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| Alee |
Posted - Dec 21 2015 : 1:08:19 PM
Hi Ladies!
It’s been so long! For that I am so sorry! I have missed you all greatly but life has kept me busy and away from the computer. It’s amazing how quickly time goes by!
So much has changed; it’s hard to know where to start. I finished college and have my Business Management and Accounting Degree. We moved from Montana down to Wyoming because Doug got a job in our home town where I really wanted to be. We lived with my parents for some time while we worked on our credit and I finally was able to get a cute little 1942 Bungalow style house. I will post pictures some time. I wish I had taken more before and after pictures. I tore up the carpet and found beautiful original hardwood floors underneath. They need to be refinished but someday they will just glow.
Things didn’t go so well for Doug. He lost 5 jobs in two and a half years. He is currently unemployed. I finally asked for a divorce this summer. It was a hard decision to make but I have been working on making this decision for a long long time. From his violent outbursts to the constant cheating to his unwillingness to work on his many mental health issues- the relationship just became more and more toxic. Our divorce was finalized in July and we decided to split custody of Nora 50/50.
Well that all changed recently. He threatened to take Nora with him back to Moscow. When I told him I was not okay with that he got very angry with me. A few days later Department of Family Services shows up on my door step asking to inspect my house and interview Nora. After they looked over every inch of my house and talked with both me and Nora, they told me that they had no concerns with me. They asked many questions and it quickly became apparent that Doug had lied to them to get them to my house. It seems to me that he was hoping that I would somehow be deemed an unfit mother and he would get custody by default.
Thankfully I found an amazing lawyer who took my case on. We have already served Doug with a Custody Modification summons. We are going to fight for sole custody and give him visitation rights. Until then every time she visits her dad’s house I hold my breath hoping he doesn’t take off with her.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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| Ninibini |
Posted - Oct 09 2016 : 2:34:59 PM
Hi Alee! I am just reading all of this now and am so, so sorry for all you have gone through. I'm so glad, though, that it has somewhat resolved and that you can have more peace of mind about Nora's well-being. You are so strong. I greatly admire you for your strength and wisdom and heart in all of this. May God continue to bless you and Nora in every single way, and may Doug get the help he needs so he can be the father Nora needs, and a good parenting partner for you, especially so that you do not have any more worries or fears. Much love - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
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| forgetmenot |
Posted - Oct 09 2016 : 09:23:43 AM
Alee, I am so glad things are settling down for you and Nora. Thank you so much for the update. Please keep in touch.
Farmgirl sister #3926
"Courage is not the absence of fear, but the belief that something is more important than fear." Ambrose Red Moon |
| craftingram |
Posted - Oct 09 2016 : 06:26:43 AM
So glad to hear from you and that things seem to be working out.
Karin
Sister #2708
Romans 8: 38,39 |
| Blessed in Colorado |
Posted - Oct 08 2016 : 06:58:51 AM
Hi Alee welcome back. Happy that things are starting to settle into a more peaceful place for you and your Nora. Enjoy baking and the new memories you are making. Keeping you and Nora in my heart and thoughts. ((Big Hugs))
Hugs,
Deb
#1582
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| Red Tractor Girl |
Posted - Oct 08 2016 : 05:47:08 AM
Take care Alee and I wish you and Nora all the very best during this time of transition!
Winnie #3109
Red Tractor Girl
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| katmom |
Posted - Oct 07 2016 : 6:48:18 PM
oh Alee,,,, hang in there sweetness... this situation will become a a faded memory....
hugz to you and Nora.
>^..^<
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| gramadinah |
Posted - Oct 07 2016 : 4:24:04 PM
Hang in there. You got this. Good to here from you.
Diana
Farmgirl Sister #273 |
| edlund33 |
Posted - Oct 07 2016 : 4:11:26 PM
Hi Alee it's so nice to hear from you. I'm glad everything is working out better now. Enjoy your baking time with Nora this weekend. You will get the bills paid off in no time!
Cheers! ~ Marilyn
Farm Girl No. 1100
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Oct 07 2016 : 4:01:56 PM
Hi Alee,
Good to hear from you and hear your news! Hopefully things will settle down and you'll get that bill paid off sooner than you think.
Hang in there!
CJ
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| Alee |
Posted - Oct 07 2016 : 3:45:01 PM
Hi Ladies!
Just wanted to give you an update! Doug finally caved and we worked out and agreement that the judge signed without having to drag Nora through a court battle. I now have sole legal custody of her, but the visitation schedule stays the same- one week with me, one week with him. I no longer have to pay child support and he is court ordered to pay me the money he owes me however I doubt I will ever see any of it. He is not allowed to take her if he moves more than 30 minutes away from here and if he does, we have to go to mediation to work out a new visitation schedule. I am slowly paying off the remainder of my lawyer bill too. I have about $1000 left to go but at least the balance is going down! All in all it worked out about as good as I could have hoped. It got rather nasty there for a while.
Nora is also settling down into the new normal of our lives- which is great and for that I am very thankful. We are going to be making pies and such this weekend, getting some good memories made before she has to go to her dad's house again. I am starting to really dislike Sundays because that is the day that we switch custody.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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| DandeeRose |
Posted - Jan 05 2016 : 07:36:14 AM
Oh, Alee! How terrifying!!!! I am praying for you sweetie!
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| Alee |
Posted - Jan 04 2016 : 8:28:00 PM
Oh my word Ladies! I got a very upset text from Nora on Saturday. She needed me to come get her RIGHT then! Basically Doug is pulling his manipulative stuff on Nora now and she is catching on in a major way! Good news is that she called me and she is safe here this week. I also sold my horse trailer today so that is good. It sold for less than I needed so now I still need to come up with $1500 to finish paying the lawyer fees but that is doable. What a roller coaster!
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
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| Bonnie Ellis |
Posted - Dec 30 2015 : 6:15:10 PM
Get well Alee. all this stress takes its toll. We'll pray for you. God bless and Happy New Year.
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| Alee |
Posted - Dec 30 2015 : 09:43:49 AM
Thank you so much for all your love and prayers ladies! I can't tell you how much it means to me. I have been bed ridden with high fever since Sunday so I haven't checked in much. Starting to feel much better though. I am hoping today will be the last day of this fever business. I haven't heard anything for a while from Doug about the court action. In the paper my lawyer put together he asked for Doug to get appropriate visitation as determined by the court after Doug had gone through a full mental health screening and shows compliance with the doctors orders.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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| ClaireSky |
Posted - Dec 30 2015 : 08:41:44 AM
Alee, I am glad to see you posting again. Sad to hear what you are going through. Praying for you and Nora. God Bless!!
Julie 
Farmgirl #399
May 2010 Farmgirl of the Month
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Dec 28 2015 : 1:16:40 PM
Hi Alee! How nice to see your post. I have certainly missed all your chats. I am sorry for all that you have been through. You and Nora will be in my prayers. Take care and keep us posted.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
| sjmjgirl |
Posted - Dec 28 2015 : 12:31:29 PM
Alee, great to see you posting again! So sorry you've had to go through this. Have you considered asking the court for supervised visits since he has threatened to run off with her? It certainly seems warranted, at least for now.
Hoping things get better for you both quickly. Farmgirl hugs!
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| craftingram |
Posted - Dec 28 2015 : 06:43:14 AM
Alee, so glad to see you back here. I always loved reading your posts having to do with faith. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this situation, but believe that you and Nora will come through it well. Your little house sounds adorable and we are looking forward to pictures. Keeping you and Nora in prayer.
Karin
Farmgirl Sister 2708
Romans 8: 38,39 |
| FARMALLChick |
Posted - Dec 27 2015 : 12:49:22 PM
glad you're back. Hope things work out for you with this issue. Hope you sell that trailer soon. Sending positive thoughts your way!!
Hugs,
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway" -John Wayne
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| auntjenny |
Posted - Dec 26 2015 : 11:03:47 AM
Alee! Sooo good to see you back here! I have been where you are. More than once. No fun. You will get past this and things will be better. (((((Hugs)))))
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - Dec 23 2015 : 4:02:02 PM
Alee,
So nice you have made your way back to us. I am so sorry that you have had to go through all this. Praying for you and Nora.
~Denise~
Farmgirl Sister #43
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| Marybeth |
Posted - Dec 23 2015 : 11:45:02 AM
Hi Alee--good to hear from you. I hate to say this but I will---I knew the marriage was doomed from the time you were preggers with Nora. Such a hard row you had to hoe but you persevered. Proud of you girl. Glad you got your degree.
Here's hoping the New Year brings you and Nora much needed happiness.
MB
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| Red Tractor Girl |
Posted - Dec 23 2015 : 05:54:34 AM
Welcome back, Alee! I hope your will be able to get the legal issues resolved soon with Nora. Please keep us posted and best of luck with all that is currently needing your undivided attentions!
Winnie #3109
Red Tractor Girl
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| Bonnie Ellis |
Posted - Dec 22 2015 : 12:08:28 PM
Alee: Such deep problems. I pray for strength for you to cope and safety for you and Nora. God bless.
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| Marcy |
Posted - Dec 22 2015 : 09:35:23 AM
Alee,
I am so glad to see that you are back with us! And also so sorry to hear what you are going through. Know that we are here and that we have your back. You are never alone!
hugs,
Marcy
Farmgirl #170
FGOTM August 2012
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
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