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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
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 Posted - Feb 11 2014 : 6:45:44 PM
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I have found out that the person who put my mail on hold back in November wasn't trying to steal my identity.All they did was put my mail on hold-twice. and it wasn't a mistake. Apparently this person did it out of some sort of jealous/anger issue. I'm still not sure who did it but I have a theory and it's deeply troubling. I've never understood why some people can get so jealous that they'll do something vengeful--and illegal to boot. and if my theory is right, when the truth comes out, my little community of people I hang out with is going to be asking a lot of questions. Not about me, but about this guy I know. I've been trying to keep him out of trouble. but it's not working. Some of his "friends" seem to have criminal tendencies. I'm ready to just wash my hands of him. And I've known him for a long time. He has some amazingly good qualities but his lack of judgement saddens me. He has a learning disability and I know that's part of the problem. I love him for his good qualities but when one of his "friends" does something like this--I just don't know what to think. I don't want to cast him away because of something someone else did. But I don't want something like this to happen again. I feel like the king in "The King and I":
"There are times I do not think that I am sure
Of what I absolutely know.
Very often find confusion in conclusion
I concluded long ago.
In my head are many facts that as a student
I have studied to procure.
In my head are many facts of which I wish
I was more certain I was sure.
Is a puzzlement!"
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead O'Connor
"In many ways, you don't just live in the country, it lives inside you"--Ellen Eilers
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Beverley
True Blue Farmgirl
2707 Posts
Beverley
atlanta
Michigan
USA
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
2914 Posts |
Posted - Feb 12 2014 : 1:28:25 PM
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If I confront him, his first reaction will be one of denial. He's good at denial. And I get tired of dealing with it. I think I'll just wait and see how this plays out. He lives a good distance away and I don't see him very often. I feel like God is telling me to wait and see. Anyway, it's largely out of my hands. I wish I'd known back in November who had done it. I would have handled things a lot differently.
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead O'Connor
"In many ways, you don't just live in the country, it lives inside you"--Ellen Eilers
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LadyInRed
True Blue Farmgirl
6740 Posts
PeggyAnn
Vancouver
WA
USA
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Posted - Feb 12 2014 : 2:35:15 PM
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Remember the Scripture: "Bad Friends corrupt good morals" ??? Sounds like your friend needs confronted about
the kinds of people he chooses to associate with. For me personally, I would talk to him in a generalized way...
but let him know his bad friends are messing in your life and you would hate for that to ruin the friendship
that the two of you have...but it just might have to come to that. Pray First!
Hugs and prayers,
Peggy
Farmgirl #1326
http://ladyinredsite.blogspot.com
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"I'm only as strong as the caffeine I drink, the hair-spray I use and the Girlfriends that I have."
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
2914 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2014 : 7:47:22 PM
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Peggy--I think you're probably right. I've found out that the person I think is responsible for my mail is in the law enforcement database. I'm not sure what that means; it may just mean she's had a traffic ticket. Or it may mean more. And my friend--well, let's just say that some of the women he associates with are, shall we say, women of easy virtue. That's why he's just a friend--I don't want to be in the same category as his other "friends". But he also has LOTS of friends and contacts who are very devout and of good moral character. Like me, they try to keep him on the right path. But I've been thinking I need to spend more time worrying (or rather, pondering) my problems instead of worrying about him. It's his life, and he knows he's accountable to God. He's in my prayers.
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead O'Connor
"In many ways, you don't just live in the country, it lives inside you"--Ellen Eilers
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Emily Anna
True Blue Farmgirl
863 Posts
Emily
Fort Atkinson
WI
USA
863 Posts |
Posted - Feb 15 2014 : 9:24:01 PM
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This seems so bizarre! Why on Earth would someone stop someone else's mail out of jealousy? Like who in their right mind thinks...."ooh, I'm gonna get her! I know! I'll stop her mail!" Don't get me wrong, even though this is incredibly annoying and frustrating for you (and illegal!) I'm glad they aren't doing things that will harm you or your family. I think you should confront your friend and get this sorted out. Frankly, the childish behavior some adults use really scares me. Keeping you all in my prayers!
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oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1511 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
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Posted - Feb 16 2014 : 08:21:53 AM
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I am sorry for what you are going thru, but....what I don't understand is "HOW", by federal law, you can not do anything with your mail, without going personaly to post office, and showing valid ID, so "HOW" did they do this
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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churunga
True Blue Farmgirl
4000 Posts
Marie
Minneapolis
MN
USA
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Posted - Feb 16 2014 : 10:43:09 AM
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How is a very important question. I believe this should be investigated through the postal system. If you get your mail delivered to the house, I would suggest opening a PO box until this is all sorted out. We do not know or can even guess what motivates other people. We can put obstacles in their way to protect ourselves and others. Another question to ask is, has this happened to anyone else? Get the details from the postal office in town, then go to law enforcement.
Marie, Sister #5142
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prariehawk
True Blue Farmgirl
2914 Posts
Cindy
2914 Posts |
Posted - Feb 16 2014 : 4:21:17 PM
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It IS being investigated by the USPS. And yes, it's weird and bizarre. The post office is trying to track down the person who did it. Apparently, there are LOTS of postal crimes committed every day. That's why they have their own federal investigators. People do weird things--why? Who knows? And my friend is difficult to get hold of-he moved a while back and is now about ninety miles away. I want to talk to him in person but with the weather and the roads being the way they are--it just isn't possible. I feel sorry for him that she did this--I know he'll be upset when he finds out the truth. He may even blame me at first--he's good at diverting blame. I pray that God will give him the wisdom to see things clearly.
Cindy
"Vast floods can't quench love, no matter what love did/ Rivers can't drown love, no matter where love's hid"--Sinead O'Connor
"In many ways, you don't just live in the country, it lives inside you"--Ellen Eilers
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