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Across the Fence:  What's a Stay-at-Home Mom Worth?  |
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FieldsofThyme
Farmgirl Guide & Schoolmarm / Chapter Leader
4928 Posts
USA
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Bear5
True Blue Farmgirl
13055 Posts
Louisiana/Texas
USA
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 Posted - Mar 22 2012 : 11:44:27 AM
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Wow! Thanks for sharing that with us. Interesting. I know having a stay at home mom for me was priceless. I wish she could have been paid because she and the other lady who helped raise us deserved every penny.
Marly
"It's only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth- and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up- that we will begin to live each day to the fullest, as if it was the only one we had." Elisabeth Kurler-Ross |
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ruthie218
True Blue Farmgirl
1425 Posts
Ruthie Ann
Indiana
USA
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Posted - Mar 22 2012 : 12:56:42 PM
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I was a stay at home for years and loved every minute of it . No amount of money is worth the memories.Then when my dd went to school I taught preschool so I was always home by the time got home,I was off for all the breaks and summer so just like stay at home mom. Now my dd is in college and talks about the things we did when she was growing up. She talks often if has to work about having grammy aka me take care of her children and building memories with them like she had.
Ruthie Ann
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laurentany
True Blue Farmgirl
3259 Posts
Laurie
Patchogue
NY
USA
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Posted - Mar 22 2012 : 1:41:23 PM
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I was (and still am) a stay at home mom. I stayed home full time until my children were both in Elementary School. When my youngest started kindergarten, I was lucky enough to find a job just minutes from home, with flexible hours that allowed me to go to work after I dropped them at school and leave work in time to pick them up from school. My boss allows me to set my own hours and leave for bookfairs, special events etc. My kids are now in 6th and 8th grade, and I still have that same wonderful schedule. I suppose in a few years they will be old enough to stay home "by themselves" if they are off from school etc, but boy, I am so very lucky to have such a wonderful job, which treats me like family and realizes that FAMILY COMES FIRST!
~Laurie
"Little Hen House on the Island"
Farmgirl Sister#1403
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Farmtopia
True Blue Farmgirl
1465 Posts
Zan
New York
New York
USA
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Posted - Mar 23 2012 : 11:09:55 AM
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I agree with whomever mentioned the "job" of a stay at home mother is priceless. How can you measure how much it is to instill character and motivation in small children that should last a lifetimes? Along with being nanny, maid, cook, chauffeur, and teacher?
I'll hand it to those ladies who have taken the plunge: I respect those who dare to adventure into motherhood! What energy you must have  f
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kristin sherrill
True Blue Farmgirl
11303 Posts
kristin
chickamauga
ga
USA
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Posted - Mar 23 2012 : 12:56:32 PM
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So where do we go pick up our checks? I just figured out how much I am owed for 20 years. $2,340,000.00. What about taxes? I guess we would have had to pay taxes on all that. Even half that is $1,170,000.00. I'll take that. Then there are a few years I raised the grandkids. But then there should be a cost of living raise and all. That's some good money.
Kris
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lisalisa
True Blue Farmgirl
216 Posts
Lisa
Broomall
PA
USA
216 Posts |
Posted - Mar 23 2012 : 4:29:31 PM
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oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1511 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
1511 Posts |
Posted - Mar 23 2012 : 6:22:44 PM
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My thought was no one would be able to afford us, 4 kids and a small farm/ranch, I think we are all priceless...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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lisalisa
True Blue Farmgirl
216 Posts
Lisa
Broomall
PA
USA
216 Posts |
Posted - Mar 24 2012 : 08:01:32 AM
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Way to go, Tina! I'm with you!
Y'know, people just don't appreciate us! |
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Mar 24 2012 : 08:10:45 AM
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AMEN, Lisa! AMEN!!!
Kristina - thank you for sharing this information and these websites with us! 'Makes me feel a lot better about not bringing home the six-figure salary that my sister does! LOL! I just think that there are so many aspects to what we do - one honestly cannot put a price tag on it. To have people devalue what we stay-at-homers do and to be told we "don't work" is not only an insult, it's heartbreaking. To think that people have such low esteem for everything a person does to keep his or her home running and family healthy physically, emotionally and spiritually... it's no wonder the world is as it is today!
One time, my husband and I were discussing college for our son. I expressed how bad I felt that we had invested so much money on college for me, and that I never did anything with it - what a waste. I told him I felt bad that I let him down. He said, "What in the WORLD are you talking about?! You take care of us and everything else around here - you shop, cook, clean, garden, budget, cut coupons, pay bills, do the taxes, play chauffeur - we have whatever we need; you PRAY...you keep on top of things! You keep us healthy, you keep us grounded, and you homeschool our son, for Heaven's sake! He's the smartest, most well-rounded, healthiest kid I know! Don't be silly - your education was not a waste at all, and what you do is more than most people do in a work week! You hold us together - you're the heart of this family. Don't ever think otherwise!" I think it was the first time I saw myself and what I do as being of great value. Suddenly whatever anyone else thought or said didn't mean a thing to me. My husband's acknowledgment and the satisfaction I received from this new perspective of my role in our family really made all the difference. Did I "need" him to tell me that? No... Deep down, I knew it was important! But to have him actually express his appreciation was priceless, and whenever I start feeling "second class" to anyone, I just remember to see myself as he sees me - he's the most beautiful mirror I have! :)
Hugs -
Nini
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Farmgirl Sister #1974
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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oldbittyhen
True Blue Farmgirl
1511 Posts
tina
quartz hill
ca
USA
1511 Posts |
Posted - Mar 24 2012 : 08:50:15 AM
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My Mama had a sign in her kitchen that read: " Man works sun to sun, but, a Womens work is NEVER done", and it is oh so true...
"Knowlege is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, Wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad" |
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lisalisa
True Blue Farmgirl
216 Posts
Lisa
Broomall
PA
USA
216 Posts |
Posted - Mar 24 2012 : 11:30:43 AM
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Oh, Nini, it's so great to be appreciated, isn't it? (he's a keeper!)
Reading your post brought tears to my eyes.
Thanks for saying it for all of us! |
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
22941 Posts
Alee
Worland
Wy
USA
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Posted - Mar 27 2012 : 05:03:47 AM
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Man! I wish I had earned that salary when I was a SAHM! I miss those days- being a SAHM is an amazing job-challenging, rewarding, and one of a kind job. It's not something that everyone can do- and I hope that by the time Nora becomes a mom- she will have the choice both inclination wise and financially on whether or not she wants to be a SAHM.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
www.farmgirlalee.blogspot.com
www.allergyjourneys.blogspot.com
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jpbluesky
True Blue Farmgirl
6066 Posts
Jeannie
Florida
USA
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Posted - Mar 27 2012 : 05:10:07 AM
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SAHM's are priceless!!!! So glad my daughter can be one. I was almost one. I worked the hours my daughter was at school and was home when she was. I wish though that I could have been at home full time. DD also home schools, so her college education is definitely being put to good use! :)
Farmgirl Sister # 31
www.blueskyjeannie.blogspot.com
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SpyChicken
True Blue Farmgirl
436 Posts
Christine
Fond du Lac
WI
USA
436 Posts |
Posted - Mar 27 2012 : 07:31:37 AM
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For all of its ups(mostly) and occasional downs, I would not trade being a stay at home mom for anything! There's a big age difference between my kids (19 & 6)...with the older one I did work outside the home on and off but when my son was born we made the decision for me to be at home-worth every sacrifice!!
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