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| lisamarie508 |
Posted - Feb 08 2009 : 3:51:09 PM
I've decided to let my house go and told the stb ex to go ahead and sell it as I'm tired of him using it as a weapon to control me. So, now I'll be starting over from scratch. Which has me thinking it's really not that bad since I'd been wanting more property so I can have animals, anyway.
So, now I'm finally dreaming...chickens, miniature Jersey, maybe some angora goats, too. I just want a small cabin or cottage with two bedrooms so I can put my kids up when they come to visit and a sewing/craft room. Small, so I don't have to spend a lot of time cleaning (I have much better things I'd rather be doing) and have enough room to plant EVERYTHING I want. A large greenhouse, like the one MaryJane shows how to build but with several more panels to make it longer...
I'm looking already. I'm not ready to buy yet, but I have to keep my eyes and ears peeled around here as the good deals tend to go fast. I still want to be within walking distance of town so I don't have to spend a ton of money on gas and vehicle maintenance. Besides, I don't even have a vehicle, yet.
I am so excited over all the new prospects and possible opportunities in front of me. I can hardly wait to get started!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
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| goatlove |
Posted - Mar 18 2009 : 4:39:59 PM
Be true to your heart and mind and soul, and also to God's: the desires of your heart will be.....
By God's Grace! |
| Contrary Wife |
Posted - Mar 18 2009 : 07:02:14 AM
Lisa, wish you all the best. Sometimes a new start is so refreshing! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Teresa Sue
Farmgirl Sister #316
Planting Zone 3
"Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly." The Dalai Lama |
| K-Falls Farmgirl |
Posted - Mar 17 2009 : 8:18:04 PM
Been in that boat, bailing water... Finally made it to shore..Good for you girl. A fresh start is waiting your talents & energy!
Cheryl
Farmgirl #309
Klamath Falls "Charming Chicks Chapter" Mother Hen
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You never know when what you say or do will make a difference...Kerry Kennedy
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| Alee |
Posted - Mar 17 2009 : 8:14:21 PM
Wow Diane! That must have been quite the struggle! What an amazing experience though! You are a strong lady!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our blog: www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Mar 17 2009 : 06:34:59 AM
It's scary starting over. I had 2 & 3yr old sons when I got out of a very bad marriage. I ended up buying a run down 125 year old house because I could not afford rent. I was lucky and only had to pay $50. a week for both of my kids to go to a sitter, who is now my best friend. I put 2 bricks under the leg ends of my bed to level it. Little by little I did work on it. My dad ripped off my backkroom one day when I was at work and announced to me we were going to build a new home. We added a kitchen,livingroom and a bath. 3 years later we tore down the old house while living in the new side which was small,new but small. then we built the rest of the house. My sons are now 29 & 30 and they will tell you it was the best time. Helping mom and grampa build the house. Some days I was so tired after work I would cry on the way home knowing I had to hammer, saw or sand. I really hated sanding. To this day the small bathroom which is next to the large bathroom is not finished. A house is what you make it and with my sons, my dad and a few great neighbors our house turned into a warm and happy home. I would not trade those years in for anything. They taught me patience. Showed me love from my neighbors and family. Gave me hope for the future, and taught my kids with a little hard work we can do anything. But I do remember dusting was next to impossialbe.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| Sandra K. Licher |
Posted - Mar 06 2009 : 11:00:46 AM
Yes...thanks Alee! I'll say a prayer for Lisa and Rose...and you and Nora of course!
Sam in AR..... "It's a great life if you don't weaken!"
Farmgirl Sister #226
www.farmgirlsam.blogspot.com |
| Jami |
Posted - Mar 06 2009 : 08:02:46 AM
Thanks for filling us in, Alee. However it works out, I'm sure it will be for the best.
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
http://woolyinwashington.wordpress.com/
http://farmhouseflair.etsy.com |
| Alee |
Posted - Mar 05 2009 : 3:43:10 PM
Hi Sandra-
I only "see" Lisa on the internet- we live about 500 miles apart :( I wish we lived closer. But I will pass on the message through her email since she might see that before she has a chance to check the forum. Her good friend Rose (IdCityRose here on the forum) found her mother passed away earlier this week so Lisa is spending a lot of time with her.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our blog: www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
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| Sandra K. Licher |
Posted - Mar 05 2009 : 3:36:53 PM
Alee...if you see Lisa, tell her to read the book "Broken Open" by Elizabeth Lesser. It's excellent and I wish it had been around when I was going through that. Give her my best!
Sam in AR..... "It's a great life if you don't weaken!"
Farmgirl Sister #226
www.farmgirlsam.blogspot.com |
| Alee |
Posted - Mar 05 2009 : 2:44:53 PM
Lisa will be getting her house back and her Ex has about 30 days left to vacate the house. Right now she is staying with a friend.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.awarmheart.com
Please come visit Nora and me on our blog: www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
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| Jami |
Posted - Mar 05 2009 : 2:21:08 PM
How are things going on this Lisa? I'll look under family matters and see if I can find an update too.
I have been in your shoes on this matter...or similar anyhow. I found my own place after he said "no" to me keeping the dream farm (mostly my dream of course and I did most of the work too!) we had started. Well, I was heartbroken at first but was like you...not going to hold me hostage! I took my half of the sale proceeds and bought a little cute old farm (all I could afford)..close to town, only 3.5 acres but I had a blast fixing that place up inside and out. I had to work hard to make the payments and improvements but I had a great time there and my kids liked it too. When I remarried it was hard for me to sell it but we moved to his place in the country with a lot more land and I didn't want to deal with renters. I sometimes still miss my cozy little place. I think it worked out for the best now that I look back.
I'm thinking of you.
Jami in WA
Farmgirl Sister #266
http://woolyinwashington.wordpress.com/
http://farmhouseflair.etsy.com |
| justpassnthru |
Posted - Mar 05 2009 : 1:00:25 PM
Lisa, sometimes change is more necessary than scary.....or both, but its the only way to fill your heart and soul with joy. All the best. Hold on tight to your dreams, and if others don't share in them, thats OK, because they are yours, and they ARE worth it!! Go get 'em, girl! We are all pulling for you. |
| ruralfarmgirl |
Posted - Mar 04 2009 : 4:31:52 PM
Lisa,
There is something about letting go.... that gives us the space for new...... dont you just love that!
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl #185
http://farmchicksfarm.blogspot.com/http://renenaturallyspeaking.blogspot.com/
Circumstances made us FRIENDS; MaryJane's has made us SISTERS :) |
| iloveprims |
Posted - Mar 04 2009 : 4:13:30 PM
How are things? I am sure your life will be even more grand now!
~Tracy~
Primitive Lover & Farmgirl Wanna be!
http://farmgirldreamer.blogspot.com
http://www.handmadenetwork.com
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| janiee |
Posted - Feb 11 2009 : 12:12:15 PM
Way to go girlfriend! I am so happy for you! I hope everything goes like you want it to and find many new blessings along the way!
Hugs
janiee
farmgirl #390 |
| Sandra K. Licher |
Posted - Feb 10 2009 : 06:12:23 AM
Lisa....I went through the same thing about 15 years ago but I kept the farm but wish I hadn't because of memories, debt he had incurred that I ended up taking on....yada yada yada.....I think you are doing the right thing....a fresh start for you and fresh dreams to keep you going. I hope things work out just as you wish and if you ever need support please email me or post and we WILL be there for you! MJ's farmgirls are the best problem solvers in the world and it costs nada unlike a lot of solutions which seem to have a price tag attached! Good luck girlfriend and I will check the other topic.
Sam in AR..... "It's a great life if you don't weaken!"
Farmgirl Sister #226
www.farmgirlsam.blogspot.com |
| lisamarie508 |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 8:47:49 PM
Whoa!!! He just slammed on the brakes and I think I smacked my head! Mediation was today and it did not quite go the way I had thought/hoped. I'll have to post the rest over in Family Matters as it pertains more to that than farm dreaming.
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
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| Lainey |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 10:33:59 AM
Lisa, I wish you all the best. Sounds like good things are coming your way.
Hugs!
Farmgirl Sister #25
http://countrygirldreams.blogspot.com/
An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' |
| Ingrid |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 10:02:36 AM
I started over 10 years ago with three kids, 5, 3 and not born yet, and even when times were tough it was better than what it was. It took about five years to get to where I wanted to be, working, owning my own home, and back on my feet. It was worth every moment.
Good Luck to you.
Ingrid
Give thanks to yourself everyday for all the wonderful things you do! |
| Miss Bee Haven |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 07:23:10 AM
Congratulations on letting go. That takes more strength(and wisdom) than holding on.
Farmgirl Sister #50
"If you think you've got it nailed down, then what's all that around it?"
'Br.Dave Gardner' |
| lisamarie508 |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 06:15:44 AM
Tina, I appreciate the offer, but I really have everything I need at the moment. I got a lot of help from all my friends here who wouldn't take no for an answer! I have a roof over my head, my dog, enough furniture, clothes and dishes to be comfortable and a decent job to hold it all together. I'm feeling really confident that I will find what I want/need. The really important part is that I'm happy and I have dreams and goals again. Dreams that I can work toward and fulfill without dragging someone kicking and screaming behind me (literally!).
I'm so looking forward to building new gardens and having my own little mini-farm and building (if necessary) and decorating my new home the way I want without a lot unnecessary and useless "stuff" that has to be cleaned, dusted, moved around, etc. No matter how much work it takes to get there, it'll still be fun!
I sure appreciate all the encouragement and hugs back to all of you!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
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http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
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| Marcy |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 05:35:04 AM
(((((Lisa))))) sending you a big hug filled with the very best of wishes that all you are dreaming of comes true!!
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt |
| Especially For You |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 05:30:42 AM
GO GIRL !!!!! Lisa I don't know your sisuationbut from the huge weight that was lifted off your shoulders that was the right way to go. I will send lots of prayers for you! If you need anything to start over with let me know. I will do the best to help. When I left my dirt bag of a husband I had lots of people offer to help me, I was at the stage of embaressment, but now I wish that I had let them help me. So hugs and prayers.
Tina~Farm Girl #455
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| AuntPammy |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 05:01:05 AM
I am so happy for you!! I hope you get everything you want and discover even more along the way. You go girl. Blessings.
"Keep your face to the sunshine and you will never see the shadow." Helen Keller
www.auntpsalmostheaven.blogspot.com |
| lisamarie508 |
Posted - Feb 09 2009 : 04:15:14 AM
I like it, too, Cindy! We farmgirls CAN do anything! And, Laura, that's why dd and I decided it best to let the house go. Too many memories that we didn't want so, this is a good thing in more ways than one!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
my blog:
http://lisamariesbasketry.blogspot.com/
[size=1]My apron website:
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