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| Linda K. Miller |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 08:06:20 AM
Dear Farm Girls,
I am withdrawing from the Farm Girl Forum as of today. Unfortunately someone I met through this forum has taken it upon her self to post a picture of our Amish friends buggy leaving our farm on their personal web site. She did not ask nor tell me when we shared pictures that she would be using "MY" pictures for her website. I know that not everyone would do this but I am so shocked and disappointed. I do not want anyone else to copy something I may write or share on the forum. For me this is a sad "Life Lesson". 
Justmama from Amish Kentucky |
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| Carol Sue |
Posted - Aug 12 2007 : 10:41:09 PM
I felt that hug and sure needed it tonight. Thanks.....
Enjoying life. |
| queenofdreamsz4u |
Posted - Aug 12 2007 : 6:31:43 PM
My cybergroup hug to everyone 
(((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))
It's nice to be loved and remembered and this group is such a safe haven!
Loads of Love and Hugs to everyone!
...til next time ~ queenofdreamsz
"hold close your inner child and always listen to the gentle whispers" ~queenofdreamsz
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| Past Blessings |
Posted - Aug 12 2007 : 4:00:11 PM
When Kathie wrote about how she'd leave here kicking and screaming and how much she loves each of us farmgirls, it made my eyes water! So now girl, everyone lean into your monitors for a big ol' cyber group hug! Farmgirls are the best!
Hugs & blessings,
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
| Hideaway Farmgirl |
Posted - Aug 11 2007 : 2:45:01 PM
Well, this has been a thought-provoking posting, to say the least.
I am saddened to have lost one of our farmgirls, but so proud to see so many others step up with such wise, kind and caring comments. My very best goes out to Linda and her family; and hugs to you; Autumn, who showed grace under fire, and who did absolutely the right and only thing you could do when faced with this situation.
We do indeed, move too quickly through this modern world, and the World Wide Web brings us face-to-face with all sorts of wonderful and unexpected situations. I supposed the tactful thing now is to move on, and keep this lesson learned in our hearts and minds.
I hope everyone is having a lovely Saturday today. The weather here in Virginia has take a turn for the better, it has been a gorgeous day today.
Jo
"Wish I had time to work with herbs all day!" |
| Pearlsnjeans |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 9:49:22 PM
Some truly awesome things have been said here, inspiring thoughts on what it means to be a good friend and neighbor. It's great to be part of something so wonderful. I'm still somewhat new to the forum and so don't know many of you, but it's comforting to know that since we all make mistakes, we have such a strong support group.
Vicki
who says Farmgirls aren't elegant |
| DeepsouthMamma |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 4:49:38 PM
Carol Sue
A lovely end and wisdom shown by Linda in the community where she lives. I applaud her for taking her friendships and their concerns seriously.
She is indeed being a good neighbor-as we all should be.
I wish you could express to her my admiration for her diligence to her Amish neighbors.
Autumn
Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. |
| mkmomus |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 4:18:52 PM
EllynAnne,
I met you at Borders when your book came out!! I think I was one of the first ones there. I was kind of hanging out like a stalker till you got there because I had to be someplace else, but I wanted that book----and it was well woth the stalking!!!! I have been here 10 years. I'm from upstate NY. What will you be here for in April? I would love to come and see you.
Merle
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| Carol Sue |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 4:15:33 PM
Kathie,
That is a good reminder to us. I love this forum, most of all I love the friendships that form and women need. I am one of those women.
Some of our lives, okay, lets admit it girls, we are all busy and sometimes we don't get the oppurtunity to sit down and chat and have those freindships.
This is a place where I can and where I have connected. My circle of friends is small but this place allows me so much more.
Okay, trying to figure out how to share this and not overstep bounds. Buggers it can be a challenge.
I had a lovely email from Linda, she has forgiven Autumn and said so. Her husband and her took time too pray and search things out about what was best for their family. In the community they live in they do not want to in anyway betray their Amish friends. It has happened to many times to their friends and they want to make sure they do not overstep their bounds. It is a fine line to walk at times.
They have choosen to stay within their community and for them that is wisdom. It doesn't entirely have to do with the forum.
I have read some and for them to have the friendships that they have is miraculous and not wanting to jeoperdise(sp) any of that is understandable.
When she wrote the post she immediatly unsubscribed so hasn't seen any of the posts.
Hope that helps with out stepping out of bounds.
Carol Sue
Enjoying life. |
| Kathie |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 1:37:12 PM
Well.. I've read.. & read.. & read through these posts over the days.. & you all know how I can get.. so rather then say anything at all.. i opted to just keep my big mouth shut.. But.. now that the smoke has cleared.. ok.. i am going to just have to..
i have to say what an admirable woman You are Autumn!!
& i'm So very happy you've found your Way here to the Forum..I think you'll be so happy here.. & EVEN more happy that you made the decision to stay! Because i think in getting to knowing you.. We'll all have benefited as well! Thank you for your honesty, your brave soul.. & your understanding of another persons feelings.. even at the expense of possibly having to accept responsibility & blame for a completely innocent action... I am SO very happy you've stuck it out.. long enough to see what we all are about.. !!
& my only regret is that Linda was here for such a short time.. she never gave herself the chance to see what I hope you ,as well as WE all know here.. Which is true Friendship.. & unfailing earnesty in wanting to reach out to all of our Sister Farm Girls..No matter what the reason..
& most of all.. Hey.. i'm with Rebecca.. You'd have to drag me out of here kicking & screaming!..
I hope you know how much I Love you all.. & hold you so close to me heart every day!
Please don't ever think you have to hold back or sugar coat what you say with me!! I have REALLY thick skin!! & i know I may come across as brash sometimes!! & if I EVER say anything to any one of you that offends.. or did any thing that was just wrong.. TELL ME!!
I am SOOOOOoo ok with that!
Love ya Lots girls!!!!
Kathie
In a World Where you Can Be Anything, Be Yourself.. |
| EllynAnne |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 10:01:11 AM
Merle, hey! I'm from Greensboro! I'll be visiting next April for an apron presentation. How long have you been a resident?
EllynAnne
www.apronmemories.com
Tie One On...an apron, of course! |
| mkmomus |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 09:33:07 AM
I have to say Autumn; I think you have handled this with a great deal of class. In fact, I think every reply was more than tactful and kind. It is a pleasure to deal with woman of this caliber. I am glad to count you all among my friends. |
| sunshine |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 09:26:33 AM
autumn when i talked to her I did let her know you had apologized and that the pictures where removed just so you know that was my last email to her have not heard back on that one so I think she knows you apologized but not sure.
take care
sunshine
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
my bloghttp://sunshinescreations.vintagethreads.com/
my web store http://vintagethreads.com/ |
| smoothiejuice |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 09:02:25 AM
Wow...I am so, well, wow is all I can say. I mean I have seen pics of my stuff on others websites, and been tickled that someone actually did that, and never thought it offensive. I just figure that is what happens with digital media. Sorry this caused a conflict between you two. Glad to see it resolved, and I am sorry this became an issue. wow! |
| DeepsouthMamma |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 08:55:47 AM
Sunshine
Thanks so much for sharing that info. I completely understand her decision- it can be frightening to feel so violated in such unfamiliar territory. Especially when you can not see a face and you really don't know the real people.
PLEASE express this to Linda for me- as I do not want to further insult her by contacting her.
I just hate that I was the cause of obvious hurt by my own ignorance of the territory.
I am learning but sorry it was at the expense of another. I agree we need to respect her wishes to withdraw and let it be.
Tks so much ,Sunshine. I am so happy she communicated this to you and you shared it with the rest of us.
Autumn
Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. |
| sunshine |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 07:47:48 AM
I have talked to linda too she thought this decision out and decided it best for her and her family to withdraw she discussed it with them and we should be content with her decision as it fits her life and she is the one that has to live in that life. I wish her well in life in all her choices May God bless her and her family with much joy and happiness.
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe
my bloghttp://sunshinescreations.vintagethreads.com/
my web store http://vintagethreads.com/ |
| celebrate2727 |
Posted - Aug 09 2007 : 07:38:37 AM
I have a few thoughts on this whole thing. First I believe Autumn when she says she meant no harm and never thought that it would offend or hurt anyone. I think she did the right thing by apologizing and removing the items in question immediately. On the otherhand, as this was Linda's first time on a forum, her reaction was to simply remove herself from it and that too I understand. I hope as time moves on she will realize what caring and amazing women are here and that we are all human and do make mistakes and that she will return to us. I told her that we are still her farmgirl friends and are here whenever she wishes to return.
blessings
beth
I Can
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| happymama58 |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 8:45:12 PM
I'm sorry that this happened and that the former farmgirl who was upset didn't stick around long enough to work through this. I've found, though, in recent weeks that some people don't really want an apology or an explanation. They simply want to chew you out, feel self-righteous about how wronged they are, and nothing you can say or do will make amends. It's unfortunate and sad. Perhaps that wasn't the case here, but we'll never know. I know how you feel, though, because I've been there and know how bad you feel.
Some people search for happiness; others create it.
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| janetinva123 |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 10:51:08 AM
pictures belong to the person who took them as copy righted material. unless you have express permission to use a photo then you are in the wrong. you can get some photos from the net that are free or royalty free but even then you have to be careful. i think that when the pics where removed right away went a long way to correct what was done and the apology too. I hope we can all learn what is a copy right and move on with care and trust.
Jc
http://beloved-creations.blogspot.com
http://beloved-creations.com |
| Linda Houston |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 10:42:26 AM
I was saddened to see that feelings had been hurt and 2 wonderful women are thinking of leaving us. I can't add more to the wonderful things that have been written, but I truly beleive that Autumn acted in innocence. From our e-mail back and forth, she is truly a wonderful woman with a kind spirit.
As all of you have stated, I have learned a lesson...I don't know how to post pictures,however, I will be extra careful if I ever learn
Again, both of you, please takes deep breaths and stay with us. We need each person on this site so that we can stand together in a world that needs woman such as we are.
Linda H. |
| Luzy |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 07:16:13 AM
Not trying to be judgmental here, but seems like we have a choice to either learn from a situation such as this or dwell on the negative. I hope Linda chooses to be "better" not "bitter" as the saying goes, and joins us again. That's just my opinion AND I'm proud of Autumn for coming forward. I know that must have been tough. Hugs, Lu
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| KYgurlsrbest |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 07:12:35 AM
What a shame. I mean, what a shame that Linda didn't stick around to see problem solving at its best--we farmgirls sure know how to mediate! We all get our knickers in a twist at times, and I'm just sorry that Autumn still feels punished. This IS a safeplace for us to be who we are, and since we are all individuals, there's bound to be differences of opinion, and innocent mistakes made. Thank God for that, right?
Forgive, forget. Can't move on until you do.
"She was built like a watch, a study in balance ... with a neck and head so refined, like a drawing by DaVinci"...
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| DeepsouthMamma |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 07:04:39 AM
I am very sorry ladies.
Time for me to move on to brighter topics now.
See you soon in other threads.
Isaiah 40:31
But they that wait upon the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. |
| therusticcottage |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 06:53:29 AM
I checked the member list and I think she's already withdrawn.
http://therusticcottage.blogspot.com |
| queenofdreamsz4u |
Posted - Aug 08 2007 : 12:50:16 AM
Hey there Linda,
If you have goodness in your heart, then please choose to move forward. Don't get stuck in any wrong doing or negative act. It will only stay within you and bury itself to surface later and cause you more anguish.
Farmgirl Connection is one of the safest harbors you will find on the internet. The girls are straightforward, honest, kind, supportive, nurturing, encouraging..what more can I say?
I've been in many groups on the internet and they all for the most part have a certain "coolness" about them but FG Connection broke the mold. It is because these ladies really connect with one another and really care about the lives of one another.
You have a choice to be positive or to be negative at any given moment...Please choose to see the positive outcome and stay with us
There really wasn't any malice or disrespect intended
...til next time ~ queenofdreamsz
"hold close your inner child and always listen to the gentle whispers" ~queenofdreamsz
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| Shirlaroo |
Posted - Aug 07 2007 : 9:42:24 PM
As we are all individuals, and we feel strongly about diffrent things, it is only natural that we may offend someone from time to time. I think you are both immensley brave to wear your hurts out in the open. And I hope it can be resolved soon. Who knows, this may even strengthen the friendship between the both of you, as your relationship takes on deeper understanding of one another.
Friends are the best collectables. |
