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Family Matters:  Speaking Blessings to Our Husbands  |
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
 Posted - Oct 28 2006 : 11:46:22 PM
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It seems it is so easy to find fault in the things our husbands do or don't do or to try to make them be something they aren't. I have been making a real effort as of lately to speak words of affirmation and encouragement instead to my husband. This has not only been blessing him, but it blesses me as well as it truly does help me to focus on his strengths rather than his weaknesses. We all have weak areas and I certainly don't like mine being pointed out constantly. It is like being pecked to death by a duck! Anyway, just wondering what things you do to make your husband feel loved and appreciated? Always fun to share the positive things we do with one another! Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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Aunt Jenny
True Blue Farmgirl
11381 Posts
Jenny
middle of
Utah
USA
11381 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 12:21:57 AM
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You are so sweet Brenda!!
I try really hard to appreciate all my husband does for us. (granted, he does get on my nerves sometimes like any man would) He is good about doing all the heavy stuff I need done alot of times without asking. I try hard to make sure to think of him when I am meal planning..the kids will eat about anything...and make at least a couple of his favorites each week. I have noticed that his attitude is better when I praise him for the little things so I try to remember to slow down enough to do that. I am alot less talkative than him and sometimes I need to remember to carry on a conversation when I would rather just sit quietly. (not that I am NOT talkative..he is just more) I feel so lucky to have such a good man to share my life with. Thanks for the reminder to appreciate him.
Jenny in Utah
Inside me there is a skinny woman crying to get out...but I can usually shut her up with cookies
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KarenP
True Blue Farmgirl
666 Posts
Karen
Chippewa Falls
Wisconsin
USA
666 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 05:03:46 AM
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My husband is my blessing!
I love him dearly, he works many long hours right now. He has brought up going to school and making a change. I have been so supportive, it's a big decision and it's scary, but I don't want to hold him back.
I work too, so we will have money for bills etc.just not a luxury stuff we have grow accustom to. We are already making more meals at home and not spending for more stuff and starting to go thru the stuff we have to donate to Goodwill or Salvation Army.
He never wants much though, and is happy with a 3 or 4 pairs of jeans and 3 or 4 shirts for at home (he has workshirts for during the week).
At 54, I want him to what makes him happy, so if going to school will do it, great!
I really don't want him to say years down the road.. should have, could have.
When he's done with school, I maybe will look at it too, who knows.
He is my rock and I want my rock to be solid.
KarenP
"Purest Spring Water in the World" |
Edited by - KarenP on Oct 29 2006 05:04:03 AM |
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CabinCreek-Kentucky
True Blue Farmgirl
8529 Posts
Frannie
Green County
Kentucky
USA
8529 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 08:14:28 AM
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My Handsome Honey Hunk Husband Hank ... we've been married THIRTY years now .. and he IS my HEART. A little telephne thing we do ... i just love this ... we NEVER let "bye" or "goodbye" be our final word that we hear just before we hang up. We do say 'bye' .. or 'see you soon' or some such ting to alert each other that we know our phone conversation for the moment is comng to an end. But the last thing we say to each other is: I LOVE YOU. Should anything awful happen before we wee to meet again ... those will be the last words we will remember our love having said.
My grand-daughter and I started this tradition when she was a little girl ..it was her idea .. but she had a little 'spin' she put on it. she said the last word she wants to hear from me is "LOVE" .. so our version went:
YOU .. I .. LOVE!
And that is how we have said our goodbyes for many years.
True Friends, Frannie
CABIN CREEK FARM
KENTUCKY
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MsCwick
True Blue Farmgirl
775 Posts
Cristine
Farmville
Virginia
USA
775 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 11:36:07 AM
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My husband is only 22 years old, and had a rather rough time of it during his teenage years with a little bit too much partying(don't want to go into details). When we met, we were both living in sin and doing stupid things. A year into our marriage, he was living in his car and I would see him every few weeks while he was binging on this particualr substance-not alcohol. And we have been married for a little over 2 years. Last year went from the very worst to the very best. He sobered up after a close call with the law and we started our own business. A year later, it is amazing that our business is running so great that we only need the one income. He works some 17 hour days, and is exhausted by the end of the week. I have to cook healthy for him too because he doesnt eat well while he's working. God has truly belssed us with the most fabulous life a girl has ever asked for. Just before I read this post, I said "Hey honey...thanks for loving me like you do." Right now he's getting a fire going because he saw me put a little jacket on and he noticed I was getting chilly. We both grew up very religious, and we are finding every day brings new blessings and we actually talk about how fortunate we are and I tell him how proud I am of him almost every night before we go to bed. He is my guardian angel, and I think I might be his. God put us together for a reason, and we are soo thankful for it. I also have a great book called 365 Meditations for couples. we read it at night and it's great for appreciation and understanding eachother so that we can be more thankful instead of 'pecking'. Pecking hurts...real love should not...
XOXO
Cristine |
Edited by - MsCwick on Oct 29 2006 11:42:36 AM |
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
6948 Posts |
Posted - Oct 29 2006 : 11:51:40 AM
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I make a point every day when my husband comes home to ask him..how did his day go.
This helps him to unwind from the day to day stress and just get any stresses off his chest.
I also try to make a point as ofen as I can to tell him he looks handsome and I love him alot. I'll go up to him and just kiss him on the cheek any ole time..just cause.
Every night before going to bed I always ask him if there is anything in particular he would like for me to pray for him about..be it work, or anything like that on his mind..
Some nights we just fall asleep holding each others hand.I also make a point as much as I can to let him know I appreciate him and love him and am thankful we have each other.
We often tell each other"gosh am I glad I married you".
We have been together 16 yrs.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~ |
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
6066 Posts |
Posted - Oct 30 2006 : 1:36:31 PM
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I love my hubby so much and have for 30 years. He is the best looking guy I know and I love the way he walks and wears his clothes. We are also best friends, and when I want to reassure him or make him feel good, I look him in the eye a lot. I do not talk while cooking,etc., but look right at him and make a good comment. He always responds positively to this in some way and I then know that we are still on track! He is the best.
Peace |
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katie-ell
True Blue Farmgirl
1818 Posts
Katie
Illinois
1818 Posts |
Posted - Oct 31 2006 : 04:24:54 AM
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After 25 years of marriage, I know I sometimes take my husband for granted. And sometimes I'm a little cross or short in my reply to him. This is reality. When I find myself doing this, I try to shift to 'dating manners' -- how did I treat him when we were first dating? Wasn't I interested in his topics? Didn't I look him in the eyes? I was encouraging, asking questions, giving positive reinforcements, touching his arm, smiling. When I shift to my dating habits, rather than old-married-couple routine, we are both happier.
(Marriage takes work.) |
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theoanne
True Blue Farmgirl
282 Posts
teddie
CARROLLTON
GA
282 Posts |
Posted - Nov 03 2006 : 3:56:14 PM
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My sweetie is my knight in shining armour. He is everything I always wanted. My only complaint is I had to wait 48 yrs to find him! We both had been through bad marriages. (His 12 yrs and mine 20yrs) We have been together since 2000 and married since 2004. We just enjoy each other very much. I can't even tell you how many little loving things we do for each other . We are so happy to each be with someone who is nice and considerate. I think our "dating manners" are still in gear and hope they stay that way. My favorite part of the day is after supper when we just "pile up" on the couch together. Sometimes we watch TV together or I read and he watches,but whatever it is we are near enough on the couch that we are touching.Sometimes it's ony a foot or an elbow,but something touches. I could go on and on,but he will be home soon and Fridays are our date night. So I need to go primp!!!
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Beemoosie
True Blue Farmgirl
2077 Posts
Bonnie
New York
USA
2077 Posts |
Posted - Nov 04 2006 : 05:02:08 AM
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Speaking blessing to and about my husband saved my marriage and changed my outlook on marriage and life. DH and I have a wonderful 81/2 year marriage, but I am sure it wouldn't have lasted if my mouth stayed as negative as it was! Thank God I was mentored by some wise and wonderful Christian women!
Blessings,
Bonnie
...she is far more precious than jewels and her value is far above rubies or pearls.
Prov 31:10
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~Tracey~
True Blue Farmgirl
351 Posts
Tracey
TN
USA
351 Posts |
Posted - Nov 04 2006 : 07:36:20 AM
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Brenda,
I love how positive and enspiring your posts have been!! From decluttering the home to decluttering our minds, thanks for the daily doses!! Squiggly baby in arms so I hope this makes sense.
My dh is also a HUGE blessing and I tell him often and we even still "flirt" with each other. makes him and me feel like teenagers again even though the children think we are gross and try to get in between us when we hug. It is really funny and sweet.
Tracey,
mama to Callum 13, Katie 8, Wil 5.5, Benjamin 3 and Andrew 7 months!!
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homemakerkate
True Blue Farmgirl
143 Posts
Kate
Ewen
Michigan
USA
143 Posts |
Posted - Nov 04 2006 : 8:15:36 PM
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I am not ashamed to say this, that I really ( i mean REALLY) needed to hear this right now!
thank you for the reality pinch it hurt a little but I think I needed it.
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ArmyWifey
True Blue Farmgirl
712 Posts
Holly
Abilene
KS
712 Posts |
Posted - Nov 05 2006 : 08:19:13 AM
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I so need to remind myself of this off and on. I tend to get so caught up in what needs to be done and whats going wrong instead of focusing on what's right!
For me that means telling hubby I appreciate him, the fact that doesn't cheat, that he trusts me,etc.
As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Nov 07 2006 : 6:56:29 PM
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Tracey,
What a sweet thing to say! Being positive doesn't always come naturally for me, but I am really working on it. GOD has blessed me with so many wonderful things in my life . . . a great husband, great kids, great extended family, great friends, etc. that I am trying to focus on that not the day to day struggles that can eat you alive if you let them. I really believe attitude is a choice, so I have chosen to have a positive outlook on life. Homemaker Kate, I am glad this was a reminder that you needed. Sometimes we all need that reality check. It is easy to get caught up on the negatives that the it blurs the positives. Blessings to you all!
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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ali2583
True Blue Farmgirl
404 Posts
Alison
Winnipeg
Manitoba
Canada
404 Posts |
Posted - Nov 08 2006 : 3:12:13 PM
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DH and I have been together for 4 years and it makes us both so happy to talk about the many years we're still going to have together.
He told me the sweetest story once about his grandparents. His grandpa was older than his grandma and so statistically, grandpa always thought that he would pass away before grandma. So, just to make sure that she would be OK after he passed, he cut up 4 years worth of firewood for the wood stove, so she wouldn't have to do it herself after he was gone.
Whenever DH tells me he loves me, he always reminds me too that he's going to "cut up enough firewood for me". I feel the best every time he tells me that!
"God's gift to you is life. What you choose to do with that life is your gift to God" |
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Tabigirl
Farmgirl in Training
29 Posts
Tabitha
Kent
WA
USA
29 Posts |
Posted - Nov 15 2006 : 10:01:23 PM
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I have known my husband for 22 years and we have been married for almost 15 years. He is such a wonderful friend, father and provider. I call him while he is at work on occasion and just thank him for being who he is and for taking such good care of our family and to let him know how much I love him.
Thanks for this topic. It has been awhile since I have given a "thank you" call to my sweetie. A good reminder for me to cherish my husband, children and those I love.
Take care,
Tabitha
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Tina Michelle
True Blue Farmgirl
6948 Posts
Tina
sunshine state
FL
USA
6948 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2007 : 07:17:27 AM
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so glad for the husband I have.
so often it's too easy for folks to try and find faults in one another...it's nice to start talking about the things that we are thankful for..... It's always nice to take the time to "count our blessings"
and my husband surely is one of life's greatest blessings to me.
~Seize the Day! Live, Love, Laugh~ |
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Past Blessings
True Blue Farmgirl
1083 Posts
Brenda
Orchard Prairie
WA
USA
1083 Posts |
Posted - Feb 09 2007 : 11:25:54 AM
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Tina,
Thanks for "bumping" this post back up. We all need to be reminded of what is good in our lives, rather than focus on the bad. It has been a tough week for me, so I needed this reminder again too.
Blessings to y'all . . .
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
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windypines
True Blue Farmgirl
4567 Posts
Michele
Bruce
Wisconsin
USA
4567 Posts |
Posted - Feb 10 2007 : 5:36:19 PM
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| This has been just great reading all the posts. We have been married for 21 years, and have been going through another rough patch. It has not been easy, but I am not one to give up either. I really need to take the time, to do more thoughtful nice things, whether in word or deed. Thanks for reminding all of us of this. Michele |
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