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cori1312
True Blue Farmgirl
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Leslie
Fairborn
Ohio
USA
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 Posted - Jul 23 2012 : 04:24:35 AM
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The first problem with business trips is that they inevitably last for a week and take my sweetie thousands of miles away.  But what's a girl to do? I could put on a brave face, but he can see right through it. It's worse when, by the time you've blown your nose, wiped the tears and can speak above a choked whisper, he's already gone and it's too late to ask for one more kiss.
The second problem is that even though I know my sweetie is bored out of his mind in meetings all day, and has nothing to do in the hotel room after work, I feel a bit guilty being jealous of this when I compare it to 24/7, one-on-one time with a toddler.
My plan is to stay distracted and not think about it, but still count the days and hours until he gets back.
So now I'm off to ready my daughter for the day, try to keep her busily occupied with play, learning and places to go, and distract myself in the off-hours with any of countless craft projects I could be working on.
One day at a time.
This week can't end soon enough.
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"You don't have a soul; you are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis
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Edited by - cori1312 on Jul 23 2012 04:52:27 AM |
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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Posted - Jul 23 2012 : 7:01:22 PM
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Leslie, you'll be okay. Before you know it, your Sweetie will return home. We'll be here to chat with you. Take care, stay busy.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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crafter
True Blue Farmgirl
2313 Posts
lori
Fort Atkinson
Wisconsin
USA
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Posted - Jul 24 2012 : 08:52:08 AM
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Leslie- you will be so busy with your precious little one. Maybe you and your little one can make a welcome home craft project for daddy. What a surprise that would be for him!
Lori
Gernerosity is giving more than you can, and pride is taking less than you need! |
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cori1312
True Blue Farmgirl
64 Posts
Leslie
Fairborn
Ohio
USA
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Posted - Jul 24 2012 : 4:17:02 PM
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That would be cute, though she's only 19mo. Maybe she can color a sign or picture for him. 
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"You don't have a soul; you are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis
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sjmjgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
566 Posts
Stephanie
Mt. Vernon
Iowa
USA
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Posted - Jul 25 2012 : 5:24:29 PM
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Before you know it,he'll be back home. I say use this time to do things you dont normally get to do. Rent videos, maybe have friends over for a girls night after the little one goes to sleep. Read those books youve been wanting to crack open. Itll go fast.
Farmgirl Sister # 3810
Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.
- Dalai Lama
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
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Posted - Jul 26 2012 : 05:17:28 AM
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I know how you feel. My dh travels for work about three weeks out of the month, for 2 to 3 three days and then a number of times a year for a week at a time.
When my children were little, it seemed the minute dh hit another time zone "something" happened. We didn't have cell phones so readily available yet and sometimes I just had to buck up. Only once did he make an ER run with the kids. I was so flabbergasted to not be driving while handling an emergency that even though I had a bleeding child, I kept saying, "I can't believe you are here."
His job also meant a lot of moves, nine in total over about 17 years. Then it slowed down. I bought and sold homes on my own. It will make you stronger. The kids miss their dad during those times and no one likes to do the teacher conferences or Holiday programs alone ...
It does make you jealous to be chasing kids when you get a phone call from dh who is in London touring the sites, or just finished seeing the Tour de France, or white water rafting in Costa Rica ...
We always said we stayed together either despite the travel or because of it! We are looking at his retirement within 6 to 9 months ... and we still like each other. There is hope, but it can be a long road.
Keep your chin up.
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cori1312
True Blue Farmgirl
64 Posts
Leslie
Fairborn
Ohio
USA
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Posted - Jul 27 2012 : 07:42:59 AM
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Originally posted by rough start farmgirl
It does make you jealous to be chasing kids when you get a phone call from dh who is in London touring the sites, or just finished seeing the Tour de France, or white water rafting in Costa Rica ...
Oh my DH is not that mean.  He gave up a conference in Hawaii last year because we couldn't afford an extra ticket. Plus, he'd be bored doing things by himself, so we'd both have been miserable without the other.
But it's a recurring conference and it should be in HI again in a few years.
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"You don't have a soul; you are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
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Posted - Jul 30 2012 : 9:23:21 PM
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All the events I mentioned were work related. My husband isn't mean either. He likes to keep in touch when he is gone. His job doesn't give him the choice to give up conferences or trips to Belguim, etc. But, I do travel with him when I want. I did a cruise in the Bahamas, trip to Costa Rica, Hawaii, Las Vegas, but we always prefer home.
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cori1312
True Blue Farmgirl
64 Posts
Leslie
Fairborn
Ohio
USA
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Posted - Jul 31 2012 : 12:35:13 PM
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Did not intend to infer your husband would be so mean either. We've only been married three years. I expect when our children are older, I will be able to leave them with grandparents or friends and accompany my husband on some of his trips. I know one couple, in their 50s, who are never separated; where he goes, she goes. It would be nice, but not practically possible for us just now.
I am glad to have him home though.
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"You don't have a soul; you are a soul. You have a body." - C.S. Lewis
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desperadosdream
True Blue Farmgirl
197 Posts
Malena
Versailles
Indiana
USA
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Posted - Jul 31 2012 : 8:22:52 PM
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| My husband is rarely home for more than 24 hrs at a time sometimes only 24 hours every week or ten days. I find that when I am totally frustrated and things r falling apart...when I really need a hand? He is gone and when he is here nothing usually goes haywire or he doesn't have time to lend a hand anyway. Not that he wouldn't he just doesn't have time before leaving again. Our 3 children that are still living with us are so use to him being gone that they don't like it if he is home very much because things seem tense. It sounds terrible but we almost don't know what to do with ourselves when he is here especially if we know he is stressed or really worn out. We want to be quiet and give him time to just rest and relax but we kind of feel a little like we are treading on thin ice too. It can be hard and we kind of live in what I call next-year country...."things will get better next year...things will be easier next year" etc. It won't change in any positive way I am quite sure for many years yet...but there is always room for hope and dreams next year. |
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