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| pnickols |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 04:56:04 AM
I just dropped my daughter off at school. there's a pep assembly today, the band plays, I should be there working, up until now I was the Flag Corps advisor. But no more. I got an email, not a phone call, an email, telling me someone's parent complained about how we had tryouts set up and without any discussion, questions or talk, I'm out. Just like that. I have done this for four years. I really liked it. the girls complain a lot and cause a lot of drama but I thought I was doing a fairly good job, the drama was decreasing, the squad was growing, I am still in shock. I feel so humiliated and betrayed. I've known the band director for like 15 years, how could he do this without even talking to me ? I know I'm just a supplemental employee but still...did nothing I accomplish over the last four seasons mean anything ?
I suppose everything happens for a reasonand maybe it was just time for me to move on, but this hurts |
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| pnickols |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 1:46:07 PM
thanks girls for all your support and farmgirl hugs. it means a lot to me. I just feel so betrayed and hurt. there must be a reason, maybe there is something else around the corner for me.
These girls have been difficult to handle anyway and there have been so much drama to deal with. I thought we were making headway and I was trying to teach them to behave like ladies and how to handle conflict and talk to the person who you are upset with not gossip all over school. But the band director has trained them that when things don't go like they want, they complain to him and he in turn complains to me about how I do the job. He's the problem actually.
thanks again for the support, it does make me feel better |
| edlund33 |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 1:21:01 PM
That's awful! Take it as a blessing in disguise. Either there will be a change of heart when they notice your talents are missed and they will beg you to come back. Or they are truly unprofessional people and aren't worth working with in the first place. In which case you have been given an opportunity to leave without incident rather than having them make a big commotion that further belittles your good work. Sorry you have to deal with this but keep your chin up and smile!
Cheers! ~ Marilyn
Farm Girl No. 1100
Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. - Ralph Waldo Emerson |
| HealingTouch |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 12:08:01 PM
So sorry for you. Don't blame yourself in any way. You know you did a good job so don't let them bring you down. Easy to say but I have been there also and it turned out to be a huge blessing. God is in control and He always wins! Hugs and farmsister love coming your way...Prayers too!
Be Blessed,
Darlene
Sister 1922
God first, everything else after!
When Satan's knocking at your door, just say "Jesus will you get that for me?"
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| alterationsbyemily |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 12:04:01 PM
Farmgirl hugs!
How can you run a tryout the wrong way.... seriously you get in or you don't. There was one year I was amazed I got in, dropped my flag twice on drill and did a helicopter toss instead of a stir the pot... oops
I would find out who the new instructor is and show up at every pep rally and football game, making myself known, just to scare her a bit... its a bit mean but you can always claim you are worried about the integrity of the squad.
Good Luck
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| Montrose Girl |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 11:58:26 AM
Act like you didn't get the email and go in to do your job. That will make him face what he did. That is a horrible thing to do to you. Email and text is so impersonal and becoming the easy way to handle all situations. It is very sad. Sorry you had that happen. It reminds us all that whoever is on the other end of what we have to say is a person too and has feelings and should be treated with some respect.
Hugs
Laurie
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| prayin granny |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 11:46:27 AM
So Sorry you are dealing with this. Farmgirl hugs and support!! Hope you can get some closure for yourself with this.
Blessings, Linda
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| Alee |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 11:20:43 AM
Oh my word! I am stunned at the very least that they handled this in this manner! I would be furious! And heartbroken too! *Hugs* I am so sorry that they treated you this way.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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| kathyjane |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 10:52:58 AM
Wow! How unprofessional! You should never ever fire an employee or break up with a boyfriend/girlfriend via email or text message!
Kathy Jane
Farmgirl #2565 |
| TeresaJ25 |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 10:43:39 AM
You were most likely told through email because the band director couldn't face you. It blows my mind how much power some parents have over school administrators. Most administrators would rather hurt your feelings than deal with listening to unhappy parents, regardless if their complaints have any merit. It is a shame and my heart goes out to you. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise. You know what they say... When one door closes, God opens a window.
Big, big hugs...
~Teresa
Farmgirl Sister #1348
*Anyone can criticize and complain and predict doom and gloom.
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 08:48:22 AM
That is so unfair. My girlfriend lost her job after 24 years when she asked why a new girl doing the same job was getting paid more than her. They just said it's not your business & your services are no longer needed.
It's because of things like that that I like unions. |
| Blessed in Colorado |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 08:35:14 AM
Patrica I am so sorry, that was uncalled for telling through and email, not nice. But, there must be something else around the corner for you as things happen for a reason. I know how it hurts and the pain will heal in time. You have all your Farm Girl Sisters here for you so it is great to lean on us. Have a beautiful day and do not let this get you down, pick yourself up and move on. You are a good person and you gave of yourself for 4 years, you have left a part of you with each of those girls.
Hugs, Prayers & Blessings,
Debbie
#1582
If you are lucky enough to live in the mountains you are lucky enough. |
| SusanScarlet |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 07:27:53 AM
I am so sorry this happened. One of my children is a teacher and school politics are unbelievable. Hugs. |
| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 07:07:22 AM
Yeah, that bites. I'm so sorry. From what I understand, parents are the main problem in schools...I really don't understand "why" you weren't given an opportunity to discuss this openly, or why the school didn't address this as a panel?
So sorry.
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| Penny Wise |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 07:04:29 AM
pat.. a hug...a prayer...an i'm sorry are all i can offer right now- oh! and an "it sucks!"
Farmgirl # 2139
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 06:51:07 AM
Pat,
I am SOOOOO sorry to hear this. I KNOW EXACTLY how you feel because I went through a HORRENDOUS situation in a job I had at a public school. It was a full-time job and I had given this district 9 years, 7 years in that position. In my case it was an administrator . . . and it is unbelieveable what he was allowed to do. I learned a LOT about school politics, the "good ole boys" club and the spinelessness and lack of character and integrity.
I was not the only staff member at that school who suffered at his hand and, no, there was no help from the central/district administration. I chose to leave at the end of the school year and my contract year. I worked with 3 different administrators, my last 4 years with this particular one and it was a steady downhill run. I should have left a year earlier than I did.
I wish I could offer some help, because I KNOW how that hurts. But I can pray for you and that you'll be given the wisdom you need for the direction you need to go.
Pray I will do . . .
CJ
..from the barefoot farmgirl in SW Colorado...sister chick #665
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| sherrye |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 06:17:11 AM
i agree with the girls here. i would go in and ask for an explanation. i would also want to see the parents that complained. you have a right by law to defend your actions. i hope you can get it rectified. so sorry for you. it must have been an awful thing to find in an email. so sorry for you sherry
the learn as we go silk purse farm
farm girl #1014
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 05:52:01 AM
Well, that was not right. But I hear emails are the way people are doing lots of things these days. Not right at all. I am so sorry this has happened. But if I were you I would go have a nice little chat with this fella. And soon. I would want to know exactly why this happened. And see if there is any way to rectify the situation. Because right now it's just way up in the air and here you are wondering what in the heck just happened.
Hugs, Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| Fiddlehead Farm |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 05:49:43 AM
Almost as bad as a post it note! So sorry to hear that, you must feel betrayed and confused. I am confounded by parents. It is just not fair to you. Lets see how they do without you. Sending you a hug.
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| star-schipp |
Posted - Feb 04 2011 : 05:44:13 AM
Ouch! That certainly wasn't a mature way for the band director to handle this. I have been the vice president of our PTO for the past few years and I am always amazed how often parents complain and yet never off to help. I'm so sorry for you since you enjoy this. I'll be praying for you and sending farmgirl hugs.
If you can't feed one hundred people, then just feed one. -Mother Teresa
Star - farmgirl sister #1927
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