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| frannie |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 08:39:50 AM
and that is what i am attempting to do with this post.
i dont want to relive the she saids/she saids here because i always like to look at intention and i have no reason to believe that the poster of the thread that hurt my feelings had any ill will towards me. i have always been an admirer of frannie in kentucky and have been the recipient of generous and thoughtful wishes from here, not to mention gifts. i dont believe that a person would go out of their way to be so kind to someone that they intend to hurt.
i have been going thru serious health problems that have really put me in the fear mode, and i have been overly sensitive about a lot of things lately, i guess in an effort to protect myself.
i believe frannie in kentucky has had her own journey with health issues and is going through surgery this morning.
country lawyer has posted an interview with her that i intend to read and will be sending my best thoughts and prayers to frannie. i believe that my feelings were most hurt because i didnt want to think that frannie in kentucky somehow didnt like me.
anyway, i think that this kind of thing could be avoided in the future if rather than ask questions about the forum of a farmgirl, maybe we should ask for info from the moderator.
this site belongs to maryjane and for me has always been a way to network with other like minded women. there are some threads that arent of interest to me, .....well i cant really think of a good example, but lets say there was a thead on raising hogs.
i dont want to raise hogs, but i dont think the farmgirls who raise hogs are a clique that is excluding me. lately there has been a little flavor here that cliques exclude people. i dont feel an exclusion here on this site, i just see that people gravitate towards their own interest and make friendships with like minded farmgirls.
as far as the farmgirl of the month goes. i wasnt really aware of this much until i was named, and then i did a search to find out what it was about. i was glad to see the women that were named before me and a little embarrassed that i hadnt participated in any meaningful way in celebrating their recognition. and for me the fun of it was that i would be able to share the good feelings with another farmgirl by passing it on. my choice was to be nancy jo in new york.
i think that this squabble could be avoided in the future if folks please pay attention to the power of their words. if you think what you are going to say could hurt someone please ask for clarification from a moderator before you post something. do a little research with the search engine here at this site to see what a particular farmgirl is going through, or what the history of the topic is about.
everyone here has the right to their own opinion, of course, but my opinion about the farmgirl of the month is that it should go to one of the veteran posters, i dont have a problem with that at all.
aunt jenny is a perfect example to me, she has posted alot, she has a blog and has really demonstrated the farmgirl spirit.
a newcomer to the site may be full of farmgirl spirit, but like alot of things in life, there is a value to having been there and having experience, i personally learn alot from other folks who have learned through life experience, and in the case of new farmgirls i dont know yet what their experience is. i learn about them through their posts.
i felt that the way a new farmgirl gets acknowledgement is through posting in the welcome wagon and telling us about their life. it would be hard for me personally to pick a newcomer as the farmgirl of the month.
i do want to clear up one thing. no farmgirls emailed me personally complaining to me about me being farmgirl of the month, the only way i knew anyone was unhappy about it was that it was posted on a thread. that is just how it was. it would have been kinder if that had never been mentioned and just a discussion on the history of the fotm.
i have tried to let everyone know that i will be gone from the forum for a while because i am on the journey of breast cancer and am tentatively scheduled for a lumpectomy on both breast november 5th.
for the next week i will be back and forth to dallas, because i have a cardiac conditon that may not allow me to go under an anesthetic and have surgery. this is troubling to me, but the oncologist/surgeon that i met with on tuesday has told my husband and i that she is very troubled by this as well. so while i love this site very much, i really have alot going on and havent had ability to post here really in the last month or two as i had in the past.
i do appreciate all the post and emails of support and lately and want everyone to know that if i am not here it is because i am trying my best to regain my health and will be back after all this is reolved.
now let me say something directly about the poster, frannie in kentucky.
i believe that frannie in kentucky had no intentions of hurting me on purpose. that just doesnt jive with the history of the way she has treated me in the past on this site. she has sent me emails of prayer and encouragement and even sent me lovely gifts of encouragment for no reason except kindness. i have no reason to believe that she encouraged or led any kind of anti-frannie from texas thread, as far as i can tell she simply responded to questions about the farmgirl of the month because she was the originator of this celebration of the farmgirl spirit. perhaps, my part of this is that i am not in my best form right now and maybe i was overly sensitive to the post. i am willing to believe that and hope that what may come of this is that people try a little harder at posting things that arent provoking.
now in that spirit i am gonna say that frannie in kentucky is going through surgery herself this morning and in true farmgirl spirit i hope we will all read her interview posted by country lawyer and send her an outpouring of emails with thoughts and prayers for her recovery, i am sure frannie in kentucky has been full of fear herself lately. i intend to send her an email myself this morning and hope this will put this family farmgirl squabble behind us.
love
frannie in texas
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| 25 L A T E S T R E P L I E S (Newest First) |
| Annab |
Posted - Oct 30 2008 : 02:58:23 AM
I'll be praying for you here in NC
Your health issues are far more important
Strength and peace
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Oct 29 2008 : 6:14:45 PM
Texas Frannie - you are a great peacemaker. I think you achieved your goal.....
Farmgirl Sister # 31
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| junkjunkie |
Posted - Oct 29 2008 : 4:26:43 PM
I 've been reading all of these posts...and I'm glad you wrote about a resolution for an earlier post. Like already mentioned, I would bet anything that there was no intentional harm toward anyone....but having said that (don't want to rehash old stuff), you, Frannie ,and KY Frannie are both good people. I'm sorry you are going through a scary time and I wish you both all the best in your recoveries! Sending good vibes...... :)
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| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Oct 28 2008 : 08:51:54 AM
Frannie, you both have my prayers for your speedy recovery! I'm here for you if you need a shoulder to lean on.
from the hearts of paradise... |
| Carol Sue |
Posted - Oct 26 2008 : 7:51:50 PM
Will continue praying for you, as your life allows you letting us know what goes on. I am so grateful for all the support you have been getting from hometown and here and any other sources. That is so very important in our lives.
Take care of yourself right now and we will be hanging out for when you check in.
Hugs,
Carol Sue
Farmgirl #39
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| frannie |
Posted - Oct 26 2008 : 6:19:16 PM
i agree with everything you posted, zan, and i wish you were here more often too.
will be in and out for the next few weeks but will try and keep ya posted.
love
frannie in texas
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| Farmtopia |
Posted - Oct 26 2008 : 6:03:22 PM
Ugg! I'm not on here as often as I'd like, then I visit today to find this post!
Now, I love my Miz Frannies too much, and I know that you are some super sweet ladies, so I can't imagine there being a problem with anything! I'm sure Miss KY Frannie meant no harm..
More importantly is that there are MORE important things to think on...and I send both of you BIIIG hugs! You are such vital, sweet, kind, and humorous people, so focus on getting better...you have all of our love 
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| frannie |
Posted - Oct 26 2008 : 5:27:26 PM
dont kid yourself, nancy jo. the 2 days after i had the needle biopsy and the anesthetic didnt work, i was a real basket case. years ago, almost 20 now, i was carjacked at gunpoint in dallas, texas. that was the beginning of all my health problems, and it started with panic attacks. after the breast biopsys i started having nightmares and panic attacks again.
boy that is no fun. i finally had a little talk with myself and decided i needed to just accept that i might have cancer and that until they told me for sure i just needed to try and wake up everyday and live my life the way i would without all this.
i did have to have a good cry one day in the kitchen with my dh and low and behold he cried right along with me. in a very strange way this has all brought us much closer i think. i am a reall home body and dh loves to go and do. since this all occurred he has stayed home a lot more and has been very helpful to me with all the honey dos that i have been saying i cant do for the last little while.
anyway, i also cant minimize how much strenght i have gotten here on this site from all the farmgirl friends and my home town, as well. right before all the doctors appointments i had started getting emails from my hometown friends about our 40th. it will be next summer. we were emailing back and forth alot when hurricaine ike struck them and then i was praying for them and they were praying for me. it has been a good reunion in a very funny way.
i have done a lot of needed cleaning just incase my strenght gets a little worse for a while and i have cleared out alot of things. made me kinda realize maybe i dont need to go garage saling so much,,,,well, i did come to my senses on that i love finding all those treasures. but i do know that when and if i cant make it out to look at the local treasures i can just pop onto your blog, nancy jo and have fun seeing what treasures you have found.
i hope soon i will be crafting again, but i have had to put that aside for a while.
anyway, i will be gone for more testing and hope to get some answers some time this week about what surgery and when.
thanks for all the kind words, prayers and support.
love
frannie in texas
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| Nancy Gartenman |
Posted - Oct 26 2008 : 05:47:24 AM
Frannie,
I think of you everyday, and want everything to turn out for the best.You have been an inspriation to me on how stong a person can be. Me- I would be hiding in the closet! So lots of happy thoughts going your way, and keep us updated when you can.
NANCY JO
www.Nancy-Jo.blogspot.com |
| queenofdreamsz4u |
Posted - Oct 25 2008 : 9:09:33 PM
Thanks for posting, Fran....let us know how the two doc visits go next week if you are up to it..I know how tired the stress of it all is keeping you.
(((((hugs)))))
Stephanie
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| Alee |
Posted - Oct 25 2008 : 8:06:05 PM
Frannie- Good luck and I will keep thinking of you!
Alee
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| frannie |
Posted - Oct 25 2008 : 6:15:03 PM
thanks so much for all the sweet words. last week was full of new doctors and this week i will have at least 2 doctor visits.
if i am cleared by the vascular surgeon i will have a lumpectomy on both breast, november 5th. if not i will have to have vascular surgery first and then postpone and wait until i get stronger to have the breast surgery after the vascular surgery.
just want to keep everyone who has been so sweet posted on what is going on, i am so afraid that i may go in one day and they may decide to do something then and i wont be able to keep ya posted. so that is the status right now.
trying hard to get the farm in shape in case i end up with some kind of lengthy recuperation. just want the farm and house to be in the best shape it can be in. my dh is a sweety but he is not the greatest housekeeper, and trust me my standards are not even that good. i just strive for clean enough to be cozy and welcoming.
thanks once again for everyones warm posts.
love
frannie in texas
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Oct 24 2008 : 2:08:31 PM
I am so glad to see you back here Frannie. I sure keep you in my prayers.
Jenny in Utah
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| LunaTheFarmLady |
Posted - Oct 24 2008 : 1:36:57 PM
Frannie
My heart goes out to you! I've been in an outta here so quickly lately I really don't know the story, but it really doesn't matter. Your words are wonderful and strong and sweet and giving and i echo cathy' wish for a strong recovery for you as well as ky frannie. I do not believe taht there was ever any intention to hurt anyone on her part. It is just not her nature. And I can see that the same is true for you. Love and Light and Prayer to you both.
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| handyam |
Posted - Oct 24 2008 : 05:15:31 AM
Frannie, I have always enjoyed your "bunny stories & pictures" and hope you will return to them once your health is restored. You and our KY Frannie are in my daily prayers. Your "resolve the squabble" post was so wisely written. Your mind seems very clear on the subject, so now you can totally focus on your physical situation and move forward with healing. Have a great day!
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 7:59:23 PM
Frannie, you are in my thoughts and prayers also.
Kris |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 7:44:52 PM
Frannie - I will pray for you daily!!! You are a blessing to this place and I can't wait until you can come back more often. I miss your posts and your bunny stories!!
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| queenofdreamsz4u |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 7:26:31 PM
Fran, there you are, sweet lady! You know what you have in front of you and it involves total "selfcare". I have made a note of November 5th...Be kind to yourself and don't worry about anyone else..Sometimes that's hard for a nurturing woman to do but you must care for yourself first during this time. Surround yourself with only good energy and visualise healing. Keep me updated whenever you feel like posting. I'll keep an eye out for you here and over in Hogs and Quiches!
((((((((((((((Love and Light to you)))))))))))))))))
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| Carol Sue |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 6:45:22 PM
Frannie,
I must be plain dumb because I didn't think there was a squabble.
Just didn't want any ones feelings to be hurt.
Will be praying for you on the journey that you are on. My aunt is a breast cancer survivor. So do what you need to do for your health and well being, that is the most important thing right now.
Farmgirl #39
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| kissmekate |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 6:02:50 PM
Frannie, you hang in there. I am sure the Lord will find a way to heal you.
I will keep you and kentucky Frannie in my thoughts and prayers.
(hugs!)
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| levisgrammy |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 5:36:20 PM
Frannie,
Just want you to know I am praying for your surgery, the doctors and a quick and full recovery.
hugs,
Denise
farmgirl sister #43
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| cathy cobblestone |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 3:23:13 PM
Frannie, I do hope that you are feeling much better real soon - I only wish you the very best. I never read the post in question - but I have to say, knowing KY Frannie personally, that I do not think in a million years she would ever intend on hurting your feelings. It would break her heart to know she has hurt someone. I've never heard a cross word from her - she loves this forum, she loves all farmgirls, and I'm certain she loves you. She would give you a big ole' squeeze hug.
I pray that the Lord blesses you both with restored health and spirit. You are a very deserving farmgirl. Many, many blessings to you and thank you for your post.
Cathy 
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| 5 acre Farmgirl |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 1:47:35 PM
My prayers are with you "Farmgir l Sister"....
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| lacisne88 |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 1:04:36 PM
You are both in my thoughts for a speedy recovery!
Chelsey
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| oldfashioned girl |
Posted - Oct 23 2008 : 12:12:18 PM
Frannie, I will be praying for you and KY Frannie also! I love you all so much and it breaks my heart, to the point of tears when squabbles and such happen! What you said was beautifully put! God Bless you both! ((((((((HUGS))))))))
Monica
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