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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
 Posted - Feb 22 2007 : 9:23:23 PM
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if you could "do-over" ONE thing in your life .. what would it be?
True Friends, Frannie
CABIN CREEK FARM
KENTUCKY
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catscharm74
True Blue Farmgirl
4687 Posts
Heather
Texas
USA
4687 Posts |
Posted - Feb 22 2007 : 9:36:01 PM
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I would have listened to my heart sooner about what I wanted to do with my life. Boy!! I think of the wasted time I lost doing what other's thought I should do. I could have been here sooner!!!
I now know to follow my heart and instincts and I will always be lead right to were I should be. I think I missed out of more things because of not doing this. But, life is still good and I am happy, so it all works out. |
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DaisyFarm
True Blue Farmgirl
1646 Posts
Diane
Victoria
BC
Canada
1646 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 12:14:34 AM
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Well I've probably done some pretty dumb things in my life, but by far the biggest regret I have was to ever have started smoking. I hate it.
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Beemoosie
True Blue Farmgirl
2077 Posts
Bonnie
New York
USA
2077 Posts |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 06:30:18 AM
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I guess I wouldn't change a thing..the bad things ended up leading to good things that I wouldn't want to change..so I guess I must have needed those too.
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
http://www.auntjennysworld.blogspot.com/ visit my little online shop at www.auntjenny.etsy.com |
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Bluewrenn
True Blue Farmgirl
1122 Posts
Erin
Texas
USA
1122 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 06:45:50 AM
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This is one of those questions that can haunt you for life... I used to obsess about things I would have done differently if I could just redo them, but I finally realized that I have to move onward. There's some small things, like finishing some projects, that I might have liked to "do over", but for the most part, I wouldn't change anything. I like who I am and while I wouldn't mind losing some of "me" (excess weight), we are the sum of our experiences.
My Homesteading Journal http://toomyvara.livejournal.com
My craft journal http://bluewrenn.livejournal.com
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GaiasRose
True Blue Farmgirl
2552 Posts
Tasha-Rose
St. Paul
Minnesota
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Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 07:31:00 AM
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Rob and I were talking baout this last night. We both have a lot of regret when it comes to when we were kids and we broke up. I married someone else (Rob came to the wedding-it was a terrible terrible day-I didn't want to get married to thte person that I did, but I felt backed into a corner and I honestly did not posess my strong will to stop what was in motion.) and had Grace. I got divorced and by Fate's loving hand, Rob and I got back together. If I could change it all, provided I still get Grace, I would. That is my only condition.
There is a song, by John Mayer I think, in which he says, "I can't rememeber life before her name" and I just cannot, so I cannot see changing things unless she were a part of it. She would have to still be mine, but of different circumstances.
Did that all make sense?
~*~Brightest Blessings~*~
Tasha-Rose
Blogs: http://gaiarose.wordpress.com
http://frugalwitch.wordpress.com
http://tasharose365.wordpress.com/
Homepage: http://mysticwoodsfarm.com
http://gaiasrose.etsy.com
Birth is safe, interference is risky; TRUST BIRTH |
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willowtreecreek
True Blue Farmgirl
4813 Posts
Julie
Russell
AR
USA
4813 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 07:39:37 AM
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I agree with Jenny. A lot of "bad" stuff went on that I wouldn't want to RE-live but it all lead to what is happening now and I couldn't be happier. I had been engaged to another person and some really bad stuff and emotional turmoil came of the relationship with that person but it was through that person that I met Richie. Richie means the world to me and kindof like Tasha I would gladly give up all that bad stuff but ONLY if I was still somehow lead to Richie.
Jewelry, art, baskets, etc.
www.willowartist.etsy.com
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lamamama
True Blue Farmgirl
255 Posts
Melanie
CA
USA
255 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 09:03:11 AM
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| Well.......I also am a believer in moving on past one's mistakes. And in my life I have certainly made a couple of whoppers! The one really big one, however, that continues to be a problem, is that I married the wrong man. And then hung in there WAY too long. The 2 precious pearls that came out of that ugly oyster of a marriage are my beautiful children - wouldn't trade them for the universe. But deep in my heart I admit that I once in a very blue moon think that those angels would have still come to me in a different marriage with a different man, & that is the moment I feel filled with regret. And @ that point, I make myself stop with that line of thought, & face up to the here & now. I really believe that part of getting older is knowing that you have made some mistakes in life, & just "get on with it." Would of, should of, could of - takes too much time out of our precious lives. |
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 1:04:44 PM
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I would have pursued my dreams and not let others tell me it wasn't smart or the best idea. My fear of man and need for approval has caused me to shy away from things I really wanted. I am pursuing them now, but certainly lost a lot of time doing it.
But I also have had some "bad experiences" that I wouldn't undo. They have made me stronger and are helping me to grow into the woman God wants me to be. To quote the song, "If it never, ever rained, then we'd never, ever grow".
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
4853 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 1:17:40 PM
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I agree that, to some extent, life hands us lemons to take us to something better--or to let us see that what we have is just fine. I'm mixing my metaphors (seriously!!), but I hope you get what I mean.
But, onto my "do over"...I would do over the missed Thursday night phone call from my dad. He worked out of town for months at a time, and would call mom and I every Thursday night. I always looked forward to it..but, on this certain Thursday I was SOOO busy digging this guy, (who incidentally, turned out to be a waste of my life) that I blew off the Thursday phone call to go on a date, because he would call again next Thursday. Mom got to talk to him. Two days later, I answered the telephone, and dad's boss in Arizona was on the line, telling me that daddy had passed away sometime in the night.
Selfish selfish girl. I would do it over again in a heartbeat, just to hear him say, "howdy tootz".
Just think of all of the roads there are...all of the things I haven't seen....yet. |
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Amie C.
True Blue Farmgirl
2099 Posts
Finger Lakes Region
NY
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Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 1:21:09 PM
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Wow, this is a hard one. I can't say I married the wrong man, but boy do I wish I could have stopped him from going back to school for his master's degree the year before we got married. That lousy, no-good degree ruined MY life, even though he's happy he did it. I'll never be able to have children, or go back to school myself, or change careers by taking a lower-paying job in a field I want to work in. All those options are closed off to me, and it wasn't even a bad choice I made myself.
And I also wish I had played less rough with a little boy named Charles in third grade. I liked him, but I didn't know how to make friends except to chase after him and knock him down on the playground every day. I feel so guilty now, the poor boy must have been miserable. If his sister (Candy?) is out there reading this, tell Charles I'm sorry!
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Love-in-a-Mist
True Blue Farmgirl
367 Posts
Shannon
Independence
Oregon
USA
367 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 2:05:21 PM
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Our Junior year in high school, my now husband, told me he loved me and I ran like the wind. My parents had gotten divorced and I was so scared of being hurt and abandoned again that I pushed people away.
After I realized what a mistake I made he had already moved on and wouldn't take me back. We became friends and stayed in touch after high school. 5 years later we started talking on the phone everyday and ended up getting married. If I could change something I wouldn't of run away. I wasted alot of time and had some bad experiences that I wouldn't have had.
Farmgirl and mother of 2
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sweetproserpina
True Blue Farmgirl
535 Posts
meg
Vinemount
Ontario
Canada
535 Posts |
Posted - Feb 23 2007 : 6:09:24 PM
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I really think about life in the way Jenny and Erin explained. "we are the sum of our experiences." There are many no-good things that happened in my life that I wouldn't change for the world because they made me who I am today and led me to meet the people I most love and care about now. I like to live with no regrets but if we have to find a do-over..
In grade four I had the opportunity to audition for the role of Cosette in Les Miserables and I didn't go. I chickened out, found some excuse not to. I was perfect for the role -a little waif of a girl with a big, wavery voice. If only I would have gone I think it would have swung my life in a totally different direction. Maybe one day when I get old and frizzled I can audition for M. Thenardier instead 
"Isn't it splendid to think of all the things there are to find out about? It just makes me feel glad to be alive--it's such an interesting world."
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beckels
True Blue Farmgirl
237 Posts
becky
warrington
pa
USA
237 Posts |
Posted - Feb 25 2007 : 06:39:10 AM
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I guess I would go all the way back to my childhood and try not to be that scared shy child who was afraid of everyone and be a little bit more outgoing.(and maybe hit one of those bullies back) And then maybe I would of went to college instead of running away from school as soon as i graudated...but what the heck you cant change time so now I am taking a course here and there and surviving.
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happymama58
True Blue Farmgirl
1210 Posts
Patti
Missouri
USA
1210 Posts |
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