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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Apr 18 2008 : 1:59:42 PM
that you wish you would of done but didn't? The one thing I wish I would of done but never did was get a horse. I have been in love with them since I was tiny. Now, I am too darn old to handle them I do believe !! But I still get all excited when I see one and can pet it.
MJ
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| Amie C. |
Posted - Apr 21 2008 : 09:53:13 AM
Now, I'm not just saying this to be different from the rest of you all...I wish I had NOT gone to college. At least, not right out of high school. I did it because my parents and everyone around said that you have to in order to get a good job. But I had no idea what I wanted to do for a living, I was desparately unhappy and unable to function in the world (much like you, Heather), and I made all kinds of decisions that I would not make now. I basically just shot myself in the foot during my college years, and now the limping makes everything I want to do harder. I very much wish that I had worked and seen a little of the world before I went to college. Especially if I could have worked in a useful trade like construction or landscaping. Those skills would be much more useful than a bachelor's degree in a liberal arts field. The degree I've got is no good without a masters or phd, and I burned myself out too badly to go on. |
| ruralfarmgirl |
Posted - Apr 21 2008 : 08:28:45 AM
Zan - Thanks! I think at 45 I am doing a better job of "blending my personalities" :), and sluffing off those things I "did" because I felt obligated.. I have learned that just because youre good at something doesnt mean you were necessarily meant to do it( HUGE LESSON FOR ME) as a career .. I have thought a lot about your comments (Thanks) and I think youre right.. what farmgirl "isnt" versitile? Thanks I will use that word with pride...Maybe I will get my Masters in versitility.
I love this topic - as it is so "real" - how about we flip it too.... I will start a new topic - what we do well... I hope all of you will sign on to that one too...
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl
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| Aunt B |
Posted - Apr 21 2008 : 05:23:13 AM
I wish I had gone to college and became a veternarian. I was a graphic artist and typesetter instead. Bad decision.
Proud Farmgirl Sisterhood #168, Aunt B
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| Lainey |
Posted - Apr 21 2008 : 05:18:35 AM
Finishing college is something that I wished I had completed. Also wished that I had pushed myself and did more with music. I wanted to be a singer or a vet when I was younger. In high school I discovered that I had more talent with singing than the dedication or aptitude to study the required subjects needed for vet school.
Now more than anything I want to be a mom, but we're still working on that although time is a'ticking.
Farmgirl Sister #25
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| Farmtopia |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 8:45:42 PM
Ada Mae, sounds like you are having a good time with the piano. Now that I think about it, there was a while back that I wanted to learn, also. My mom actually bought me a keyboard (I know, not quite the same) but it sits on my shelf; I've neither the time or money for lessons. Maybe I'll make that the next thing to learn. I'm enjoying what I'm doing now and it takes some of my time.
Rene, I think alot of us are used to doing many things...call it "versatility" ;) Maybe being a "jack of all trades" IS you! I know I have that sort of personality. I mean, have you ever heard of a dance troupe director who also gardens, does theater, and writes a farmy magazine? :D
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| ruralfarmgirl |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 8:26:59 PM
Interresting thread... I love gals that are willing to look deep and ask the hard questions - I wish that I would have gotten my degree in Holistic Nutrition....I read a book several years ago "healing with Whole foods" by Paul Pitchard - at the time I was struggling with Lupus and on Meds.. It challenged me to try some more natural things and I have never regreted it.. I have taken several classes for self knowledge and love the topic and love knowing how brilliant the body is when given what it requires...
I also tend to be the "jacky of all trades" master on none.... So, I long to master just one...maybe it will simply be ... being the best "ME".
Rene~Prosser Farmgirl
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| handyam |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 7:18:57 PM
I'm like Yarnmamma. I wish I had taken more piano lessons. I took them in elementary school. I got to the point that I hated to practice, and finally talked my mom into letting me quit. I did play at church enough to stay in practice a little. When I married and moved to my husband's church, they needed a piano player. I guess I filled the bill because I am still playing (38 years worth). I have been the only player most of those years. Ours is a small country church with a fairly small attendance. But with our new pastor we have begun to grow beyond our walls!!!! Along with all those new members and visitors came 3 piano players. We all have a different style. I have to play by the book, and the congregation sings with me. The other 3 play by ear. They play and sing with each other. It has been so wonderful.
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 3:01:38 PM
Rebekah- you can do it and honestly, I found such peace after I learned how to swim and float and enjoy the water around me. I actually took a water aerobics class to get comfortable moving in the deeper water and getting splashed. If anything, get yourself some sassy water wings!!! ; )
Cheers,
Heather
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| 22shortie |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 2:58:43 PM
hhhm,, i might give it another try one of these days...hey, maybe I'll take swimming lessons WITH Abby! LOL, can you just see me in the kiddie pool crying cuz I dont wanna put my head under water???? LOL
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| Farmtopia |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 10:01:29 AM
Yay Heather :) Your plans sound exciting :)
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 05:58:34 AM
Zan- you are absolutely right!!! I have been trying to get to the core of what I really want to do with my life. We travel- just a little closer to home now but I still get the same enjoyment out of it. I can always volunteer at the local shelters or food pantries or fundraisers. And, I am planning some projects thatI could sell this summer- aprons, small blankets, etc...all beach themed of course. I, too, think nothing is out of our grasp. Most of us do a lot of talking and not enough walking. I plan on walking this year.
Cheers,
Heather
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Apr 20 2008 : 05:32:08 AM
Um Rebekah- I taught myself to swim at 24, still have a hard time swimming underwater. You can do it!! I know you can.
Cheers,
Heather
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| 22shortie |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 8:56:46 PM
ok, this is gonna be Reeeelly funny to everyone but I really do regret not learning to swim ( or rather, overcommin my fear of being under water) before i grew up. I have the biggest phobia about being under water and I really cant hold my breath for long so swimming never was fun for me. I always see pictures of people swimming at the beach and at tropical resorts and Im like, MAN i wish I wasn't scared! I have tried alot of time sto just get over it and learn but I just cant handle the being under the water part. Now I have a two year old that I am determined to teach to swim ( actually Im going to take her to the gym pool and have a teacher teach her how) so that she will never be in danger of drowning or whatever. Goofy i know, I just cant do it: )
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| Farmtopia |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 8:42:11 PM
Now Ladies, I'm just stumbling onto this thread, and it's sort of a little sad to read...because I think that there are STILL opportunities to be had here...so whomever is saying "it's never too late" is right. Especially since we live in a part of the world where we can DO what we dream! Can you imagine living in places where you aren't ALLOWED to do what you'd like? Or you are so poor you dream of just EATING?
SO I say go and dare to DO what you can, if you can! Haha, at least that's what Mama told me. And if you can't do it, try to do as close to it as you can, and if you can't do THAT, just be grateful for what you can! It really IS a large life.
I wanted to be an actress when I was little, but I was a very depressed teenager and heavy with bad skin, so I talked myself out of being an actress, but later I took the stage as a dancer (ha! You can't tell a 200lb 17 year old she's going to be a dancer, let me tell you!), which is not EXACTLY what I wanted to do, but I'll take it.
I think if you want to ride a horse, or go to college, you shouldn't stop yourself. We all deserve happiness and positive new experiences! :)
Hugs!!
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 09:52:11 AM
Awww Maryjane!! Thanks...you are so sweet!!
Cheers,
Heather
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| yarnmamma |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 08:54:58 AM
The one thing that I have always regretted not finishing was piano lessons. I took them in high school at age 16 from a private teacher. When I started dating I wanted to be with my boyfriend and quit them! I had a gut feeling then that I shouldn't quit and would always regret it, and I do! 
I was a quick learner and was doing very well. I loved to practice the piano.
I have short term memory problems now so it would be a real challenge to try to lean it now. Electric keyboards just don't sound like a real old fashioned big heavy piano! 
I have taken some music lessons on the guitar but my fingers hurt too bad. I did learn to read some music tho.
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| Betty J. |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 08:43:33 AM
I have often wished I would have stayed in the U.S. Navy. I had a choice to make, either marry or go to college. I wish I would have gone to college, although I wouldn't have my two wonderful sons had I done that. Military and marriage (in the 60's) were not allowed. So I got married and I still haven't finished college. The military was going to pay my way to become an R.N. and that meant four years of college plus payback time of six years in the military. Being so young, time was everything. I'm still dreaming of college and I live just down the street from a wonderful 2-year college. What am I thinking? |
| CountryBorn |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 08:33:53 AM
You know Lisa, I had to identify with that!! Because I really want to ride those horses, but who the heck made them so high off the ground!! I still am going to try though. I think I will just have a chat with the horse and ask him to please not make me regret this!LOL!
MJ
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 08:30:25 AM
Heather, you are wise beyond your years. No one should control another person. That is not what love is about.No matter who it comes from. You have made so many right choices about your life and you understand the things that were wrong for you. I can tell that you are well on your way to living life fully and on your own terms. Enjoy the now and don't let the actions of otheres now or in the past effect your happiness.
MJ
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 08:21:53 AM
Frannie , it seems no matter how long you are married to someone there are always surprises. You and Hank have such a wondeful life together. Your right the time together in "the freedom years are so special. It is like you get to be carefree kids again.
MJ
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| lisamarie508 |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 07:01:31 AM
Skydiving. I hate to admit this but now, that I'm older, I'm too afraid to be up that high. Besides, my knees are shot and I don't think they could take the landing without breaking!
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Apr 19 2008 : 05:36:21 AM
I just wish I had started living life sooner. I grew up in a VERY STRICT household and was thrown to the wolves at 18. I never had been on a date, didn't know how to drive, I didn't experience a normal teenage life. I didn't even have social skills to function and I spent several years just being afraid of the world. One thing I will never allow again is someone to control me and put me down for being me.
Cheers,
Heather
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| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Apr 18 2008 : 8:56:11 PM
Hank and i often play 'the question game' .. recently i asked what 'regrets' he had. His immediate answer .. which surprized me .. was that he and i never had a 'biological' child together. Gosh .. he was and is such a great dad .. i don't know that it ever occurred to me back then .. We were 30 when we met .. i had a 2 year old and a 7 year old .. and it seemed to me like the PERFECT family. I guess maybe one or more might have been fun! (but the GRANDES sure make up for it .. AND .. we've had more 'freedom years' .. jus' the two of us together which we both treasure!
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - Apr 18 2008 : 7:12:31 PM
That's for sure...we're hardwired for it, I guess. I also get upset with myself for not putting others first. I even feel guilty when I spend a little $$ on myself at the thrift store..it's ok if buy something new for the house, but boy not for me (in my own mind)! I sure wasn't afraid then, when I was younger, Mary Jane. Wasn't afraid of much of anything! As I do get older, though, that's when I seem to be uneasy about trying--I fall into that trap that I remember from my mother and grandmother, "Oh, I could never do that." or "Oh, I couldn't afford that..." cased closed. It's hard to break cycles, isn't it? Thank you for your kind encouragement, you are so good and so dear, I enjoy our "over the miles" exchanges.
Farmgirl Sister #80, thanks to a very special farmgirl from the Bluegrass..."She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
NY Newsday sportswriter Bill Nack describing filly, Ruffian.
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| CountryBorn |
Posted - Apr 18 2008 : 7:06:43 PM
We women certainly are great for putting others first aren't we Jonni? It is such a hard habit to break.I get mad at myself for feeling guilty if I don't put others first. When you are young honey, you never think about things like getting injured, maybe in a way that is a good thing though. Because then we aren't afraid to try our dreams.You never know even now what interesting thing may open up for you. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Keep your eyes open to possibilities !
MJ
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