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| westernhorse51 |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 07:48:28 AM
Hello girls,
I sent a message the other day about being content where I am in my life & about living on the Jersey Shore. Someone sent me an e-mail stating that "you (meaning me) should never have sent your e-mail to this group. Don't you know were farm girls not surfers. And didnt I notice only one person responded". Well, No, I didnt. First, I am not a "surfer" yet! Second, whoever you are, you have no clue what Maryjane Butters & her farmgirl connection is about. Didn't you read what she wrote when the moderating went back to the farm? Haven't you read ANYTHING she has written? I dont live on a farm, I dont raise chickens, sheep, pigs, cows or any other farm animal and yes I live on the Jersey shore. My home is decorated with shells, dolphins, wash boards, canning equipment and a/thing else that relates to things I love.
I was trying to do a good thing by saying it's ok to be happy where you are. When I was so down in the dumps about NOT having a farm & driving myself nuts about it, people on THIS forum helped me feel better. Thats what this forum is about. You take Cabin-creek (Frannie) who lives a real country life, I dont feel less conected to her because I live on the Jersey shore. I hope know one else took it that way & I apoligize if you did.
Whoever you are, I ordered my first Maryjane book from her, but I bought 8 more at my Barnes & Noble for gifts for people. I still have 2 left for someone else but if you would like, I'd be happy to send it to you. I think you really need to read it from cover to cover because you don't have the farmgirl spirit, not yet but I pray you will get it. Michele
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
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| asnedecor |
Posted - Dec 14 2005 : 4:00:41 PM
Michele -
Sorry to hear you got such an awful e-mail. There is no reason to do such a thing. This is just a website, it is a place to give and receive ideas,support and have a good time. You should be able to feel safe to post things that are close to your heart. What happened to you was just cruel. From the looks of the posts to this forum you have a lot of support and hopefully that has help to erase the hurtful things the e-mailer sent. Just like you, I don't have a farm, but that does not make me any less a farmgirl at heart. Hang in there and know there are others out there that share your love and spirit that is part of being a true farmgirl.
Anne in the City of Portland
"Second star to the right, straight on till morning" Peter Pan
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| Julie |
Posted - Dec 14 2005 : 3:09:15 PM
Oh Michele Darlin', there is no excuse for bad manners. Farmgirls lift each other up, not tear each other down... If you did have a surfboard, I'd tell you to bring it over today and we would just use it as a sled on the hills of snow giggling all the way farmgirl style! Keep your chin up sweetie
Julie
Food Stylin' & Fancy Free |
| RachelLeigh |
Posted - Dec 14 2005 : 1:46:06 PM
Michele - I live in a one-bedroom apartment in Louisville, KY and I am MOST CERTAINLY a farmgirl!! Farmgirl is a feeling. You just have to love nature and appreciate the simple and the beautiful. You are lucky because you are grateful for what you have. Shame on anyone for judging your happiness as not meeting their standards!!!!
My blog: mycountryhome.blogspot.com |
| theherblady |
Posted - Dec 14 2005 : 1:00:05 PM
I'm so sorry someone had to make you feel sad~~I hadnt read your message until now ...and I think it was wonderful~~
Dont let someone get you down~~Sounds to me you are a-ok~!
Jan |
| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Dec 14 2005 : 08:42:24 AM
Michelle, some people are so miserable about their own life they have to tear down someone else to make themselves feel better. Anybody can be a target for any reason. Sick, but true. You are a lovely person and we farmgirls are all very happy to have you among us. Merry Christmas!
Love,
Patricia
Happy Wishes! |
| julia hayes |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 7:40:01 PM
michele, you farm girl sharing the spirit on the Jersey shore...I felt very sad to read that someone hurt your feelings. I feel sad whenever I hear of hurt feelings that stems from something so pointless and ridiculous. the feelings must be a little raw still and obviously hit a nerve (longing for a farm that one can not have at the moment..and being put down and out for not having it), but golly, someone taking the time and energy to get so worked up about you being on the Jersey shore and not plowing some field somewhere is beyond the beyond! I feel pity for that individual. It must be an awful thing to have so much anger that one has to create avenues for venting. It seems to me that farm girls living anywhere but on a farm are so powerful in keeping daily living close to home and mother earth. You will keep the environment of your home and surrounding area that much more healthy and viable for everyone to enjoy. Praise spirit that you are where you are sharing the spirit we all possess and desire to share. May your feelings heal quickly and may the one who hurt you heal as well.
blessings, Julia
being simple to simply be |
| Linda Houston |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 5:19:51 PM
Michelle, I am so sorry that someone was that rude to you. I agree with the others, whomever it was is not a farmgirl at heart or a true blue farmgirl. Please hear our voices and do not let one negative person drown us out.
Your share about where you are and being content was a good share with lots of wisdom and thought. If some can't get the picture, well, shame on them. We are here for you....keep sharing and we will keep listening. |
| Eileen |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 4:58:51 PM
Michelle,
((((HUGS))))
Eileen
Songbird; singing joy to the earth |
| junebug |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 12:39:44 PM
Michele, stay strong, don't let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch!
" Aspire to Inspire before you Expire"
www.herbalfarmstead.blogspot.com
www.countrypleasures.motime.com |
| jpbluesky |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 12:25:34 PM
Michele - and all at the farm and all farmgirls who have been circling the wagons - this thread of conversation only highlights how well intentioned we are here. Keep posting, Michele, I always love to read what you think and feel!
"Sell cleverness and buy wonder" |
| westernhorse51 |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 12:25:34 PM
Hi I think I just fixed it again. I have to get off for awhile, my husband needs to do some checks now to see if were ok again. Thank you all so much. I will NEVER stop writing on this forum. You are all the best group of women in the world. One sad person wont change that. Ed said we need to pray for them, I think hes right. Michele
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
| westernhorse51 |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 12:19:19 PM
Hi Carol, yes I've sent & received e-mail many times. I have to check it to see if its ok because for about 2 1/2 hrs after my last post, my computer froze up. I had a virus scan sign come up & then nothing. I will get back to you. Thanks so much Michele
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 11:53:36 AM
Sorry you got hit by a troll! I hate that.. This is actually the first forum I have ever participated in where I haven't run in to any before... I really hope it stays that way.. I think it will with the great Moderators we have here!
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| Carol |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 10:55:33 AM
Turns out I can only see your e-mail link when I'm logged in as an administrator, so that's why others aren't seeing it. Have you ever posted your e-mail address on this forum or written to other members through e-mail? That's the only other way I can think that others would have access to your e-mail. We'll look into this a little further and see what we can come up with!
Thanks again!
Carol
"Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, chocolate in one hand, red wine in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and screaming 'WOO HOO, what a ride!'"
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| Lavender Cottage |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 10:29:03 AM
Farmgirl Michele-I also am sorry to hear this happened. Please know I was touched by what you wrote and hope you will continue to share with us.
Hugs to you!
Ellen in MI |
| BlueEggBabe |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 10:18:47 AM
Carol,
Not sure this helps matters but.....
I wanted to send Michele an email today and it says (on my end)
"No info specified". I could not send her an email and I am logged in.
BEB
www.feedsackfarmgirls.blogspot.com
www.farmatcoventry.com
"If more of us valued good food, cheer and song above hoarded gold,the world would be a merrier place."
J.J.R.Tolkien |
| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 10:11:10 AM
michele darlin' ... jus' let 'the sad words' run offa' your back like water offa' duck's back. i'm a big believer that when someone says something hurtful .. it is almost always a 'plea for help'. and sometimes humans just put their mouths (or typing) into action before their 'thinkin' has caught up with it. let's all jus' offer a little prayer heavenward for whoever was sad enough to write those words to you. i feel sure they are a good person and would have never written unwelcoming words to you had they thought about how it would have felt to have received a similar message. the 'good book' sure puts it all in perspective where it sez:
"do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
it mattereth not whether we live in a farmhouse in the country, a log cabin in the woods, a cottage by the sea, a McMansion in a housing development, an apartment in the city .. or anywhere in-between ...
as Maryjane so beautifully puts it:
"Farmgirl is a condition of the heart"
I live in a log cabin in the country .. yet, i have no chickens, cows or other farm critters ... (and still i have that 'heart condition' mentioned above.
I love reading of making cheese, milking cows, chasin' chickens, growing tobacco, pitchin' hay, and all the other 'farm chores' that some of the farmgirls have as part of their lives .. even though .. i may never personally experience these adventures. I also delight in the stories of the seaside and city! We Women are all connected by a strong silver thread wherever we dwell.
All of us .. EVERYWOMAN, regardless where or what our homes are .. can accomplish just about anything that Maryjane writes of in her Lifebook ... sewing, cooking, cleaning, creating, collecting, gardening, camping, fishing, mothering, mentoring, loving ... and THAT, my dear true friends, is what being a FARMGIRL is all about.
please, sweet michele, keep telling us of your life and all that fills it and gives you joy. hugs, frannie
True Friends, Frannie |
| Carol |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:59:57 AM
Hi Michele. I'm so sorry you received that awful e-mail. Please look back into your e-mail program and see if you can determine who it came from so that I can look into it a little further.
I did want to assure you, however, that you do have your "send me an e-mail" feature enabled on our forum. Clare might not have seen that feature because she wasn't logged in -- you have to be logged in to get that feature. When I went to your profile, I saw a link where I could click to send you an e-mail. Only registered users on our forum can use that feature, so the person who sent it to you was, indeed, a user, but it doesn't sound like they were a farmgirl at heart. Please take another look at both your in box and your out box in your e-mail program to see if you can determine who it came from, and then send that information to me at carol@maryjanesfarm.org.
Thanks Michele!
Carol |
| Julia |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:46:16 AM
Glad you are feeling better Michelle. Some people can be stinky. I don't have a farm either, probably never will. But as many have said, it is the spirit within that makes you a farm girl. I have a friend that lives in the country, on a farm and is by no means a farmgirl. So whether on the Jersey shore or the Oregon coast where I am, farmgirls we be!!!! You are grand and I am glad you are here! Wish we could have tea and take a walk on the beach. By the way, this farmgirl also has shells, starfish, and sand dollars in her house. In fact I have made some sand dollar ornaments for my tree. Merry Christmas Michelle!!! Julia V.
"...the setting sun is like going into the very presence of God." Elizabeth Von Arnim |
| Clare |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:20:13 AM
Dear Michele,
This is a very interesting and sad dilemma, I agree.
I thought your original post was wonderful... and I was going to send you a personal email to thank you for your lovely comments of me; however, when I went to your profile, it does not show any contact information for you, i.e. no email link. So this furthers the question of how someone usurped the system to get to your email address.
I would love to hear from you again Michele, and you may email me from here... we haven't caught up in a while now, have we? Busy lives.
((more hugs)))
"I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have." - Abraham Lincoln.... http://farmstyle.blogspot.com
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| MaryJane |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:07:00 AM
Michele! Yes, like BEB said, if you can find it in your trash, please let carol@maryjanesfarm.org know. I, too, LOVE, love your voice on this forum. Please, please don't be discouraged. |
| BlueApple |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:03:55 AM
OH my goodness! I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm hoping that it wasn't a regular poster as a member would certainly know what this forum is about. Hugs to you!
Julia
BlueApple Farm |
| sqrl |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:03:35 AM
Wow. I wish this kind of stuff didn't happen to places like this. Whoever it was just doesn't get it. I feel bad for that person, because they can't see what we have here, this connection. I have a slight feeling that it could be someone outside of this forum. Ya know, this is open to the public to read and someone could just register just to send you a nasty little something, just to be mean. I just can't imagine someone here thinking that way. It was very good of you to offer your extra copy to MJ's book. It just goes to show the farmgirl spirit in you. One matter where you live, I certainly do not live on a farm. Try to brsuh this negatively off of yourself it's go to throw it into the trash.
Blessed Be
www.sqrlbee.com www.sisterhood.sqrlbee.com
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 09:02:49 AM
It makes me so sad that this happened to you Michele!! Everyone has already said the same thing I figure too..that it can't be a regular member...at least I hope not! I think you are great and Bloom Where you are Planted is one of my favorite quotes. Not all of us are where we want to be or happy there anyhow...and for you to be content and all is beautiful. You certainly have Farmgirl spirit and thats what its all about. We love you!
Jenny in Utah
It's astonishing how short a time it takes for very wonderful things to happen...Frances Burnette |
| BlueEggBabe |
Posted - Dec 13 2005 : 08:56:21 AM
Michele,
I think visitors cannot get to your profile information.
Only registered users can send you a direct email.
You have 24 hours to get stuff out of your computer "trash can" after you delete it. More questions for the farm.
Again, so sorry for the upset, Michele.
BEB
www.feedsackfarmgirls.blogspot.com
www.farmatcoventry.com
"If more of us valued good food, cheer and song above hoarded gold,the world would be a merrier place."
J.J.R.Tolkien |
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