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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 19 2012 : 10:54:08 PM
Remember a while back I posted about a girl who was chasing Ric, so he ended their friendship? Well...I went in to work today to catch up on some paperwork. Ric had an invitation to go boating with some friends (I can't swim so was not crazy about going anyway). I had a weird feeling about it, though, and told him so.
"Alyce, it's just an outing. I haven't been on the water in almost a year!" Since I am pretty sure the man is part fish, I just sighed and told him to be careful. This morning, as if it were a warning, he stepped on a tack. He STILL insisted upon going.
Guess who was on the boat? I just barely got home from work when SHE called me and told me that he was doing drugs and fooling around with another girl. She said she would drop him off "as a favor to me" unless I just wanted her to leave him there. I said I would like to talk to him.
I cried for a solid hour, then got to thinking. I called her back and started asking questions. She told a huge story about what had happened and things he had said, then said she had looked me up online and found all of these negative things I had supposedly said about him--and she said this, it turns out, when he was sitting right next to her. Now, I had never said any of those things and I told her so.
However, by the time he came home, he glared at me and said, "I have never been so humiliated in my life. You have to go."
Excuse me??
Needless to say, we got into a huge argument. I finally got him to listen to my side of the story. When I told him what she had told me, he was livid! He even grabbed his phone and showed me his entire conversational history (she claimed he was texting multiple girls--and he isn't). He had photos and everything to back up his side of the story. When I asked him about the drugs, he actually had to remind me that he is allergic to pot and offered to take a test for anything else.
We sat down and compared notes, and here is what seems to have happened: she propositioned him and he turned her down. She stormed off, and presumably that is when she called me. Once she realized I was very upset, she made sure Ric heard just enough of the conversation for him to assume I was bad mouthing him.
She just didn't account for one thing: Ric never, ever lies to me. He is the worst liar I have ever met, so he learned early on that he may as well just be honest! He also tells me *everything* (whether I want to know it or not). I doubt she expected him to show me the proof of his innocence, either. She probably just figured she would cause a huge fight and one of us would walk out--giving her the chance to "console" him.
Instead, he has told her not to contact him again unless she wants to face legal action. 
A hook, a book, and a good cup of coffee.... |
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 31 2012 : 2:10:58 PM
A little bit country, a little bit rock 'n' roll! 
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - May 31 2012 : 1:35:17 PM
Love Duran Duran. LOL
We must have that rock n roll thing. ;)
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 31 2012 : 12:16:54 PM
Amy, some women just don't get it. I am floored that she was hitting on him when you were Right There! I think the technical term is chutzpah!
So you married a ZZ Top lookalike eh? Cool! (Maybe she wanted his autograph?) Ric is often mistaken for Duran Duran's keyboard player Nick Rhodes, even though he is like a foot taller. Funny story: I met Nick Rhodes when I was in college, and HE was hitting on ME! I said no because I'm no groupie--and then end up with his lookalike. Go figure?
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - May 30 2012 : 2:32:33 PM
I was down at the pool in our apartment complex with my hubby and our daughter. This woman started talking to him. I didn't really pay attention. I guess she was hitting on him. Really??? With someone's wife and daughter not 10 feet away? Some women really need to get a grip.
My hubby looks like Dusty from ZZ Top. So that usually brings lots of interest.
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 30 2012 : 1:56:22 PM
Thanks, Marlee! That is brilliantly evil.
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| marlee |
Posted - May 29 2012 : 4:40:14 PM
Alyce it tells in your phone book how to block a number.
Will keep you'all in my prayers. -Marlee
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| marlee |
Posted - May 29 2012 : 4:37:11 PM
I dont know if it is illegal, but forward her number to the police department.So when she calls his number it will got to the P.D. every time.
You might check that out. Whhoohee! Marlee
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 29 2012 : 4:30:14 PM
Thanks, Lorena!
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| queenmushroom |
Posted - May 29 2012 : 4:28:52 PM
Alyce...prayers to you and your family.
Patience is worth a bushel of brains...from a chinese fortune cookie |
| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 25 2012 : 1:04:18 PM
Lorena, thank you. So far, so good!
Ric is totally mortified by the situation, and he keeps going over it all trying to figure out what he did or said to make her think he was available and interested. I pointed out that it could well have been all in her head, given how oblivious he was to her feelings before. She saw, she wanted--she told herself she was going to get. Apparently in her world, if a man is casually friendly towards a woman it means he doesn't want the one he has. I don't think she likes the real world all that much....
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 25 2012 : 12:58:04 PM
Christine, that must be awful for you! Why do Some people always have to jump somebody else's claim?
I hope she crawls back under her rock and gets squished....
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| queenmushroom |
Posted - May 25 2012 : 12:17:26 PM
Glad I could be of help. I just don't like to see marriages fall apart. And if this will help strengthen it, then I'm glad.
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| SpyChicken |
Posted - May 25 2012 : 09:08:40 AM
I also agree with Jen when she says that too much workplace bonding! My dh has two female asst. mgrs who compete with one another to make sure they are perceived as the better employee in dh's eyes-I honestly don't think it's romantic (I know that sounds weird)...it's kind of hard to describe, but both try and act like his "work wife" almost like kids competing to be "the favorite." Funny thing is that my dd also works with dh and SHE is the one who tells them that they are being crazy and to knock it off!
I'm not sure why people act as crazy as they do...seems like it would just be simpler to find a man of their own...or at least a hobby. Good luck Alyce, I hope things continue to calm down and "little Miss Crazy" crawls back under her rock. |
| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 25 2012 : 05:20:38 AM
I agree Jen. I always tell Ric that I don't have anything left for anybody else! And yes, I think that it's pure ego. I am glad he saw reality....
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| Dusky Beauty |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 8:28:55 PM
Just checking back in and glad it's going so well Alyce!
Why do husbands and wives let these people drive so much of a wedge? I think the person they target starts out just enjoying the attention... it's a boost of self confidence to hear that "you've sill got it" I guess.
I take the attitude that when I married I stopped being "a woman". I became "his woman" and I will never be anything other than that for any other guy.
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 7:20:02 PM
Lorena, that is an awesome idea! He is a medical software tester. This tramp...um, she does as little as possible from what I cn tell.
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 7:17:17 PM
Amy, he already blocked her number and e-mail.
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| queenmushroom |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 07:52:07 AM
I'm glad he's "seeing the light". I don't know what exactly he does for work, but probably he should have a meeting with his supervisors and/or personnel dept. and explain what is going on between himself and this "woman" (I use the term loosely because she's not a real woman) and see if she can be moved to another dept or see if he can be moved to another dept without loss of benefits or pay. He could consider this a hostile work environment. He could also claim sexual harrassment as well. That's the last thing any company wants on their books. Just a thought.
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 06:49:38 AM
He most certainly can have her number blocked. That is if he wants to. Just food for thought. Have him do it.
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 06:17:51 AM
Tina, it is a classic! So far she has not attempted to contact him. I wonder if he can have her number blocked? That would be like ignoring her AND having the biggest guy on the playground step in the middle. 
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 24 2012 : 06:14:55 AM
Marlee, that is brilliant. With Ric keeping all of his records...hm. It's a pity Wisconsin no longer recognizes "alienation of affection", or I could sue her for attempting it. (My mother sued my stepmother for seducing my father, which is the only reason I know the law used to be on the books.)
Ric could also sue her for slander and libel for the things she said/texted, invasion of privacy, stalking, cyber-bullying, and threatening him on top of it. I could go after her for emotional damages...and I will research this "attack on a marriage". Thank you!
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| oldbittyhen |
Posted - May 23 2012 : 7:18:11 PM
I just love the term "Home Wrecker", ROFLMAO!!!, just remember girls and boys, it takes 2 to tango, and if that "Women" OR "Man" is ignored completly by everyone, she or he will give up and go away, because its not fun anymore...
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| marlee |
Posted - May 23 2012 : 5:34:00 PM
Alyce I even heard of a wife charged a woman with Assault on their marriage and actually won in court it was along time ago. She had tape phones calls, she kept a running journal for awhile very detailed, threats, etc.
This woman is a nut so please keep you and Ric very aware of yourself and surroundings. You just never know. Thinking of you'all.Hugs Marlee
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| GirlwithHook |
Posted - May 23 2012 : 12:10:07 PM
Wow Jen...thank you. I am glad Ric and I never reached that point, and glad your hubby came to his senses!
Ric credits me with helping him become a better man than he used to be, and I am glad he values me. He promised that from now on, he is never letting a female "friend" get close enough to think she can tear us apart.
It's nice when men see what we are really worth, isn't it? And given that she threatened him, I think a restraining order is an excellent idea. I will bring it up with him.
EDIT: When I mentioned the idea of a restraining order, it turned out he was way ahead of me and has been looking into it! I consider that a good sign.
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| Dusky Beauty |
Posted - May 23 2012 : 11:11:08 AM
I think a good ol restraining order is fair in this situation, just for starters.
And yeah... we have had problems with the "woman from work" getting too friendly too-- and it was made so much worse because the company climate wanted them to "get together because they were such nice people".
HELLO!! This woman is an attempted homewrecker!!! That does not = "NICE"!! The wife they didnt know was a nice person too... with 2 little kids at the time and totally devoted to her man!!
Other women have flirted with him before but they knocked it off when they got close enough for it to come up that he was happily married. (that chick didn't.)
He has had to impose some new strategies to never be his real nice guy self around females he works or schools with so they don't get the wrong idea and cultivate a crush.
I'm stuck at home a lot but I do try to be frequently present. He goes to NO work social events without me and I'm even happy to say that's more by his choice (he is happier and has more fun with me around than he does without.)
I think this whole climate of too much workplace bonding is a problem these days (What's with this "work spouse" business??? And how is it not offensive to even say?)
DH had to leave that job-- there was no way to recover. After all, once he decided to leave me, I decided to leave the state. Once she exposed herself for the lying viper she was he came shamelessly running after me, never again to wonder if there's anything better out there--- didn't take long to find out there was NO way he could get a better deal than a doting devoted wife. Even if she is a mediocre housekeeper and doesn't have a full time paycheck to share. ;)
Don't lose too much faith Alyce. Even if he had the full blown affair people recover from these things all the time. When I had my troubles people came out of the woodwork to support me and air their own experiences, solid couples I would have NEVER expected including a lovely couple from my church... my pastor and his wife in the MIDST of seminary, details of my mother's first husband being a filthy rat....
A lot of people have gone through this type of thing and healed. Like a broken bone; knitted together stronger and denser than before along that break.
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