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| bec414 |
Posted - Jan 08 2015 : 7:36:10 PM
My husband of 19+ years was diagnosed with bipolar and left me with 6 children after he went to visit his sister 1400 miles away from home. He says he is staying there and now has filed for divorce. I haven't worked outside the home since 1996.
I really want to keep our place that is 20 acres in the woods and keep the kids homeschooled.
what are your suggestions to help make that happen?
Becky,
In the heart of Todd's home with my olive branches (Josie 11/96, Gabbi 9/98, Natalie 5/00, Daniel 9/02, Mary 9/04, and Tabitha 7/06) around my table. Ps 128:3
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| Bonnie Ellis |
Posted - Sep 01 2015 : 5:12:19 PM
Becky, mental illness is so hard to deal with. Please know you are being prayed for and you are receiving hugs. Take one minute at a time. Breathe. Hug your kids.
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| quiltee |
Posted - Sep 01 2015 : 07:51:19 AM
Prayers for you and your family.
Farmgirl hugs,
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| churunga |
Posted - Jul 11 2015 : 08:12:22 AM
This sounds as if it is all working out for you. Let your farmgirl sisters know how we can help.
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| bec414 |
Posted - Jul 10 2015 : 11:18:35 AM
We are surviving. He sends some money. I was able to get a job as an RN at a nearby nursing home two nights a week after not working for 16 years. My older two work art time jobs. We have had amazing help. Our Church is going to help put a up a fence for a bigger pasture so we can board a horse for extra feed money.
The older 4 and I are learning how to use the tractors, weed wacker and rototiller...or how to find out that we don't have the strength to use them. My 15 yo cooks a lot and my little ones are learning to cook more than PB&J
Most recently we had a Divorce vs. Separate Mantainance trial. He did not show up. He is still afraid of coming to his home state. He would have really had problems when 7 of our closest friends were at the courthouse to support me. He still have no understanding of his illness. He still won't talk to me or the children. They are dealing with it pretty well. Better than I am.
Because he didn't show up he doesn't get the divorce he wanted; three pieces of family furniture that he wanted, and he has to pay the most child support allowed by law to take directly from his check. I get the house (half equity half mortgage) and a significant amount of his retirement.
Financially the next few years will be really difficult...but as the kids grow up and leave (sniff, sniff) It will be easier. They just won't have the things and resources that they would have. I grieve that for them, but I know we will all be stronger.
Becky,
In the heart of Todd's home with my olive branches (Josie 11/96, Gabbi 9/98, Natalie 5/00, Daniel 9/02, Mary 9/04, and Tabitha 7/06) around my table. Ps 128:3
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| TexasGran |
Posted - Jul 09 2015 : 7:07:51 PM
Hi Becky, I joined in April and I continue to read a bit from time to time. Tonight I landed in your story. How are you doing? Your last post was five months ago. Would you like to update us? I will add my prayers with the others.
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| prariehawk |
Posted - Feb 04 2015 : 10:41:27 PM
So sorry you are going through this . Please try to understand that mental illness takes people away from their true selves. I've seen people who alienated everyone around them cause the mental illness robbed them of their rationality and the delusions created chaos for those who loved them. I pray your husband will get the help he needs and STICK WITH IT--that's the problem so many people have with mental illness--they take their meds. for a while, start feeling better, then stop the meds. and they're worse off than before. I'm lucky--I suffer from severe depression but I KNOW the medicines help so I take them and as a result, I can work full time and function in society. It hasn't always been that way and took a number of years for me to find the right balance. I pray your husband finds that balance. You sound resourceful and I know something will work out for you in this difficult time. You have my prayers.
Cindy
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| wildflower17 |
Posted - Feb 04 2015 : 8:23:01 PM
So sorry that you and your family are dealing with this situation...Please know that we are here for you and that you are in our thoughts and prayers...
Hugs!
Judy
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| Bear5 |
Posted - Feb 04 2015 : 11:57:34 AM
Prayers for you and your children. Keep us posted.
Marly
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| marjean |
Posted - Feb 03 2015 : 1:32:06 PM
Praying for you to have peace and calmness through this rough patch.
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| 5 acre Farmgirl |
Posted - Jan 30 2015 : 06:41:24 AM
 Your in my Prayers...my heart goes out to you my friend....
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| bec414 |
Posted - Jan 26 2015 : 07:39:32 AM
Annapearl, 150 miles in WY is like being neighbors.
Star-schip, I am working on my resume, but it is difficult to know how to represent the last 16 years in nursing job terms
Becky,
In the heart of Todd's home with my olive branches (Josie 11/96, Gabbi 9/98, Natalie 5/00, Daniel 9/02, Mary 9/04, and Tabitha 7/06) around my table. Ps 128:3
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| sherone_13 |
Posted - Jan 26 2015 : 05:53:17 AM
Becky,
Sorry I haven't looked at this post for awhile. I'm about 150 miles from Lander.
Sherone
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| cajungal |
Posted - Jan 26 2015 : 05:49:59 AM
Becky, I'm continuing to pray for you and your family.
Catherine
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| Joey |
Posted - Jan 23 2015 : 09:00:49 AM
Hugs to you and your family, Becky. Thinking of you today and sending prayers that something will immediately fall into place for you work wise. I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. I am a psychiatric RN and know how terribly mental illness is and the tole it takes on families and loved ones trying to deal with it all. Thank God for your dear children. I'm hear if you want to talk. I am a good listener. Just email me. Joey
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| star-schipp |
Posted - Jan 21 2015 : 06:44:12 AM
Good morning Becky - thinking of you today. I will help you with your resume if you want to apply to some work at home RN positions - let me know (hugs)
If you can't feed one hundred people, then just feed one. -Mother Teresa
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| mellaisbella |
Posted - Jan 21 2015 : 05:48:58 AM
Sending you prayers, love and hugs from Canada
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| AsiyahK |
Posted - Jan 11 2015 : 6:46:42 PM
Becky, I am so sorry about this situation. As an RN, can you work as an over-the-phone health care provider? I ask this because my good friend is an RN and works from home part time consulting on disability cases. I think the most important thing is that you be able to bring in some kind of income in the absence of your husband. If you can do anything work-related as a remote employee, that would free up some of your time to continue home-schooling your children. Prayers and hugs for you! |
| hudsonsinaf |
Posted - Jan 10 2015 : 6:35:52 PM
Becky - please know that you and your children (as well as your hubby) are in my prayers!!! I praise God that your church is behind you! The only suggestions I can think of would be to re-activate your license if that is an option for you (I have no idea how hard that is... there are times I kick myself for not keeping mine active!) and work weekends, 12 hour shifts, so you can continue schooling your children. My other would be some type of medical transcriptionist, as you already know the "lingo" and you can do that from home.
~ Shannon
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| bec414 |
Posted - Jan 10 2015 : 6:10:13 PM
probably not.
Any where near Lander?
Becky,
In the heart of Todd's home with my olive branches (Josie 11/96, Gabbi 9/98, Natalie 5/00, Daniel 9/02, Mary 9/04, and Tabitha 7/06) around my table. Ps 128:3
www.hillbilliesinabarn.blogspot.com |
| sherone_13 |
Posted - Jan 10 2015 : 4:57:35 PM
I'm in Wyoming...anything I can do to help?
Sherone
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| bec414 |
Posted - Jan 10 2015 : 3:45:14 PM
Actually, Brightmeadow, he is in WY so not any warmer or less windy. It has been colder there most of the winter. No sympathy form me.
The outside work is for their 4-H animals so they are doing it all. They are not daunted by these temps they have lived here their while lives.
I have been wearing many layers. We have geothermal and it has never had difficulty keeping us warm.
Becky,
In the heart of Todd's home with my olive branches (Josie 11/96, Gabbi 9/98, Natalie 5/00, Daniel 9/02, Mary 9/04, and Tabitha 7/06) around my table. Ps 128:3
www.hillbilliesinabarn.blogspot.com |
| brightmeadow |
Posted - Jan 10 2015 : 10:05:44 AM
Becky, first I want to send you hugs! I am thinking of you and praying for you.
Not to make light of your situation, but I see you are in Saginaw. I am also in Michigan and with this week's temperatures (I was in Flint the last three days on a business trip, dealing with minus 10 wind chill and still getting over the flu.) I can kind of understand why your husband might want to be 1400 miles away from here! (Texas, Florida or California come to mind as good places to be in January.) I am thinking of warmer places myself!
Are the kids helping with outside chores? Are you keeping warm OK?
You shall eat the fruit of the labor of your hands - You shall be happy and it shall be well with you. -Psalm 128.2
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| star-schipp |
Posted - Jan 09 2015 : 5:24:19 PM
Becky, like the other farmgirls, I am praying for you. I am an RN and have been able to find work with an insurance company in the case management department that allows telecommuting. It has been a gift from God that I found it and was a direct answer to my prayers for being able to support our family and still be at home.
I'll be thinking of you so much and please email me if you need to blow off some steam.
Peace be with you,
Star
If you can't feed one hundred people, then just feed one. -Mother Teresa
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| Killarney |
Posted - Jan 09 2015 : 4:19:48 PM
Many, Many prayers for you and your family.
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| laurzgot |
Posted - Jan 09 2015 : 3:12:58 PM
Becky, I'm so sorry to hear this. You're farmgirl strong. The renting sounds good, but if you decide to do that I would do background checks on people. Also check with the utilities people, tell them in a round about way what happened without mentioning DH illness and see if they might suggest some solutions. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Hugs,
Laurie
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