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| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 7:31:15 PM
well .. OTHER than THAT!
goodness! are any of you having as much 'trubble' as i am trying to figure out what GIFTS to get for the 'men' in your life as i am??? i swear .. i go through this every year!
when they have a hobby or want something for the 'farm' .. that is sometimes an easy one .. but .. if they don't particularly have a hobby .. and buy whatever they want for themselves ..
OH .. and i DON'T buy clothes for others ... don't ever ever ever want anyone pickin' and choosin' clothes for me! (o.k. .. a little 'side story' here from my ungrateful self!!) i think my husband, my ex-husband and my 'wife-in-law' were gittin' a little tired of seeing me in my 'uniform' .. consisting of my cut-off osh-kosh overalls .. summertime with my 'pale peeled-potato shade of white skinny little legs dangling from the frayed cut-off bottoms ... to my winter 'uniform' .. SAME cut-off osh koshes by goshes! only, worn with those stripedly leggins and leg-warmers .. with sandals with my toes hangin' out of 'em .. even in the snow! sooooooooooo .. they all decided to 'surprise' me and went on a shopping spree for me and bought me lots and lots of those shorts and long-pants and short-sleeved 'polo' shirts with that stupid little pony logo on them .. in sickly little pale pinks, greens and turquoise colors.
oh dear gawd! you'd think between TWO husbands .. they would know me by now!!! when i opened that big box of very 'not me' clothes .. i just WAILED ... and the 'demon-child' that lurks within .. caused my head to spin around at warp speed as i'm sure 'pea soup' spewed from my nostrils .. and i declared in a VERY LOUD voice .. that 'these pansy-(expletive deleted) little dinky dainties WILL BE turned into mighty fine dust rags by the first rays of sunlight on the morrow .. and proceeded to suggest: you MIGHT want to consider taking them back immediately .. if not sooner! (WELL .. needless to say .. they have never, ever attempted to buy me clothes ever, ever again!)
and so, i don't do the same (buy clothes for others).
whew! .. i think (after that little trip down memory lane) ... i am now back to 'somewhat sanity' and my dilemma!
between the ages of 20 to grandpa age (when you can give framed photos of the grandkids .. unless grampa happens to already have twenty trillion of those!)
and ohhhhhhh say ... between 20 and a hundred dollars! WHAT do men want?
gittin' desperate here! i need your halp!!! (oh .. and did i mention .. i don't 'do' clothes???) xo, frannie
True Friends, Frannie |
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| JO AND AL |
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 11:53:39 AM
oops guess i did boo boo posted it twice oh oh sorry
i thought love was all you needed? courage is needed too! |
| JO AND AL |
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 11:52:04 AM
 betty jo i haven't been on here in a long time can't even remember the last time. i tuned in a bit last night. well!woo is me~ we are trying to work on this marriage now, oh my! maybe making a big mistake? but, well guess maybe it is meant to be having a hard time though forgetting what was done to me. he is seeking counsilling, but i believe drinking had a major part in the problem. but i am ok, and i take care of me now. i pray this will work out, but if not i have my two son's and their children and i am ready for a let down this time around. the door can still swing open and he can get out of it lol~ the only thing is, i am doing all the driving, now as he has no lisense from the imparid charge~ i must be a gluten for punishment. love is the worse thing at times. i am sooo glad you found someone, i don't think i would have, i had some offers while i was alone, just wasn't interested at the time, guess i wasn't ready! i've been very busy this year, wreath orders were long and but slow going, as the winter snow in the woods was hard to get the brush, but i did ok, i am making a batch of soap today, and cooking turkey soup. loads of turkey left from xmas i had frozen. i am feeling much better about myself, and i gained a bit of weight, but i know i can survive on my own if this is to happen again, well! good by hubby. and i will prevail in the end. it will be his loss for sure. thanks all of you girls for being so suportive, and i will tune in of and on to see how everyone is doing, and let you know how i am coping with this marriage working things out thing. love from jo~ think i boo booed on this post but iw ill send it again anyways~ woops
i thought love was all you needed? courage is needed too! |
| JO AND AL |
Posted - Jan 16 2008 : 11:50:00 AM
betty jo i haven't been on here in a long time can't even remember the last time. i tuned in a bit last night. well!woo is me~ we are trying to work on this marriage now, oh my! maybe making a big mistake? but, well guess maybe it is meant to be having a hard time though forgetting what was done to me. he is seeking counsilling, but i believe drinking had a major part in the problem. but i am ok, and i take care of me now. i pray this will work out, but if not i have my two son's and their children and i am ready for a let down this time around. the door can still swing open and he can get out of it lol~ the only thing is, i am doing all the driving, now as he has no lisense from the imparid charge~ i must be a gluten for punishment. love is the worse thing at times. i am sooo glad you found someone, i don't think i would have, i had some offers while i was alone, just wasn't interested at the time, guess i wasn't ready! i've been very busy this year, wreath orders were long and but slow going, as the winter snow in the woods was hard to get the brush, but i did ok, i am making a batch of soap today, and cooking turkey soup. loads of turkey left from xmas i had frozen. i am feeling much better about myself, and i gained a bit of weight, but i know i can survive on my own if this is to happen again, well! good by hubby. and i will prevail in the end. it will be his loss for sure. thanks all of you girls for beiong so suportive, and i will tune in of and on to see how everyone is doing, and let you knwo how i am coping with this marriage working things out thing. love from jo~
i thought love was all you needed? courage is needed too! |
| bboopster |
Posted - Nov 05 2006 : 07:24:03 AM
Hello Jo,
I know your pain mine did the same thing to me and our 5 kids. But the joke ended up on him! The tall thin blonde he ended up with is very high matainace and from what my kids, church and the grapevine (Old neighbors as he tried to bring this high fashion big city woman to the country and our old neigborhood)life is not better on the other side of the fence. He no longer has the freedom to do his favorites (hunt all year, garden, can and freeze)so he works, works, works, to keep her in the finest. Ahahahahahahahahaha! It is the sweetest revenge and I had nothing to do with it! I on the other hand have found a wonderful guy who accepted me and my children for who we are and what we like and on top of it all loves what I have know name my "Frannie stlye" clothing and contributes to my closet with bibs, flannels and T-shirts, to my gardens; bulbs, plants, awsome tools and lots of gloves and knee pads, He never says a word about another cast Iron pan, china or wood chackeys and love me unconditionaly. Don't hate men there are some fantastic ones out there just don't be in a rush to find one find yourself first. God Bless and watch you through your tough times.
Pray for our troops to come home safe and soon.
Enjoying the road to the simple life :>) |
| Libbie |
Posted - Nov 05 2006 : 06:33:49 AM
I am so glad to hear from you, Jo, and to hear that you are finding some peaceful times -- and I hope you know that all you need to do is think of us during those lonely times and remember that you've got a whole herd of farmgirl friends out here thinking of you!!!
XOXO, Libbie
"Nothing is worth more than this day." - Goethe |
| JO AND AL |
Posted - Nov 05 2006 : 05:47:39 AM
hi ya'll, well i am doing a bit better since al left! but i still talk to him and see him once in a while makes it haarder. seems like a never ending funeral. he is still waiting on a court date for his dui! i don't really think he is happy there where he is? but he got so far into it i don't believe he can turn back anyways, even if he wanted to. there are some advantages to being alone, it is peacefull at times, but then at times it is lonely. i miss his hugs. i can eat when ever i want to, bonus! i have a nice home, unlike what he is living in lol! i have my family live near to me. it is nice at least now not to have to worry about where he is and what he is doing anymore. soooo!!! hopefully time will take it's course, and i can move on to better things, god has a plan for us all i just wish i knew what it was. later, love from jo! p.s. u all have a good time thinking about gifts for guys now ya hear! xoxoxo
i thought love was all you needed? courage is needed too! |
| Jana |
Posted - Sep 29 2006 : 4:07:53 PM
Oh man, I just HATE buying stuff for guys especially my father-in-law. Well, my mother in law isn't too great either. Last year I asked her what the both of them would like and she listed a crock pot. I mean, these are people with enough money to buy each other vacations and the like (and we are not). Well, I got the crock pot, wrapped it up and presented it on Chrismas to the both of them. She took a look at at and said, "We have one and really like it". DUH!!! I'm still not sure what transpired that day. Did she space out? Did she do this on purpose?(she has a tendency to want to look superior in most situations). Anyway, this year they get a gift certificate.
Now my husband is easy. He makes a list of books he wants and fishing or hunting stuff. Its like going to the grocery store and filling a cart. I just stop when the budget is used up. I usually squeeze in something extra that he wasn't expecting, maybe a food thing that I normally wouldn't like, but know that he does. He loves to barbeque, so grilling stuff is good.
Frannie, I can totally relate to the "box of clothes" thing. Last year I got the ugliest pair of earrings from my DH. I just couldn't wear them (or hang them on the tree). So he did make an exchange. Still not the greatest. I had made a list for him with the items I wanted, price, store name. Hmmmmm....don't think I got anything off that list. Oh well. Maybe this year I'll just put chocolate. He can't really mess that up, even if its just a bag of Hershey bars.
Jana
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| sewgirlie |
Posted - Sep 29 2006 : 3:04:47 PM
Hi Jo!
Sorry to hear about your husband wanting another woman. Seems that he missed out on the best gift he had---YOU! I know you will get stronger and stronger with each day. My thoughts are with you. Not all men are like that, but it seems a great many people leave a good thing for something probably not so good in the end! Sheryl-lyn |
| blueroses |
Posted - Sep 29 2006 : 11:03:32 AM
Jo,
So sorry. Some men never grow up. We're here for you.
Debbie
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
| Redhen |
Posted - Sep 29 2006 : 07:06:49 AM
So sorry, Jo. I'm sure its his loss.
There have been some great ideas mentioned. I do gift certificates from wherever they might have an interest ( book/music store, Cabella's for the outdoorsman, ect.) I love to get those myself. And I like to wrap a little treat with it too!
....I don't believe we're in Kansas anymore.The Wizard of Oz |
| Nance in France |
Posted - Sep 29 2006 : 03:07:54 AM
Greetings, farm gal pals. First of all a note of well wishes, hugs, and "chin up" to you, Jocelyn.....been there, done that myself. Who knows what makes people stray, and the initial pain is wrenching, but you will come to discover you are better off alone, without him. The gals are right, you (none of us) need a man in our lives, but it is the nature of how God made us that we search for a partner to build a life for and with. The inborn resilience we women seem endowed with will see you through, and once your heart is singing again your beauty will be obvious to everybody who meets you. I'm here for you if you ever want to chat. Part of what got ME through being left behind is my sense of humor. I will pass this funny on to you to remember later on when it feels good to laugh. "Two women were by the river, washing clothes in the rushing water. Both were crying as they wrung their clothes out. The second woman asked the first why she was crying. "Because I lost my husband.....and why are you crying?" "Because I found him", she sobbed!
I see this thread got started for last Christmas but it is time to start thinking about presents again already!! Anybody who has a hobby would probably like a magazine subscription or book or video about their hobby. The makings for a hammock was a stroke of genius idea! That idea could be used for zillions of things......gift basket with sewing/knitting/sherrinschnit (certainly spelled wrong) doodads, culinary fixings for the chef on your list....art supplies, gardening goodies; now ya'll got my brain churning! Happy gathering everybody! Nance |
| abbasgurl |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 10:34:24 PM
Music, dvds & BOOKS are always appreciated by my DH. How 'bout going into the nearest camping store & asking for the latest greatest new thing? How about books on where to camp or recipes/cookbook for backpacking? How 'bout offering to GO CAMPING with him! LOL
As a side note...who would be silly enough to buy clothing for another person? I'm with you on that one (you naughty thing) Frannie! LOL
Rhonda
I'm a one girl revolution. |
| Phils Ann |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 4:58:43 PM
As far as buying Christmas gifts for my honey... and his buying for me... we are so unromantic. He tells me (only when begged) what he wants. Last year it was scaffolding. I tell him to please order it. He may do that six months later. Ditto for birthdays. I always try to find something little to wrap so he can have a surprise. He finds clothes terribly boring, so I never get that for him anymore. I usually can't wear whatever he buys me in that line, but feel too bad to take it back, and of course, he eventually realizes I'm not wearing it, so that ended over a decade ago. Now he asks what I want, and then says, can you order it for yourself???? And I do--happily. (Actually, last year he was making my sewing room, and furnishing it took care of a years worth of "gifts".... as I wanted a comfortable sitting area.)
Ann
There is a Redeemer. |
| Phils Ann |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 4:44:39 PM
Oh, Jo, I don't "know" you, but you sure do have my sympathy. It always breaks my heart when two get "untwined". I send many hugs.
Ann
There is a Redeemer. |
| Bridge |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 3:43:15 PM
Hugs to you Jo!! This will make you stronger!! Just remember everthing in life happens for a reason!!
Sometimes it may take many years to realize the reason, but you will!!
~~Bridge's Boutique~~
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| berries |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 3:34:06 PM
Jo, this will only make you stronger! You don't need a man to be a great farmgirl! Email anytime if you need to chat! Learn something new, just enjoy being You. You can do it, and you will be fine! I'll be thinking of you!
love, hugs and strawberries to you, gloria g. Richards, TX
strawberry fields forever and ever! |
| katie-ell |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 2:25:39 PM
Oh, Jo. What a stupid man. I'm so sorry you're heartbroken . . . Just stick with us gals here for a while and we'll try to cheer you up. Sadly, KL |
| JO AND AL |
Posted - Sep 28 2006 : 1:48:53 PM
 well girls i found out my man wanted another woman ha, fancy that.??? he flew to coup. anyways i hope i never have another man in my life lol! heart broken but surviving jo~~~
love is all you need |
| JO AND AL |
Posted - Jan 05 2006 : 03:30:08 AM
 i know what u mean cynthia my hubby is the same, he said he has his own preference when it comes to tools, can't buy him any tools at all. oh well! i guess that's like clothes for me, no one can buy me clothes either,have to pick my own lol!
love is all you need |
| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Jan 04 2006 : 5:43:46 PM
turns out that my man wanted exactly what i wanted: one of those 'palm' pilot thingies .. it's SUCH fun .. and keeps tons of information that we usually have in thick notebooks .. and i always have SEVERAL thick notebooks ... it has my calendar (such quick, fast, easy access .. so easy to input and delete info .. takes just seconds) .. notes, address book .. you can break it down in categories for instant retrieval .. instant calculator .. finances (to keep track of what i spend!) it can also connect to the internet so you can read your e-mails and 'surf the web' (such as maryjane's farm connection and e-bay, etc. .. we don't have that connection yet though .. you can save photos on it .. kinda' fun to put a photo on the same page as someone's address and phone number. lordy! technology is so amazing .. i didn't even have to think long about whether or not to get it .. cuz' it truly does simplify my life. and .. it fits in the 'palm' of your hand! actually, i ordered a small check-book size notebook to put it in cuz' that one holds all my 'cards', money, driver's lisence .. sooo .. i don't have to carry an extra wallet.
True Friends, Frannie |
| medievalcat |
Posted - Jan 04 2006 : 1:43:43 PM
My husband loves the gift he picked out for himself, a Carrhart jacket! It's the only gift so far that he's used that I got him! I've tried in the past tools.. ok that irked me, I paid handsomely for tools just for him to tell me that he needs to pick out his own! I have a great hubby... he bought me a Kitchenaide for my birthday and a digital camera for Christmas... from now on I'll take him to pick out his own.
I hope everyone had a great holiday!
Cynthia |
| JO AND AL |
Posted - Jan 04 2006 : 12:49:58 PM
soooooo did all the men folk get what they wanted for xmas?? lol!!! most of what we got we had to take it all back, what a bummer, but all in all we did ok! and had a real fun holiday!happy new year to u all, jo!
love is all you need |
| Krisathome |
Posted - Dec 22 2005 : 8:33:18 PM
I never know what to get my dh either. So I just let him pick out a computer game. He loves those things-I don't. So I don't pretend to know the right one to buy. |
| greyghost |
Posted - Dec 16 2005 : 08:27:30 AM
Well, I told him anything for the yard or garden would be welcome, I'd sure love a nice looking thermometer outside the window so I know what the current temp is before I walk out all bundled up tight for freezing temperatures to take the girls for a walk in 60 degree weather! I suggested where it could be purchased too. He says "No, I'm talking a GIFT. We can get a thermometer anytime." lol!
He says he was looking at massage chairs (I know he wants one) because of all the trouble with my back, but after what I have been through I find most of those full chairs frightening and the little ones that fit into an existing chair are just too hard, they bruise me & hit the back of my shoulder blades way too hard.
He's definitely frustrated - sure there are things I want, like a bucket with a lid to put the kitchen compost in, and a trash pail for the bathroom - but he doesn't consider those Christmas present material! |
| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Dec 16 2005 : 06:54:26 AM
what a sweetie pie that he has taken all that time .. and oh how funny that he even almost got 'busted' while so desperately shopping for you! (he's a keeper!)
if you don't need a 'surprize' ... maybe go shopping with him. (i do this all year .. or when we happen to be shopping ... i POINT and say .. "i'd sure like to have THIS". ha! it usually does not work .. cuz' honey hunk quickly forgets or we never get back to where my 'treasure' was. NOW ... "I" buy it .. and give it to him to 'hide away' for me! ... or maybe .. make a LIST and even tell him WHERE it can be purchased.
xo, frannie
True Friends, Frannie |
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