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| babysmama |
Posted - Dec 08 2007 : 6:50:39 PM
I am pregnant so don't know if I am overeacting so want your advice. My Grandma mentioned to my aunt that one of the name choices I like is Josephine. My aunt posted on our family website if this was true and to really reconsider and assure her that it wasn't true since her grand-daughter (my second cousin) is named Josie. She says that it is confusing already with some of the similar names in the family (two second cousins are named Emily, my daughter and my cousin are named Rebecca, and so on). I have never been confused since when someone talks about them they say "Rebecca S..." or "Rebecca F....". Is it rude of her to tell me to reconsider our name choices, especially when her grand-daughters name is Josie and not even the full Josephine. Please give me advice!!
-Elizabeth |
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| sunshine |
Posted - Dec 11 2007 : 3:48:50 PM
It is your baby pick any name you want. You and the child have to live with it not the Aunt and it truly isn't any of her business in the first place. There are lots and lots of people in my family with the same name. I have at least 10 relatives name Mary as their first given name or John ( 4 of those) and 4 scotts and so on. We always know who we are talking about because of the context of the discussion happening. If your aunt is to lazy ( excuse me on that) but it is lazy if you can't follow a conversation close enough to know whom you are talking about why are you in the conversation in the first place. My Grand mother is Mary so is my mother and her sister so there are two sisters with the same first name my sister is mary I have to cousin in laws name Mary and the list goes on and on My father is John , my brother is john, my grandfather is john I have two nephews named john ( one is actually Johnathan) but still pretty much a john name. None of us care the people like their names alot of them to help stop the confusion (but their usually isn't confusion the content thing again) go by middle names and no one minds all good.
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| Beach Girl |
Posted - Dec 11 2007 : 2:37:41 PM
I have nothing to add, just agree with all that has been said.
When I was pregnant with my second son and my sil was pregnant with her second child, she knew that she was having a girl and had decided on Kathryn as a name (I didn't know that). So at some family event, she asked what we were going to name ours and I told her that if it was a girl it was going to be Katherine (after my grandmother). She then informed me that her baby was going to be Kathryn and it would be too confusing for me to name my baby the same even though it was a different spelling. Fortunately, I had a boy, so the problem was solved. However, I would have stayed with Katherine, as my grandmother was very dear to me.
Name your baby whatever you want with peace in your heart! 
Vanessa
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| Peanut |
Posted - Dec 11 2007 : 10:44:07 AM
We're going through the baby-naming gauntlet now. We like family names, but we're afraid of hurting feelings if we don't use names from one side of the family or the other. Fortunately, we want a big family so hopefully we'll cover all the bases!
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| bohemiangel |
Posted - Dec 11 2007 : 09:39:01 AM
Honey I can see your side easily. Be glad you all have good communication though! Do what you want and know is right:) so that you are happy. They will understand eventually. XOXO
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| paradiseplantation |
Posted - Dec 11 2007 : 07:53:08 AM
I love the name Josephine! I say go for it, and pay no attention to the older segment of your family. They'll love that baby regardless.
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| Annab |
Posted - Dec 10 2007 : 03:26:59 AM
Better a pretty name like this than one your daughter will be potentially teased about when she gets to school.
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 11:09:12 PM
I agree...your baby..you get to pick the name..it WAS rude of your aunt to make a public fuss.
We have 3 girls named Erin all on my husband's side of the family (including our youngest daughter) until they get married they all even have the same last name (and there are two of them here in THIS town)but we have fun with it..we have Big Erin, Medium Erin and Little Erin. Our Erin (Little Erin) was adopted and of course I may not have chose that name, but sure would not feel bad about her having the same exact name as two of her cousins! If you love a name and you know it is the right name..go for it!!
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| kissmekate |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 8:56:31 PM
Hon, she is your baby. Name her what you want. She may make her appearance and not even be a Josephine. She may be a Lauren or a Teresa or whatever...
Like Diane said, she is an old lady and thinks she needs to offer her two cents. Just let her say it, and name her what you want and what suits her.
Don't miss out on a blessing, just because it isn't packaged the way you expected. ~MaryJo Copeland |
| AmyEllen |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 11:17:58 AM
I used names that I loved for my kids. No one minded and through marriage and everything, we now have 6 Davids, my son, my brother and brother in law, father in law, a nephew, and an uncle. LOL. We have 3 Jon or Jonathans, my son, a brother in law, and a cousin. When you have a big family, sometimes you get repeats..... So if there is only one or two others your doing far better then my family, LOL.
I would encourgae you to use the names you love for your children.
Hugs
Amy
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| farmgirl blessings |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 09:49:42 AM
Who would ever think that baby naming could cause such a fuss?
When I was pregnant with our second son, we announced that his name would be Luke. In my 8th month of pregnancy, my husband received a call from a relative from the hospital where his wife had just given birth. He said, "We've decided that we would like to name our son, Luke. Would you consider changing your son's name? We don't need two Luke's in the family." Can you imagine? My husband kindly told him that Luke was such a lovely name and our son had already been named though he hadn't arrived yet, and we welcomed sharing the name if they saw fit to name their son the same. Well, they didn't. They made their son a junior. And all was well.
But we still laugh when we remember that story.
Josephine is perfectly elegant. Shame on your auntie for assuming she has a right to dictate your child's name. But they do try sometimes! I'd just smile, not cause a fuss, and name that dear one whatever your heart desires!
Blessings, Lea
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| Annika |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 09:21:56 AM
I think it is a lovely name. I, too, loved Little Women, as well as the history of the name. Very good choice in my mind. I don't want to sound mean, but I think she is being a bit silly about it.
Wishing you joy in small things and peace in your heart
Annika
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 07:41:46 AM
I'm always amazed at the hulabaloo baby's name's cause...unless it's something like an acquaintance mentioned to me a few days ago (Elvis Leonard--to which I responded "different!"), I just feel like--it's your thing, your baby and your decision--even in that example.
Josephine is an incredible name--I have often thought of it for a little girl's name myself (too, because I love Little Women). Our nephew's name is Maxamilian and folks had a difficult time with it--people just call him Max, and it suits him...
Josie and Josephine are two different names--they'll get used to it, right? What else are they going to do????
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| babysmama |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 07:35:30 AM
Thanks for the advice! I actually haven't told anyone names this time around, but I think my Grandma remembers when I was trying to choose between Josephine and Rebecca for our first so must have brought that up because of it. The whole reason I love Josephine is because I read "Little Women". But I just found it rude that my aunt acted like each name in the family could never be used more than once, especially since we come from a very large family and the second and third cousins rarely see each other so who cares if a name is used once or twice, especially when her grand-daughters name isn't even the full Josephine. Sorry, just had to vent!!! I do plan to keep name choices quiet until the birth annoucements are sent out and then it will be too late for anyone to complain!
-Elizabeth |
| willowtreecreek |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 06:57:22 AM
After watching the grief some members of both sides of the family gave my sister over her choice of name if and when Richie and I have kids I will NOT share the name until after it is legal and official. She is YOUR child and you have the right to name her what you want to. You could always suggesst to your aunt that she legally change her daughters name if she doesnt like it! Ha. Just kidding.
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| ArmyWifey |
Posted - Dec 09 2007 : 06:44:05 AM
It reminds me of Jo in Little Women! Don't you love people who tell you their opinions without thinking ? My second dd's middle name is Grace (to date she's the only Jessica Grace we've met in the slew of Jessica's) and my Mom said it sounded like an old lady's name - whatever! She also told me that my second ds's middle name was spelled wrong - HELLO?- it's Cuyler (pronounced like Kyler - it's Irish and a family name). While it was annoying I knew that was to be their names so if you and hubby like Josephine don't worry about it! If you have to just tell Granny that you love her and appreciate her opinion but this is your baby - she's already had her chance to chose names.
Blessings,
Holly
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| Carol Sue |
Posted - Dec 08 2007 : 11:12:38 PM
Elizabeth,
Name that w0nderful baby what y0u and y0ur husband feel like is her name. Families can be s0 darned funny, but y0u were the 0ne gifted with this little 0ne and the resp0siblity is y0urs.
BTW, J0sephine is a beautiful name.
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| PlumCreekMama |
Posted - Dec 08 2007 : 9:56:13 PM
I had a similar experience when I told my mil that dh and I were thinking of naming our first child Trinity. She didn't say anything and made this face. It really turned me off to the name and we decided not to tell any of our name choices to anyone until the baby was born and named. We have done this with both of our children and it has worked out great. My advice would be to just ignore the aunt, name your baby what you want, and maybe consider not telling anyone your name choices.
BTW, back when I was younger and thought I wasn't going to have children, I named my dog Josephine, whose nickname is Josie. I love the name and kind of wish I would have saved it in case I have a daughter. It's a beautiful name! |
| MagnoliaWhisper |
Posted - Dec 08 2007 : 8:35:36 PM
It's your daughter you get to choose the name. I would just "ignore" the aunt, like I didn't see what she posted, etc. I wouldn't engage her at all. |
| DaisyFarm |
Posted - Dec 08 2007 : 7:32:08 PM
Well maybe over-reacting just a little, but that's just my opinion. Some family members, particularly older ones, seem to feel they are entitled to say such things and express their opinions freely. At least in my family they sure do! I don't think they mean it maliciously, they just figure young un's should listen to their elders. Geez, you should have heard my grandmother when we named our youngest Cassidy. She was horrified and let us know it! Too funny really.
So my advice is to name your new little one whatever your heart desires...she's your baby!
Di
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| Maryjane Lee |
Posted - Dec 08 2007 : 7:14:37 PM
It wasn't very nice for your aunt to make it so public. If your heart tells you to name your baby Josephine, do so. It always works out. Josephine is a beautiful name.
Hugs, Maryjane Lee
Farmgirl Sister #44
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