| Author |
Across the Fence:  Taking back my Farm-Girl-ness!  |
|
|
shanda
True Blue Farmgirl
522 Posts
Shanda
Broken Bow
OK
USA
522 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 12:19:33 PM
|
Hey Farm Sisters,
First, I have to say I am sorry for not being as active in the forum as I should. This summer has kicked my hinney! I know I'm not the only lady with a busy life, so I am sorry for the neglect.
I have found myself failing in almost every area of life the last few months. I have been having a poor attutude and can't seem to find my get-up-and-go. I was having trouble with focus and finding no joy in the small things. And after a bit of soul searching, I figured out why, My son grew up and left home.
Now, I have to be clear here, he's leaving was a good thing. I raised him up to be a man. He finished collage and it was time for the next step in life. He moved out of state for a short time, till this Nov. when he'll began his military training (GO ARMY!) I am so very, very, very proud of him. He grew up just like I raised him to do. But, I didn't have a clue that I would be sad about it, that came as such a surprise. It took months to realize I was depressed. So, I have had a good old fashion cry, and said good-bye to his childhood, and now look forward to witnessing his life as an adult. (I don't know how long it will take for me to see him as a man, when I hear his voice I still see him as my little blond, curly headed, blue-eyed baby) Now I am preparing to be an Army Mom, and I hope I can be as brave has he is.
So the next morning (after my cry-fest) I took back my Farm-Girl-ness. I took down all the white curtains, washed them and put them out on the line to dry. And I left them there all day because they were so pretty! I put on my apron and cooked for the joy of it. I sat and drank a cup of coffee and looked out my window. I spent a good half hour watching the cat napping under the clean, white curtains. And enjoyed the beautiful trees and flowers around my cabin. I have almost forgotten the life style I wish to live, a slower paced life with simple pleasure away from this worlds feverish race (that gets them no place!) So I took an extra day off from work, to have a four day weekend, and I'm going to stay at home and reconnect with my home and hearth.
Sorry this is so long, I guess I had a lot to say. But I think we all need to know each others stories and struggles. We all fall down from time to time, and we can encourge each other to get back up and to grab ahold of our farm-Girl-ness, and hang our curtains out to dry!
Shanda
Farmgirl #4233 |
|
|
jan49829
True Blue Farmgirl
2428 Posts
Janet
Winter Haven
Florida
USA
2428 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 12:33:52 PM
|
Shanda, Glad to see you back with us. How is the cabin coming along? If possible, I am sure we would all love to see more pictures. Glad you are feeling better about your son leaving home. Remember, we are hear to listen. Again, welcome back!!!
Janet
Farmgirl Sister #3340
http://hardatworkcrafts.blogspot.com
http://Jan49829.etsy.com
|
 |
|
|
Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
7577 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 1:55:20 PM
|
Oh, Shanda! I just want to wrap my arms around you and give you a big, comforting farmgirl hug! I'm only a few short years from where you are now, and I'm both excited about it and dreading it all at the same time - just like you! I read your words and started welling up myself thinking that's exactly where I'm going to be before you know it! Please know that Janet is so right: we are always here for you. You're not alone, to be sure.
I'm so glad you're taking back your Farm-Girl-ness (love that expression!). As Helen Keller once said, "Keep your face to the sun, and you cannot see the shadow." I love how you've turned the gray sky moments into blue sky happiness. That's definitely the farmgirl way!
You GO girl! I'll be thinking of you and saying little prayers to help see you through!
Hugs -
Nini
Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
|
|
|
|
oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1511 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
1511 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 2:48:37 PM
|
our babies, will always be our babies, no matter how old they are...that being said, my 4 have been out on their own and have given me 5 beautiful grandkids, and I still miss them all, with all of my heart and soul, and they could visit once a week, and I would still get misty eyed when they left...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
|
|
|
rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
3331 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 3:04:26 PM
|
Shanda,
I tripped over my lower lip a time or two when my youngest left home about 18 months ago. It takes a bit to gather your thoughts and grab your identity now that you don't have a kid at home. It turns out to be quite exciting and I am so glad to hear you are on your way to enjoying it!
Best wishes on keeping your spirits high,
Marianne |
|
|
|
Calicogirl
True Blue Farmgirl
5216 Posts
Sharon
Bruce Crossing
Michigan
USA
5216 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 4:50:28 PM
|
Shanda,
I was just wondering about you.
I'm sorry that you have had a rough time, I am praying for you!
Please thank your son for serving our country, he and all military and their families are in my prayers.
I'm glad that you picked yourself up and are back posting :)
Farmgirl Sister #5392
By His Grace, For His Glory
~Sharon
|
Edited by - Calicogirl on Aug 29 2013 9:06:12 PM |
|
|
|
SusanScarlet
True Blue Farmgirl
317 Posts
317 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 7:28:58 PM
|
| Shanda - Congratulations on a job well done - you raised a man. I think it's our job as parents to teach them to walk and then to cheer for them as they walk away. Enjoy your time rediscovering yourself and thank him for his service to our country. |
|
|
|
laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
3259 Posts
Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
3259 Posts |
Posted - Aug 29 2013 : 8:17:59 PM
|
Welcome back Shanda!
What a wonderful attitude you have. I loved how you out your feelings into words and painted a picture for us of how you are feeling and what you as a mom are going thru!
So glad you took the time to post. Great to have you back girl!
Blessings to you and your son as he begins the next phase of his life.
Thank you for his service to our country!
Hugs,
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
View my New Blog:
http://simplesuburbanpleasures.blogspot.com
Don't judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant.
~Robert Louis Stevenson |
|
|
|
ddmashayekhi
True Blue Farmgirl
4737 Posts
Dawn
Naperville
Illinois
USA
4737 Posts |
Posted - Aug 30 2013 : 05:37:02 AM
|
I'm glad you are back Shanda. I have two grown sons and I miss them terribly. They come over when they can, but it isn't as often as I would like. I respect that they have their own lives and homes. I raised them to be independent and am very proud that they are, just wish they could get in touch with mom here a little more often. Enjoy your beautiful home and reconnect with your wonderful life. There is always something new and different happening every day, look forward to it.
Dawn in IL |
Edited by - ddmashayekhi on Aug 30 2013 1:03:24 PM |
|
|
|
shanda
True Blue Farmgirl
522 Posts
Shanda
Broken Bow
OK
USA
522 Posts |
Posted - Aug 30 2013 : 09:33:21 AM
|
Thank you so much Ladies! You all have truely blessed me. I do still have my daugher at home, she's 15 and swears she's going to live next door to me so we can grow old together. She sees us as very connected when her babies are born and I'm good with that! Of-course some young man is going to come along, and she'll go where he calls (which is the right thing to do). but I have a few years to brace myself for that!
Blessings!!!
Shanda
Farmgirl #4233 |
|
|
|
BarnHeart
True Blue Farmgirl
83 Posts
Autumn
New Albany
IN
USA
83 Posts |
Posted - Sep 12 2013 : 6:52:11 PM
|
Shanda - you are brave, strong, and wonderful. I'm praying for you and your family - as a Veteran myself (Air Force), I wholeheartedly support your son's decision to join the military. I feel like it should be required for young people! Bless you, farm sister. <3
I love wool! Visit my website: www.heartfeltwool.com
Blogging successes and failures at: www.thegrastysyarden.blogspot.com |
|
|
|
mrssarahhall
True Blue Farmgirl
1272 Posts
Sarah
Longmont
Colorado
USA
1272 Posts |
Posted - Sep 13 2013 : 10:33:21 AM
|
Shanda, I don't have kids myself, so I cannot identify with how you must be feeling but I wanted to let you know that I am always here to listen to and I am sending my love and support. <3 Hang in there and I really LOVE your expression of taking back your Farmgirlness... Awesome!
Sarah
Farmgirl # 5223
All good things are wild and free- Henry David Thoreau
A true friend is one who thinks you are a good egg even if you are a little cracked. |
|
|
|
prayin granny
True Blue Farmgirl
1874 Posts
Linda
Kansas
1874 Posts |
Posted - Sep 14 2013 : 06:00:32 AM
|
Shanda,
Loved your post! I am glad you are doing better. It is a blessing to enjoy the little things! I'm trying to do that as well
Blessings,
Linda
http://grannysbirds.blogspot.com/
Country at Heart |
|
|
| |
Across the Fence: Taking back my Farm-Girl-ness! |
|
Taking back my Farm-Girl-ness!
