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tammyc
True Blue Farmgirl
698 Posts
Tammy
Danville
California
USA
698 Posts |
 Posted - Jun 07 2013 : 8:59:39 PM
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@Darlene...you are commenting on something that is not the issue of the original thread which was "not to start a debate". Yes the rules of that particular swap offend me, as does your post. I take issue with the phraseology of "ABSOLUTELY NO TUCK-INS"! Gee how about "let's try a swap without any tuck-ins for a change"....might have been a kinder gentler way. And, why do people not understand that if they choose to send a tuck-in it doesn't have to cost extra postage or extra money!!!! I guarantee that if I "tucked-in" a handmade card and a couple of tea bags my postage wouldn't change a bit. Plus, I send everything in a flat rate priority box anyway. No one is forced to add tuck in's EVER. As the original poster stated....why is this such an issue???? Do people sit on their computer and count how many gifts others have received compared to their own??? It's absolutely ridiculous. Please leave your comments on the NO TUCK-INS swap thread...they would be better suited there.
MJF seems to have undergone a big change since I joined. It used to be fun. I am done with farmgirls pettiness.....it is childish and ridiculous. Tuck in or don't...who the heck cares????? The farmgirl spirit is supposed to be about giving with a generous heart. I don't know who the tuck-in police are that keep score of things as trivial as this, but I can think of a million better things to do with my time than count how many tuck-ins someone got!!!!
So, I am done with this silly subject and (with a very very few exceptions) done with swaps!
"Be who you are and say what you like because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind" - Dr. Seuss |
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kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
1291 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
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Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 08:46:03 AM
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Originally posted by tammyc
MJF seems to have undergone a big change since I joined. It used to be fun. I am done with farmgirls pettiness.....it is childish and ridiculous. Tuck in or don't...who the heck cares????? The farmgirl spirit is supposed to be about giving with a generous heart. I don't know who the tuck-in police are that keep score of things as trivial as this, but I can think of a million better things to do with my time than count how many tuck-ins someone got!!!!
So, I am done with this silly subject and (with a very very few exceptions) done with swaps!
"Be who you are and say what you like because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind" - Dr. Seuss
Tammy,
I agree with you, this side of MJF has undergone a change. Just in the year that I have been on here ... you can almost see it happening daily.
The pettiness, rudeness, the competition ... is just so NOT farm girl like! So very sad ...
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
www.whitesheepfarm.com
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl
1868 Posts
Joey
Gulf Coast
FL
USA
1868 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 10:26:10 AM
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OK, perhaps I worded it wrong. I wrote "ABSOLUTELY NO TUCK INS!!" because I KNOW first hand that farmgirls have BIG hearts and really felt that if I wrote "Let's try a swap without tuck ins" some sweet farmgirl would not take me seriously and I REALLY did not want tuck ins in this swap-so maybe I said it too strongly and for that I am sorry.
I am sorry that even with all the explanation and discussion and gals expressing how they feel, some folks still are not able to understand the point I was trying to make.
I am wondering why "if tuck ins are optional" and "no big deal", why it has become such a big deal NOT to allow tuck ins.
I never expected to cause such debate. I kinda thought that if you HAD to tuck in on a swap, that mine would not interest you and you could just move on.
I TRUELY appreciate all of you that have supported my position both on the forum and to my e-mail. Whether you support my position or not, I am grateful to those who have been able to see my point of view.
Tammy, I am sorry I offended you, but your response to Darlene was inappropriate, in my opinion. When you start a discussion about tuck ins you are going to get a discussion whether you want one of not and clearly by the time Darlene responded it was already a discussion. She is entitled to her opinion just like everyone else, and this forum was the appropriate place for that. As I said, I did not ask for this issue-it wasn't even my issue-I gave it voice and if that makes me the villain that is OK. I can handle that.
Tammy, I know I upset you and I am truly sorry. I sincerely hope that you can chose to just write my swap off without taking yourself out of other swaps. You are a creative and talented woman and I know that you are valued by so many (including me.)
This wasn't about pettiness or counting or tuck in police. I was really just trying to have everyones voice heard.
So sisters, have we discussed this enough? I think so. You either get it or you don't. Let's be done with this. Thank you all for your voices. Let's move on to some fun summer swaps, tuck ins or not. Hugs to ALL, Joey
Well behaved women rarely make history. |
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
6650 Posts
Debbie L.
Oregon
USA
6650 Posts |
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Ladybek9756
True Blue Farmgirl
882 Posts
Rebecca
Linneus
Maine
USA
882 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 1:22:11 PM
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Well said Joey. Everyone has an opinion and as the leader of a swap it is in my opinion the leaders option of how they want to run the swap and the wording they chose to relay that information. If you don't like the rules then don't sign up.
Becky
May the stars carry your sadness away. May the flowers fill your heart with beauty, and may hope forever wipe away your tears. |
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tammyc
True Blue Farmgirl
698 Posts
Tammy
Danville
California
USA
698 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 1:32:21 PM
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Yes, everyone has an opinion. Mine is that this ridiculous subject has been "beaten to death" already. I have already stated that this issue should be put to bed, and I believe that Joey herself has said the same thing. Move on! Perhaps you would like to start a separate thread in support of your position and let this one die a necessary death. We are all aware of our right to join or not join a swap....we've done it for years.
"Be who you are and say what you like because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind" - Dr. Seuss |
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Killarney
True Blue Farmgirl
5190 Posts
Connie
Arlington
TN
USA
5190 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 3:20:19 PM
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Ditto Tammy C.!!!! Also all of us Hens and Chicks are Gonna throw our two cents worth in!!, no matter what the subject!!! I sassed my way in too.( I am more scared right now what My Mama Hen, Debbie is gonna to to me !!LOL!) We are a very diverse sisterhood in many ways, and also very connected in many ways, so at the end of the day, You do what is best for you, but we still may Cackle a little about it!
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Emily Anna
True Blue Farmgirl
863 Posts
Emily
Fort Atkinson
WI
USA
863 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 3:35:10 PM
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Connie,
Could you possibly be any cuter? You always have the best attitude! :)
PS....I don't think your Mama Hen is going to do much to you except giggle at your sweet message!
Emily |
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl
1868 Posts
Joey
Gulf Coast
FL
USA
1868 Posts |
Posted - Jun 08 2013 : 4:56:25 PM
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Ladies,
It is my sincere hope that this discussion is over. I won't be responding to anything else on this thread. Let's all just move on. I wish you all well. Thank you, Joey
Well behaved women rarely make history. |
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