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Across the Fence:  Pure Love...  |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
 Posted - May 16 2021 : 10:42:08 PM
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Hi girls!
I just want to share with you the sweetest thing. Many of you know that my husband was diagnosed at a pretty young age a few years ago with frontotemporal lobe dementia. These past years have been pretty difficult watching him decline.
If you remember any of my MJF posts, my husband used to be full of life and laughter. Oh, so much life and laughter. He could find humor in anything or make me laugh at the silliest things. We always had so much fun. He was also the biggest old softy with the biggest heart full of love. He just preferred to laugh, and that was a very good thing.
The sweetest thing he ever said to me was when our son was wee little. My girlfriend and her mom were visiting from out of state. The three of us were in the kitchen cooking, and my hubby was out back in the yard cutting grass in the miserable heat. All of a sudden the back door flung open and my husband came plodding across the kitchen, grabbed me in his sweaty grass-covered arms, pulled me close and gave me a big sweaty kiss. I said "Ech! What was THAT for?!" He said, "Toys in the backyard. I never thought I would have them." At which point, all three of us - my girlfriend, her mom and I, got big tears in our eyes and cried. My husband just turned away as if nothing happened and headed back outside to finish the task at hand.
That's just how he used to be... laughing and enjoying life and every once in a while he would be serious and romantic. Always sweet, though. Always my best friend. I have missed all of that terribly.
Fast forward to the beginning of this month.
My hubby, our dog and I were heading to the back door to head out to the car and go for our daily walk by the lake at the park. Nothing unusual or special was going on that day. It was just our usual routine. My husband was leading the way out to the garage. Behind him was our sweet, happy-go-lucky dog Bella who was wagging her tail in anticipation. I trailed behind her, one hand wriggling my arm through a sweater, one purse strap clutched in my teeth, and the other hand furiously searching my purse for my keys.
Suddenly he stopped, turned around and looked at me.
I asked, "What?"
He said, "What?"
I asked, "What are you looking at?"
He said, "You!"
I said, "What do you see?"
He tilted his head to the side, his eyes got soft, he gave me a really sweet smile and gently said with ALL sincerity,
"Ah. Pure Love."
At which point my legs felt weak, my heart was all warm, tears came to my eyes, and I rushed over to him, put my arms around him and said, "That's right, baby, and don't you forget it!" and gave him a big kiss.
Then he just turned around and walked out the back door as if nothing happened.
I stood there like a blubbering idiot.
It was the sweetest thing ever, and I will treasure that moment for the rest of my life.
These are the moments that sustain us.
One of my girlfriends calls those kinds of moments, "God winks."
Another called it "a gift from above," which it was, to be sure.
Yet another friend was simply amazed and called it an absolute miracle.
There are many wonderful names we can tag to that moment.
Call it what you will.
But to me, in my heart, it will always be...
simply...
Pure Love.
Hope this story brightens your day as much as it did mine!
Hugs and love,
Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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Edited by - Ninibini on May 16 2021 10:46:30 PM |
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StitchinWitch
True Blue Farmgirl
2247 Posts
Judith
Galt
CA
USA
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Posted - May 16 2021 : 11:53:59 PM
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Nini -- how wonderful.
Hugs
Judith
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windypines
True Blue Farmgirl
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Michele
Bruce
Wisconsin
USA
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Posted - May 17 2021 : 04:31:16 AM
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hold on to the little things for sure.
Farming in WI
Michele
FGOTM June2019
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl
4365 Posts
Dianna
Jack
Al.
USA
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Posted - May 17 2021 : 05:07:14 AM
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Now I have big crocodile tears Niki. How utterly beautiful and special and yes, a "gift from above"! Humans can take so many things for granted, wish for so much material things, get caught up in daily life that moments like this are missed or uncherished. Thank you for sharing such an intimate special moment. Much love....
Farmgirl #7103
FGOTM January 2018
Dianna
"Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro |
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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
9325 Posts
Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
9325 Posts |
Posted - May 17 2021 : 05:12:42 AM
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Nini,
Oh that we all would be more like that. Just a simple thing to some but so deep to others of us. So thankful God gave that moment to you. A reminder to give things like that to our spouses.
~Denise
Sister #43~1/18/2007
"I am a bookaholic and I have no desire to be cured." 
"Home is where we find comfort, security, memories, friendship, hospitality, and above all, family. It is the place that deserves our commitment and loyalty." William J. Bennett
"Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path." Psalm 119:105
http://www.ladybugsandlilacs.blogspot.com/
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Audra Rose
True Blue Farmgirl
2247 Posts
Vanessa
Brooksville
KY
USA
2247 Posts |
Posted - May 17 2021 : 05:20:31 AM
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I have tears in my eyes too.
Vanessa
Farmgirl Sister #6754
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
6585 Posts
Debbie L.
Oregon
USA
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Posted - May 17 2021 : 05:22:54 AM
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Such a heartwarming story. Thank you for sharing Nini.
Big Hugs,
Debbie
#1582
Blessed in Oregon
Farmgirl of the Month September 2012 and February 2018
“My altars are My Mountains
and the ocean.” Lord Byron”
Women are Angels,and when someone breaks our wings we simply continue to fly on our Broomsticks. We’re flexible like that.
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Dreamer42
True Blue Farmgirl
2691 Posts
April
Central
Oregon
USA
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Posted - May 17 2021 : 12:12:55 PM
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Those are the special moments that make life worth while... you two share a beautiful gift together! Pure love!
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MaryJanesNiece
True Blue Farmgirl
6938 Posts
Krista
Utah
USA
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Posted - May 17 2021 : 1:03:14 PM
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Nini, this brought tears to my eyes! I love romance and love and you two definitely have that. I am so happy you are able to experience these moments.
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HealingTouch
True Blue Farmgirl
3448 Posts
Darlene
Kunkletown
Pa
USA
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Posted - May 18 2021 : 6:41:01 PM
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Nini, immediately this scripture came to mind.
Math. 5:8
Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.
From a pure heart comes pure love! Many blessings and prayers for you and your husband. Cherish the moments!
Much love,
Darlene
Be Blessed and Be a Blessing,
Darlene
Sister 1922
October 2016 Farmgirl of the month
John 11: 35 Jesus wept.
When Satan's knocking at your door, just say "Jesus will you get that for me?"
When it gets to hard to stand, Kneel!
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craftingram
True Blue Farmgirl
526 Posts
Karin
Nashville
In
USA
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Posted - May 19 2021 : 06:24:21 AM
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Nini, so thankful you had that beautiful moment.
Karin
Sister #2708
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - May 20 2021 : 12:00:43 AM
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Thank you so much, girls. Im so glad your hearts are as touched as mine by this sweet little "God wink."
And thank you for that Scripture, Darlene. It means the world to me!
Hugs and love to all!
Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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katmom
True Blue Farmgirl
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Grace
WACAL Gal
WashCalif.
USA
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - May 20 2021 : 4:17:50 PM
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Yep! We sure do, Gracie. We sure do. Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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AussieChick
Sharpshooter
352 Posts
Cindy
Bend
Oregon
USA
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Posted - May 20 2021 : 5:44:57 PM
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Thank you so much for sharing your heart-warming moment with us! It's the seemingly simple things that matter the most - thank you for reminding us of this. It's very easy for us to get caught up in the chaos of everyday life and sometimes we fail to notice those "God winks". Your husband is a treasure!
Farmgirl #6058
Farmgirl Sister of the Year 2021
"The happiest people don't have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything they have". |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - May 27 2021 : 09:05:48 AM
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So true, Cindy - thank you! I'm a big one for treasuring the finer things, which are truly the meaningful things. I'm so glad you enjoyed reading what happened. These things come SO few and far between anymore, and when they do I just want to celebrate! Good things MUST be shared!! Hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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