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| pinkroses |
Posted - Nov 14 2009 : 09:30:21 AM
Oct was really a bad month for me
I was wondering if one could turn back the clock
Would you?
What would you do?
Sometimes , I think /
what if I married the other guy that asked me?
I know where I would be living.
but, not what it would be like
other things too.
so.
If you could turn the clock back would you.
how would you make things different?
hugs sheila
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| EastTXFarmgirl |
Posted - Nov 28 2009 : 6:22:59 PM
I would not change a thing. There have been many mistakes down lifes road and many disappointments but had it not been for the mistakes and the disappointments my life may not be what it is today. Had I not married my 1st husband would I have met my wonderful husband I have today? Had I chosen to have more than one child would I have the wonderful relationship I have with he and his wife that I have today? Had I not been rude to the store worker when I thought I was having a bad day would I have seen the pain in her eyes and would I have vowed to never do that again? Life is full of choices. Sometimes we make bad choices but if we change any one of those choices what else would we change? No I can say with strong confidence I would not change one moment of my life. Not one.
Begin each morning with a song in your heart. |
| StarMeadow |
Posted - Nov 28 2009 : 4:58:46 PM
I would have gone into the Peace Corps, to Nepal, when I had the chance, instead of worrying about things beyond my control at home. |
| momshopsalotta |
Posted - Nov 27 2009 : 5:05:38 PM
If I could turn back the clock I would realise how wonderful my parents were to me and how I should have not held back my hugs and kisses never realizing neither would get to really know me and never meet their grandchildren. I wish I had the answers to all the questions my children ask me about them. |
| hotmamaj |
Posted - Nov 27 2009 : 4:40:38 PM
I wouldn't want to change a thing.
But if I could turn back time to just sit and visit with my Father ... I miss him so much.
I would snuggle and kiss my children like when they were babies. To feel their lil hands in mine how much I miss that,to brush my daughters hair and have mine brushed by her, to snuggle on a cold winters morning on a snow day knowing there is hot cocoa and toast waiting for me to get up. Just to visit a place in time.
Thank You Pinkroses you have just given me a special gift.
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| mommatracy |
Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 5:16:02 PM
I blew off a 4 year scholarship to get married at 18. Would change that.
Instead of moving to the coast, wish I had stayed in my farm house back home.
I loved living at the beach the first several years but now I don't care. Would rather go back.
I am over it.
Would not have been my daughters " best friend" when they were growing up. They had friends. I should have been more just mom. I think sometimes when you try to be their friends and get more on their level you lose their respect as a parent.On their level meaning that I was tooooo understanding and ready to take them,give them,do for them, anything that could make their lives easier, happier... very stupid of me. They really don't take you as serious as they should and it really causes conflict. You can argue with your friends but you shouldn't argue so easily with your parents. Did far more for them than we should have. Big Mistake. Would change my parenting big time.
Youngest daughters drama and problems has forever altered our family.
Would never let that happen if I had a do-over. The Drama Continues.
Would certainly live more simple. Pretty sick of all the stuff I didn't need all these years.
Miss Sunshine is signing off......
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~Trust in the Lord...but row away from the rocks~ |
| pinkroses |
Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 2:47:16 PM
You know I think most of us ; me included are rather happy with the way things are today; expect a few things.
I know that the doctor can release a form; but I don't know if his boss will take him back
Nephew said his boss was afriad that if he hurt his arm again while working he would sue him.
No,
I don't have a degree in music,
I learned to play the piano and read music in my late 30's
I still can't play some of the notes that are harder.
I play a lot of easy classic and hymns music ; some of the older rock.
My new Master bedroom is 13" by 17 so it is pretty big
and I get it and the Master bath to myself
Hubby snores and I can't sleep long ,
Have to be up and in the bathroom and in pain at night etc.
hugs sheila
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| Faransgirl |
Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 08:33:59 AM
There is not much I would change. I guess just the debt things like so many others. I would also have held out for my farm house 16 years ago when me moved back from Scotland. I wanted one but were in so much of a hurry to get the kids back in school I finally settled for the burbs. I have never been happy with the neighborhood or the house. I am very happy with DH, kids etc just being in a city like this is stressful. We live in the neighborhood where all the Nasa people live. From astranauts to engineers. Way to much I have to be better than the neighbors. We aren't even allowed by the housing association to have a clothes line. I do but they can't see it from the street. My neighbor has turned me in a couple time. But I just keep putting it back up. I would just insist on living in the country if I could change anything oh, and the debt thing.
Farmgirl Sister 572
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| Annab |
Posted - Nov 17 2009 : 03:52:59 AM
I may not have married my first husband had I not been so lonesome and desperate and so far from home.
This mistake is one I learned from no doubt, but it also made me a stronger person, made me solidify my values and boundaries and also brought me directly where God knew I wanted to be all along, and to the wonderful husband and lifestyle of my heart's desire.
I often think about a few relationship that I wish could have been taken a bit further...just to see what would have happened, but ultimately, there would have been internal unrest and trouble.
So kind of strange and incredibly humbling to see how it really all pans out in the end.
I have the man, acerage, dog and access to my family.... ALL of which were personal goals many, many years ago. All obtained and met.
So these days the rest is just icing on the cake
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 4:36:53 PM
CJ:
Do you have a Music Degree?
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
| 1badmamawolf |
Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 4:05:24 PM
Sheila, the dr who did the surgery should be able to give him a release to go back to work when hes healed and ready, in the meantime he should be able to collect state disability.
"Treat the earth well, it was not given to you by your parents, it was loaned to you by your children" |
| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 2:32:56 PM
Ouch I hope you nephew heals quickly, A piano in the bedroom has to be wonderful. I can't even fit a dresser in my bedroom.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
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| pinkroses |
Posted - Nov 16 2009 : 11:24:09 AM
One of the reasons I asked this question was ;
I had my brother and his son to move my piano from the garage to my Master bedroom a few weeks past.
hubby , and they got the piano in there without mishap
except at the end
they wanted to push the piano back closer to the wall
My nephew had unknownily put his left arm behind the piano
and the piano hadn't been moved yet
but pop!
His left arm went
He had pulled a muscle in his arm
He had surgery done on it this past Thursday
the doctor said every thing looked fine
However.
the people who he worked for will not let him come back to work for them
He puts in satelites
and he loved the job.; he put ours in
His boss was afraid that my nephew would sue him if he went back to work and it wasn't healed right and got hurt again
I feel so bad for my nephew
I took care of him a lot when he was little
I cried and cried over this
He didn't blame me ;but I wish I could turn the clock back and change that
also
bad things that happened to me , and those I love.
I would like to change things like that.
I should have told you all that earlier. hugs sheila
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| Room To Grow |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 3:38:18 PM
I think if we change anything about what we have been through we wouldnt be who we are today. It would have been nice to have know my Father. I met my step mother and she is a wonderful christian woman. And she told me that my father loved me dearly and would have loved to have raised me. My Mother moved us around alot to keep me from him. He looked...but only one time found me and then just a few weeks after I spoke to him we moved again. An another thing I think I would have done was to become a yoga instructor and started a farm sooner than later. And be self sufficent by now. But we are where we are supposed to be. God has a purpose for us....And we must do as he askes.
Deborah
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| herblady55 |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 2:26:54 PM
Remember, It's A Wonderful Life, when Clarence the angel says, "We don't know how our decisions affect so many other people!?"...or something to that affect.I'm paraphrasing of course, but that's so true for me. If I hadn't gotten married in 1975 I could have stayed with my Great-Granny, who could have then stayed in her little house she was comfortable in, instead of her being shipped around from relative to relative for 11 years until she died. I wasn't ready for marriage yet anyhow. I just wanted to work, stay home with mom and dad and wait til I was ready. But my parents wanted to sell the old homeplace and travel because daddy retired that year. I was in the way of their plans. I had to get out, move on, it was time(their words).Great-Granny lived beside us for years and we always watched out for her.So I ended up divorced in 11 years anyhow. I gave it that long before I stood up and said, ENOUGH! Then I was single for 20 years when I met my DH and was FINALLY ready to marry.But, do you see what I mean? So many peoples lives changed because of that one thing. I would change that one thing. Who knows what it would have done for our family!
Judy
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 1:10:41 PM
I would change the way I parented, and really live in the country instead of pretending. Do not get me wrong, I am so blessed. My daughter and my husband are wonderful and both strong Christians. I love my home. But I could have done better, and I am going to probably go to my maker never having really lived on a farm.
Farmgirl Sister # 31
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| knittingmom |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 11:58:54 AM
I would have taken steps to become debt free shortly after our marriage and stayed that way. I would have chosen to live simply at that time and if we had a want, save for it and pay cash.
"There is no foot so small that it cannot leave an imprint on this world" |
| Mikki |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 11:44:54 AM
I would selfishly like to turn back time to spend more time with loved ones. If I did anything different it would be "not worry about things that don't matter" and " do more things that would have eternal value, things that really make a difference"
~~Blessings, Mikki Jo
"Courage is being scared to death... but saddling up anyway" ***John Wayne
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 10:30:49 AM
I would of had 3 or 4 children, I have 2 wonderful sons now. I would of taught special need children in a school system.I would of stayed in the Army reserves, and I would of married my high school sweet-heart.
Thankfully I have a good husband now, I did love my job taking care of special needs kids, it would of been nice to have holidays & week-ends off. I would of been sent to desert storm so it may be a good thing I got out when I did. My highschool honey raised a lion, has several dogs & critters. I'm happy with my DH who is allergic to animals.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| Alee |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 08:57:08 AM
I think the thing I would most like to change is not always sticking classes at college out till the end. I have set myself back years by washing out of certain classes that I could have managed (Hindsight is 20/20 or so they say) But I love my life and the people I have met along the way. Maybe I needed to stick around so long in Idaho to meet two of the most influential people in my life- MaryJane (and her family!) and my virtually adopted second mother Nancy Wight. I am still not done changing and learning but I love the direction and I headed in! There are always going to be little regrets- not calling someone enough, being snappish to someone because I had a bad day, not thinking before I speak etc. But like I said I love my life's direction right now and I try to live every day to minimize those little regrets.
Alee
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| pinkroses |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 08:16:14 AM
It was interesting to read your replies
you know my life isn't so bad ; expect a few personal things,
I cannot change
I saw one of my dreams come true.
Sometimes,
Life can send us stuff we wish we could go back and change.
Though we may not can change some things ;
we can change the way we think and feel ;maybe.
sometimes, I wish I could go back and change things that have happened
But, I know they have happened for a reason.
Sometimes,
it is hard to understand why things happened the way they did to one.
hugs sheila
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 04:48:13 AM
I would so love to go back to when my girls were going into their teenage years. I think I did a great job when they were little all the way through middle school. But something happened when they got to high school. They just went wild. My hubby was hardly ever here. I think he planned it that way. He is a truck driver. But looking back there are so many things I would do differently now if I had the chance. I know kids are going to do things anyway. I just wish I had been more prepared for it. My DD Abby went through so many bad things and now her past is catching up to her. She hasn't done anything wrong in several years now and has been working and going to school. Trying to get a good job. But it seems her past has caught up with her. There are still some things on her record that keep popping up. She will not be free of them for another year now. I know a lot of what they both did was not my fault. But still, it hurts when things like this happen. It will get better for her. I just wish we all could do that part of life over.
Kris
Happiness is simple. |
| Cindy Lou |
Posted - Nov 15 2009 : 03:29:52 AM
I would change little in my life.
I would not change my bout with cancer. I found it changed my perspective on life and what was important. We take so much for granted, the love of family, the kindness of friends, the fact that each day is a gift from God and should be lived with joy. I took early retirement a year later and DH and I are closer than ever.
I do wish though, I had spent more time with my parents as an adult and shared their grandchildren with them more. I miss them often now that dad has been gone 11 years and mom for 3. We lived about 100 miles away but could have gotten there more often!
"You can't roller skate in a buffalo herd.....
But you can be happy if you've a mind to. All you've gotta do in knuckle down, buckle down and do it, do it, do it!" |
| dutchy |
Posted - Nov 14 2009 : 11:23:35 PM
I would have stood up to my mom too. Would have (maybe) get married. At least dated and go to visit girlfriends, and go to the shopping centre with friends instead of always with mom. Would have moved out at maybe 18 and start living MY life. OH and way more would be different now. But then again, I would propably be the same person as I am now so nothing woud be different...
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| ceejay48 |
Posted - Nov 14 2009 : 6:42:46 PM
There isn't much I'd want to change. My life growing up on a farm was the best . . . my husband is the best (we will celebrate 41 yrs. in December) . . . my kids are spectacular.
I have had jobs that were SO-O-O-O stressful, one I even hated . . .but those were learning experiences.
I think the one thing I would change is I would have gone on and completed nurses training. I was headed in that direction and then decided to major in music. Now, I often wish I had done that . . .but I don't want to go there now!
Life has been hard, it has been challenging . . .but the Lord has been good and He has been faithful!!!
I AM GRATEFUL FOR MUCH!!!
CJ
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| knitnpickinatune |
Posted - Nov 14 2009 : 6:42:02 PM
Hmmmm....that's a thought provoking question! I would've stood up to my mom and dated the man I considered to be my one true love (but we never got to date....overcontrolling manipulative mother had to interfere....
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