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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 11:44:54 AM
My boss called me at home this AM and fired me. I called her and left a message to tell her about a mistake that I had made when running the AP checks on Friday. When she called back I thought it was to talk about that. She said the I just wasn't working out and had made several mistakes. I told her that, in my defense, I had only been in the office to learn the job a total of 12 days. That everyone has a learning curve and I was not given enough time to learn the job.
She has done the accounting for 18 years. She is having to give up her work and hand it over to someone else and I think that's hard for her. Plus she has never supervised or trained anyone -- thus she has set her expectations a little too high.
To say that I'm devastated is putting it mildly. I feel like I've let my family down because we've struggled for so long. And I was finally going to be able to help out and we'd have some breathing room. Missy said that she feels that God wants me to be at home and keeps leading me back here. I'm going to take the rest of the month to really pray about what direction God is leading and ask him to show me what he wants me to do. Today I will have a pity party for myself and tomorrow I will get up and move ahead.
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| bohemiangel |
Posted - Dec 06 2006 : 4:33:06 PM
Aw honey! I have a very similar situation with being on a job 3 weeks and trained 1 day! I was told I could have a lower position..the guy was a donkey;) Many prayers and hugs and sometimes things are a blessing in disguise. I was also let go from another place (don't I sound like a loser) for being accused of stuff like people saying mean things. But I'm so glad I left those places. I know that it isnt easy! Read some Dale Carnegie and remember how many people "failed" or were unsuccessful and then boom they really were great its the other idiots out there!!!!!!!! (I'm re-reading his stuff again) HUGS!!!!!! with kisses
"... to thine ownself be true." |
| Phils Ann |
Posted - Dec 06 2006 : 06:18:25 AM
Kay, I just saw this post--sorry to reply so late! I'm praying for you... to have total peace soon and for your financial needs to be met. Your boss sounds like someone to avoid! You know the Genesis story of Joseph and his brothers... who meant it for harm, but God meant it for good to send him to Egypt. The Lord has you in His hands, too.
Meanwhile, I've been shopping at your etsy site and look forward to my goodies. I hope you get to stay at home and keep on creating.
Hugs,
Ann
There is a Redeemer. |
| Nance in France |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 1:41:26 PM
Kay, hugs to you. Everybody who has ever stepped into a new job has a learning curve to go through. If your boss has such a hair-trigger mentality, it must be a blessing in disguise that you had to endure it for only a short while. You will be happier, and so much more appreciated, somewhere else. You will find it soon enough. Good idea to take the rest of the month to reflect on your blessings and enjoy the holiday. Nance |
| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 1:21:30 PM
Kay just ordered the stockings- they look so beautiful! They wll be a perfect match for my pillow. Let me know when you get anything more like that in!!!!!
blessings
beth
Dreaming of Friday Night Lights
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| Txfarmgal |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 12:14:12 PM
Kay!! ((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry this happened!! I am feeling the same as Missy is however that he provides jobs but then leads you back home. I can tell you as you know we are in the same situation! God is just contiually telling me to work with my hands and to encourage and lift other up. I will be praying for your family and the situation. I hope you are doing better today! I have some cherry sours for your pity party if you want me to share, I would be happy to. hugs
Angi~wife, momma, 4H leader & Txfarmgal -Be Joyful Always 1 Thes. 5:18
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| CountryGirl85 |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 12:01:57 PM
Hey there Kay,
I'm so sorry to hear about this! The lady I babysit for just called me this morning to tell me she would have to lay me off. She's expecting, due in February, and her doctor said she can't work anymore. She told me she won't need me for four or five months and understands if I can't resume at that time. I was expecting this, not quite so soon, but knew it would happen. I was grateful that she told me the news in a kind a courteous manner, and I could hear the concern for me in her voice. Unfortunately, I had a boss in the past who let me go in quite an opposite way. I was doing a farming internship and let my boss know shortly after I was hired that I had previous commitments to a choir I was involved in that would require me to leave early a few days. He was ok with it. After a few weeks, I was enjoying the work, but not enjoying the way things were carried out. We were always rushed and every time I made a mistake, my boss made me feel stupid. We were so rushed that after a few weeks, we were told that we were far ahead of schedule and could take some time off if we wanted to. So I emailed over the weekend saying I wouldn't be able to make it on Monday, the day of one of my choir performances, which I now realize was a big mistake. Since we usually communicated through email, I didn't think twice about notifying him this way. I received a not-so-nice email back stating that I obviously didn't care about my employment there and to not bother coming back. I replied with a courteous email wishing him and the farm much luck in the future and my apologies that it had to end that way. I was very upset, but realized it was for the better. I do believe that everything happens for a reason. Experiences like this are a part of life and only make us stronger. They give us a clearer insight into who we are and who we want to become. You didn't deserve to be treated that way and by no means have you let your family down. I'm sure they are very proud of you and want the best for you, just as all us farmgirls do. Keep praying and you will find your way, and I intend to do the same.
Love and hugs to you,
Laura
http://thecraftycatgirl.blogspot.com
"In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart." Anne Frank |
| blueroses |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 11:42:43 AM
Hi Kay,
So sorry to hear about this. We all love you and I know that something better is coming your way.
Debbie
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 06:20:47 AM
big hugs for you sweet friend. this is just a little 'bump' in the road we call life. feels like a big one now i'm sure .. but .. as you travel on .. keep your head high and a smile on your face .. and your mind clear and your eyes open .. and know that "this, too, shall pass". and something grander truly is around the corner for you gurlfren!
True Friends, Frannie
CABIN CREEK FARM
KENTUCKY
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| doglady |
Posted - Dec 05 2006 : 06:11:48 AM
Hi Kay,
I hope you are doing much better today. I didn't realize that you had been doing accounting for quite some time when I posted earlier. You probably freaked her (your boss) out because you did know how it was supposed to be done and was learning the program pretty fast. I really would'nt worry about it much. It just really made me mad that an accounting department would treat someone like this. Hang in there and I'm sure that the right door will open for you.
Tina
The dogs own the house but the people pay the mortgage!
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 9:41:40 PM
Oh Kay...don't know how I missed this post earlier today...I wish I were there to hang out with you. You don't deserve this!! You are so smart to stay home for a time and pray for direction. I just know there are great things in store for you!!! I will sure keep you in my prayers!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 9:11:09 PM
Thank you all again for your kind words of advice. After having most of the day to think about this - and hearing comments from others - I feel that my boss was just having trouble letting go of her work. I don't that anyone will work especially well in that position because she won't let them -- they'll never do it like she has done. I've done accounting for lots of years and can honestly say that I've never seen a chart of accounts that was set up as difficult as the one she did! No one can learn an accounting job in 11 days.
I got some training from her when she would sit down with me. But she told me things one time and then expected me to know it. I think I did pretty darn well because I had the accounting program down pretty good. I am probably better off but it will take a few more days for that to sink in. In the meantime I'm going to enjoy going to my sewing room to create! That is my therapy.
I am feeling better about the whole thing tonight and you have all been such a help to me today. Thank you so much for being the kind, dear, and loving friends that you are. I don't know what I do if I didn't have you!
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| lambgirl |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 9:08:47 PM
Kay,
Something along those lines recently just happened to me. I had been working for a company for three years and things were going great. I had a sudden illness where I was unable to work for a week and when I came back my boss had shfted my work load away from me and tried to hide it. Half of my salary was commission so I pulled her aside and she just told me to deal with it. At the time I didn't feel there was much I could do since I have to work. I prayed about it and truly left it in God's hands. About two weeks later I received a phone call from another business owner that I knew, she asked me what it would take for me to leave my job and come work for her. Little did she know what was happening at my current job, I told her yes on the spot gave my two weeks notice and have loved every minute at my new job.
I hope Kay that the same will happen with you and you will have another door open. It is devastating to have people undermine your self esteem. Later I found out the reason she was giving my work to a coworker was to save money since she was on a lower pay scale. But at the time I felt deeply hurt, I would have done anything for my boss had she asked and to have her cut my pay knowing how much my family depended on my income was awful. So please hang in there and I will add you to my prayer list.
Thinking of you Dear Farmgirl Friend
You are not alone.
Heidi |
| jo Thompson |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 8:55:16 PM
Kay, send me an email with your address, I'd like to order a few items and would like to send a check direct to you...... jo love the little snow creations, very sweet....
"friends don't let friends eat farmed salmon"
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| doglady |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 8:31:20 PM
Hi Kay,
I'm really sorry that you were let go in a "really" unprofessional way. When I was the Assistant Controller and managed the Accounting Department, I never would have treated anyone like this person treated you. Now let's look at this situation a little more before you beat yourself up! What training, if any, did the department give you? Did they ask for your feedback on the training? If you had made several mistakes, were they pointed out to you so that you could learn from and correct them? Did the Accounting Department have a Procedure Manual and were you given one? Do you know that you may still be able to file for unemployment even though you were fired in most states. Something worth checking out. I would also write a very pleasant letter to the HR department citing that you feel the firing was unfair due to your lack of training, the unprofessional way you were let go, and for not being allowed to learn their procedures in a more "timely manner". This will be your professional way of contesting it for your personnel file and I would also ask them for a recommendation at the same time. Never hurts to ask.
Please don't beat yourself up, because after being in management for quite a while, here's what is probably going on. This boss has not been getting her work done on time and made many excuses of no help - company hires someone - she's never been a boss, only a bossy person. So now she blames her failures on the new person. ***Or management is tired of her excuses and tells her to train a helper - thinking that they could move the new person into more responsibility at a later date and maybe get rid of her- she feels threatened - refuses and makes excuses for showing you/training how to do something the right way - and once again blames you for her mistakes. I've seen it too many times.
Now pick yourself up, thank your lucky stars that you are not working for this idiot, and call your nearest Accounting Temp Company (a great way to learn accounting skills and then search for a permanent position after you feel comfortable with your new skills) and start working for a good and fair boss. They are out there. You deserve much better than what you were dealt. I wish you much luck and where one door closes, another one opens.
Tina
The dogs own the house but the people pay the mortgage!
www.kennelcreations.com |
| lamamama |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 7:42:01 PM
Kay, just throwing in my paltry 2 cents worth: I agree with those farmgirls who have said that any boss who would let you go in such an insensitive way is not worth YOU.
Consider it a blessing in disguise - who knows how difficult it might have been working with someone like that. Don't let this defeat you, ..... have faith that what you need will appear. Here's a prayer for you that it may be so!
Melanie |
| beckels |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 6:48:25 PM
Kay
I am so sorry to read about your job loss. But I hope this makes you feel better - in saying they didnt deserve you. Anyone that would say after 11 days you did this wrong and goodbye DOESNT DESERVE YOU!!
I will keep your family and you in my prayers that doors will open where they were once closed
Beckels
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| bramble |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 6:14:55 PM
Oh Kay! How crummy! And what an unfortunate way to be "dismissed".
I say that it is their loss and they will be the worse for it in the long run. Did you have any sense that this woman was feeling this way? Many things have happened in my life that have left me standing there feeling blindsided and in the long run most of them have ended up being for the better. I'm hoping that's the direction this takes you, to something where you can let your talents shine and not fit someone else's expectations. You know you will be in my prayers and I hope you can put this in it's place and still enjoy the holidays.
Big hugs and chocolate therapy can't hurt!
with a happy heart |
| lavender gal |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 5:54:16 PM
I have been in your shoes & I know exactly how you must be feeling right now - ROTTEN! Don't worry about your family - God will provide - He always does - YOU need some TLC now - you STILL are a good person, wife, mother & friend - loosing a job can't take that from you. It may be best you are taking time to be with friends & family & to reflect on this joyous season - the new year will look & be brighter!
God speed,
Grace
"Don't Sweat the Small Stuff" |
| westernhorse51 |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 5:37:57 PM
Oh Kay, I too am very sorry and I understand hoe you feel about letting down your family. Since I left my job of 8 yrs. I have been stumbling like crazy trying to find a way to the work I want to do until my small Inn or B&B which wont happen for awhile. You are doing the best thing by praying for direction, it will help you. Keep your chin up.
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
| katie-ell |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 5:00:18 PM
Kay, I hope you know you are being 'lifted up' today by all us Farmgirls! And I made a little order from your etsy shop -- let's all keep her busy filling orders for the rest of the year. Chin up, dearie! |
| willowtreecreek |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 4:58:00 PM
Oh Kay I am SOOOO sorry to hear this. I agree with everyone else (and Maria VonTrapp from the sound of Music) who says when One door closes another one opens. I know it will be a rough time. PLEASE don't hesitate to email me if there is ANYTHING I can do for you.
Jewelry, art, baskets, etc.
www.willowtreecreek.com |
| jpbluesky |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 3:28:48 PM
Kay, I agree with your daughter. He will provide, and I do not feel your place is in a large accounting office. Girl, I have been there and done that, and it cost me my health. I will never do it again. Stay home and create, and God will provide. And do not feel you have failed!!!!! I felt that way, too. It is wrong. Bookkeeping is a grind and a hard one, and you are gifted in other ways. Love you!
Jeannie
Ephesians 1:17 |
| Hideaway Farmgirl |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 3:06:25 PM
Kay,
I love the sound of your soaps and would like to try them.
Do you have one each of:
- Oatmeal, Milk and Honey
- Unscented
Jo
"There are no strangers here, only friends you've yet to meet." |
| Hideaway Farmgirl |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 3:01:24 PM
Kay,
So sorry to hear this, and I agree with all the supportive comments listed here. I would like to add one of my own.
Don't we all realize how valuable and rare it is to have an employee who
(a) realizes they made a mistake
(b) alerts their boss about the mistake as soon as they realized it
(c) probably felt awful about it, and certainly will be even more careful the next time around?
I'd rather have that sort of employee, than one who lets the mistake slide, or denies/blames it on someone or something else.
Hold your head up high, Kay - she didn't deserve you. It's likely she wouldn't have handled another person any better, either.
Now, I am going to go check out your etsy store!
Jo
"There are no strangers here, only friends you've yet to meet." |
| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Dec 04 2006 : 2:53:46 PM
Kay, sorry to hear you had to go through this.
Sorry that the woman didn't seem to have the patience needed to be a good boss willing to work with a new employee, really that is not to her favor to be that way...but what is done is done.You did the best you could and you should actually be proud of yourself for having put forth a very good effort..if anything do not feel sorry for yourself, but rather feel sorry for the folks that lack in patience and people skills and just good old kindness and willingness to work through a situation..they need our sympathy.:0)
I sincerely hope that you can either find a job that suits you much better, where the boss is much more understanding and friendly, or that you can find something that you can do that brings in an income that meets your needs. In either case..the best of wishes to you!
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~ |
