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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 27 2008 : 12:03:18 AM
Today I was thinking after hearing some remarks of how women seemed to have no respect any more, And I thought well have women really put their selves in this position, I have often heard many remarks of how women conducted their selves in the work place, but since I have never worked in places where I was not treated with total respect I have not seen this, I have never been around filthy language in my life ,nor would be, I never saw my husband treat any woman with anything than utter respect , I see so many of our young women and old dressing now with their boobs hanging out, their skirts up to their butt, And then we wonder why so much bad things are happening to them, When I hear of the way young people are behaving today I want to cry , what are you doing to your selves.There are so many things that women do today that I have never done and would not do that at times I think well Wilma you are just an old prude, I never considered my self pretty wear my brown spots and wrinkles with honor because I have earned every one of them. I have never thought myself better than anyone else, my standards are my own, and I live by them, as every one else does, I suppose we dont hear the word much any more A lady, so I guess by my defination I am a lady and a very happy LADY AT THAT
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Feb 01 2008 : 05:45:03 AM
Thank you Kay I am so glad you wrote I want to buy some of your soap email me please, yes you aretreated as you act, my clothes have never bothered me any around home I usually look like I have been grubbing, I cant stand p hose either, I do wear dresses to church but I am not comfortable in them, not many wear dresses any more,as long as its decent is all I care , you know its a good feeling to be around people that treat you with respect, if thats a prude well I will be one til the day I die, I have never figured out why prudes arent supposed to have fun, I have lots of fun and laughter in my life
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Jan 31 2008 : 11:52:32 PM
Miss Wilma - thank you so much for starting this thread. I've always found that you will be treated according to the way you act. I work in a truck repair shop with all men. They may swear out in the shop but they know that when they walk through the door of my office their language has to be clean. I'm lucky to work for a man who does not swear and he has told the guys that he will not tolerate foul language. So there really isn't much of it in the shop either.
I mostly wear pants or jeans and dress slacks to church. I used to wear dresses all the time but just can't tolerate pantyhose. In fact, when I moved and was cleaning out my dresser I threw out all my hose. I don't even own a dress anymore so what was the point in keeping them.
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 31 2008 : 9:54:13 PM
Jessie you are right about that you know no matter what our background is our wealth or poverty we can be a lady I wear my banner with honor and have found on this forum so many that share the same ways, It doesnt matter how someone tries to pull us down it cant be taken away from us, It is not a title to be bought nor misused, it is an honor that will stand on its on, it doesnt take a grand education, it doesnt require fancy clothes , it doesnt tolerate a mean spirt , it has no time for jealousy and spite,It is a title to be earned and once earned the only one that can take it away from you is your own self, little one I am so proud to say you truly are a lady
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| kydeere40744 |
Posted - Jan 31 2008 : 8:36:17 PM
With all our recent talk of Fried Green Tomatoes, I keep thinking of this post. There are definitely ladies out there that are very dignified and deserve the title of being a lady.
I came across this quote by Margaret Thatcher that is so true: "Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't."
~Jessica in Kentucky & Miss Wilma's Niece~
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| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Jan 30 2008 : 05:19:28 AM
Absolutely, positively HOORAY for you, Miss Wilma! And, congratulations to Maria for seeing the love you had to have for her, and pulling herself up straight! I almost cried last night. I heard on the news where someone I knew was arrested for contributing to the delinquency of minors. She had kids (yes, quite a few, and they weren't all hers) between the ages of 10 and 12 at her house. When the police walked in the kids were drinking beer and two were having sex in a bedroom. And SHE was there! She is a parent, who has raised her children with these loose morals and values. Unfortunately, so were her parents. And her stepmother didn't really give a flying flip (and now has two adopted children who have some serious behavioral problems). So, it appears that this muck is running downhill, and I am so glad I'm not anywhere near the bottom! Miss Wilma, we had peach tree limbs here. And even forty some odd years later, I can still feel the sting! My dad, in this day and age, would have been considered abusive. He was a very strict disiplinarian, but in all honesty, a very fair man. We were grounded, weren't spared the belt, had our mouths washed out with soap and were made to return to the scene of the 'crime', clean it up, pay the damages (if we didn't have the money, we were given PLENTY of extra chores to repay mom and daddy), and last, but absolutely NOT least, apologize to the person slighted. Ugh! I think I hated that part the worst! But there was never any doubt in our mind that we were loved (oh, there were times when I didn't like the punishment I accused my father of having adopted me, because there was no WAY I was HIS daughter!), we were cherished, and in all the right ways, spoiled rotten. Not with the latest greatest material things, but with all the things that counted. And, today, I am proud to say that I am my father's daughter. He died nine years ago this July, and it hurts me to know he never got to share our joy of buying a farm, but it's amazing how many times I think he's standing there, in the pasture when I'm trying to make a decision, or get a hard chore done, encouraging me, helping me and guiding me. And it is because of him that, even though I was told over and over again (by everyone BUT my DH) that I wasn't my kids mother and had no right to discipline them, that I did my dead level best to teach them the same lessons, instill in them the same morals and values, that my mom and dad did for me. Heather, I'm seeing what you're seeing, unfortunately. And, like you, it makes me want to cry. To be honest, some of these seven and eight year olds could teach some of the hookers a thing or two about how to dress! And I do blame the parents. And you are so right about them wanting to emulate the stars. But who asks these kids if they want to follow their heroes to the grave from drug or alcohol overdoses, or follow them to rehab? Or have their pictures taken in some compromising or embarrassing situation? Their parents should... how utterly sad for the children that they don't. Ladies (and I mean that literally!), I know I may sound as if I'm either being an ostrich or trying to escape reality, but I am so grateful that I have moved out of the city and away from all that (as much as possible), and am now living on a farm in a community that STILL expects morals and values, consideration and compassion, and decent dress codes, from the people who live there! I think all those things are part of a farmgirls code of ethics, and since I have the heart of a farmgirl, if any of you ever see me getting out of line, you now have my permission to serve me a whopping helping of Maple Tea, and set me back on the right track!!!!!
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 9:36:40 PM
Heather there is no way I could say it better than that I do want to tell you though there is alwaws some one going to try and pull you down from your standards but yes I am a stubborn old Lady, I will stand up for what I believe is right til the world is on fire, IF we adults dont stand on principles how can we expect our children to do so, It makes me sick to see what is on TV for our children to watch,, I saw one of our best teachers legs kicked black and blue from a fourth grader and I can sure tell you there were no morals at home His sister who was in the 8th grade at that time was pregnant A year later unmarried has since been married twice now living with another one and has 3 children and no job, That little boy was such a pretty little boy but he would get mad and start calling the teacher the f word now do you think I dont worry about my grand children having to be in the same room with children like that and it is not the childrens fault it starts at home,I am telling you I wouldnt be a teacher now for any amount of money, We used to keep foster children and had a 15 year old that was wild her mother was a drunk, Maria had been in all the correctional homes and they couldnt do any thing with her , our home was the last resort before she was sent to permanent place, I was strict with her, I kept telling her to clean her room no do, so one day I went up there and cleaned the room I gathered up all of her clothes and put them in garbage bags , when she came home and found she had no clothes she was glad to clean her room before she got her clothes back,Then another day she slipped off from school with our state troopers daughter, well when we got her home I gave her a good tongue lashing and told her to hit the corner for one hour, well she stood there and picked at a picture like she was going to tear it up I told he to quit she didnt , I knew she was trying me I reached up on the wall and got the board of education down and warped her but now this girl was a lot bigger than I was , she turned around with tears in her eyes and said wilma no one has ever cared what happened to me as much as you have, No one cared enough to correct her, She was one of the hardest I had and turned out to be a good girl sometimes even if we dont want to we have to have tough love, gosh I shouldnt have wrote so much,Oh the last time I saw Maria she had a beautiful daughter living in a fine condo and wearing a mink coat and married
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 8:33:59 PM
Ms. Wilma- we need more woman like you around!! I bet you wouldn't even hesitate to put anyone in their proper place and with fine reason too. I really have been giving this a lot of thought and instead of projecting negative power, I am going to use my power and ablities for good. I am going to set the example, even pushing it about and beyond what is expected. Impeccable manners cannot be taught enough, I think!!
Our little girls, especially, have their childhoods ripped away from them at such tender ages. I see little girls as young as 7 now acting like they are 21 and I think how confused and scared they must be living in the adult world of today. I was often called a snob because of my manners but I didn't have sex, smoke, drink, swear EVER and I was able to make those decisions when I was older and more capable. I am tired of people blaming the schools too, they teach what they are told to teach, society sets the standards, and that comes from your home life. Married, single, significant other or whatever makes up your home, you better darn well believe you, the parent, as the adult, are the responsible person for that child. We have let people get away with too many excuses for too long and expect the world to take care of our kids. Somewhere the ball was dropped and it needs to be picked up again, NOW!!! I am very passionate about this because I am frankly scared for the children out there today. We want them to be responsible and act civil, but raise your voice to someone else's child (when needed) and be sued or chided out by that parent. You wonder where that child learns it from??
We have mother's fighting against other mother's to prove who has the bigger house, better car, more stuff, more vacations, more friends, SAHM's vs working mom's, single vs. married,and we wonder where our children learn it from? We worship women in hollywood who promote anorexia, plastic surgery to get a barbie body, we rate them of their looks and the brand of clothing they wear, their bad behavior that we watch like it is not real, short marriages that seem to be more about fun that a true heart felt lifetime experience, pregnant mom's who fail to mention the millions of dollars they make so they can afford childcare, food, house, expenses of that child (take it away and see what would happen)- and these women are IDOLIZED for some sick reason.
Woman have a lot more power than they realize and I for one am tired of this bimbo society that is pushed upon us and I expected to conform to it. Phoey!!!
Ok..enough ranting...
Cheers,
Heather
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 8:07:54 PM
Julie I have been thinking this after noon about the morals of our nation, I am so glad we have such a fine family of farmgirls here,I sincerely hope I havent offended any of you , I do have very high stsndards, That doesnt mean i dont have fun in my life I have lots of fun, but what is fun to one is not always fun for another, I have to live my life and let others live theirs,I do know a lot of parents have hurt their children because their standards was not high enough, I never had a lot of problems with my children, and I was so proud when my little 12 yr old granddaughter told the little boy they could walk down the hall but they couldnt hold hands because she didnt believe in it, that might not be such a big deal but when I know of 6 little middle school girls last fall in one of our local schools was pregnant I knew My standards were still being passed down. I cry when I see these little girls going to have babies when they are just babies them selves,.I have to ask myself what kind of mothers do they have
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 2:54:03 PM
Well its like this when my kids were growing up like all kids they wasnt always perfectly orderly, for instance if Itook one to a store and they didnt behave they knew when they got home they wwould get the maple tea which was a switch off of the maple tree, needless to say we never had to use it very often because they knew if i told them they were getting the tea they could look forward to it,I believe one of the main things in raising kids is keeping your word, It makes me sick to hear alright now Im going to get you and then never do nothing, I always told my kids when they went in a store now you can look but you better not touch anything, now at Christmas if you go to Walmart the kids will absolutely run over top of you and when I look at all of the merchandise that is torn open and thrown down I think what kind of parents do these children have
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| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 2:39:00 PM
Okay, Miss Wilma. I give. What is Maple Tea? I, too, have a real southern gent, and I wouldn't trade him for the world. It's so sad though, that true Southern Gentlemen are very few and very far between!
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 12:49:44 PM
Thank you Julie, I have been to Louisana many times and have sold lots of antiques that went there, I have been reading a lot about southern ladies it is very interesting, One of the finest ladies I know of moved to KY from CO.You know its amazing how much southern men treat their ladies , I am so glad I got one, And I can tell you MJ GOT A GENTLEMAN TO,he is so nice, I wouldnt stay in the same room with a rude man and it wouldnt take me long to ask an unruly child if they knew what Maple Tea was
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| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 12:39:55 PM
Thank you for the wonderful compliments, Miss Wilma! And, if you ever find yourself in Northwest Louisiana, please know you are always more than welcome in our home! I've been reading so many wonderful things about you, I just hope one day I can grow up to be just like you!
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 11:27:35 AM
Julie what you wrote is so inspiring,That is the way I see things You are a TRUE SOUTHERN LADY n my book, You know I have traveled so much and have found many ladies in every region of our USA, Colarado, Idaho, Texas, SC, In all the states I have found lots of well manneed people and then every now and then yo u run across some wild ones, Once in Colorado we were eating in a restruant and there was a group of young people dressed all in black with horrible metal things all over their bodies , I am telling you they were creepy, I really felt sorry for the restruant, , I would never go back there yet the restruant was good, The waitress acted like she was scared to death of them, Like you I was strict on my kids also, and thank goodness it paid off, I sure dont have the worry a lot of other parents do
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| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Jan 29 2008 : 07:40:20 AM
I have to share with you my experience with teaching children manners. I have two stepchildren, and have the reputation with my inlaws for being a 'drill sergeant' with the kids. They felt that I was too harsh by not letting them run rampant in a restaurant, screaming and fighting with each other at family gatherings and in general being rude. The worst was their mother. In court, our attorney asked her, "Just what exactly is your problem with the new Mrs. Murphree." Her response? "She makes my kids say 'yes ma'am and no ma'am, yes sir and no sir. And that is such a backwoods redneck Southern tradition if I've ever heard one!" Her tone was very haughty and showed all her disgust with me. Surprise, surprise! The judge leaned over his bench and addressed her, saying, "Well, Mrs. Murphree, you just happen to be in a backwoods redneck Southern courtroom, and sitting in front of a backwoods, redneck Southern judge. And in MY courtroom, you will address me, the attorneys and, yes, even the new Mrs. Murphree with yes ma'am and no ma'am, yes sir and no sir. Is that understood?" She glared at him and said, "Yes." Ooh. The look he gave her right then would have singed the feathers off all my chickens in one shot! "WHAT?" he asked her. She quickly realized she was in big trouble with the judge. "Yes, sir!" she responded. So, now, I wear the nickname 'drill sergeant' with pride. And both my kids have grown up with wonderful social graces, excellent manners and my stepson treats women with all due respect. He even open doors and offers to carry packages, and sometimes for women he doesn't even know! I'm very proud of them. And I think a lot of it stems from the way my DH and I behaved, acted, spoke and reacted. From all I've read on this forum, I think all of you farmgirls have earned the title 'Lady'. Just keep up the good work!
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 12:31:37 PM
Girls your responses are awsome, I am so proud of my new farmgirl friends to know ther e are so many of us that truly are ladies, Will catch up with you tonight I GOT TO GO DO PILLOWS,so some of my new friends have some new pillows
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| bohemiangel |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 11:34:58 AM
I have always been sheltered too and I rebelled somewhat. If you restrain them too much that is not good. Good open communication is key. Yeah I never had a sex talk or things that I really could've used.
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| kissmekate |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 11:03:38 AM
Thanks Heather.
I am still a novice at sewing or I would make her more things.
Her Highness seems to be modest, at least a lot more modest than her peers. She is huge into comfort-just like her Mama.
I tend to be a tad more modest as well, so I am releived she takes after me on that respect. Thankfully, our school is very strict about what can be worn to school. Basically if it has a spaghetti strap you better have a regular t-shirt/long sleeve shirt on underneath it. Ditto with the muffin top jeans and thongs. So nothing suggestive or revealing.
Your shirt better completely cover that butt cleavage too. LOL
The boys can't have their boxers showing either. Any violators get sent home to change their attire.
The principal even said at orientation something regarding being respectful starts with respecting yourself. He received a long applause on that and his policy.
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 09:45:33 AM
I think TV is the worst (worse..the worse???) enemy of kids today. Especially the girls acting dumb to get said boy who turn into a real jerk or real sweet but does something after said girl gives oneself up to him stupid story lines are all that seems to run today. I don't like the glossed over perfect princesses either. I wish people would teach their kids to differentiate between reality (as in real life) and what is on tv.
Talking with your kids and being honest is the best policy, ever. My parents, especially my Mom, were VERY strict with us, especially me and my sister. It was almost too much protection. I knew nothing about sex, how to make my way in the world, heck, I was so painfullly shy but looking back, my mom kept us VERY VERY sheltered. Trust me- I have screwed up so many times and thank god I have somewhat of a brain ; ) to think things out on my own. I am very lucky I have the ability to step back and assess things before I leap. I hope to teach my son the same thing- use your head even though your body is telling you something totally different.
My best friend in high school was what I thought was too close to her mom. They were more like buddies than Mom and daughter. When she got out of hand, she never got disciplined because she didn't respect her Mom at all as an authority figure. Her mom partied, had an affair and dressed like her. I think there are extremes in everything and we have to find that balance.
I didn't think I was a teen or considered myself a young woman until I was around 15-16, but hey, I was still playing outside climbing trees and playing with my barbie dolls, so maybe I was just weird.... but nowadays, I notice little girls (an to me that is anyone under the age of 13-14) who try to act and be so much older. My nieces are a prime example- they are 9 and 8 and act like they are about 19 or something. Seriously, some days I want to shake so common sense into them when they act snotty and stuck up. But, they learn by example......
Ok,,,enough ranting...
Cheers,
Heather |
| bohemiangel |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 09:34:42 AM
Oh the way kids are is outrageous they skip over being a lil girl and go from toddler to teen. I really have a problem with TV. Anyone ever watch gossip girl? I am 25 and shocked at what they do/say on there!!! Sex, drugs, drinking underage, being bad is all cool and awesome If I had a child I would not let them watch it or I'd sit there and discuss it with them. lol
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| catscharm74 |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 09:02:23 AM
Kate- I have a friend who has been making her daughter's clothes since she was around 8. She couldn't stand the clothes being sold in the stores for her daughter, but didn't want to make her wear too conservative clothes either. She has mad a number of sun dresses, which she can put a cute t-shirt under or tank top...and her daughter has input on the colors and style. She won't compromise on skirt length (just to the knee or longer) or see through material. Her daughter seems happy and she is almost 13 now.
It is so hard with the media pushing the Britney's and Paris' of this world. I know with a strong Mom like you, she will be alright.
Cheers,
Heather |
| kissmekate |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 08:56:25 AM
I am having a heck of a time finding appropriate clothing for my eleven year old. I can't beleive the trashy hooker clothes out for kids.
She isn't much of a fashion bug yet, thank God. But I don't want areas hanging out or not covered up. She is one for comfort too, thank Heavens.
She tries to sneak a little make up, but I make her wash her face.
I keep telling her she is truly beautiful without make up, she will only need a little lip balm. She will be a knock out when she is older, but the key word is older.
And another thing, I wish the "older" Paris/Britney girls these days would realize that one can be/feel sexy and not have to show all the goods too.
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 05:47:54 AM
ha, I guess sometimes I am a little slow catching on
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| bohemiangel |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 05:34:47 AM
IMHO in my humble opinion
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| bohemiangel |
Posted - Jan 28 2008 : 05:32:57 AM
Miss Wilma nono you didn't offend me or anything!!!!! It's so hard to hear how I'd say this... :P
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| miss wilma |
Posted - Jan 27 2008 : 9:28:46 PM
Thank you my sweet newest little daughter, You know its not hard to be a lady, and I think I just met another one today,
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