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| goneriding |
Posted - Aug 26 2009 : 4:44:10 PM
Short answer: H*ll, no.
Hubby's short answer: Only if she has big hooties.
Winona 
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| 25 L A T E S T R E P L I E S (Newest First) |
| grace gerber |
Posted - Sep 03 2009 : 10:31:38 AM
I found my husband when I was 17 years old - we married 5 years later. I had two wonderful sons with him and 13 years ago he passed. After that I was not willing to have another man tell me or my sons how to live life nor was I up for more in-law issues, blending famlies and such. My sons and I started this farm with no background just a desire to start over. I love my life and I think I am way too independent for most men. When I moved out here all the ladies thought I was after a man or their man - Give me a BREAK - I was not the least bit interested. Now some might think it strange but I have never been on a date since my husband passed and in fact the last date I had was in 1977 - I guess it just is not an issue. I am old enough to never say never on anything but I sure have my sights on other things. I guess the only thing I could use a man for is doing the ladder work around the farm - I can hire that.
Good Luck for those who are looking and good luck for those who are not
Grace Gerber
Larkspur Funny Farm and Fiber Art Studio
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Sep 02 2009 : 7:01:27 PM
My absolute answer is No. I have always said a marriage is one time deal for me...no matter how it ends, Scott holds a large piece of my heart, if not all. I couldn't replace that, no matter what.
Heather
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| MeadowCrone |
Posted - Aug 31 2009 : 10:13:42 AM
Kris' comment on the first page had me rolling on the floor with laughter. Kris I am with you, I think the Amazonian women had the right idea.
No seriously, this is my second marriage, first one lasted 20 years and was miserable. My husband is so good to me and my 9 kids. He is more a dad to them than my ex ever was, or is. Would I do it again? No. I enjoy being alone, as much as I love DH. But...never say never.
Gratefully living on the "fat of the land". |
| Room To Grow |
Posted - Aug 30 2009 : 7:20:17 PM
Well I have to say NO!!!! The reason is I have a great hubby now. And we have only be married for 6 yrs. But I dont think I could find anyone that could be as good as he is. He has issues..but what man doesnt. So I consider him my train wreck....and I think I would be better alone than to try to find anyone else.
Deborah
we have moved to our farm...and love it |
| jinia |
Posted - Aug 30 2009 : 5:11:54 PM
Wow this thread is an awesome read!
Kris - That would be perfect - 500 square feet! Man that would be sweet.
Cherry - My sister did the samething! She and her husband divorced and a couple of years later they reunited. I was as far from thrilled as you could get but I'm slowly warming up to it. Not my bussiness anyway
Marcia- Exactly! Its not that I don't love him very much but I can hardly stand to live with him. My dream to live next to each other....ahhhhhhhhh that would be amazing.... |
| vintagediva1 |
Posted - Aug 29 2009 : 2:14:10 PM
I was married to my high school sweetheart and soulmate for 32 years. We loved each other as much the day he died as we did on our wedding day. I have 3 great kids and terrific memories of the best husband ever. Although I have now been widowed for 10 years I know there is no sense in even looking as any other man would come up short.
I have managed to make a pretty good life for myself since Ken went to be with the Lord and although it is not the life I expected to have I give thanks every day for the road ahead
Michele
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| goneriding |
Posted - Aug 29 2009 : 05:23:23 AM
A hot fireman, huh?? Well, will always leave that possibility open! In actuality, real life, nope, no way but it's fun to think about a hot fireman....
Winona :-)
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| MissLiss |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 6:13:55 PM
You know, my husband deployed to Iraq 2 years ago (how terrible that guys have been going over there so long) and before his deployment we had to fill out all the papers...wills, power of attorney papers, etc. I had never really thought about it until then. I think that I would remarry eventually. I don't know how long it would take me to find someone that could "step in and fill those shoes", but I would always be open to the possibility. I think it would be hard to turn down a hot fireman ready to sweep me off to Hawaii (daughter in tow, of course :-) )! I guess in all seriousness, I'd say that I would keep my mind and my heart open to the possibility of a new love, but I really believe that my husband is the ONE for me and I would be happy with having as much time together as we did...however long that was in this fictional situation! Did that make sense?
Melissa
Use it up,
Wear it out,
Make it do,
Or go without! |
| sewgirlie |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 4:52:30 PM
Been married twice myself. The first one ended with his death at 31 (of cancer). Swore I would never, ever, ever do it again (He was not a nice man or good husband and his family??? I know Satan lives and has siblings!) BUT... this marriage is so good and I am blessed. So. one horror story and one fairy tale...I could not trust a third time around since it would probably be something in the middle. I do love being married though.
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http://downtoearthliving.blogspot.com/ |
| Celticheart |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 1:59:46 PM
quote:
Originally posted by jinia
I love my husband but I sure wish we could afford to each have a small house next to (okay an acre over from) each other.
OK....this is so funny. One of my sisters has told me this twice. One day we were sitting at her house having coffee and she said she was thinking about buying the house across the street which happened to be for sale. I asked her why she and Gary wanted to move...just across the street. She said not for the two of them, just for her. She said "I love the man, I just can't stand to live with him." The next time that house was for sale she told me the same thing.
No I would not get married again. I'm on #2. We've been together 23 years, married for 20 and he is great. He's also 12 years younger than me. I just wouldn't ever do it again. My friends and I have a pact. We will not let any of us ever remarry. Whoever posted about women over the age of 50 remarrying are just signing up to be a caretaker or nursemaid has it right, I think. I'm not saying I wouldn't date, travel with or spend time with a man, just not marry.
It's not about being perfect, but enjoying what you do. Set aside time to be creative.
Robyn Pandolph
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| Faransgirl |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 10:50:12 AM
Not no but H E double hockey sticks NO. Been married to a great guy 32 years but I would never, ever do it again.
Farmgirl Sister 572
May the force of the horse be with you. |
| Betty J. |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 10:43:11 AM
Well, Caron, I had better get praying about my loneliness. My ex has been married twice since we divorced. He couldn't live alone. I've been alone for 16 years and would like to have some company. However, I don't want to share a lot of things that I have acquired in my singleness and I would expect the same from him. So, in short, I probably wouldn't get married--although a DGF of mine says the fourth time is the charm!
I guess I would go with the person who said that he would have to have his own money. After three divorces--half of nothing is still nothing.
Betty in Pasco |
| lisamarie508 |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 10:28:57 AM
I love reading about those of you who got the right one. Whether it's your first go-round or not. Mary Jane, I'm really impressed! 45 years is practically unheard of, anymore.
I also love reading everybody else's reasons for NOT doing it again as it makes me feel better in my own decision to stay single in that I'm not the only woman that feels that way. Mary Jane and Judy really hit the nail on the head about how I feel. I don't want to have to cater to anybody else, pick up their dirty laundry, cook, clean, lose control of the tv remote, basically lose my independence, again. And, territorial is the perfect word for it for how I'm feeling about my house lately. I don't want to share my space with anybody but my dogs, anymore. I like the way I'm getting things set up and everything is in it's place (I can find what I want, when I want it!) and my house stays clean without much effort. IF, and that's a BIG IF, somebody ever comes along that really knocks my socks off...separate residences is perfect!
Linda, there's no such thing as being TOO old fashioned as there is nothing wrong with being old fashioned at all. If that is what makes you happy then, I think it is just wonderful!
Farmgirl Sister #35
"If you can not do great things, do small things in a great way." Napoleon Hill (1883-1970)
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| HeatherAnn |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 10:27:09 AM
i could only do it if my husband died. but if he did I run right out and get another! I love having my 'Other Half'. I believe that we as women were created to be helpmeets or helpers and nothing in my life has been more fulfilling than being a helper to my husband. I could go on and on about how beautiful my life has become since I've started serving my husband and others and not being wrapped up in myself and 'independant'.
and there's this one little story that really wraps it up serving and loving and being joyful for my husband:
so this couple was heading for divorce. things had gotten stale and all there was in the home was ill will and anger. the woman went to a divorce lawyer to start all the paperwork without her husband knowing. She told the lawyer that she wanted this to be so awful for her husband. he had hurt her in so many ways and she just wanted the perfect revenge. So her lawyer told her to spend the next three months being sweet, and kind and sexy and nurturing and loving. Be the kind of woman he fell in love with in the first place. When those divorce papers were all in order and ready to go he would never know what hit him. So, that's what she did. What she didn't expect was that her DH reciprocated all those wonderful feelings and loving gestures even though they came with bad intentions. And they ended up falling head over heels in love again. She ditched her divorce lawyer and they stayed married and were so happy.
Now, I don't know if this is true. But, since I heard that a few years ago, when things are getting a little stale around here, I try my best to be the girl my DH fell in love with. and in no time we're all smiles and kisses. of course, I can't manage this everytime, especially when things are really hard. But, I'm working on it! I just can't imagine how dull life would be without a best friend and play mate :) If my DH were to pass away, I'd jump right back up on that wagon.
Heather Ann
Apartment Farmgirl
"You got to look at all the good on one side and all the bad on the other and say 'Well, alright then.'" - Aunt Eller, Oklahoma
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| peapicker |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 09:14:50 AM
No, I don't think I would ever want to.
Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.
Robert Brault |
| Linder |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 09:09:03 AM
I am currently with the love of my life. I have been married and divorced and have a wonderful 20 yr. old daughter. WOuld I marry again? In a heartbeat when he asks me. I have never been loved so beautifully by anyone in my life. We just bought a little victorian fixer-upper together so this would indicate to me that we're in it for the long haul.
I'm not in any great rush but really look forward to when we make it official.
Is that too old fashioned?
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"
www.mylusciousjourney.blogspot.com |
| junkjunkie |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 08:59:48 AM
I never married...but had a few long term relationships. That was a while ago, though. I really never felt the desire to marry and I have no regrets. I've been on my own...apartment for 20 years, and now a house for over six years. I'm very set in my ways and don't want someone to encroach my territory! Lol! ;) If I got into a major relationship now, ideally we would have our separate residences and just get together when we want.
"To have life in focus, we must have death in our field of vision." Benedictine monk John Main |
| 5 acre Farmgirl |
Posted - Aug 28 2009 : 08:36:24 AM
Not now, I am 52, but, 20 years ago when we got reamarried, probably....It is wonderful if both give and take....
Farmgirl Sister #368
"It is most common for man to value most what has least worth."
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 8:06:56 PM
No I wouldn't marry again. I have been with my husband for 45 yrs. married for 43. I wouldn't want to have another man. He is a wonderful man, I don't think anyone else could match up. Also for the practiclity. I would not want to loose the retirement pension or SS. I am too independant and like going where I want when I want. I like my own home and wouldn't want to have anyone else around.I sure wouldn't want to be picking up after anyone else or catering to anyones needs and wants but my own.Might sound selfish but it's honest. I hope we are together for many many more years, We are only 60 and 63. So hopefully that will be true. But, I would for sure not want to marry again. Once is enough.
MJ
There can be no happiness if the things we believe in are different from the things we do. Freya Stark |
| khartquilt |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 5:38:33 PM
I married my first when I was 22. Had my daughter when I was 23. Divorced the *&^$$# when I was 25.
I was single for 18 years. Fell head over heel with Jeff. We will be married 5 years next month.
This one is a keeper. If anything ever happens to him I will never marry again!
Kathy H
Farmgirl Sister #81
"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world..." (anomymous)
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| goneriding |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 5:36:58 PM
Wow! I hadn't any idea this post would go so long! But I loved reading all the replies...which made me want to say a little bit more about my situ.
I have a rotten picker-outer also but somehow this time, I picked a good 'un. A little over 3 years marries and about 7 all told. But someone mentioned that to remarry and deal with inlaws and step-kids that would probably hate you, THAT is exactly why I wouldn't. I wouldn't mind having guy friends to go out with but that would be it, just friendship.
Actually, I'm kind of a loner anyway and enjoy my company so in addition to the above, add this in too. Just flat can't see getting married again.
Winona ;-)
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| Diane B Carter |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 4:44:58 PM
Ist time I had children, very bad marriage I left for the safety of our 2 boys. #2 I married because I thought my sons needed a male roll model. I divorced as he turned out to be a very bad role model, we still loved each other but I choose my kids over him. #3 I still feel thankful he in our lives. He has 1 or 2 little faults but he is a good man My sons like him a lot and he will eat anything I put on his plate, he's just thankful I made dinner. He has 3 girls and for the most part we all get along. Would I do it again?? I said no after #1 and #2 so this time I'll say yes, if he is as good or better than this one who I will be with for the rest of my life and knowing that makes us both happy.
Hope all your days are Sunnydays.
dianebcarterhotmailcom.blogspot.com |
| frannie |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 3:49:17 PM
i have to agree with kay and lisa, cause i think sometimes my picker outer has a problem....i have been married most of my life, with 2 marriages under my belt.
i always tell husband #2 we have been married 18 years now, which amounts to about 9 of the happiest years of my life. .....we wont talk about the other 9 years!!!hehehehehehe
love
frannie in texas
home of "green"crafts,
where no scrap is left behind
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 1:41:49 PM
Nope - absolutely not! I'm on #3, and like Lisa, my picker outer is not good. I like being by myself and doing what I want, when I want.
The Rustic Cottage Blog http://therusticcottage.blogspot.com
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| Futters |
Posted - Aug 27 2009 : 1:04:40 PM
Heck yea I would remarry again. Been divorced for 12 years and have not dated as my priority has been raising a beautiful and busy daughter. When she is stable and on her own, then I'm looking for Mr. Right with some $$$$$$. I married for love the first time ('cause god knows he didn't have any money), so I ain't going there again. (HEE HEE)
Have a good day!
Michelle
Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity.
http://thetatteredquiltcottage.blogspot.com/ |
