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| CountryLisa72 |
Posted - Dec 26 2010 : 3:04:42 PM
Because I'm a very boring and I need to get a life ..I guess just working 8 hrs a day and relaxing on the weekends is a boring life. But I have been so smothed and controlled by my ex.It's all I know..
I would love to get back into the church but really not sure if I would be a good Christian(Catholic) due to the things I have done in my past..No nothing criminal just very immoral..
I love reading blogs and would love to have one of my own but how boring would that be..
I have a good idea of what I'd like my life to be like just not sure where to start..
I don't have alot of friends but would like to make more.
Thanks for letting me rant |
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| MTwoman |
Posted - Jan 11 2011 : 03:22:32 AM
It's so nice to get on here and know that other woman have same issue's in life. Just makes they day run smoother. And yes my life may be boaring to some I am say @ home mom. I home school And all those chores that us wemon do that no one notices till you don't do it lol. And yes I am gonna be 30 in few weeks here with 3 boys and WOW how life changes.But deep down I could not be happier in life my family is who I spend my time with the ones that truly matter and will always be there.And after that there is no time LMAO. Have a good one ladies no your not alone. PEACE |
| knittingmom |
Posted - Jan 05 2011 : 7:35:42 PM
Lisa I'm sorry your "friend" was so cruel she obviously didn't know you well enough to realize you are not boring.
As for the Church don't be worried to walk through those doors, you will most likely be pleasantly surprised to be welcomed into a loving family of less than perfect people who have done their share of living. We all make mistakes and our Lord and the Church welcome us as we are.
You are among friends here. Hugs.
"There is no foot so small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world" |
| msdoolittle |
Posted - Jan 05 2011 : 4:44:13 PM
This is a wonderful thread. I am very blessed to have 2 'boring' friends. One is single and works 5 days a week, and the other is a dad with 2 jobs. We do not get to hang out very often, but when we do, it is as though no time has passed. It's called a mature relationship. We don't have to entertain each other to stay friends! I just know that they are there for me and I for them. I can't imagine ever ditching a true friend because they weren't living their life the way I thought that they should!
I myself am a SAHM and my life is 'boring'. (Read: consistent and somewhat predictable. What's wrong with that???)
Anyway, Lisa, you are now among friends!
FarmGirl #1390
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Jan 05 2011 : 11:33:18 AM
Well, by now I am sure you know this person never was a friend. People who truly care for each other do not treat each other that way.I have never been a follower. I have always done my own thing and my own thinking. What I like may not be everyones cup of tea. But, then again, theirs isn't mine either. I love the fact that everyone has their own ideas and talents and loves. That is what makes the world an interesting place! Don't ever let anyone else make you feel bad because you have your own ideas, likes and dislikes. Follow your own heart and instincts, you will be the happy and fulfilled one. You are perfect for yourself and us just the way you are.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
| elilakat |
Posted - Jan 04 2011 : 11:39:53 AM
I just wanted to post my "two cents".
I think it's wonderful that your friend was so honest. Now you know that SHE'S not the person YOU want to be around.
I'm very new here and I'm very glad to know you. We may not be right around the corner from you, but we can always be here for you through cyberspace. I look forward to getting to know you much better.
*hugs*
Kara |
| Okie Farm Girl |
Posted - Jan 02 2011 : 7:08:18 PM
Well, I have been reading through all of these posts and it is gratifying to see so many women jumping in, encouraging and supporting not only Lisa, but each other!
I have to give a big "Amen" to Sherrie. Not one of us is 'boring'. We are all "fearfully and wonderfully made" by God. Read the first half of Psalm 139 and then ask yourself if you aren't special. It says that God knew us ever before we even came to be and that He surrounds us at every turn! He knows the number of our days. He knows everything about us and loves us. It doesn't matter what we've done, God asks us to just give it all up to Him as He forgives. The trick is learning to forgive ourselves. There is joy in forgiving ourselves!!
This "friend" was anything but. It's ok to just let this person be wrong. It's their loss. You have a new day to move on! I hope that you can find peace in this new year.
Mary Beth
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The Sovereign Lord is my strength - Habakkuk 3:19 |
| Country Girl 06 |
Posted - Jan 02 2011 : 6:25:58 PM
It sounds like your friend wasn't a friend to begin with. God will always forgive you as long as you ask and repent what you have done. Just pray. I promise it works. There is also a better friend waiting for you just right around the corner.
Just a girl with big dreams. |
| knitnpickinatune |
Posted - Dec 31 2010 : 6:43:07 PM
I hate to bust everyone's bubble here...but none of us are boring! We are unique,march to the sound of our inner drummer,and are libertines! Right now,after you're done reading this,I'd like for you to write down 5 things you're thankful for-and be sure one or two of them is a talent or positive trait that is yours. Start doing this daily. Also-as you're going into a new chapter of your life,there's a book by Sarah Ban Breathnach called "moving on"....get a copy of that and her other book "Simple abundance". You should be able to find these books used on eBay for a very reasonable price. I've lost friends too for not going with their "agenda" but that is their loss.
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| prairie_princess |
Posted - Dec 31 2010 : 4:27:22 PM
I just love this post, how all you gals band together to lift Lisa up! I consider myself a fairly boring person... i'm merely a housewife and i don't have any kids to take up my time. but i love what i do, taking care of my husband, garden, helping him make our home our dream home, and learning new farmgirl hobbies all the time. i know how you feel about the friend issue... i had to break of a 16 year friendship this year. i guess i was on the other end of your situation, but it wasn't easy for me to do. i feel that if anyone breaks off a relationship, it's for the betterment of both sides. one person is not happy for whatever reason... why go on with it? this is your opportunity to grow wings and find out what you want. and you've already said you're interested in connecting with the church... that's great! what a great stepping stone to move on from that heartbreak.... i wish you all the luck in the world and hang in there!
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| abbysshadow |
Posted - Dec 31 2010 : 4:18:08 PM
I am also in the "boring" club...I love my life...Some kinds of excitement are highly overrated. It is New Year's Eve and I will probably be asleep before midnight... Friends are in our lives for a reason or a season...I don't know of the reason she may have been in your life, but it sounds like your friend's season expired :) Have a wonderful new year with your own kind of excitement, Sherry 
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| Simply Ann |
Posted - Dec 31 2010 : 1:12:10 PM
Lisa, I'm in the boring club, If you need a boring friend please email me.
There is no set path, follow your heart stay the course. |
| cajungal |
Posted - Dec 31 2010 : 06:21:18 AM
Lisa, right now you have 2 pages full of friends! I "infinity-ditto" everything they've said.
Although most of us are separated geographically, our farmgirl hearts stretch far and wide.
Blessings!!
Catherine
One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt." |
| Lady Woodworker |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 6:16:10 PM
There are a lot of powerful stories here, Lisa.
To me, it looks like you have started a wonderful thread of honest sharing. Nothing boring about that. Far from it. You are inspiring!
I am very sad for you and like many others here I have been in your shoes where false friends are concerned. I promise that you will come out the other side and you will be better for it.
Like you, I have also stepped away from the church, partly out of guilt (for forgetting to accept God's forgiveness) and partly out of stubbornness. Long story. I'm working on it. In any case, I can empathize.
And I agree, boring is good. Actually, I find that boring tends to be a whole lot more fun and satisfying than "exciting." Exciting is nice while riding a roller coaster or watching a movie but no way would I want it in everyday life.
I hope you feel better---and know that you are among many, REAL friends.
Warmly,
Karen
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| missusprim |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 2:21:56 PM
Cheer up, Lisa........boring is a wonderful place to be! A person or friend doesn't have to be exciting to be worthy of companionship. So find yourself a like minded soul and enjoy life. Frankly, I prefer my own company. I have long time friends who live far away that now have more of a life than I do......and I'm fine with that. My DH is a lot like me, and we laugh about how 'lifeless' we are.
I'm sorry your 'friend' said what she did. Seems like her aim was to belittle you and glorify her own lifestyle over yours. At any rate, never look down on yourself because you're different than someone else.
So give us farm girls a shout out and we'll surely cheer you up! |
| Room To Grow |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 2:00:13 PM
Lisa, This has happened to me as well. And I am better off without that person. And you will be better off without her. I am a home body and love being by myself. Dont get me wrong, I do have friends and I socialize. But my alone time is important to me so I dont go crazy...lol. Keep a smile on your face...
Deborah
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| Dorinda |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 12:51:55 PM
Lisa, That happened to me one time when I was younger. My best friend ditched me. I want get into a long story. But I will tell you I was heart broken. I cried about it the first week. Then I got really mad. But after a while I did not miss her at all. I look at it that she is the one that lost a good friend not me. Because if she was any type of friend she would of never done what she did. Because I was very good to her. I even gave her a job in our office when she was down and out one time to help her and her husband out. That has been about 12 to 15 years ago. I now have lots of friends. We meet every Monday for lunch about 10 of us. Not long ago she happened to come in to where we were eating. I could tell she was really jealous. She has not
one friend that I know of. She lives about 2 miles down the road from me. We went to school together. I bet she really misses me!!!!
Seize The Day!
Dorinda |
| pinkroses |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 12:44:57 PM
Okay, I too am sorry your ex friend was mean to you
Maybe it was time to let her go
I too have no " best friends"
It is good we have each other here and on Face book
I agree that being a loner has its advantages.
Hoping you will find what you truly need. hugs sheila
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| Laila |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 09:43:30 AM
Lisa,
I lead a boring life too and I love it!!! Please go back to church - whichever one you find where you feel at home. And remember - there is nothing and I mean NOTHING that you could ever do to make God stop loving you. We are all sinners but we know that no matter what happens God loves us unconditionally.
Laila |
| Wildcrafter |
Posted - Dec 28 2010 : 09:21:45 AM
"I would love to get back into the church but really not sure if I would be a good Christian(Catholic) due to the things I have done in my past..No nothing criminal just very immoral.."
If God went by that, then we'd all be in hell. From what I can figure out, it's not about what we've done. When we repent, He forgives and our sins are forgotten. We have a new chance to be the woman God put us on the earth to be. Each and every day.
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| texdane |
Posted - Dec 27 2010 : 4:08:54 PM
Lisa, darlin, that girl who doesn't want to be your friend is not a true friend. Don't be so hard on yourself. You don't sound boring at all. Your friend sounds judgemental and not someone I'd waste a second thought on. I have made lots of friends here on the forum, and many close ones when I started a local chapter. This is a good place to start. Sending you a hug, I'm sorry someone was so mean to you.
Nicole
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| MrsRooster |
Posted - Dec 27 2010 : 08:27:03 AM
I am really sorry that your friend has this attitude. I understand as I am a homebody.
You could look for another church. Don't concern yourself so much what kind it is. Go where you are comfortable. God loves you no matter what. If you have asked forgiveness for your past, then it is past.
Have a wonderful day.
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| FebruaryViolet |
Posted - Dec 27 2010 : 08:26:06 AM
I think a true "friend" would let a friend be whomever they are, unless of course, it's self destructive. Sounds like she's the one with the issues...
There are plenty of similarly "boring" (if that's what the kids are callin' it now  ) gals on this forum you can commune with--and I don't think we're at ALL boring!!!
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| treelady |
Posted - Dec 27 2010 : 07:59:11 AM
Well said Nini, and how true! Lisa, you have many friends on this forum and I for one do boring stuff most of the time. Marcia, I take baked goods donations :)
Julie
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| Marcia30 |
Posted - Dec 27 2010 : 07:08:19 AM
I am boring too!! And i love it!!! I don't work i stay at home with my kids and when they go to school and my hubby goes to work i am all alone and boring and it is great. I actually have no friends. I just have family i talk to. My husband always say when it comes down to it you can only count on your family. Friends will always let you down or leave bu your family will always be there. All you have is family.
Snowed in with nothing to do but bake! I am gonna get soooo faaaaattt. LOLOLOLOLO
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| sherrye |
Posted - Dec 27 2010 : 06:42:52 AM
i am sad for you. i think nini said its more her problem than yours. what matters to me in life is how I am doing? am i happy? what matters is how you feel. i was dumped by a friend. she was needy and i was not fulfilling her needs. so find new ones and enjoy how you choose to live. just a thought happy days sherrye
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