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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 05:31:28 AM
My husbands stepfather, as many of you know, has terminal cancer. In the last week he's taken a major turn for the worse, and we're going over to their house today to say our goodbyes.
Please pray for me to say the right things, for Tim to know how much we love him, and to not get sick (literally) from this ball of hurt/anger at cancer that's sitting in the pit of my stomach. Cancer has struck my husbands mom when he was young (Breast cancer-she's been cancer free for awhile) my husbands grandma (Breast cancer-she died of it) and now his stepdad. He's a wonderful, loving man, and it's all happened so fast, it's hard to process. He was perfectly healthy a month ago!
Farmgirl #2879 :)
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| Wildcrafter |
Posted - Oct 12 2011 : 5:30:11 PM
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I feel for you and your family. This is a hard time. My FIL passed last month. My husband and his brother are scattering his ashes this weekend.
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| one_dog_per_acre |
Posted - Oct 12 2011 : 3:48:54 PM
:( So sorry.
Trish
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| missusprim |
Posted - Oct 12 2011 : 3:23:07 PM
Megan, my thoughts are with you and your family. In some ways take solace that it was quick and not a long agonizing jouney for your FIL as well as for your family.
I believe that when one door closes another opens. I have so many examples!
That said, please take care and talk to if you need to - we're all ears and open hearts!
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Oct 03 2011 : 04:45:12 AM
Me too. The funeral was packed! Staning room only! Tim had recorded a message to everyone-they played it at the funeral-that was so heartwrenching.
Farmgirl #2879 :)
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
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| Annika |
Posted - Sep 26 2011 : 4:04:05 PM
Comfort and peace prayers being said. Hug your poor husband a lot, poor man =( I'm very thankful that Tim is no longer suffering so.
Hugs
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Sep 26 2011 : 3:52:26 PM
My (Step) father in law passed at 6:13 pm today. I'm guessing my MIL is probably taking care of things on her end, as my uncle in law called my husband to break the news.
Husband was a little broken up-I talked with him and hugged him, but he decided to go for a walk. I think he just didn't want to lose it in front of me. Tim was suffering for a long time; I'm thankful that Jesus took him home finally. The saddest part is that Friday was my mother in laws birthday, and Saturday was Tim's birthday. If you could, please pray for my family.
Farmgirl #2879 :)
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com
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| Acelady02 |
Posted - Sep 21 2011 : 5:29:02 PM
Megan I am so sorry for your family, I sure hope that he finds peace soon. Prayers for all of ya'll
(((((Hugs All)))))Penny
Farmgirl Sister #3343
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Sep 21 2011 : 1:55:12 PM
My husband is with him now. They're just kinda waiting. I guess this morning Tim just "Felt" that it was time to go. The family is there, around him. His blood pressure is unreadable and his heart rate is erratic. I'm guessing he just has maybe a few more hours. Thanks for your prayers, ladies.
Farmgirl #2879 :)
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com
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| jollyquilter |
Posted - Sep 19 2011 : 4:03:44 PM
Megan......my arms are around you and prayers are going up for your husband and your father in law. May god give you all peace at this time.
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| Annika |
Posted - Sep 19 2011 : 12:35:27 PM
Megan I'm so so sorry that your FIL is in such misery and praying to pass on. It is truly a kind of hell to watch some one that you know and love be taken down by this hideous disease. My beloved grandmother and great aunt both died from cancer, stomach and skin cancer, my dad has survived cancer three times and I'm just cringing waiting for some one else that I love be struck by it. You do have hospice involved don't you? Sorry, I'm not remembering if you've said already or not. Also, if you belong to a church, perhaps your minister could help your poor husband find comfort. There is also grief counseling, I now wish I'd gone to one when my mom died. They can help as well.
I know what you're going through and I'm so terribly sorry. I'm hoping that your FIL passes gently and soon so that he isn't in pain any longer.
Love and hugs
Annika
Farmgirl & sister #13
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. ~Leonardo DaVinci
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Sep 19 2011 : 11:07:59 AM
Megan, thinking of you. Just your presence must have felt good to him, and even if he does not seem to know you are there, I bet somewhere in his mind, he knows and he knows you love him. Praying for you all.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Sep 19 2011 : 11:02:02 AM
It's been a month-and he's still around, amazingly. He's on a pain pump-he's lost probably 100 lbs-he can't really talk anymore. We've gone every weekend to see him. My MIL says they'll be surprised if he makes it through the week. He's kinda in and out of consiousness. I guess during the night he starts reaching out-like he's reaching to heaven. Right now we're just praying that God just makes the suffering stop. We know that God will use this for His good, but, we just don't want Tim to suffer anymore. I guess his feet aren't the characteristic purple spotted hue that they say is the last thing before they pass, so, I guess there's still a little time. I just feel so bad for him now. My husband is having a really, really hard time with this. I don't think he's ever seen anyone in this state before. We just kinda rode home in silence-we don't really know what to say about it to each other-there's not much TO say, ya know?
Farmgirl #2879 :)
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com
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| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Aug 15 2011 : 08:10:04 AM
I tried to put myself in his space. Which, may sound bad, but, I said to myself, "What would I want to hear if I was going to die?!" and so I just told him that we loved him and we're praying for him and will see him hopefully again in this life, but, if not, we'd see him in heaven. I gave him a hug and a kiss, and made sure Annabelle sat on the bed with him and played and laughed for him. Now we wait. If he makes it through the week we'll go next week.
My Mother-in-law is of course just engulfed with this whole thing. She's lost weight, she isn't eating much, and him dying is all she can think about-she says it's like living in a nightmare and she can't wake up. People are bringing over meals to her, and the guys moved out my FIL's truckm so they could sell it. They also moved furniture that she wanted moved. I told her to call me ANYTIME to do laundry, cook, clean, or just to talk. It's hard to go through this and not think about my family, 2000 miles away, though. :(
Farmgirl #2879 :)
Starbucks and sushi to green fried tomatoes and corn pudding-I wouldn't change it for the world.
www.cattleandcupcakes.blogspot.com
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| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Aug 15 2011 : 07:53:46 AM
So sorry, Megan--it's difficult to understand these things when they happen. Sometimes, you just don't or won't, really. Your fil knows he is loved, and he will relish these last moments with his family. I'm sure his body is tired--he will be at rest.
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| nubidane |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 6:53:44 PM
Meagan
I don't know what to say. It is different for everyone. Just know that the farmgirls are praying for peace and understanding.
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| Montrose Girl |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 1:32:42 PM
Megan, It is never about the "right" words, just that you are there supporting your husband and your FIL and giving of yourself. Make sure you and hubby give each other a big hug tonight before you go to bed as you probably will both need it too.
Thoughts are with you,
Laurie
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| Lieberkim |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 07:13:15 AM
Megan,
What a heartbreak for the entire family. I'm so sorry for your pain.
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| classygram |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 07:06:45 AM
Megan I'm so sorry that your family is going through this. Bless you and prayers that today will be a loving and heartwarming experience. Just show your love to him, it will bring him peace to go with the days ahead. Will be thinking of you.
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| embchicken |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 06:52:30 AM
Megan~ So sorry for what your family is going through. Don't worry the right words will come to you. Sometimes the touch of a hand or a look in the eyes can speak when words fail.
~ Elaine
Farmgirl sister #2822
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| LuckyMommyof5 |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 06:49:55 AM
Oh Megan, I am so sorry for you, your husband, your father-in-law and your entire family. I lost both my parents, 2 grandparents and a very dear father-in-law (who was like a second father to me) to cancer, so I can sympathize with your pain, grief and anger. I send you prayers of strength, comfort and peace.
Farmgirl Sister #3243
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| farmmilkmama |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 06:42:05 AM
Megan, I'm sorry for the pain your family is feeling right now. What a frustrating and helpless thing to sit by and watch. I send good thoughts that the words you need will be there when you need them. ((hugs))
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Everyone else is already taken.
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| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 06:35:16 AM
Hard to muster the words to say good-bye, but at least you get the chance. Prayers out to you and your family.
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| nut4fabric |
Posted - Aug 14 2011 : 05:56:42 AM
Megan So sorry that you are going through this, I know how difficult it is. Just speak from your heart and hold his hand, hearing and the sense of feel are the last senses that a person has. Will keep all of you in my prayers.
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