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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl

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Susan
Lonsdale MN
USA
2325 Posts

Posted - Oct 26 2014 :  4:44:43 PM  Show Profile
Yesterday I received an invitation for a baby shower. We have known the young woman's family since long before she was born. It is fun to see her grown and I am happy for her.
But there was something about the invitation that bothered me. I understand that it makes sense for people to register at stores for the things they may need or want. I generally take the listing as suggestions, I may get something on the list but like to give something that I personally want to share, like books or something hand-made.
This invitation included an entry form for a gift drawing and the statement that for every package of disposable diapers the giver would get another entry form. I understand that diapers are a big expense and some people always give them. This just seemed like more of an order than a request. I'm just stubborn enough to know that I will NOT buy diapers.
Would you have considered this tacky or did her sisters-in law have a great idea?

Susan

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
Mary Oliver

laurzgot
True Blue Farmgirl

1672 Posts

Laurie
Alvin Texas
USA
1672 Posts

Posted - Oct 26 2014 :  5:51:00 PM  Show Profile
Susan, I guess I'm old-fashioned but this seems tacky to me. They just might as well have a diaper shower instead of (baby shower) where items are bought or handmade. Just my thought.

"Smile and be yourself everyday"
Country girl at heart
Laurie


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nubidane
True Blue Farmgirl

2875 Posts

Lisa
Georgetown OH
2875 Posts

Posted - Oct 26 2014 :  5:51:20 PM  Show Profile
Susan
I would totally ignore and give a gift that you see appropriate.
This is crazy. You can get discounted diapers from coupons.
Maybe give her a pack of cloth diapers.
What happened to gifts from the heart??



"We must reject the idea that every time a law’s broken, society is guilty rather than the lawbreaker. It is time to restore the American precept that each individual is accountable for his actions.” – R.R.

Edited by - nubidane on Oct 26 2014 5:52:33 PM
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hudsonsinaf
True Blue Farmgirl

3162 Posts

Shannon
Rozet Wyoming
USA
3162 Posts

Posted - Oct 26 2014 :  6:18:45 PM  Show Profile
For both my wedding and baby shower(s) I have refused to even do a registry. I would prefer something homemade and/or from the heart than telling someone what to buy.... And in the same way, that is what I prefer to give!

~ Shannon

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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl

566 Posts

Stephanie
Mt. Vernon Iowa
USA
566 Posts

Posted - Oct 26 2014 :  7:03:36 PM  Show Profile
Seems on the tacky side to me! It's a baby shower, not a Tupperware party! But in this instance I would quietly choose not to take part in the drawing , give a gift that mom will appreciate and enjoy the festivities.

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HealingTouch
True Blue Farmgirl

3448 Posts

Darlene
Kunkletown Pa
USA
3448 Posts

Posted - Oct 26 2014 :  8:06:56 PM  Show Profile  Send HealingTouch a Yahoo! Message
Crazy! I don't understand the boldness of it. I guess I'm just old and don't like being told what to give.

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Darlene
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ceejay48
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13621 Posts

CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores Colorado
USA
13621 Posts

Posted - Oct 27 2014 :  11:47:25 AM  Show Profile  Send ceejay48 a Yahoo! Message
I'm with the other farmgirls . . . give what your heart tells you to!
I would and it could very possibly be something that I made.
CJ

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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl

2325 Posts

Susan
Lonsdale MN
USA
2325 Posts

Posted - Oct 27 2014 :  8:24:32 PM  Show Profile
Thanks, ladies!
I want to be part of the celebration but I will pick my own gift idea. I appreciate knowing that I'm not alone though in my feelings about this.

Susan

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
Mary Oliver
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ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl

4737 Posts

Dawn
Naperville Illinois
USA
4737 Posts

Posted - Oct 28 2014 :  06:27:45 AM  Show Profile
Tacky, tacky! I think giving a gift that you know is meaningful and helpful for the new mom is much more special. I look at registrations as a guideline of what colors will be going in the baby's room & for an idea of what the parents like. Then I do my own thing. Enjoy shopping or making something for the little one.

Dawn in IL
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl

5216 Posts

Sharon
Bruce Crossing Michigan
USA
5216 Posts

Posted - Oct 28 2014 :  08:35:30 AM  Show Profile
I think it's inappropriate too. One of my favorite wedding gifts is a hand crocheted tablecloth, just beautiful :)

Farmgirl Sister #5392

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churunga
True Blue Farmgirl

3932 Posts

Marie
Minneapolis MN
USA
3932 Posts

Posted - Oct 28 2014 :  09:48:06 AM  Show Profile
I like using a gift registry as a guideline. If I am lazy, I will buy something on the registry. I am like Dawn using a registry to pick colours and styles and then go my own way. The drawing for the extra diapers seems a little tacky. I would never give someone disposable diapers anyway. I'm also wondering what the "prize" is. I'll bet it is something equally tacky such as a magazine or a music download.

Marie, Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

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