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Winona
Central Oregon
USA
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Posted - May 01 2011 : 06:51:23 AM
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It seems like a lot of my friends are sliding away or flat disappearing. But in their place, new friends are springing up.
Does that happen to anyone else??
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Ingrid
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Ingrid
BC
Canada
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Posted - May 01 2011 : 08:36:56 AM
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Happens all the time as we go through different stages of life. I do have one friend that I have been close with for 25 years and we cherish our friendship.
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Ninibini
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Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - May 01 2011 : 08:58:52 AM
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Oh my gosh, yes, Winona! I truly have come to believe the old addage that some friends are for life, some friends are for a time, and, sometimes, friends can be for only a moment. Life experiences change us - our circumstances, our concerns, our interests... our lives simply change, and we each must follow where our path is leading us. Sometimes the forks in the road simply lead us in different directions. That's all right - that's life!
I am extremely grateful to have had some wonderful "forever" friends to share the walk down this path in the garden of life. We've shared so many experiences together - rejoicing in the sun and weathering the storms. These are the people who have left their mark on my heart and who have helped shape who I am today. We love and accept each other just as we are - warts and all. We celebrate the highs and lows of life, dancing with the joys, or upholding - even carrying - each other when life takes a downward turn. These are true friends, blessings who make my life complete. I can't imagine life without them!
The "friends for a time" and "momentary friends" are important too, of course. Every person we meet brings something of importance in our life. God made all different kinds of flowers to enhance the journey - annuals, perennials and everlastings...and sometimes there are even weeds that catch our notice, too. We must take time to smell and enjoy all of the the flowers, and sometimes, we just need to pluck weeds. Each serves an important purpose in enriching our lives. Life is more meaningful because of them!
It's not easy, I know. It took a long time for me to come to this place and accept the brevity of some relationships. But now that I'm older, I have found peace and contentment just taking life and friends as they come. Just like flowers and weeds that come and go with the seasons - friendship is all good!
Hugs -
Nini
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Blessed in Colorado
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Debbie L.
Oregon
USA
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Posted - May 01 2011 : 11:09:26 AM
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I have always believed that the friends I have had in my life were brought to me for a reason, and that God felt at the time that I needed them. Some for just a little while and some forever, but I treasure every friend I have had in my life, life is just too precious not to remember and honor them all no matter what. Now the new farm girls that I am making I am treasuring and hope the friendships will last for years to come and I am looking forward to meeting as many as I can. Starting Wednesday when I will meet our May Farm girl of the Month Erica Harner and another new Farm girl Jen Fulks we will meet at the Cracker Barrel in Colorado Springs. I chose Cracker Barrel for the homey, country and family atmosphere, yep the gift shop too! Have a beautiful Sunday my Farm girl friends and family. Farm girl Hugs, Debbie
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36paws20hooves
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Danielle
Weirsdale
Florida
USA
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Posted - May 01 2011 : 5:30:04 PM
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Winona I have seen this posted and received it through emails several times over. I believe the author is unknown. Hope it brings you some comfort knowing we all experience loss of a friend whether we are ready or not. People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
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pnickols
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Patricia
Parma
Ohio
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Posted - May 02 2011 : 03:56:40 AM
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I think it happens to all of us at times in our lives. Many people I thought of as friends while the kids were growing up disappeared as soon as the kids graduated. I have a few tried and true friends, guess I'll call the others fair weather friends. |
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HollyG
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Holly
Hamburg
Arkansas
USA
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Posted - May 02 2011 : 07:22:52 AM
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I agree with the ladies. We do have friends for certain seasons of our lives. If we are lucky, we have one, maybe two, lifetime friends. I have rarely met people with these and those who have them know just how lucky they are. Just enjoy your friends while you have them and learn from them as they learn from you. Seasons come and go - and serve to enrich our lives.
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BarefootGoatGirl
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Corrine
North Carolina
USA
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Sherrie
Gardena
California
USA
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Posted - May 02 2011 : 10:25:22 AM
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I love Nini's & Danielle's comments-it's so true! Yes,I've experienced times in my life when people suddenly changed on me-and what was a once dear friendship ends. I used to think I was the only one who has went thru that but as I've gotten older it dawned on me that as we grow & change,for the most part,our friends will also change. I no longer have any of the friends I did when my mom passed over 9 years ago-every one of those women got really negative or unstable and I chose to let them go.
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Jackie
Hoosierville
USA
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Posted - May 02 2011 : 6:13:12 PM
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Debbie, you are absolutely right in that God sends us who we need at the time. People have come and gone in my life. Sometimes it really hurt to see them go, but then as time went by I realized that God had his hand in it. There was something I needed to learn. I learned to be thankful that they were in my life for as long or as short a time as it was.
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