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sunshine7
Farmgirl in Training
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nikki
Northern
wyoming
USA
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 Posted - Oct 20 2011 : 07:01:16 AM
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Hi everyone!
Thought I shoot this out there and see what the farmgirls know about this one!
My step-son is 11 years old, his chores have always been to feed, water chickens, make sure dogs have water, and cows, and shower everyday. Well, this seems alot maybe to some, but it's been his list for the last few years, Lately, though he hasn't been accomplishing the tasks. Some mornings I go say Hi to the chickens and they are out of water etc. If he was doing his chores in evening, and morning, there shouldn't be any where to make a mistake. To alleviate things, we offered to do the chores in the mornings. Well, chores are still being incompleted, this even includes a chore list on the fridge, he fails to look at!! Since, chores are not being done extra curriculiar activities are at a stand still. And we are still hitting road blocks.
What do I do? I am pulling my hair out? Suggestions.Please!!! |
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traildancer
True Blue Farmgirl
485 Posts
Loyce
Glide
OR
USA
485 Posts |
Posted - Oct 21 2011 : 09:30:35 AM
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Take away something he likes--video games, tv, computer, friends, cell phone, etc. Maybe for a week. Seems that is the "standard" length of punishment. If he mouths off, add a week.
Or give him something to do that he REALLY dislikes--cleaning the toilet, cleaning up after the dog--and watch him to make sure he does it to your satisfaction. That might get the point across.
Or start out with "X" amount of money in a jar. Everytime he "forgets" a chore, take one unit out. Or take away his allowance.
Good luck.
The trail is the thing.... Louis L'Amour |
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FarmDream
True Blue Farmgirl
1085 Posts
Julie
TX
USA
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Posted - Oct 23 2011 : 7:46:00 PM
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This is one of those parenting issues that takes a real diplomat. I am not. My DH is. However, when we hit a roadblock we have no problem talking to a therapist a few times to learn some helpful parenting tips. Some kids will respond to having their things taken away and some will only dig their heels in deeper. I hope you can find a solution soon.
~FarmDream is Farmgirl Sister #3069
Live Today, Cherish Yesterday, Dream Tomorrow
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sunshine7
Farmgirl in Training
25 Posts
nikki
Northern
wyoming
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2011 : 11:35:58 AM
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Thanks, Ladies. We have taken away priviliges and even start grounding for a week, no sports, even going to bed without dinner which I don't like.But our theory was if he forgot to feed animals, well " we forgot to feed you", it sounds strict. But we have actually tried all of it and really it hasn't gotten through to him. So I made an appointment to see the pediatrician to start getting help, as what Julie suggested.
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FebruaryViolet
True Blue Farmgirl
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Jonni
Elsmere
Kentucky
USA
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Posted - Oct 24 2011 : 11:44:46 AM
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This is the age with boys (this "tween" age) that hormones wreak ten kinds of havoc before you even recognize that they're growing up. 11-13 is like aliens abducted them and then bring them back about 16 or so and everything is back to normal. Sometimes punishment won't do the trick (and I'm not saying you shouldn't do it) but sometimes, finding a new way to motivate him does it better.
"Hey, I've got nothing to do today but smile..."
The Only Living Boy in New York, Paul Simon |
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