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Family Matters: When grief hits |
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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl
2349 Posts
Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area
Texas
2349 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2014 : 06:45:17 AM
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I've made it through the holiday season without a breakdown...until this morning.
Today, my Moma and I would be doing all the cooking prep for the Eve meal and the Christmas Day meal. Actually, It goes further back to my Nanny, Great-Aunts and my Moma all in the kitchen. I've lost all of them through the years....my Moma this past year.
My daughters are working today. So, I'm alone in the kitchen with no one to talk to or laugh with or make memories with.
The kitchen usually brings me great joy and comfort. Right now, I just want to run away.
Catherine Sister #76 (2005) One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt.
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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl
2349 Posts
Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area
Texas
2349 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2014 : 06:48:33 AM
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I know several of you are dealing with loss and grief. I am praying for your comfort.
Catherine Sister #76 (2005) One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt.
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hudsonsinaf
True Blue Farmgirl
3162 Posts
Shannon
Rozet
Wyoming
USA
3162 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2014 : 07:46:56 AM
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(((HUGS))) I too am praying for everyone's comfort!!! Remembering the good times with loved ones as the tears run down my face. Praising God that Christmas is when we celebrate the Hope of life eternal! I'm clinging to that extra tight this year!!!
~ Shannon
http://hudson-everydayblessings.blogspot.com/ |
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YellowRose
True Blue Farmgirl
7110 Posts
Sara
Paris
TX
USA
7110 Posts |
Posted - Dec 24 2014 : 08:14:54 AM
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Catherine, and all who are grieving today, I pray for the Lord's peace that surpasses all understanding to flow over you and may his grace keep you.
Sara Walk in Peace - Live with Joy FarmGirl Sister #6034 Aug 25, 2014 |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
13055 Posts |
Posted - Jan 01 2015 : 1:21:06 PM
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Catherine: I will keep you in my prayers. Hugs. Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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sherone_13
True Blue Farmgirl
2460 Posts
Sherone
Evanston
WY
USA
2460 Posts |
Posted - Jan 02 2015 : 06:10:39 AM
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Allow yourself the "crazy cries". They are very important in the grieving process.
Sherone
Farmgirl Sister #1682
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Dapple Grey Lady
True Blue Farmgirl
725 Posts
Betty
Goodrich
Texas
USA
725 Posts |
Posted - Jan 02 2015 : 08:55:24 AM
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Sherone, your comment "crazy cries" just about sums it up for me. Those moments hit so unexpectantly. I have to remind myself of the memories I cherish so much of my sister. Things were different this Christmas but we all got through it.
~ Betty ~ Farmgirl Sister # 5589 |
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl
1868 Posts
Joey
Gulf Coast
FL
USA
1868 Posts |
Posted - Jan 23 2015 : 09:03:32 AM
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Just want you to know that I am thinking of you today and holding you close in my heart. Sending hugs and prayers to you. Joey
Well behaved women rarely make history. Farmgirl #5554 |
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1007 Posts
~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts |
Posted - Jan 30 2015 : 06:38:29 AM
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GRIEF !!! argh !!! I know what it is...mu nubby passed from pancreatic cancer 1 1/2yrs ago and just when I think I am making progress,,something else takes me right back to nothing.... I am thinking about you and your grief...I am sooo sorry....
Farmgirl Sister #368 ~~*Terri*~~ Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love...... http://thecontentedwomannow.blogspot.com/ |
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cajungal
True Blue Farmgirl
2349 Posts
Catherine Farmgirl Sister #76
Houston Area
Texas
2349 Posts |
Posted - Jan 30 2015 : 07:06:52 AM
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Terri, while I've experienced the pain of loss of my sister, grandparents, parents and others, I do not know the pain you have had of losing a husband. A year and a half is still really fresh. I'm sorry for your loss. I am praying for you, too.
Catherine Sister #76 (2005) One of the best compliments from one of my daughters: "Moma, you smell good...like dirt.
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1007 Posts
~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts |
Posted - Jan 30 2015 : 07:43:15 AM
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THANKS !!!
Farmgirl Sister #368 ~~*Terri*~~ Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love...... http://thecontentedwomannow.blogspot.com/ |
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1007 Posts
~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts |
Posted - Feb 19 2021 : 10:51:23 PM
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Well, Farmgirl Sisters...its been 7 1/2 years since hubby passed and i still miss him despretely, but, i can go on with life now... Dont want anyone new...lol Sooo, im here to say from experience, it does get easier....
Farmgirl Sister #368 ~~*Terri*~~ Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love......
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl
4407 Posts
Dianna
Jack
Al.
USA
4407 Posts |
Posted - Feb 20 2021 : 07:56:56 AM
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Terri, I'm so sorry, the pain and missing your mate, loved one, family member NEVER goes away!!! (unless one has no love) I feel your grief and broken heart. We love so deeply we ache as deeply when they are gone. I pray you have the hope of reuniting with him one day! Thats what gives me strength to continue on each day. Hope! We are wonderfully and fearfully made in God's image. Hearts of love, compassion and HOPE!! Nothing can replace our loves! Sending you hugs and prayers......
Farmgirl #7103 FGOTM January 2018 Dianna "Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro |
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl
4407 Posts
Dianna
Jack
Al.
USA
4407 Posts |
Posted - Feb 20 2021 : 07:57:57 AM
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BTW, I just had a friend named Terri lose her husband 2 weeks ago plus a huge financial mess to boot. :(
Farmgirl #7103 FGOTM January 2018 Dianna "Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro |
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5 acre Farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1007 Posts
~~~*Terri*~~~
WA.
USA
1007 Posts |
Posted - Feb 20 2021 : 10:18:55 AM
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Thanks Suny58.. I feel for your friend Terri, as I was... I call it "grief insanity" ...I was left w a financial mess too.... I can think now but there's not a day goes by that I don't miss him... YES !!!....I WILL SEE HIM AGAIN...thats probably what keeps me going.... Thanks for your CARE.....
Farmgirl Sister #368 ~~*Terri*~~ Life is too short, it is just a vapor, live it like you wont have another minute with the ones you love......
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jmpiercy
True Blue Farmgirl
441 Posts
Joan
Mechanicsville
Virginia
USA
441 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2021 : 08:28:04 AM
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Ladies, I just came across this chat. I just lost my husband unexpectedly this past September. I have children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, but "my person" is gone. There is this huge hole that nothing can fill. I have lost grandparents, parents, a brother, a son, and now my husband. I know God is with me and will get me through this, but sometimes it certainly doesn't feel like it. It is comforting to know farmgirl sisters have been and are going through this grieving process. I pray for God to comfort all of us. May we all have a good Christmas and New Year.
Joan P. Farmgirl Sister #8056
"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching, Love like you'll never be hurt, Sing like there's nobody listening, And live like it's heaven on earth." - William W. Purkey
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phillippians 4:13 |
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ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl
4759 Posts
Dawn
Naperville
Illinois
USA
4759 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2021 : 3:46:36 PM
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A big hug to you Joan. I'm so sorry for your loss. This time of year brings so many memories of those who are no longer with us. I pray you find comfort in those memories.
Dawn in IL
"One kind word can warm three winter months." Japanese Proverb |
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suny58
True Blue Farmgirl
4407 Posts
Dianna
Jack
Al.
USA
4407 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2021 : 4:13:59 PM
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Joan, there's not a day that goes by that I don't lift you up in prayer as well as many of my other farmsister who have experienced grief, loss, hardship and sickness. One day this great sadness will no longer be and will be replaced with great joy. We shall see our loved ones again, no more sickness or sorrow! I long for that day! Hugs to all
Farmgirl #7103 FGOTM January 2018 Dianna "Blessed are they that see beautiful things in humble places, where other people see nothing." Pissarro |
Edited by - suny58 on Dec 23 2021 4:14:32 PM |
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jmpiercy
True Blue Farmgirl
441 Posts
Joan
Mechanicsville
Virginia
USA
441 Posts |
Posted - Dec 23 2021 : 8:25:33 PM
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Thank you, Dawn and Dianna!
Joan P. Farmgirl Sister #8056
"You've gotta dance like there's nobody watching, Love like you'll never be hurt, Sing like there's nobody listening, And live like it's heaven on earth." - William W. Purkey
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Phillippians 4:13 |
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Family Matters: When grief hits |
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