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Holidays:  Thanksgiving-just the two of us?  |
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
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 Posted - Nov 13 2006 : 1:15:36 PM
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We typically go to my sis-in-law's for Thanksgiving, but she recently had her second child, and decided that her husband's family doesn't help enough, so she's declined...my mother is going next door to the neighbors' and my inlaws (both sets--mom and dad remarried) are going to their respective in laws....So, that leaves my husband and I to each other....He suggested that I just make a little turkey for us, and hang out at home, but since we can't really afford Christmas gifts even this year, I kindof wanted the actual holiday's to be eventful, even without presents...another Thursday night in front of the tv watching My Name is Earl isn't what I had in mind :). We have some friends who invited us a few weeks ago, but we declined because his family said they were having it...I guess I can't call our friends and ask to be reinvited???? I just really want to be around people--that's what the holiday's are about for me, anyway--catching up and seeing little ones. New Year is when we retreat to the country to be away from folks. If it's rude to ask to be reinvited, any suggestions on making the night a bit more memorable for the two of us?
Just think of all of the roads there are...all of the things I haven't seen....yet. |
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Miss Bee Haven
True Blue Farmgirl
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Janice
Louisville/Irvington
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Nov 13 2006 : 1:26:25 PM
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If any friend of mine asked to be reinvited, I'd say YES, come on over! Situations change sometimes. I'd understand that, and I bet your friend would, too. It's still early as far as menu planning and how many people to count on. Just explain what happened - that you thought you had a family obligation.
"If you think you've got it nailed down, then what's all that around it?" - 'Brother Dave' Gardner |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
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Posted - Nov 13 2006 : 1:37:17 PM
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I would also be happy if a friend asked to be reinvited!! I say go for it Jonni!!
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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katie-ell
True Blue Farmgirl
1818 Posts
Katie
Illinois
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Posted - Nov 13 2006 : 2:41:52 PM
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| I concur. Ask if her offer stands, and explain the circumstances. And offer to bring your best Thanksgiving dish! |
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Libbie
Farmgirl Connection Cultivator
3579 Posts
Anne E.
Elsinore
Utah
USA
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Posted - Nov 13 2006 : 3:14:39 PM
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Oh, yes - I agree with the farmgirls' views above. I'd be flattered and happy if a friend wanted to join our Thanksgiving - and you KNOW she wants you there, or she wouldn't have invited you in the first place. I'm sure that if you ask and explain what the situation is, you'll have someplace fun to go for Thanksgiving.
XOXO, Libbie
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junebug
True Blue Farmgirl
2421 Posts
Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
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asnedecor
True Blue Farmgirl
1054 Posts
Anne
Portland
Or
USA
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Posted - Nov 14 2006 : 06:58:51 AM
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If you feel uncomfortable about re-inviting yourself to their house, invite them to yours. Or if you have single freinds, or friends with no family around invite all of them. Make it a potluck. DH and I have been in that situation before - parents gone, siblings living too far away, etc. We went to a historic hotel for the Thanksgiving in a town in the Oregon gorge - about an hour trip and had dinner there and then went on a train ride the next day. Did Christmas shopping in the little town and just spent quiet time together.
I am sure your freinds will welcome you with open arms.
Anne in Portland
"Weeds are flowers too, once you get to know them" Eyeore from Winnie the Pooh
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sunshine
True Blue Farmgirl
4877 Posts
Wendy
Utah
USA
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Posted - Nov 14 2006 : 07:12:36 AM
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I think they would be understanding they wanted you in the first place. Offer to bring something. If they say no we are fine that way and they invite you any way to come. Then bring a food anyway to say thanks or a hostes gift nothing big just a thank you and things are tight I am sure they understand and just want company. My first year off at collage all my roomates went home and I was left alone I was so glad my neighbors acrocc the street noticed that I had lights on and invited me. I felt weird at first a guy and his girlfriend and me. I knew them both so it was fine and much better than staying in my apartment alone like you said watching tv wishing I was with family and friends. People who invite want company too as much as you do. They felt weird just the two of them on a holiday that was supposed to be all about friends and family so they where happy to have a friend with them.
have a lovely day and may God bless you and keep you safe my blog http://sunshinescreations.blogspot.com
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peapodjane
True Blue Farmgirl
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Posted - Nov 14 2006 : 07:56:00 AM
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Hi,
I definitely agree with the other comments posted here. In fact, I think I would feel sad if someone I had invited ended up in your situation and did not ask for a reinvitation. I think people are quite understanding about these things, it's not like you were looking for a "better" invitation, it's just that previous plans and commitments changed. Afterall Thanksgiving is a time to celebrate all that we have, and what better to celebrate than friends,family and those that we love. I hope everything works out happily for you, no matter what you choose to do. |
Edited by - peapodjane on Nov 14 2006 07:59:08 AM |
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KYgurlsrbest
True Blue Farmgirl
4853 Posts
Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Nov 14 2006 : 08:19:37 AM
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Thanks gals...I just wasn't quite sure about the etiquette....I would be very glad to bring several dishes (I love to cook) and they have just moved into a new house so a hostess gift would be quite nice. I just really didn't want to spend Thanksgiving by ourselves--like I said, times are pretty tight with cash and if we can't go "all out" for gifts this year, I'd really like to experience my favorite parts of the holiday with folks I care about.
When I was a kid, it was just me, my mom and dad, and he didn't like turkey, so we always went to the Beaumont Inn, in Harrodsburg, Kentucky where he could get a steak if he wanted...I loved it because I was with them, but my husband has a large family and I guess I kindof like that, now. Makes me feel more festive.
I guess I will make the call this evening!
Just think of all of the roads there are...all of the things I haven't seen....yet. |
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junebug
True Blue Farmgirl
2421 Posts
Sue
West Plains,
Mo.
USA
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