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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
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angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
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 Posted - Mar 10 2011 : 1:06:05 PM
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I am facin a bit of a dilema. I'm sure this probably seems silly to pretty much everyone, but for me it's a fairly serious matter.
I live with my MIL and there has been an inordinate amount of stress for way too long. My family is gettin very upset with the tension and there has been some discussion of us movin out. My MIL wants us to stay, but my DH is gettin pretty serious about leavin.
The only real hobby I have is my gardenin. I am almost obsessed with growin food. I enjoy flowers, but my girls grow those so I can keep goin on my food things. I even have a homemade greenhouse in my livin room to grow year round in. I have a whole bookcase of gardenin books and print outs from the internet and binders of my garden plans.
My problem is that it's time to start my plants for my garden. I have been given seed from several friends for my collection and they are in very tiny quantity. I would need to plant the entire amount I have to ensure proper pollination and plant survival.
I'm just not sure. I'm afraid of havin to leave before my garden is done and harvested. I'm very uncertian and feel like I really have no way to talk to my DH about this. I don't want to upset him anymore than he already is about this whole situation.
To be completely honest, I'm just not feelin the usual excitement and energy that comes with this time of year. I can't seem to bring myself to draw out my plans for this year. I've tried to make my lists of seed types and varieties over and over, but I never get past pullin out the notebook paper and something else suddenly seems more important. I ordered my seed and sorted it out into my containers when it first came in, then I never went back to it agian. Last year I played with those packets almost daily.
I just feel so 'blah' about everything really, gardenin, cookin, cleanin, readin, pretty much life in general.
I'm just not sure if I should start my garden plants or not. I'm thinkin even if I started my plants I'm not startin the ones I have such limited supply of.
Or am I just bein silly?
What would you do?
Farmgirl Sister #1438
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Mar 10 2011 : 1:35:12 PM
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Oh, Angela - that is such a tough thing... I'm so sorry you're going through this! You're not being silly! You're just at a crossroads - and the path to choose is not always clearly marked! I feel for you, I really do!
Here's what I'm thinking: If you want to go ahead and start your plants, go for it, Farmgirl! Your instincts may be spot on: things might not work out the way you hope when you're beginning your garden, true. But if you have to move, you can always relocate your plants with you OR you can donate them to a local community garden project or shelter... Maybe do just like you've been thinking, though - start something small this year instead of planning the enthusiastic garden you usually would. Let's face it, a girl's intuition usually has great merit! But don't let anything take away from your joy - even if you only get to enjoy it in a small way! This seems to be such a huge part of you - it seems wrong that you wouldn't get to express your zeal for the good life in such a wonderful way! Bring forth the life, shine and share! 'Sounds like that's something you're meant to do with this incredible passion of yours! ;) Who knows? This may open up opportunities for you to go out and bring your wisdom and knowledge to your neighbors and community - talk about making a difference! Now, that's farmgirl spirit in action! I say GO for it, sister, and see where it takes you! Nothing ventured, nothing gained... There won't be any regrets if you give it a go, right? :)
Good luck!
Hugs -
Nini
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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Ca-Reds
True Blue Farmgirl
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kristy
Clearlake
Ca
USA
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Posted - Mar 10 2011 : 4:11:21 PM
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I think you should plant. It will keep your mind off all the bad things in life. And if you have to up and move there is always next year to start again... I will keep you in my prayers.
-Kristy
"Plan ahead, it wasn't raining when Noah built the Ark!" |
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Dorinda
True Blue Farmgirl
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Dorinda
St. Cloud
Florida
USA
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Posted - Mar 10 2011 : 4:30:07 PM
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I agree with Kristy you should go ahead and plant. Even if you move maybe it will not be to far away and you could still go over to your MIL and tend to the garden during the day. It will just be for one season. So just in case you don't move you will still reap some piece and bounty from your garden. I put on John Denver music and listen to it while am in the garden it brings me piece and happiness. Sunshine on my shoulder looks so lovely La La La!! Sunshine almost all the time makes me high La La La!! LOL!! Remember God has a plan for everyone!!
Seize The Day!
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emsmommy5
True Blue Farmgirl
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Angie
Buckley
WA
USA
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Posted - Mar 10 2011 : 5:11:40 PM
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Consider planting in some buckets. Then go ahead and plant the rest of the garden, you can leave a path of happy even if you do move. It's really good therapy. =)
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embchicken
True Blue Farmgirl
1487 Posts
Elaine
Ocean
NJ
USA
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Posted - Mar 10 2011 : 6:12:01 PM
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I really like the idea of planting in buckets. I do think that you should plant , it will give you a different avenue for thinking. It sounds like you are having a bad time - I'll keep you in my thoughts.
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Fiddlehead Farm
True Blue Farmgirl
4562 Posts
Diane
Waupaca
WI
USA
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Posted - Mar 11 2011 : 06:33:58 AM
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Maybe diggin in some dirt is just what you need! It may get your mind off of all the stress' in the house. A couple of container gardens might just be the thing. You could take them with you! Grow where you are planted!
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Happy to be a "Raggedy Ann" in a Barbie World!
I get up every morning determined to both change the world and have one hell of a good time. Sometimes this makes planning my day difficult.
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rough start farmgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
3331 Posts
marianne
The Beautiful Pacific NW
Washington State
USA
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Posted - Mar 12 2011 : 12:44:09 PM
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It would sure give you a reason to be outside and working in your own space. Planting seems to be the unanimous answer. And don't forget to enjoy!! It may give you the feel of being normal again. Sometimes it helps to have your hubby's input, but sometimes it really is best to go on and do what you already know would be best. He is probably in a tough place between you and his mom. Bet he even tells you so sometimes. I hope everything works out for you, it cannot be fun. Best wishes to you and your garden.
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Mar 13 2011 : 11:49:09 AM
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I was sittin with all my gardenin stuff in front of me, just starin at a blank page, and my Hubby walked over to ask me what I was doin. I told him I was debatin the garden plot seein as we were actually about 3 or 4 weeks late startin everything. He said he had been wantin to talk to me about the garden but was afraid of upsettin me.
We talked for half the day!
The results were a plan and a nice garden sketch. We are gonna save the special seed back for next year. Then if things are still shakey at that time we're gonna plant it at my sisters place to refresh the seed stock. We're also plantin things a little lighter than normal so if we have to leave there's not so much work invested.
He liked the container garden suggestion for things we need to grow for our christmas gifts. We use beets, peppers, onions, and cucumbers to make beet jelly, and a special relish for our family members. Those will be done in 5 gallon buckets and ice cream tubs set around the garden for easy waterin and fertilizin.
I was also given some racin tires by a friend to make into flower planters for the girls. It kinda gave me an evil little giggle when my MIL started whinin that she didn't get anything to grow her flowers in. It gave me just enough of a jab to head to the store for flower seed. That kinda got me started into the garden flow.
My garden is now tilled, the fencin is up for growin our peas, and the seed will be in the ground before the rain tomorrow afternoon. My Hubby is out diggin dirt off the pile and fillin the tire planters so the girls can get their seeds planted too. I think gettin outside where we don't have to stare at the walls or be couped up together is what we need right now.
I am still feelin uncertain and kinda angry that I have to put away all my special seed. I am tryin to put all that behind me, or at least out of mind as much as possible. My Hubby wants to build me some seed savin boxes for seperatin off the plants and has been gettin me some special boxes for storin my seed collections in. That's helpin somewhat.
Thank you all so much for the encouragement. The advice was needed and used. I love all the wonderful Ladies on this site and all the wisdom shared here!
Farmgirl Sister #1438
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Alee
True Blue Farmgirl
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Posted - Mar 13 2011 : 2:16:38 PM
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Angela- I am glad that your hubby was so concerned and willing to talk and help you with the garden! What I wouldn't give to have a hubby that was involved in the process in a positive way! *hugs* I know how frustrating it is to not be able to plant you special seed. But I think you both made the right decision.
Alee
Farmgirl Sister #8
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Cibola
True Blue Farmgirl
50 Posts
Remi
Ellensburg
Washington
USA
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Posted - Mar 27 2011 : 6:06:08 PM
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I agree that you should go ahead and plant. I liked the idea of planting in the buckets. Good luck with your plans. Hugs.
Farmsister: 2547
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Ninibini
True Blue Farmgirl
7577 Posts
Nini
Pennsylvania
USA
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Posted - Mar 27 2011 : 8:01:03 PM
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That's a good man you've got there, Angela! I'm so happy you both had a good talk and came up with a workable resolution - that's such great news! I really do understand your disappointment and frustration about having to wait on the special seeds you want to grow, but something tells me that your hubby will make sure you get to do it next year! :) Hang in there - good things will come! :) Hugs - Nini
God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!
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natesgirl
True Blue Farmgirl
1735 Posts
angela
martinsville
indiana
USA
1735 Posts |
Posted - Apr 04 2011 : 3:27:50 PM
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Well, I have tiny pea plants in the garden and some surprise garlic is sproutin like crazy between where the tomato plants are supposed to go. That's gonna make puttin in the tomato plants tricky, but I'm hopin to harvest a little free garlic this year! I think I'm gonna try to fill in the gaps around the garlic with some carrots and onions and just make use of the empty space between those big plants.
I also have about 500 tiny plants sprouted so nicely in my living room. I can't wait to see all that green in the garden. I wish I could have started all this stuff on time, but better late than never.
I'm gonna be startin the tomato plants and the rest of the peppers soon. I think I'll be ready to plant all my starts about the same time as the last of the seed needs to be out. I'll be plantin some very small starts, but I think it'll work.
Well, I'm off to review over our plans once more. I've been really reworkin some of our original ideas to squeeze in some of the old seed I have that probably doesn't have the best germination rates. If it all grows I might need to get some extra jars for cannin all the carrots and beans, but I really don't think it will.
Thank you all so much!
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