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Across the Fence:  Scheduled for c-section Friday,very nervous  |
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RedHoopWoman
True Blue Farmgirl
513 Posts
Kathryn
Yoder
Colorado
USA
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 Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 10:43:15 AM
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Well,turns out our little baby boy is a footling breech and the placenta and cord are positioned in such a way that attempting a natural birth would be very dangerous so my OB has scheduled me for a c-section delivery on Friday.
I feel like I've been completely train wrecked,I was originally planning on a home birth with a miwife with this baby and then that gradually got derailed and now I have gone to the very opposite extreme and I am so nervous and scared about this.
I delivered my previous two babies completely naturally and so this is an entirely new experience for me.
I also have a fourteen month old toddler to take care of when I come home as well as the newborn baby so it seems very daunting to think of recovering from major abdominal surgery and trying to take care of these babies and the home.
I don't know how I'm going to deal with all this,just thought I woul vent,figured there would be a few of you farmgirls here who could relate who may have had similiar experiences.
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
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lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
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Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 11:47:33 AM
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Kathryn,
Most important is for the health of you and your precious baby!! I will be praying that all goes smoothly and safe. Do you have family or friends that would be able to come and help..make meals...take the toddler for a day? Boy, do I wish I was closer I would be there in a snap!! Please keep us posted and if there is anything I can do- please drop me an email!!
Praying!!
Lori
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Killarney
True Blue Farmgirl
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Connie
Arlington
TN
USA
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Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 12:01:04 PM
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Kathryn, As we say in the south " Bless your heart!" I am sending prayers and sunshine your way! Like Lori, I wish I was your neighbor!
Connie
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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
566 Posts
Stephanie
Mt. Vernon
Iowa
USA
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Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 1:04:49 PM
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Kathryn,
I am sending prayers and good wishes your way for a safe delivery. Hopefully friends or family can come and watch your little one as you heal. Now is the time to "rally the troops" so to speak. Please let us know if there is anything we can do!
Farmgirl Sister # 3810
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LadyInRed
True Blue Farmgirl
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PeggyAnn
Vancouver
WA
USA
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Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 1:37:37 PM
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Kathyrn...I hear that c-sections are a piece of cake compared to natural childbirth.
I don't know by experience myself....I will be praying for you that you will have peace
in your heart and mind. The end result will be a beautiful. And precious baby.
Love and prayers,
Peggy
Farmgirl #1326
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
3331 Posts |
Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 2:33:30 PM
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Oh, hon. You have no choice. Educate yourself on what to expect so that you will have a sense of control. I understand the incision and resulting abdominal weakness is less than it used to be.
Best wishes. Enjoy bringing home that healthy baby!
Marianne |
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MagnoliaWhisper
True Blue Farmgirl
2817 Posts
Heather
Haysville
Kansas
USA
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Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 3:07:01 PM
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Well the good news is you had two children naturally already. That's a plus/bonus for you. This means that if you have a fourth baby you will be at a better risk to have a Vbac if you so choose.
I wouldn't wish a c-section on any one. But, like you, I had two natural, then a c-section, then I had a V-bac.
My c-section baby is healthy and nursed for a year, and she is awesome.
Recovery was MUCH harder then natural birth, I'm not going to lie. BUT, get up as soon as they say you can, and walk as much as you can force yourself to. If your DH can take a week or two off to stay home with you, or if you have a mother, sister, MIL etc who can that would be good too. But, to be honest, I did need my DH for the first week, but after that I was fine on my own, and I too had a toddler at home and my new born. But, I know I was doing better then the other c-section moms because I was walking! And not coddling myself. With in two weeks the pain was gone, I had numb weird feelings but not bad pain. TAKE your pain medication, don't let the time lasp. I did that a few times and then I was in really bad pain. So just go ahead and take the pain medication at least during week one. But, be careful it can make you sleepy too, so only take the stronger one as long as you have to, and try to use like tylenol if that is strong enough to help you. (by day 4 I was able to pretty much just do extra strength tylenol and the rx pain medication just maybe once a day).
Any way....you can do it. I would be nervous too. But, it will most likely be ok
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ceejay48
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm/Sharpshooter
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CeeJay (CJ)
Dolores
Colorado
USA
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brightmeadow
True Blue Farmgirl
2045 Posts
Brenda
Lucas
Ohio
USA
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
2325 Posts
Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
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Posted - Jan 19 2014 : 6:20:36 PM
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Kathryn,
It is a major change in plans alright but be thankful you know what is going on, and that there is another option than trying a breech delivery at home, with the risks involved.
I will be praying for your peace of mind and the safety of your baby and you. You will deal with the surgery and recovery, anyone who already has two kids surely has coping skills. Don't hesitate to call in help from friends and family. Make a list for anyone who says "What can I do?" Make a list like meals, cleaning, babysitting so you can get some rest.
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
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Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 05:04:04 AM
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Sending prayers your way Kathryn. I had to have 2 C Sections myself. The first one was difficult because I had no idea what to expect with the recovery. Prior to that I had never even had a stitch in my finger! When my daughter was born 21 months later I tried VBAC which did not work so hence another c section. But this time I knew what to expect and was up and about ( and caring for both a nursing newborn and 21 month old) with no problem.)
As the others said just do you best to learn ahead of time what you can, and as soon as they tell you you can get up and move about etc...do it! I found giving myself a little extra push made my recover from the 2nd c section MUCH easier and faster.
Most importantly, know that no matter how you deliver, the end result will be a beautiful baby, the greatest gift you can ever receive, no matter how it was delivered,
Hugs,
~Laurie
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hudsonsinaf
True Blue Farmgirl
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Shannon
Rozet
Wyoming
USA
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 07:16:34 AM
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Kathryn,
I am a momma of 6 children.... my first three were natural, my fourth emergency c-section, my fifth a repeat c-section and my sixth a VBA2C. My first words to you are that you are an incredibly strong and loving mom! You have carried this baby for months, nourishing it, and now giving it the best possible start to life you can. I felt very poorly of myself after my c-sections, but the reality is that you and I both did what was best for our babies!!! Knowing you wanted a home birth with a midwife, I have a couple suggestions to ask the doctor.... some doctors will still allow you to do skin-to-skin immediately after birth. Also, if your hubby wanted to cut the cord, he probably still can. If you are interested in nursing, tell them you want to do that as soon as possible - some will even let you do that while you are getting stitched up. Just because you are not having your home birth, does not mean you cannot have your other wishes/dreams with this birth.
As far as healing is concerned - they should give you a pillow to press up against your incision when you sit up, cough, etc. I would recommend using it!!! It was not explained to me what it was to begin with, and oh how I wish it was. Also, if you do herbs, I would recommend making a poultice for your incision to speed up healing. I did this for my second, but not my first, and there was a huge difference inhaling rates!
As far as the younger child... it was difficult at first to get mine to understand I could not pick them up, however, they loved sitting next to me and cuddling. Or taking naps with me while I laid in bed to nurse. My children were 5, 3, and 20 mo when I had my first c-section. They were so entranced by their sister that they stayed right next to me. My 5 and 3 yo were HUGE helps to me, getting things if I needed them and helping keep the 20 mo entertained when needed.
Hope this helps a little - praying for you <3
~ Shannon
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Montrose Girl
Farmgirl Legend/Schoolmarm
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Laurie
Montrose
CO
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 08:09:34 AM
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I'm going to double what Heather said. I did the C-section too, not by choice and struggled the first few weeks. Meds and help. Can you prep a bunch of meals and put them in the freezer. Keep things simple your first weeks home. Try not to expect much from yourself other than taking care of the two of you. You won't be able to drive for several weeks either. Lots of hugs to the other kiddos, but do not pick them up. It is hard and you will struggle, but snuggle with them and you will all be fine.
As for the c-section itself, pretty simple and you don't feel anything. After 31 hours of labor and 5 of pushing (yup 36 total) I was ready for anything to get him out. It was strange to be awake as they brought him out. I was pretty numb and it is a strange feeling to be on the edge of sleep, but not. Talk with your husband or the anesthesia guy. They will put up a mirror for you to see if you want, so ask if you do. I couldn't hold my little one right after (too numb) but hubby held him so I could snuggle. It didn't last. After, I sure tried walking, but there were times I just had to stop. They also had a wrap for around my belly, but it got left at the first hospital (another story). Make sure you ask for explanations on anything they give you and have them repeat as you need.
Laurie
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Nana Shirl
True Blue Farmgirl
352 Posts
Shirley
Kit Carson
Colorado
USA
352 Posts |
Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 09:44:51 AM
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You are in my prayers lil mama..I know you are a strong young woman. just remember all births are different...praying for your lil family..babies are such sweet blessings...
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nndairy
True Blue Farmgirl
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Heather
Wapakoneta
Ohio
USA
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 09:53:10 AM
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Praying all goes well for you Friday and in the weeks afterward at home.
Heather
Farmgirl Sister #4701
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auntsmelly
True Blue Farmgirl
559 Posts
Jenny
Pitman
NJ
USA
559 Posts |
Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 4:10:20 PM
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sending you a hug and a prayer.
Then you will call, and the Lord will answer; you will cry for help, and He will say: Here Am I.
-Isaiah 58:9
Jenny, Blessed Farmgirl #4359 |
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Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 6:21:33 PM
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Kathryn,
I am praying for the Lord to grant you peace in your heart and that this will be a healthy delivery for you and your little one. What a blessing!
Farmgirl Sister #5392
By His Grace, For His Glory
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Ruby V
True Blue Farmgirl
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Ruby
Chilliwack
BC
Canada
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Posted - Jan 20 2014 : 9:12:31 PM
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Please don't be too nervous, I know you'll do just fine! I had both my kids C-section back in 1979 & 1980. In those days they totally knocked me out and cut my stomach completely open vertically, so the recovery was a full 6 weeks of not being able to do anything. I thought I was kind of lucky, at the time though. In the maternity ward, all the other gals, who had natural births, were in all kinds of pain from tearing, stitches 'down there', etc. Every trip to the bathroom was a nightmare for them {laughing}.
But these days, C-sections seem to go much easier. My daughter-in-law has had 2 now and I was there for both. She wasn't knocked out at all and was sitting up in bed, holding her newborn within a very short time after the surgery. The cuts they make are smaller now and horizontal. She was up and about a few days later, it was amazing. I think the main thing is no lifting, so you don't pull open any stitches.
It's really not bad at all and just think - a month from now you'll be posting on the board giving encouragement to some other mother-to-be!
Ruby ~ Sister #3597 |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
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Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Jan 21 2014 : 03:45:02 AM
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Kathryn, I'm praying for you, too. I can only imagine what you're feeling right now, and I feel so bad that you are going through this. Please just know that we're praying and that we all love you. It will be all right. It will. Do you have any kind of support system - family? friends? church members? - who can help you for a while when you come home until you regain your bearings and feel strong on your feet? I will pray that God moves people's hearts so that they flock around you to help you and support you during this adjustment period. No matter what, though, I know you can do this. It won't be easy, but you can do this. Just be kind to yourself during the process, okay? SO wishing we were neighbors right now so I could be there to help you, but I AM praying. Love and hugs - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
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wooliespinner
True Blue Farmgirl
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Linda
Manchester
Ohio
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Posted - Jan 21 2014 : 06:34:04 AM
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Kathryn you are going to do great I just know you will! I had 2 c-sections the first was an emergency so it was rough. The second was scheduled and I was awake.I had a spinal and I have to say the birth was very beautiful and was very a calm delivery.The doctor even played soothing music.
I had a c-section that was called a bikini cut not the up and down one. I was sore but considering its surgery... but healed pretty fast. I know its scary but I think you will be fine and will sure send positive thoughts and prayers to you. I know you are afraid and I was too but if its any help it will go better than you think and you will have a beautiful baby at the end. It will still be beautiful.Each new birth is.
Hugs to you sweetie.
Linda
Raspberry Run Farm
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Edited by - wooliespinner on Jan 21 2014 06:34:55 AM |
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texdane
Farmgirl Legend Chapter Leader Chapter Guru
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Nicole
Sandy Hook
CT
USA
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Posted - Jan 24 2014 : 7:37:18 PM
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You will be just fine, I know it! I had a scheduled c-section, and like Linda, I was a tiny bit sore, but not that bad at all! I felt better than when my daughter was in breech position, that's for sure. You just have to be careful with heavy lifting, listen to your doctor and don't do anything sooner than he says, but it will be okay. My dd is healthy and now eleven and a half, and that c-section bikini cut is not even hardly visible. Don't be scared. It will be okay. I didn't want a c-section, but there was no other way, and once you come home, you won't think about anything but that sweet little baby!
Farmgirl hugs,
Nicole
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Cindy Lou
True Blue Farmgirl
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Susan
Lonsdale
MN
USA
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Posted - Jan 24 2014 : 7:39:56 PM
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How are you and baby doing? Today was the big day, wasn't it? Prayers are going out that you are both doing find for a quick recovery for you.
Susan
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
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Cozynana
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Kem
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Posted - Jan 25 2014 : 03:23:41 AM
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Prayers for you and your baby, may you heal quickly.
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
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Posted - Jan 25 2014 : 09:06:13 AM
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Anxiously waiting for news...and a photo!
marianne |
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RedHoopWoman
True Blue Farmgirl
513 Posts
Kathryn
Yoder
Colorado
USA
513 Posts |
Posted - Jan 31 2014 : 08:37:24 AM
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Hi Ladies!
Thank you for all the encouraging words and for sharing your experiences with c-section delivery,I'm sorry I dissapeared here but I finally have an update for you!
My scheduled c-section for the 24th became an emergency c-section on the 22nd when I went into a very rapid labor ahead of time,we rushed in to the hospital and it all went very fast from there,there were a couple complications but all went well and baby was born healthy and I cam through alright,it all happened so fast there wasn't much time to really process what was going on around me :)
Joshua Daniel Broege is finally here and doing well,here's some pictures!
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
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Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Jan 31 2014 : 08:47:43 AM
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OOOOOOOHHHHH!!! HE'S BEAUTIFUL, Kathryn!!! What a precious, precious gift! Seeing him brought tears to my eyes! I am so, so happy you both are well and home and oh my gosh, do I just want to kiss his precious little forehead, God bless him! God bless YOU!!! May his future be bright with promise, and his lifetime filled with love! Take care, and please drop us updates when you're feeling up to it. Thank you so much for keeping us posted! Hugs and love - Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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Across the Fence: Scheduled for c-section Friday,very nervous |
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Scheduled for c-section Friday,very nervous
