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| silver3wings |
Posted - Apr 02 2011 : 7:05:24 PM
My home is a condo connected to six other condos. My building has had a lot of turnover in the past year. I try to get to know my neighbors by saying "hi" and at least trade numbers in case there is an emergency (I was on the homeowner's association board). My newest neighbor is right next door. We were both outside on our patios. So, I said, "Hi." She looked frightened and ran in the house, closing the door. That was a new one for me.
Any advice for how I might soften her up without being pushy or frightening her?
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| Farmtopia |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 11:23:17 PM
This is true; I wouldn't take it too personally. You might have just honestly startled her and she had a "knee jerk" reaction. Or, she is just not used to dealing with people for any number of reasons. I think your idea of smiling and waving and gradually moving forward would probably work!
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| ddmashayekhi |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 11:42:53 AM
Some people take a long time to warm up to strangers. I would just give friendly smiles for now and let her make the first move. Since you live in condos it is to everyone's advantage to be neighborly and hopefully she will come around to that same conclusion.
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| silver3wings |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 10:29:43 AM
Thank you all for your advice. You've given me a lot to think about. Since I do not know what she's thinking or what her past has been like, I think I'll just keep doing what I'm doing, and if I happen to see her outside I'll wave until she seems like she's warming up. Then, I might progress to saying, "Hi," again. Thank you all.
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| Simply Ann |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 09:37:58 AM
Maybe she thourght she was having a bad hair day and didn't want anyone to see her?
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| batznthebelfry |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 04:02:20 AM
I am going to tell you a story...back in the mid-1990's my doctors decided to play around with my medications for depression/bi-polar & I being who I am didn't question it & by the time I was a mess I was beyond asking for help. I became so afraid of being out of my house that I would panic just getting into the car or leaving my yard when I got the nerve to go outside. I hide from people & never answered the door because I would get so panic-y & would drop to my knees cause my legs would give out. I went thur this for 3 long years..& if I had to go somewhere I had to know days in advance just to get myself prepared for it...& sometimes that didn't work, this included going to the grocery store which no matter what was a horror for me. I used to be a high school teacher before this so being in front of people or talking to large groups never was a problem until this. A friend finally got thur to me that something was wrong but to this day even though they fixed the meds I still have to wear earplugs 24 hrs a day because I can't stand any noise, its a side effect of the meds but they work so I deal with it. she may be like I was & I can't spell it but its something like agrophobic...fear of open spaces & people in those spaces make it worse...now I am just guessing but if she did what you said I think this may be her problem & yes you will have to go very slow with her..its not you personally she is afraid of its just that she can't handle people when she is not ready for them & it puts her into a panic. What may help is for you to put a card in her mailbox introducing yourself & inviting her to have coffee/tea with you when she has a moment. This way it puts no pressure on her or you but she will now know you by name & know that you are right next to her.....Michele'
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| Annab |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 03:52:09 AM
OOPS!
That's kind of funny in a way.
It's also a new one on me too! Usually condo and apartment folks get to be pretty chummy w/ the people around them.
If it were me, I'd probably knock on the door w/ a plate of some tasty confection, and hope like anything she wasn't a diabetic.
And I agree w/ Cindy. She may have issues, so indeed, this is tricky |
| rough start farmgirl |
Posted - Apr 03 2011 : 01:46:15 AM
I agree that taking it slow may be the best course. But don;t give up, she needs your friendship more than most!
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| laurentany |
Posted - Apr 02 2011 : 7:18:11 PM
Hmmmm...that does seem strange. Perhaps it will take several times of her "seeing" you around. I would at least continue to smile at her, and play it by ear. Not sure what I would do in a situation like this. I guess it would be easy to say, just give up on her, but maybe she just needs some softening. Good luck, and do proceed with a touch of caution.
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Apr 02 2011 : 7:10:48 PM
That's an unusual one--I'd be careful, cause she might have a phobia.
Cindy
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