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| melody |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 11:07:39 AM
On the 15th (next Wednesday) DH and I will be celebrating our 20th Wedding anniversary...I can hardly believe it!
What is the secret of making marriage a success?
For us I think it's having a good sense of humor, going with the flow; as there isn't anything we haven't gone through! respect, deep and abiding love that comes from two people who have spent a long time together,communication and last but not least COMMUNICATION!
What's your secret?
Melody
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| nin1952 |
Posted - Jun 14 2011 : 3:59:05 PM
My husband and I will be married 42 years on Sept. 28, this year. I agree with everything said here. But, we did not start out on good grounds. For the first 20 years or so it was hard. Then I accepted the Lord into my heart and things changed. It took a few more years for DH to do the same. After that, we let the Lord lead and guide us everyday. I also feel that there has to be some compromise also. I guess you would say that God, a deep love for each other and compromise are our secrests.
Donna Farmgirl Sister #1487
Wheather therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31
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| melody |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 5:19:03 PM
I like that Mary Jane "really liking each other and enjoying each others company!" That's very true...
Melody |
| CountryBorn |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 4:13:51 PM
Well, it was 45 yrs. in May for us. I think there are alot of good ones already mentioned here. I think humor is a big thing. Also so right, is never fight about money we decided very soon after marriage, never fight over what you don't have ! I think shared values and wanting the same things out of life is really important. Trust is one of the biggest things I believe. If you haven't got it in each other, you are doomed from day 1. Really liking each other and enjoying each others company. One day the kids will be on their own, and it will be the 2 of you again. Make time to always work on your own realtionship so when that happens it will be so great to be just the 2 of you again. That's more than one I know, and they aren't secrets just my shared thoughts. Happy 20 th !! And to all the other years here's to many many more!!
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
| melody |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 1:01:25 PM
Megan...Isn't it encouraging to know that there are marriages "out there" that are strong, loving, vibrant and lifelong--Makes me smile to hear my farmgirls secrets to success!
Melody
Farmgirl #525 |
| walkinwalkoutcattle |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 09:36:40 AM
I think this thread is one of the most beautiful threads I've seen on this forum. I'm loving it!!!
Farmgirl #2879 :)
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| Turtlemoon |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 09:17:50 AM
Happy anniversary! Love your words of advice and they are so true! Hubby and i will be celebrating 20 years on 10-10 this year. Isn't it great! Hardly feels like 20 years.... most days! :)
Raggedy Ann stuck in a Barbie Doll World
FarmGirl#1737
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| homsteddinmom |
Posted - Jun 13 2011 : 07:08:29 AM
WE have been married 20 years and all i can say is never fight about money!! once we figured out all of our misery was from fighting about money we stopped. Well its been smoother sailing since then. we rarely fight and if we do it over something stupid ya know...lol.
Homesteading Mom in East Texas. Raising chickens, Rabbits and goats here on my farm! |
| Marcy |
Posted - Jun 11 2011 : 05:44:33 AM
Congrats and wishing you many-many more! We just celebrated our 22 on June 3rd of this year.
hugs
Marcy
Farmgirl #170
Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give...Eleanor Roosevelt
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| annielaurel |
Posted - Jun 11 2011 : 04:39:10 AM
We've been married 23 years and laughter....lots of it along with much hugging and "I love you"s does it for us. My hubby retired and likes my company and I like his company, too. We are good friends and yes, communication along with laughter and not trying to change each other is very important in a relationship. Like I told my daughter when she married..."What you see is what you get and more." Accept him for who he is.
Congratulations to you. And may more happy years.
~Nancy |
| melody |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 8:01:04 PM
TX------A lot of ice-cream-YES!
Kristin---Very good advice (Rolling your eyes when he's NOT looking!)
Melody |
| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 7:34:14 PM
32 years here. And the last half of those he's been driving a truck or it would not have been that long! It helps when they aren't around that much. And I let him think he's right sometimes. And I let him think he thought of the really good ideas too. And I roll my eyes only when he's not looking.
Congrats on 20 years! I hope you have many more.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| FarmDream |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 7:04:29 PM
My DH and I have been together for 11 years now and the first person we always give credit to is God. We do our best to live by Bible principles, which include laughter, communication, respect. And a lot of icecream.
I agree with everyone else's responses, too.
~FarmDream is Farmgirl Sister #3069
Live Today, Cherish Yesterday, Dream Tomorrow
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| Dusky Beauty |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 4:44:49 PM
I'd have to say that the "secret" I've discovered by year 9 is that there is no "greener grass" so we better make the most of what we've got! It can only go downhill from here! :D
So we do all we can to show each other love each and every day.
"After eating an entire bull, a mountain lion felt so good he started roaring. He kept it up until a hunter came along and shot him. The moral: When you're full of bull, keep your mouth shut.” ~Will Rogers |
| Blessed in Colorado |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 3:34:04 PM
Melody, how is our Truman, is he being a good boy? I am sure he is still getting a lot of hugs and love.
Give him a hug from me.
Farmgirl Hugs,
Debbie
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| melody |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 3:08:44 PM
Elaine! Yep!!! Ignoring their behavior works about 90% of the time it is so TRUE! What I used to find endearing the first year or so became irritating and now I just ignore it altogether~
CJ---That's WONDERFUL 43 years?? How many married couples can say that?
When Bruce and I were first married the couple across the street from us used to fight tooth and nail almost every night and it was usually well after two in the morning when we would hear them. One evening while lying in bed trying hard not to listen to their fighting we heard "him" say "You don't love me!" and she said "Why do you say that?" and he said "'Cause you never play cards with me anymore!" I remember laughing at the time, but it has always stuck with me. So from day one we always took the time to spend even just a few minutes together "alone." We take a little drive to look at the leaves or go by the lake and just sit and be a couple. That's another good secret I'd like to share!
Thank you ladies for the congrats-Makes me smile.....
Melody |
| embchicken |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 1:43:50 PM
Congratulations on your 20th anniversary! On August 13th I will be celebrating my 23rd. Communication is key -so is just accepting and respecting that person for who they are. That being said IGNORING their behavior works about 90% of the time (LOL)!
~ Elaine
Farmgirl sister #2822
"Find yourself a cup of tea; the teapot is behind you. Now tell me about hundreds of things." ~Saki
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| tea_lady_tammy |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 1:34:06 PM
Congrat Melody,
My hubby and I will celebrate 20 as well on July 5th. We say communication and not letting the little things rule and just love, love, love on each other.
Blessings
Tammy
Tea is like being in the stars with God.
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| crafter |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 1:26:37 PM
Congratulations! That is so wonderful...enjoy each and every day with each other!
Lori |
| ceejay48 |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 12:58:32 PM
CONGRATULATIONS Melody and Bruce!!!! YAY!!!!
My hubby and I will celebrate 43 years in December. Our secrets . . . LAUGH!!! Don't sweat the small stuff!!! Pick your fights!!!
Embrace everything that make HIM who he is, who YOU are . . . and the things that each of you brings to the marriage relationship.
Some things ya' just gotta IGNORE . . . . believe me!!!
Again, CONGRATS!!
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
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| laurentany |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 12:09:26 PM
Happy 20th Anniversary Melody! I love to hear good stories like this.My DH and I will celebrate 17 years on September 24th! I agree- that communication is the key- not only to your marriage but to life in general!
Smiles,
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
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| Blessed in Colorado |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 11:14:27 AM
Congratulations Melody, hubby and I will be married 37 years August 24th, our secret is a lot like yours.
We never stop communicating and we never go to bed mad at each other, we always talk out the issue, forgive and always kiss good night and say I love you.
And, we never ever stop telling each other how much we are loved.
I wish you and your hubby many, many more anniversaries together.
Farmgirl Hugs,
Debbie
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| foreverbooks |
Posted - Jun 10 2011 : 11:08:58 AM
Congratulations on your anniversary!
Carole
Arizona Farmgirl Sister #2556 |
