to start up again later. Then I quit again, and 3 months later started up again. I was having trouble breathing, some places on my face or other parts would get numb etc. etc. etc. I prayed and prayed for God to help me. Well, I got my answer.
I had to go for a hysterectomy and when it was done I was so tired for 3 days and I just took it from there. Had a lot of tootsie roll lollipops and gum and life savers. Of course, I turned into one of those nasty reformed smokers and was always after my husby to quit smoking. I said to him one night "well I'm going to pray you quit too and I hope God doesn't make you go in the hospital like I had to in order to quit." Well, three days later, my husband collapsed back on the couch and flopped around like a fish. He was in the hospital for 3 days and one doctor got physically in his face and said "you need to quit smoking. It will be the best investment you ever made in anything...yourself and your health."
I think my husby was scared enough and he quit! He, however, used lots and lots of gum (and still going) but he also used for 2 weeks the patch. They are a little pricey but they did the trick.
But don't wait till you are scared into it. Don't wait until it's too late. And now, get into the bathroom, look into the mirror and look at those lousy lines around your lips. Yuk! And they don't go away either! If you want them to keep getting deeper and deeper, just keep on puffing away. Everytime I see mine I could kick myself for smoking all those years!
Whenever you feel the urge to pick one up, take a few deep breaths, blow them out (about 3 deep ones) in place of those nasty yellow nicotine thangs and then get up and march around, jog, putter, do dishes...anything.
Now don't get scared, but I'll pray for you heh heh that you can get the strength to quit. And once you do, you'll be so proud of yourself! You can do it! We're with ya! And then you may get to see your grandchildren and even your great ones! God bless.
Rose Marie,
Central New York
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| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Mar 15 2006 : 1:34:47 PM
Thanks Rose. We got a new kitty. Hardest part was telling my kids. He was the best kitty we ever had. When my 4 yr old would cry, he would come running and start nuzzling him. We found him over Thanksgiving, freezing and starving to death. We gave him a home and loved him. Some things that happen are just sad.
I am just going to keep pluggin away at quitting. Some days are good some are not. But I refuse to give in and just keep smoking. So if today I smoked half of what I normally would then that is a victory. If I smoke half again tomorrow then that is even less. Just like one piece of cake does not a diet break.
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| SmallTownGirl |
Posted - Mar 15 2006 : 1:21:15 PM
You are doing great Beth, I hope the sun is shining on you today. I am really sorry about your kitty. Let my know if you need any help, I'm just a short drive away. Keep going strong, Rose
Remember what you now have was once among the things only hoped for. |
| bubblesnz |
Posted - Mar 15 2006 : 12:11:06 PM
Know the feeling Kay, with waiting to move to our farm, everything seems to be hanging in limbo, so hard to settle down to anything. Think I will leave my quitting, till we are settled in our own place.
I dont think personal issues are a cop out. We can only deal with so much at once. I think to give up would be easier if we are in a good space. IMHO
We have a quit line here and they asked if there was something I could substitute the ciggy for. I suggested a glass of wine, but they werent too hot on that idea. lol
Am going to try the nicotine gum, to see if that helps, the patches didnt. Have you tried the herb smokes? Not meaning dope, but apparently there are herb smokes avaible at health shops, but I havent been able to obtain any yet. No shops in our area seem to stock them. They are made of oil of cloves or something like that. |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Mar 15 2006 : 09:12:14 AM
Oh Helen -- don't hang your head. I didn't quit either. Sometimes it takes a while to get there. As long as we try that is what is important. I'll set another date for very soon in the future. Just have some personal issues going on that I need to deal with first -- I know this sounds like a major cop out!
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| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Mar 15 2006 : 07:23:06 AM
Good days and bad days but I am still trying. My mom moved here from NY and is suffering from dementia. It has been very hard to deal with. Many hours spent with her Pastor and social services, though she still thinks she is fine. Plus, last Thursday my cat was hit by a car. Then this morning none of my cars would start. Quite a test of my own fortitude wouldn't you say. But I still go on. I have to. I hope all is well with all of my farm girl sisters!
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| bubblesnz |
Posted - Mar 14 2006 : 3:23:33 PM
I am hanging my head in shame................... just didnt start not smoking on the 6th. Was hoping no one would notice and this posting would stay low. :) My courageous endeavor, was admitting this. |
| Libbie |
Posted - Mar 14 2006 : 12:57:26 PM
I haven't noticed any posting on this thread for a while? How are you all doing? This is such a courageous endeavor to start - I'm sending all of my good luck, love and stick-to-it-iveness!!!
XOXO, Libbie
"Nothing is worth more than this day." - Goethe |
| happymama58 |
Posted - Mar 03 2006 : 7:31:11 PM
Beth, I'm glad you posted because I couldn't remember your username exactly (got the numbers messed up). I've been wanting to email you. When I responded to your email, I deleted your message but had forgotten to add you to my address book! Anyway, I've been thinking of you. You're doing really well so far -- hang in there!
Btw, if you could send me your real mail address, I'd really appreciate it. I have something to send your way next time I'm at the Post Office.
Some people search for happiness; others create it.
http://happymama58.blogspot.com/ |
| TejasFarmgirl |
Posted - Mar 03 2006 : 6:52:50 PM
Beth - you are doing great!! kEEP IT UP! I am trying to get up the courage to quit on the 6th.
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| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Mar 03 2006 : 6:42:28 PM
ok ladies things ar going well. I figure in the last week and a half i have only smoked 1 pack. so my goal is to be completely off by the 6th so i can go with all the ladies here. you guys are great. keep working hard and everyone check in before so we can be in touch
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| bubblesnz |
Posted - Feb 26 2006 : 6:33:59 PM
lol, you guessed it kay!! :() Your 6th works for me. Is anyone else joining us? |
| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Feb 26 2006 : 09:00:35 AM
Hey ladies sorry I have been away but work has been rough and my home life is soooo busy. With that said I have been pretty good so far. I used to smoke a pack a day and since last Monday I have had 5 cigarettes so I guess that is successful for me. I am so impressed with all of you for joining in and working together on this. Whenever I am bored and craving a smoke I try and find something to keep me busy like planning how I will plant my garden, going through seed catalogs or working on my dolly. I also try and spend a little more time with my kids just playing. Looking into their faces and seeing their future unfold is justy another good reminder to me that quitting is the right thing to do. Once again thanks for all the kind words and support you are all truely the best
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Feb 25 2006 : 9:37:59 PM
I am so proud of you guys. I have never smoked but most all my family I grew up in do or have. My dad ruined his health with smoking and died at 65. He had such bad breathing problems..and quit, but too late. My Grandpa died of emphysema at 80. My mom, seeing all that (the grandpa was HER dad) still smokes more than a pack a day. I worry about her. My brother and sister both smoke. I think it does take so much guts and will power to quit..but it will be so worth it.
You can do it!!!!!!!!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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| Libbie |
Posted - Feb 25 2006 : 8:57:55 PM
It's so important when we are trying to change behaviors and other patterns to not get discouraged by "relapses." I once heard them compared to walking up a trail - if you fall, you don't just lie there, you get up, and either walk on down the trail to your destination or turn back and take a different road. You only really "fail" if you just stay there lying down...
XOXO, Libbie
"Nothing is worth more than this day." - Goethe |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Feb 25 2006 : 8:40:52 PM
We start on my March 6th -- I see your reasoning here!! You're just trying to squeak out another day! LOL!
Mine is just a little old fashioned garden where the flowers come together to praise the Lord, and teach all who look upon them to do likewise.
-- Celia Thaxter
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http://rusticcottage.blogspot.com/ |
| bubblesnz |
Posted - Feb 25 2006 : 3:35:57 PM
Ok Kay, do we start on my 6th March, which is a day before yours, or your 6th March, which means I start on the 7th? |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Feb 25 2006 : 3:17:58 PM
Diane -- you are so sweet! Thanks for sharing your words of encouragement. That is so sad about your mother and one of the reasons I have to quit. I don't want to look older than I already am and I want to be healthy.
I just want to say something -- and this is for my own benefit too -- if you are quitting and have a relapse please don't hide from this place! It is nothing to be ashamed of. We live with enough guilt in our lives without heaping more on ourselves. I have quit 5 times and relapsed 5 times. I am going to give this 6th time my best effort and hopefully it will be my last! But if I slip I will come running back here to get encouragement from my friends and will try again!
Mine is just a little old fashioned garden where the flowers come together to praise the Lord, and teach all who look upon them to do likewise.
-- Celia Thaxter
http://therusticcottage.etsy.com
http://rusticcottage.blogspot.com/ |
