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| NotQuiteJuneCleaver |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 06:51:49 AM
I don't know where to start really. My heart is breaking. It is the most painful thing to watch someone suffer, beg for death and yet linger on. My mom is in almost constant pain from her cancer. She is in the hospital now (70 miles north of here) and I am out the door again shortly to see to her for the afternoon. I am thinking she will be coming home soon with hospice. She doesnt want anymore tests, or trials or probing. She wants to be finished with this. That is something only G-d can give her. She has wonderful compassionate caregivers but they are at the end of what they can do for her.
I miss being on here and knowing what is happening with all of you. Someday I will be back.
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| Hideaway Farmgirl |
Posted - Sep 18 2007 : 08:13:01 AM
Susan, you are most definitely up to the task. It's rare when a daughters has the chance, although most of us would always be willing, to "pay back" our mother with the loving care she gave us in our first days on earth, so coming around full circle, you will be allowing her last days to be spent surrounded by the warmth and love of her family. Best wishes and hugs go out to you and your mother.
Jo
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Sep 16 2007 : 11:16:25 PM
Susan -- my heart just aches for what you are going through with your mother. I went through this with my dad and it is a hard thing to watch. Sending hugs your way!
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| Libbie |
Posted - Sep 16 2007 : 8:08:23 PM
Susan - my mother has helped several family members, including her father, in the way that you are helping your mother - at her home, with hospice assistance. It is difficult AND you are up to it AND you will never regret doing it - I feel comfortable saying never, ever, from watching the strength of character and peace my own mother has from knowing that she did, truly, all she could for those she loved. You are a strong and wise daughter and mother yourself - and I'm sending you my biggest farmgirl hug and thinking of you and your mom. Love...
XOXO, Libbie
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| NotQuiteJuneCleaver |
Posted - Sep 16 2007 : 6:03:36 PM
Thank you all. They are really giving her so much pain medication. I am surprised they will send her home but I suppose there is nothing else they can do. Things around here are about to change. I hope I am up to it.
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| JudyBlueEyes |
Posted - Sep 15 2007 : 9:42:49 PM
Susan,
My love and prayers are with you and your mom.
I truly believe that we have the power to control our life and death. Example: my mother was a very independent woman all her life. I always called her "one of the first liberated women." She left her small town in Pennsylvania, went to business school in Philadelphia and then got a secretarial job in New York City. When the war broke out, she joined the WAVES. She stayed in after the war, until she married my dad in 1950, at which time she was required to leave the WAVES. In any event, after a 42 year marriage with my dad, she started to have little strokes that impacted her ability to maintain equilibrium, and stand/walk - that would put her in a wheelchair. I submit that within a week of her third "serious fall," when my father ordered a wheelchair from their insurance for her...she got the wheelchair on a Friday and died the next Monday. Now...my father had her on a monitor, so he could always hear her if she was in the bedroom and he was in the front room. The morning she died, he checked on her several times, and as she was sleeping peacefully, he took a shower, and when he got out of the shower and dressed, she wasn't breathing. I submit that she CHOSE to make her final exit when he was otherwise engaged, and couldn't hear the monitor - because - she did not want to be in a wheelchair and dependent on someone, even or maybe especially the man she loved. She was an independent woman.
My dad hung on for almost 11 years after my mom died. He made comments that he would like to be "with momma" and missed her so. At one point, all four of my siblings and I gave him permission to "go to momma" if that is what he wanted. We told him we loved him, and knew he was in pain, and that if he wanted to go to her, it would be all right.
If your dear mother is truly begging for release, I submit that if everyone she loves gives her permission to go, then she will be free to transition to her new life. Sometimes our dear ones hold on because someone is not ready to let go...for whatever reason.
Because my mother and father had (what I consider) peaceful passings, I only hope and pray that your dear mother can enjoy the same, and that you and your family are able to release her to a pain-free existence, and sustain yourselves with your precious memories of her.
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| Kathie |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 7:46:07 PM
Love you little Sister..
Kiss your mother for me please..
Always here for you..
Kathie
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 7:41:12 PM
Susan,
So sorry to hear your Mom is suffering with this. Keeping you both in prayer.
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| Carol Sue |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 7:37:44 PM
Susan,
There are no words...((((((HUGS))))))
If there is hospice help, it really does help.
Carol Sue
Enjoying life. |
| Mumof3 |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 1:25:08 PM
Susan- I hope that your mom will be able to find the peace she is searching for soon. I think that it is one of the hardest things to have watch a loved one suffer like your mother. (((hugs))) to both of you. You will be in my prayers.
Karin
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| Maryjane Lee |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 12:47:25 PM
Susan you and Mother are in my thoughts and prayers. What a painful experience for the both of you. Know you are loved here.
Hugs, Maryjane Lee
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| Alee |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 12:29:55 PM
Susan- I am so sorry that your mom has reached the point of suffering. I hope she can come back home with hospice care. You are such a sweet and loving person- She is very lucky to have such a wonderful daughter. *hugs*
Alee
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| Phils Ann |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 10:19:49 AM
Dear Susan, my heart hurts for you and for your mom. I hope she can come home soon and be with you and your sweet family. My prayers are with you.
Ann
Sairy Hill Thicket
There is a Redeemer. |
| MBurns |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 09:38:56 AM
It is so hard to see a loved one suffer. I trained with hospice to do respite. They have a wonderful service and it helps both the patient and family so much to cope with the end of life. My heart goes out to you at this time. Do contact your local hospice. They can help everyone both mentally and physically. My prayers are with you. |
| Firemama |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 09:13:49 AM
Susan, I am thinking of you and your mom, I hope you both find peace soon.
Mommy to 2
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:58:53 AM
Susan, God Bless you and your Mom. I pray her suffering and yours will be over soon and that you both find peace.
Mary Jane
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| Marybeth |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:37:12 AM
Susan, you and your mom will be in my thoughts. MB
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| mima |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:31:50 AM
Oh I'm so sorry Susan! |
| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Sep 14 2007 : 07:01:16 AM
Oh Susan....I will sure be keeping your mom (and you too) in my prayers. I wish I could be there to help.
Jenny in Utah
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